Have You Something To Celebrate? A New Book? A Published Article? How About Just Good News In Your Family Or Career? Illness Healed? We Want To Share It! Let Us Know!

We all get so caught up in all the negativity in what is going on in today’s world that we thought a monthly post highlighting some really good things would be cool. You can just use your first name unless you are alright with the publicity. It can be something you are thankful for like finding a job after a long absence, a healing of a sickness that has been plaguing you or your family.

 

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If you have good news form the writing world, like a book published, or an article published, or any milestone no matter how big or small. We have spent a year complaining so why not continue this thanksgiving spirit throughout the year?

Here is all you do. Drop me an email at tim@dontlabelmykid.com  and put ” Good News” in the subject line. Then give a brief summary of what happened that you are excited about and thankful for . If you want to keep your name a secret just use initials and if you would like the publicity just use your entire name and any other details you want included!

Its free and fun! We all need a reversal of mindset sometimes, share with us what has happened to you and we will post it!

TJ

So Whats It Going To Be? Therapy Or Coaching? Do You Even Know The Difference? You Should.

Sometimes I like to incorporate humor into my posts to keep the site from just being about depression and addiction and PTSD etc… I just cannot be all too funny with this. This is a topic that is DEADLY. I remember, because my brothers suicide wont seem to get out of my mind some days. So I am going to ask everyone to stop and read this, and you know what it may not even apply to you. But it could prevent what happened with my family. I cannot undo the gunshot that ended my brothers life. But I can share my 20 years of experience in mental health and addictions, from a personal, and then a professional standpoint. I sure hope you will send this to anyone that seems like they may be one step away from tragedy. If it is you. I tell you what to do at the end. Anyhow, I hope you take this to heart. Anyone who follows me knows how much I love you all and just want to keep getting the word out that you cannot delay treatment for mental health without terrible consequences. But let me say this, there is some really good news on here about the success we are having worldwide in a new area to help….tj

 

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Is Therapy Going To Drive Me To Suicide?

Most people in and around the mental health field as a client or provider are familiar with these two terms. The question is, what is the difference? Its a valid question that deserves an honest answer.

So your deciding how to address the situation your going through and the options. Whether it be a depression issue, a divorce issue or any other circumstance that has proved itself to be interfering in your routine to the point that you need at least some action. Lets face it, there are thousands of different providers who all claim to offer up the most successful, healing, lasting and least restrictive and intrusive on your life.

Where do you start? A friend’s recommendation? An ad that catches your eye or ear? The most well known methods? Its a tough call for anyone. It does not have to be. You see just as we have progressed in other industries like automobiles, and appliances and homes, the same applies when it is time for mental health choices. We don’t screw bolts into the sides of peoples heads anymore to see the effect. We don’t torture people hoping to alter behavior or feelings. Things have improved. Much progress has been made in these areas and you will do yourself a disservice by not following up on what is working and what is not.

Just because you are struggling with an issue in your life does not paralyze your ability to educate yourself. Of course you must be strong enough to make your own decisions and choices on treatment unless you are in need of inpatient care. This post is about outpatient care. If you follow along you just may see clearly some things that have been unclear until now. I have had extensive experience in both coaching and therapy, both as a client, and eventually as a professional for 20 years. To try and break down all the theories of personality and modalities of treatment would take an entire book. In my opinion it is not necessary.

Everyone has their opinion about what works best and many of the ideas have validity and can indeed help. However do you want to get 45% help when another method would bump that up to 85%? Of course not. Let me add that I have no dog in the hunt. Our team together has decades of experience in just about every major modality used in outpatient therapy. If you want to come lay on a couch each week while we remind each other how miserable your life has been, someone will take your money. But what about outcomes? After all the whole point of therapy is to get better and move on with your life, right?

What if medication is recommended? We all know that game right? Try this for 6 weeks, if it does not make you feel good we will change to the next, and the next and so on. You may be caught up in a weekly sit down regurgitating old dark memories for a year before any medications start working. That is , if they ever work, since even major drug makers have admitted that 5 or 6 of their latest anti-depressants actually cause suicidal thoughts.

OOPS! Yeah, it does happen and it is not uncommon.

But even so, therapy is just so much more ” professional ” sounding. It must be the best if its been around so long. I mean this coaching thing is fairly new. Why take chances on that when you can enjoy the benefits listed above of a therapeutic model?

Maybe because coaching works.

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Lets take a closer look at this whole coaching model. The coaching models at least that I am familiar with takes the therapy model and turns it on its head. It rejects everything traditional long term therapy stands for.

