What If Every Parent Did It This Way?
What If Every Parent Did It This Way?
Do you feel small and unimportant during the Holiday season? You are not alone. You may see the smiling faces and happy shoppers. Maybe you even have hundreds of Facebook friends and even thousands on LinkedIn or another network. But do you really know anyone?
This year, take time to meet one new person. Not just meet them, but get to know them.
After all, knowing one person is better than having 1000 acquaintances, Understand that underneath the cheery scarves and smiley faces, people are struggling just like you. They see therapists, some take meds for depression and some feel suicidal even.
Value yourself. If it wasnt for the little tires in this world, there would not be big tires!
Be content with who you are , keep dreaming, and someday you may be driving the big truck!
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Every once in a while I run across something too amazing to NOT write about. This is one news note that I could not pass on, especially after watching the Dr Drew show last night. I actually sat through and suffered my way through 3 or 4 people giving their views on how Phil Robertson of Duck Dynasty is a bigot. He was rightly suspended from the network for expressing an opinion that he was asked to give, during an interview.
Really? Phil cannot give his opinion on a topic? Is this the America of “free” speech or the America of “preferred” speak?
I listened as some very weakly argued that this opinion was a violation of “code” and a sign that Phil is a bigot. They could not even put together a few sentences without stumbling over their straw arguments. It was pitiful to see the efforts to allow any liberal speak, but deny freedom for any opinions that do not line up with the agenda.
So I will exercise my right to free speech, unashamed and proud to be able to do it. As a citizen I think this “selective freedom’ is pathetic at best. As a parent and a social worker I think it is worse than that. If my children can watch Ellen kiss another female on television, and hear Joe Biden say to an all black group of professionals ” He wants to put you all back in chains” publicly and without any apologies, then they should certainly get to hear the other side. The other side is not popular, but we do not vote on speech by its popularity, we have the right to free speech period.
I totally understand the vitriol that was spewed by the haters of Phil Robertson. As any good lawyer would tell you, you can usually measure the level of guilt by the level of defense. I know exactly why there is so much imbalance in the allowance of certain viewpoints, it really is not too cerebral of a concept. It is similar in my opinion, to the atheists that spend millions of dollars to fight a cross at ground zero. If you really do not believe God is real, why spend time and money to fight a non-existent entity? I do not see anyone spending millions fighting against the tooth fairy…how come?
In my opinion, we hear what our itching ears want to hear, even paying to make things appear different from how they really are. Denial is not just a river, as they say…
I am amazed at the persistence in people trying to ” take away ” this and that from reality. As if anything will change. What is right, is right, and what is wrong is wrong. If we choose wrong, please, lets not run smack in the media to make it appear right. It only strengthens the case against the spinners. Reminds me of a movie I once watched called ” Wag the Dog” with Deniro and Hoffman. I think homosexuality is an abomination similar to beastiality or incest. Hows that for freedom of speech. I really do not care how popular my opinion is. If you are with me, you are with me, if not, at least you know where I stand. I am OUT-
We all have our rocks in hand ready to throw . The problem we have in society today is that we are too busy collecting rocks to break someones glass. We forget that rocks can ricochet and often end up cracking our own glass houses. The only difference between me and you, and people with the inability to see, or hear or use the spoken word effectively is by the grace of God. It is prideful to think that we are where we are due to our great efforts and talents. Although these are required to achieve certain types of success, it is only a small part of success. Success is when we guard one another’s reputation, cover up an offense, protect and promote growth in others.
I have seen many people fall, and usually pride came before the plunge. I have also seen many success stories, and have found in most cases, the people in this category spent most of their time catching rocks aimed at other’s houses. Lifting others up, not cutting them down. Insecurity breeds jealousy, and jealousy behaves badly. If we are going to prop up our big glass houses while holding a hand full of rocks, then we are working against ourselves, not others. I think it is time to take a look at professional humility today. Make today a day of releasing rocks and lifting others up. Quit trying to take others down and instead, build them up.
If you need a friend, go be a friend to someone. If you need a job, go help someone find a job. If you need encouragement, go encourage someone today. Make a point of it. Our world, and workplace would be a much more enjoyable place if people all operated in humility, not pride. Humility lifts a person up, while pride comes before a fall.Maybe we need to consider dropping the clenched hand full of rocks, and use the hands to help someone in need today. When you see another in a very bad situation, a very tough spot, or facing vulnerability, you can do one of 2 things; run to them, or run at them. Before you decide to run at them, make sure you don’t have any cracks in your own glass. You see, we all have cracked glass. We just try to make other’s houses look worse than ours. My kids went through that stage when they were 6-8 years old. What are we thinking by doing this as adults? Not much about others, that is for sure. Drop the rocks, and run to someone today. You will feel a great release of all that weight which comes by storing up stones. Who can you reach out to today?
