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Breaking  -Violence Was Rampant After Election- (18+ for this one)

 Actual Hillary Libs Combat Footage

Apparently someone thought it would be funny to leak some behind the scenes -actual footage from immediately after the 2016 Presidential election, but right before Hillary’s official breakdown…Well I don’t. What is next people? Secret body-cam shots of Trumps TA group? (Tweeters Anonymous)

This the type of stuff that has NO place on this here blog. Whoever sent this to me-thinking I was going to blow it up on the blogging venue I have spent years building, and ask all 32 of my followers to do the same…well you must think I just fell out of the stupid tree and hit every single branch on the way down.. Do have any idea the hate mail -I could get anyhow? Even from my lefty liberal loving friends, who I know would NEVER  consider such a thing- why would I put our friendship in jeopardy?

( There isn’t even such thing as a ” stupid tree ” – I looked it up! Nice try!

We don’t need any mudslinging”, badmouthing”, folks here. This is a family show.

Actual Hillary Libs Combat Footage

You are going to have to do a whole lot better to fool me. Bring the A game- ok?

Signed,

Tj- 

                     Creator of THEE one and only Don”t Label My Kid! Blog

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                             Actual Hillary Libs Combat Footage

*To my besty leftys- I promise a hair laced, tweet infested, tax evading, good one on Trump soon, just so we can model for the world how grown-ups can laugh about their disagreements…

Love Me Or Leave Me.

Just a quick note. I have great respect for these short read posts that fix things in a jiff. My life hasnt worked like that so if you follow me through some deep issues, they will be more then 2 minute cure alls. I just dont want to disappoint anyone, thats all. Go with what is best for you. 

Tj

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Some Thoughts For Today..

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It Took A Bunch Of Bull-But I Get It Now.

 

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Jesse-Cloud 9

Life is certainly a roller coaster and can blast us with some very hurtful things. We begin to dwell on them, convincing ourselves that we are the only ones suffering, We start preparations for a pity party we will throw. We start speaking only the negative in our lives and take the great for granted.

Sometimes if we take just a minute to see what has been going on while we have been pouting, we realize that it was us who took our eyes of what is important, it did not go anywhere.

18 years ago, my 2nd son was born. He has quietly been making his way to his goals and I have been keeping track and cheering him on. Today as I celebrate his graduation from High School, I am reminded of what has been going on behind the scenes. Turns out it is pretty good! Congratulation to my 2 time champion bull rider, who is living the dream he asked God to get to live many years ago. Today he is a professional bull rider heading to the big show- the ” Danged Old Rodeo” as Garth would say.

It is amazing how faithful God is to us-even through our tantrums.

I am mega- proud of you Jesse, and who you put first in your life. I love you son.

Dad

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

Dont Complain About The Behavior Of Kids Today- We Trained Them.

When I was little I always heard stories from older folks who would tell of the consequences of their behavior if they were caught doing the things kids do on a daily basis today. Everyone, the kids and their parents shrugged it off and laughed. You know the stories, they had to walk in 5 feet in snow each way uphill to school and how they worked doing chores until sunset. Then the subject of discipline came up and there was never an issue.

Most kids back in the day were lucky if they got a choice between a switch and a belt. And that right there might be for just being disrespectful to there parents. Today kids are hitting their parents and no consequences. In many cases parents do whatever the kid wants to keep them happy since they are now scared of them. When I go out in public and watch the way teenagers talk to their parents, I am amazed. Even after 20 years working in some of the most tough areas, I still get shocked once in awhile.

I think it all started when the state decided what parents can and cant do to discipline kids. I all for keeping kids from being abused and neglected. However none of my 5 ever smarted off or got out of line without a slap on the butt. Of course we are talking during the age when they cannot communicate with words, 2-3 years old. There must be a response cost for negative behavior at that age or it is difficult to issue one at 15.

Another thing that seemed to take us on a downhill turn was to take any moral codes out of our teaching system. All these atheists fighting to get prayer out out of school, and look where we are. God forbid Mr Atheist that a kid might learn some things like the golden rule, or not to steal. What in the world do you have against a kid learning this kind of teaching?

Of course the invasion of sexual perversion as in the days of Sodom and Gomorrah back decades ago did not help. Now we have convinced ourselves that we may be ” gay” or “bi” or “tranny” or whatever. Actually Ms Jenner just started a whole different category because he says he still has his male parts but feels his female soul coming out. Huh? No more Wheaties cereal boxes for the former athlete. Maybe he will come out with a line of cereal called Sweeties instead, who knows.