Coaching focuses on what is right in your life. What you can do well. What strengths we have. A return to normalcy as soon as possible in the least restrictive environment is key. On the other hand have we all not at one time or another seen a post or article that begins with  ” I have been seeing my therapist now for 5 years  ” or  ‘ My therapist says he thinks I need a higher dose of medication”. If you have not, you need not leave WordPress because they are everywhere.

Try finding one that says they have had their coach for more than a few months. It will be tough. The reason being is coaches create independence for you by emphasizing what you can do and have done well, whereas a typical therapy session will hover around how many failures or let downs occurred and how did you deal with them. If not monitored closely therapy can simply become something you must depend on and have or you will crack. It also can make for real strong job security for the provider. I am in no way saying that this is always the case, I am simply pointing out the facts.

 

Let me give you another example that may be easier to illustrate. AA & NA have been absolutely famous and known to be the savior for millions who swear they cant make it without it. There is good reason for that. Part of the mantra you must repeat and repeat and repeat until its drilled in your head is that you are powerless over your addiction.  Sounds like pure healthy honesty right? We need to face the truth, right? The problem here folks is that most AA & NA programs have a tough time breaking into double digits as far as success in remaining sober for 12 months. Hmm. Sounds like AA & NA need the addicts more than the addicts need it.

Now I can already here people yelling at me reciting the serenity prayer and how the program has kept you clean for 5 years. If that is true, good for you and stick with it. The problem is we have this other 90% who fail and fail and fail. This group is just as important as the 10% who are doing well. right? The program or therapeutic modality cannot replace the addiction. Trading one addiction for another is , well not the goal.

Lets quickly review. Coaching is a process where someone trained in the area your needing comes along side of you and helps you identify your strengths, address any negative patterns that are interfering with your life and resets your thinking and goals to align with your abilities. This process in general is a much shorter and effective one that rarely disturbs your daily routine and acts more as a cheerleader to help you up and out of a rut then a tape recorder that plays your most hideous memories over and over until one week you think you have it beat- but then at your therapy session your forced to drag it back out of the dark corner of your head.

Coaching is not becoming dependent in any way on someone else. Therapy can lead to a total dependency on a person to survive, and even worse create a stigma that you are lesser of a person because you cannot live life normally or without the handicap of a label, diagnoses, or medication.

Am I saying that therapy is a waste and coaching is the only way to get help? Of course not. What I absolutely am saying is that one better be educated on their true need lest they become involved in a very dependent situation that may strip you of self esteem when that method is not needed. I have been a therapist. I have been a coach which is what I am more involved in then formal therapy. There will always be times when someone is in need of long term clinical therapy. What I have learned however is that everyone deserves the chance to be helped up and out of a rut through short term coaching before the much more restrictive clinical environment.

Besides the the stigma, the dependency, and the long term visits in the therapy model, you also need to understand that the difference financially between the two are radical and you are talking tens of thousands of dollars for any long term clinical therapy and that is besides medications. Why would you put yourself or anyone you love in that box before you give them a chance to be coached back to health? So far I have given you my personal and career experience, but in case your wondering, the established and very well run coaching programs that are in existence now are running circles around any treatment centers for addictions and over 20 other issues from domestic violence to PTSD. As a matter of fact many insurance companies wont even pay for therapy anymore. That is right, they pulled out and are happy to pour their efforts into legit coaching programs. Why would they, when the success rates on coaching is 75% and up and traditional treatment centers around 20%? Not to mention coaching is 1/3 the cost if not more to you and to insurers.

I want to close with a very important point. This article is designed to offer new options and hope to those who may not be familiar with coaching model. Any good therapist or doctor will tell you the truth about whether long term expensive therapy is needed or if coaching is what will work best for the client. I wont lie to you, just like any industry, not every provider is truthful and many will keep you or your child locked up and medicated as long as the payer will pay. Authorities are trying to crack down on those who use clients for personal gain but with tens of thousands of programs, it is very hard.

Take a few minutes and enjoy a laugh. The Old School Psychiatrists Were Just a little more upfront and honest with their patients then in today’s world- Would it not be nice if all Doctors were this up front! Today she would likely here ” Maam, you have OCD, your in denial, you are paranoid and I think these 3 prescriptions may help….We can all learn a thing or two from this Bob Newhart clip…

I have worked with and still do some of the finest clinical therapists around and they are excellent. Doctors as well and in no way am I saying nobody needs clinical therapy. What I am doing here is giving you all a little heads up about what is coming down the pipe. Coaching has proven itself, its cost effective, and is the latest and greatest alternative to what we had to live with. You will hear about it if you have not. All the Don’t Label My Kid! Team members are coaches and you can check out our areas of expertise on the home page menu. Read a quick bio of what we each do and reach out to us if you think you need help. We always work with people and have yet to turn anyone away.