This is one of the 5 children I am proud to call my own. Of course she is the baby. I have older ones that are in school for EMT and also have a 16 year old riding in the pro bull riders association, When Dont Label My Kid was just a thought, I had worked with thousands of teens, adults and children . I have had 25 live -in foster kids, 5 of my own, and worked one on one with thousands. Personally, grew up in a violent environment, with an absentee father. I have lived through childhood trauma, my brother committed suicide after watching a television show with me. I have fought and beat the addictions that I was introduced to as a child, and won, by God’s grace. Most recently, I have had 2 car accidents, and been diagnosed with AVN, which has landed me in the hospital 13 times in the last 2 years, including 3 major hip surgeries. Then it got really tough! LOL!
I feel a personal and a professional connection to this effort to help people overcome obstacles and labels in their lives. If I made it, you can too! Hope you enjoy the site!
Obama recently shook hands with Castro while mourning at the funeral of Nelson Mandela the peaceful figure who was buddy’s with Castro. Besides starting up terrorists groups, singing songs about hating white men, and serving time for murder, I am disturbed that people are calling him a ” peacemaker” –I cannot recall if that was before or after his own wife slaughtered and tortured a teen and got a free pass for that. Once again, I fail to see why everyone is so scared to speak the truth about this person. Instead, we follow Obama in praising him…..WHAT? Then again, OOPHRAH says its because all white people hate Obama…
Back in the day, labels did not fly with parents. It was just an excuse to be lazy. How far do you think we have come in scientific backing of such disorders? Or is the DSM-V just making it easier for parents to get checks, kids to claim they cannot do, and the doctors to rake in the cash compliments of big pharma? What do you think?
Obama has done what he can to dismantle our country, piece by piece, and has shown he has a new agenda for this country. Supporting terrorist groups, arming them, while trying to take our guns away. Issuing checks for BILLIONS to the muslim brotherhood, while we continue to be unemployed. Considering allowing shariah law in America, while teaming up with Jackson and Sharpton to tell the muslims that they are the ” new America”. No more Christmas trees at the white house, just Holiday trees. I could go on and on with proof that he is trying to destroy this country, but not enough room. My main question here, is why are Americans so stupid? We are now the laughing stock of the world, and if I had to guess, I think Obama likes it. I am so livid that my children may not say the name of God, or talk about the Christmas story in school that I am in awe. Not because we have a leader who hates the people he ” leads”…(wink wink)- but because we as a country have let this go on so long. Why are people so afraid to voice their opinion on the worst president in history?
We have all been wounded, scarred, hurt, let down, hopeless, helpless, broke, lonely, tired, weary, scared, depressed and the list can go on. That is part of life as we know it. Today I felt like I should post an encouraging but truthful nugget for anyone who is down right now for any reason. Listen- there is a time to weep, a time to mourn, a time to be sad and a time to review the past so you can learn from it. However 90% of people who go through this normal process in life get hung up on one or two areas, and it becomes an anchor, locking them into the emotional bondage of past events, or mistakes. The result of this is an endless circle of pity, shame, hopelessness, and lack of motivation. What if I told you that starting today, you are ordered to turn your head to the future. No looking back. Make a decision to be happy. Make a decision to forgive anyone who has ever accused, abused or used you. Turn the page and be free of the past, be emptied of the heavy weight you have been carrying…
How do you do this? It is a matter of discovering a few keys that not many people understand. I will share a few with you to help you stand up, brush yourself off, and move forward.
1- People come and go, jobs come and go, health comes and goes, feelings come and go, and money comes and goes. People come and go out of your life all the. here is the first key to moving forward- NEVER PUT YOUR SECURITY IN ANY OF THOSE THINGS. You are simply waiting for a fall if you do. Its going to happen. So, if you believe in God, I would recommend putting ALL of your security in Him, and who you are in Christ. He said He will NEVER leave or forsake us, and unlike the things I mentioned above, He is the same yesterday, tomorrow and forever. That is security! All those other things are fine to have in life, but as ” gravy ” if you will. You will find that if you focus on the relationship with Him, all those other things get put in right perspective and you will not obsess over any of them.