Now we find ourselves with huge problems with delinquent behavior and nobody knows what to do. Thank God for the Psychiatrists and big pharmaceutical who have ” saved the day”. They are working overtime to make sure that there is some kind of official mental health disorder to tag these kids with, and the drug companies have been kind enough to help out by rapidly squeaking any kind of drug they can by the FDA , and coincidentally – just in time for the new mental health labels.

Now, we have teens with problems, being sent to psychiatrists as young as 8 or 9 and diagnosed with a mental health disorder and put on controlled drugs! In the world we live in, a mother sitting at home watching Dr. Phil sees a kid acting like her child and assumes their child is bi-polar too. A quick trip to the doc, describing the symptoms she saw on Dr Phil, and she may walk out with a label and meds too. All the while not many people pay attention to the very close relationships the doctors have with the drug makers. Millions of dollars are made by doctors who prescribe a drug company’s newest designer drug. Not every doctor. An article in the Washington Post said that about 94% of doctors had personal relationships with at least one drug maker they used.

What does this mean and why does it matter? It matters because once a person is labeled with a mental illness, especially a child, there is a huge stigma that forever haunts them. Out of the thousands of kids I have worked with who had labels, almost all of them when asked why they misbehaved, would tell me verbatim their DSM diagnosis and that they had no control.

Wow. One day several years ago a doctor gave this kid a label, possibly for financial gain, only to have the kid live out the prophecy. Today it has become so common that there is a pill for everything. Too much laughing, too much crying, the new DSM has one called ” Teenage Rebellion Syndrome” in it. Did they just make a teen who rebels, a mental health patient? I am not 100% sure, but I believe America is either the only one or one of a few that even allows commercials on television for drugs. All day long we see them, do you pee too much, ever feel down? How about your teenager is out of control- well stupid, sedate the kid! Get him to a head doctor.

Now I want to point out that mental health and the need for doctors and clinicians is very real. There are many people out there who suffer from terrible anxiety, phobias, depression and the like. That is not what I am writing about here today. I am talking about those doctors who have literally ruined the lives of others by labeling them. So people ask me all the time, ” well what if they are mentally ill” and that’s a fair question. I never said mental illness does not exist. I do however believe that drug companies and doctors are handing out labels and meds too quickly.

If a child does truly meet criteria for a mental illness, it is critical that the people who love and work with them don’t make that label their identity. It should never be brought up unless it has too.

In a nutshell, we have taken away the rights of parents to even spank a child, taught them there are no consequences for their behavior, taken any hope of them finding some help through school prayer or Bibles, and dumped them on the doctors to medicate. By the way i talk about drugs alot and how they are prescribed. If you want to know the real ugly truth, go onto the public website for clinical trials and the FDA. They have to show what trials took place and how it went, including the results.

Lets just say this; If I was Shire Drug Company, and I was looking to get a new drug approved for mood swings, here is what is required.

First, a clinical trial- meaning a group of say 40 people who agree to stay for 6 weeks for this trial and be monitored each day. Each day the nurse is to check in and rate the patient on their mood. At the end of the 6 weeks, now hear this, if 20 of the 40 say that they think their mood has improved by at least 10%- we have a winner. So when you see on television the commercials that say, ” most people who took ********** drug reported an improvement in their mood. It is now legit to now say that the majority of people who tried this drug felt better! Its a miracle!

The FDA and Drug companies, as well as doctors is another story and much more detailed.

Just think twice before accepting labels, and if your child does have a label, avoid using the term. Focus on strengths. In some cases I have seen parents go for a second opinion and the 2nd doctor found no grounds for any labeling. Just FYI- Peace-Tj

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What Should We Be Telling Our Children About The Crazy Things They See in This World Everyday?

Wow. Not a day goes by that one of my kids don’t point at something then ask me ” why are they doing that “- it used to be a once in awhile thing but in the last decade or 2 things have changed.These days we are not debating if they are old enough to get an earring . I think about the changes being very carefully introduced into society that 20 years ago would not be discussed, yet today things of that nature are commonplace.

I notice that with all the changes most parents try to avoid contact or any accountability. Do any parents ( like me) still cry in bed once in awhile at what our children face each day? I pray that my kids would be so aware of what is right and wrong that their convictions would overpower their temptations.I think each day about how they will handle not flying into la-la land each day believing that what they see in this world is good just because that’s what people are doing. I happen to be a believer. I am a Christian who is is fortunate enough to have been taught the tools of the church (Bible). Even my smaller children recognize sin when they see it, once in a while in our home and out.