This is a post I would not have written even two years ago. However the coaching success, and opportunities for those who have been coached to actually become working coaches after they find success makes this a win win for anyone and everyone. Don’t put it off anymore. No matter what the age, race, background, or need- believe me we have been there and done it. Just look at our bios and you will understand. If you are doing great, and your kids are doing great. but you have this friend from church, neighbor, or relative that is hurting- be the one to help them get help. You never know what people may be just one more step away from and the tragedy of ignoring it can do.

When my brother shot himself after we just watched some television together, I sure wish I would have asked him why he was so quiet for 2 hours. But, I did not. Instead he walked out the door and shot himself in the head. Don’t let that happen to anyone you know. Contact us immediately for prompt response.

Write these contacts down. Print this out. Share with a friend. Share with your followers. We cannot help unless you get in touch. At the bottom is a personal cell number that is available to call 24/7- 365. If you are in trouble now, or know who is , you may call it anytime.

Otherwise for a consult about a family plan, or individual need and 100% confidential, email one of these – leave a contact number in the subject if you wish to be called back

dontlabelmykid2@gmail.com or tim@dontlabelmykid.com

Emergency Crisis Line- 386-675-7549

TJ

 

What Are You Doing Here? On Taking The Next Step… Time To Execute!

“There is a time or everything, and a season for every activity under the heavens”

Ecclesiastes 3:1

 

Well, here we are. We have discussed practically every issue in life on this blog in the last four years or so. We have laughed, debated, discussed, prayed and I think I even had a legitimate stalker . The very first mission of this and I hope any blog is to teach. To educate your readers on what it is your here for and especially the question ” what can you do for me”. Today I am going to do a part of my job that is not uncommon in my 20 years as a Social Worker. I am going to press you a little bit. Force you to quit sidestepping and avoiding your needs and issues.

Now don’t think of this as anything negative. Its just the natural progression of things. In my career I would have people make appointments come to the office for some need in the areas of mental health, behavioral health or addictions primarily. There are always exceptions but those were the most popular reasons they would make an appointment to see me.

Almost always on the very first visit I would introduce myself and ask them to tell me about why they were here. I cannot tell you how many stare-offs I had, lol. I would say ” you called me so tell me what I can help you with. ” I never figured out if it was people getting intimidated when they are in a setting they are not used to or what , but so many people forget or froze up.  I would usually give them some examples of why people came to see me and gradually somewhere in the list I would here a ” yeah that” or something to help me know where to start probing or asking questions. We always got moving at some point. Some in just a few minutes and some it took a little longer.

On this blog Don’t Label My Kid! I decided to start the educating on my homepage with mental health. I allude to the other areas I am an expert in but that is where I decided to begin, because all our other problems somehow are related to mental health. I then proceeded over the next 3-4 years to make sure I wrote at least 100 articles related to each area I serve.  I am not talking about specialty areas like parenting that I also assist and do workshops in,  but the main primary areas;  Mental, behavior and addictions.

Over 500 total articles on these areas. This is to find out where my reader’s needs are and to get feedback from you as well on any area . As you all well know I always mix in some humor, politics or other issues at random just to keep things from getting to dark and gloomy on here. (Some who pop in at the wrong time think this site is just a random topic site as my last 4 quick posts might have been about humor. lol) Even though I post about a wide  variety of topics , they are topics related to life. We are all in that game together.

Now, in this time I have enjoyed a good amount of feedback, comments and gotten a ton from you all about your situations now, past of something you wonder about. I have read and still go over thousands of comments from you all. I have not read anything I have not helped someone with many times over ( except maybe the stalker) .

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I have heard from the suicidal, the addicts, the parents who are ready to strangle their kids, the people of faith who ask me how I can still believe in God, then the burned out Christians. I have also gotten messages from people suffering with PTSD, abused wives, and people who have had experiences with sexual abuse. This has been especially popular since I have been writing about Father Gondek . People are much more likely to share if they are not alone. My point is, you are here for a reason. I  can assure you God did not lead you here to get more depressed or addicted. He did not bring me here to write about your struggles so you can leave the house every day with fresh depression. We are here for a change. It’s what I call a divine appointment.

The stage we are at now, is called Execution.

Execution is where action takes place. It is where you quit playing around with your problem. You quit lust ” liking ” every post about your topic, you take the next step in your journey. It is the favorite part of work life, as I get to use my gifts and help people in general solve problems. How though? What do you do – even if you wanted to take the next step to help? Well, there are three possible answers.