Next, TURN THE PAGE on the past. Have you ever tried to walk forward while looking backward? I recommend you try it once. You cannot do it. Neither can you dwell on the past and move forward in your life. Never stumble on something behind you. How do you do this? You wake up one day and make the decision that you are now looking forward. The things you say, the thoughts you allow in and the actions you take MUST be helping you to move forward. Negativity has no place in moving forward. Today, is the first day of the rest of your life!
Lastly, Put yourself around those who you want to be like. Stay away form, and cut ties to anyone is is a pity party lover. Bad news, and will try to keep you down so they do not have to make any effort to move forward. Misery LOVES company. Go find some people you admire, people with peace, and joy. You will become what you put yourself around. READ MY TEXT! YOU WILL BECOME WHAT YOU PUT YOURSELF AROUND! Choose carefully who you hang with, and what things you do. If you want a good snapshot of what you look like now in your life, just take a look at your circle of friends. That IS you. If you do not like what you see, then pull the trigger and make new connections.
I realize this a very brief post for such a deep topic, but I promise you if you will do those simple things right now, your life will change for the better very soon. Money back guarantee! Do not stay in bondage to the past. If you need help working through some things then seek out someone to talk to who will keep you on track. You are going to be what you say you will be. So choose words carefully and speak out loud the things you are looking forward to accomplishing. Positive speak brings positive results, negative talk brings negative results. By the way, I did mention God in this post, so if you were offended, you can cross that line out and insert ” palm tree” or ” the universe” or whatever it is you call God.
Listen, I am available by consultation to help anyone through this transition into a happy existence. You dont need to spend thousands of dollars on doctors to get this done. I am trained in social work and have helped thousands of people over a hump in their life.
You got this, now go do it! Contact me for phone or skype consultation, at tjpetri@ yahoo.com-
Do you have any dream killers in your life? People who constantly try and sabotage your success? They LOVE to see you fail? They are insecure and you need to cut all ties.
Are you the one sabotaging your own success? People do it every day. You get close to success, and you blow it up before you taste victory. That can be caused by several things, but one common cause is the ” I don’t deserve success ” complex. Usually brought on by being made to feel overly guilty about some things in your life, that you won’t forgive yourself for. It is time to turn the page, brush the dust off and press ahead to the next goal.
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It is time to break the news. Not all high school kids are going to Harvard. Many wont make it past the 9th grade. They quit. The options are few for those kids, the chances of a meaningful life decreases enormously. So what are we doing about it? Nothing. I am aware of ” special programs” and alternative schools, those are not the answer but simply a band aide for those who simply cannot perform certain functions required to graduate. Many hit the streets looking for a life out there, and become less than model citizens. Perhaps it is time to quit trying to push a square peg through a circular hole, and deal with this. I submit that at least 10-15% of all high school students drop out, and the link I supplied will support that.
Has it occurred to anyone that these same kids who drop out because they are not able to grasp Algebra, may be gifted in other areas such as trades, arts and many other career options? Most will never realize their gift or skills, because the emphasis is on what they cannot do, not what they can do. We need more school to work initiatives and options for those at risk for dropping out. I see them pop up every once in a while, but it seems this is a silent topic, with few alternatives for teens at risk. Every school should have an option for switching gears from traditional curriculum, to a trade curriculum, that will graduate them prepared to work.
Opponents contest that all kids need the basic curriculum to ” get by ” in life. Really? What a joke. Lets start placing teens in areas of study that they are actually capable of accomplishing and quit this cookie cutter education plan. It is NOT working. Since I have been typing this post, 120 teenagers are now on the streets. They cannot get into trade schools without a G.E.D and obviously cannot meet the current requirements to graduate. This leaves grim options and futures for those kids.
I have worked with teens who could do the body work on my car on an expert level, but since they cannot understand and explain what an algebraic equation is, they are forced into the abyss of the streets and crime to survive. It is time to get real, and get these kids attached to the skills they are able to perform, and make a living at. Who ever uses Algebra anyway? Nobody I know. This is clearly a problem that only being addressed by “tweaking” standards or ” sliding” teens through the system without any skills. My take after 20+ years working with these populations, is that we need to un-bury our heads on this and set teens up for success. Might even empty some jail cells and save millions of taxpayer dollars, but then someone would have to do the math on that! Nobody likes math…
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