I am not preaching the Gospel here, but I am suggesting that you have a home base for all.

In order to do this as parents, we must  model and participate in the types of things we wish for them to learn. I am opposed to sheltering our children from whats out there, as they need to see the consequences of our actions. However today’s world is no longer even realistic, and sometimes it is straight up nasty, and the people who support the nasty  are those high in office. Big problems for us parents. We have got to avoid the mistake of trusting what popular political figures are lighting a spark to so that our kids avoid the inferno ahead.

Please comment with any ideas you have found helpful!

tj

Pairing Autistic Kids With Senior Citizens! Very Cool!

http://www.godvine.com/You-d-Never-Think-This-Unlikely-Pair-fb-gv–5568.html

Click and see an unlikely but very successful combination; Autistic teens with senior citizens working together each week to make a little magic in both group’s lives.

http://www.godvine.com/You-d-Never-Think-This-Unlikely-Pair-fb-gv–5568.html

tj-www.dontlabelmykid.om

Couples- Do You Have a Nail In Your Head? Watch and See!

This is one of my favorite clips about communication between couples and by far the one I have viewed the most. It is short, funny, every couple, and every therapist should have this handy to show. It is short, and LOL funny. I promise it will not disappoint!

Why Blogging Is A Form Of Therapy!

Why Blogging Is A Form Of Therapy!

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” I saw sea shells on the sea shore Saturday with Shirley ”

Say this sentence 5 times , very quickly.

The reason you confuse words after 3-4 tries is because of something called “Word Formation Distraction”. It makes repeating a sentence very difficult because of the different subject matter and the order the brain must retrieve each section in.
Much like WFD, blogging can be challenging. Actually blogging is very cerebral, regardless of the topic. It requires much thinking and discerning, consideration of the audience or the author, and most of all for me, the actual process of technical parts of creating, maintaining and staying on top of a blog. I wish I could just write what I am thinking and there it is, but the truth is there is so much more to it, as you all are well aware.
Therapy is applied in many different forms, and I firmly believe that blogging is a form of therapy as well. I feel a sense of accomplishment, relief, and peace after a post that is different form a phone call or a conversation face to face.
I think blogging is therapy. I see bloggers exercising their brains and venting about past or present problems every day, just as I would if I was a fly on the wall in a therapist’s office. I also think people are brutally honest most times when blogging, more so then of they were face to face with another humanoid. Since I am on the subject of honesty I will confess that I added NCIS to my tags out of selfishness and for no good reason. I happen to be a fan, (both LA and VA) and just was feeling a little self -centered when I posted. While we are touching on the subject – I , well, I made up the whole WFD thing. There is no such brain problem that I am aware of. That was my insecurity coming out. Sometimes I need to feel important and I stretch the truth but then confess it right away.

Wow. Thanks for the session people, I feel much better now. Lots of help to have a blog to turn to when nobody else will listen! Thanks for bringing us past the 100 followed mark in what seems to me like a short period of time and almost 200 posts! Blogging is therapeutic, and bloggers are good people! I could mention so many people that have helped make www.dontlabelmykid.wordpress a real thing. Hunt4Truth- Psycho-Seamstress, Shaun (prayingforoneday) Dr. Earl Stevens, and so many others for sticking with this and making posts come to life- Dennis, Debbie, mewhoami, and every single one that I cannot recall at midnight with half an eye open! You all are awesome wherever you came from. WordPress, LinkedIn, Facebook, Google, or wherever. Thanks for coming and please stick around. I promise it will only get better. Here’s to all my fellow bloggers/ therapists !

Thanks for the gumball, Popeye!

DLMK

Art Therapy! You Will Be Drawn To It!

Sweet Emotions Counseling -Art Therapy! You Will Be Drawn To It!

Have you read or heard about Art Therapy for treatment of Mental Health issues? If you have, you will appreciate what Ken is doing, and if you have not, you will want to take a few minutes to check out this website-

http://www.sweetemotionscounseling.com/

Kenneth W. Davis, MA, BCC, LADAC, AT

Co-Founder, Art Therapist + Marketing Director

Sweet Emotions Counseling LLC

1002 S. E. C Street

Bentonville, AR 72762 USA

Tel 479-271-2120

www.se-counseling.com

Coming up will be an example of Art Therapy at work from Ken that he uses at his center listed above…. stay tuned!

DLMK