 You are getting your first assignment in moving forward with your issues. You should write this date down on your calendar  as the day you ” executed “-

Before you can execute you have to select one of the following scenarios that best fits you

1- I have never reached out for help

2-I have reached out but no progress ( gave up )

3-You are currently trying things but have not got anywhere or don’t know if your counsel is right, or the money you would spend is worth it.

Now, I want you to select the one that describes you best. Usually one of those is it. If not no problem we can identify it. So make your selection. Great.

Now – as a consultant I take on three roles, depending on which of the above fits you.

If you are #-

#1-I am your  ADVISOR– I will start by accessing your need, identify the best care plan and follow you through the process as needed.

#2-I am your INTERVENTIONIST-I help you resume your attempts by picking up the pieces of whatever you did gain or learn, and reconnecting , but with the appropriate services.

#3- I am your COACH- I act as support to what you think you may want to try, and am someone to stand along side of you as you navigate the process and coach you as is necessary to keep you on he right track.

Your 2nd assignment today is to figure out whether I am your Advisor,your interventionist, or your coach.  So, which one?

Here is the moment of truth. You pick up the phone or email me to identify what you are in need of. I have broken it down so you can easily identify your needs from me.

(Although I am very good, I have yet learned to read minds of my followers.)

Touch base to get a Plan Of Care started now!

Tim@dontlabelmkid.com

Dontlabelmykid2@gmail.com

Cell- Txt- Call- 386-675-7549

*Now a few important things have when you contact me

1- if it involves a child, any and all IEP or special class information from school. Also any mental health official diagnoses or medications they are on or have ever been on. I don’t need copies but I need you to accurately tell me the report. If you are needing help for yourself I just need your past and current mental health diagnises

2- If you are an addict or have a loved one is and you need help – DO NOT GET ANY HELP UNTIL YOU TALK TO ME . PERIOD. Many organizations today get paid to fill beds- not make it a good fit for the client. Also if you walk into a rehab with no knowledge of the process and what you really need, you or your friend’s success rate is about 24%

Again- Any addicts reading or if you are trying to help one get help. CALL ME first. It is critical that you have an understanding of what rehab REALLY means. It’s not what you think.

Tj Petri BSW

Advisor, Interventionist, Coach

Don’t Label My Kid!

My Pain- And How I Use Writing To Self Medicate. As A Matter Of Fact I Am Trashed Right Now…

**Note-this post was voted in the top 5 best reads of all posts on WordPress for this day June 16th 2017 – ( by the DLMK team)


 

I am using right now . Just so my junkie friends know I am keeping this legit.

Lately I have found myself writing a little more than usual. I just have felt much more at ease when I am entrenched and entranced in a post I am working on. It may sound odd but even when I am just breaking to do regular daily things that we all do like using the restroom, some chores, maybe a meal now and again , I feel that kind of urge to hurry and finish so I can get back to my blog.

It’s not healthy. I am a counselor, an adviser and consultant on mental health, behavioral health and addictions and have been for 20 years and pretty darn good at it I might add. I do not have issues with balance, and stress, or addictive patterns anymore. Or do I? I realized today ( which happens to be my birthday ) – Oh, thank you!  Anyway I realized that I have to deal with this. So I stared at the laptop for a few hours today but refrained from posting. I abstained to prove that I have it, and it does not have me.

Who am I fooling. The only difference between me today and me 23 years ago, is I am using writing and reading others writing as my fix, my medicine to mask the pain or stress I have. Back in the gap, I would have just popped 4-5 mg of Zannys ( xanax) maybe an oxy 80mg and slammed a few shots to ease my pain.

 It’s truly the same idea. Maybe I have achieved a certain level of maturity in that I wont reach for the pills and booze now, but my keyboard is taking the place of it.

 

I am writing about this for two reasons. First because as a recovered addict, I’d feel like a hypocrite if I did not share when I struggle and make others feel like they are weird because they have these type issues come up. Second, because the therapist needs therapy right now. I need help to break this open and get to the bottom of it. There is great revelation and healing that can come from expressing feelings, whether through the written word, the spoken word, or any other way one can get things out in the open.

I once worked for a psychiatrist who after just a short while entrusted me with completing all of her initial assessments. It’s a big deal because that means each new patient who came into her office did not meet with her, but me. I conducted what is called a psycho-social assessment which was a 10 page interview process that is designed to give the clinician doing the assessment enough information to make an official diagnoses from the same DSM-V that the doctors use.  I would make my decision and then pass it to the doctor to review . After a short time she just signed whatever I gave her. It was a high compliment.

One day we got to talking about our lives and personal family histories and all. After sharing a few things that had happened, were happening and may happen she was speechless. She could not understand how I even made it as far as I did , much less be so good. She named me ” the wounded healer”. To this day I see myself as a wounded healer.

So back to my problem now, I am aware that I am self-medicating. I have written enough posts already to carry me on for a year or more. I have no reason to keep on this marathon blog session. However the minute I try to lay my head down at night I realize I do not care for this uncomfortable silence in my brain. So within a half hour I am usually back up from my attempt to rest. I reach for this , and so the story goes. I hate it. I hate it that for 3 days I have closed my eyes for about 45 minutes per day if that.

Now the hard part to figure out which stress factor in my life has me right now. There are plenty to go around. Then the therapist in me wants to get all clinical and fancy like I am back at the shop with a new patient. Then I think thoughts like this ” Well I am sure since it is my birthday, my subconscious memory is playing old tapes about things I left undone, or as we EXPERTS call it  – ” unfinished business” in my life .

Then reality hits and in frustration I blurt out to my screen ” What a load of crap that is”.

Now I am still nowhere. Or am I ? Maybe by verbalizing this and sharing my true feelings. I  might get some relief. Or maybe it wont get me relief and poor me has to suffer a week or two of this. Either way I need a remedy to this. So in my case in my situation today I have chosen to do something different. Anything that might throw me off of this pattern I am in.

I made a decision.

My decision is to review my perspective a bit. I needed to reflect on some good things and quit buying into all the lies the enemy of my soul wants me to by into. For example what would I have thought 4 years ago when I had 16 followers and could not find the motivation to even post because I knew only a few would see it and out of those few maybe one or two might like it. Boy now those were hard times, I tell you what, compared to that I am in heaven right now. I can literally write a post about anything I want and know that a whole bunch of people from dozens of countries will see it in minutes. What the heck am I complaining about? Too much opportunity? Wow, poor me.

So you see what once would have been a dream to me — to have an audience and an abundance of things to share about somehow has been renamed in my brain to be a big problem. The amazing twists that our minds can out on us.

Now as I finish up this post, I am left with a different perspective. Now I am thinking – wow, what a roll I have been on, but I have got to mix in a way to get some sleep. It’s not healthy to not sleep, but it is healthy and just fine to roll out post after post with good content. I plan to keep it up until it naturally slows down, but never believe the lie that doing what I love to do is somehow stressful. Lack of sleep is my issue. Not blogging.

When I started this post I had no idea how it would end. Now I see that I am just fine and have much less to be stressed about then I thought. The sleep deprivation is likely causing the twisted thinking. My blogging is fine. Right on track with my goals and the reason I started this thing to share my experiences with as many as is possible.

I encourage everyone to share things when in binds like mine.  It matters not how you share but let another human in. It does two things.;  Resets perspective & identifies any changes you can make today. Otherwise, sit back and enjoy the ride!

Yo-Sup- Help- I Need An Ethics Gauge From My Fellow Bloggers…

Alright I will keep this short but I really do want the truth on this …so all my ” likers” who never take the time to write a sentence about WHY you liked or did not like my post, please as a special favor to me, just quickly throw your two cents in here. Just in case those of you who squeeze that cross pen until blood comes out are reading, I don’t get paid per like or anything if that’s what you are afraid of. I am actually stumped and just need you to tell me ethical or unethical.

Ok you may have noticed that a week or so ago I re-blogged one of those ” 2 minute read”  posts from millionaire digest to make a point. My point was that the paragraph which made up the whole post was comprised of like 3 tips on starting your day positive;

1- Brush teeth

2- Yoga

3- Refuse to allow negative energy

The reason I re-blogged it was because I noticed that the little hiccup of a post got 450 likes! I am slaving away to feed my people solid food that you can take with you like manna for the day,  for maybe 40-50 likes on a good day..

Honestly I was expecting to get some ” your jealous” comments which I did not! 

Actually I got almost as many likes on that as I do on some of  my better posts!! So a few days ago,  I test drove that machine one more time to be sure it was not a fluke. You all actually agreed with me that it was silly. 

I mean what 

Put your hands togehter for a one minute read entitled

” How to SELF-MOTIVATE- YOURSELF ( actual title)

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Well, I have a confession to make. The thought crossed my mind to continue to BLAST the same few Millionaire posts that I see each day with 5 sentences, and 450 likes, until, well,  I was hoping to irritate them soooo much, that they would re-blog my post to cut me down and get back at me.You thinkin what I am thinkin?

Numbers wise , Hmm.

Negative attention is better then no attention! 

There is a 30 second read for ya!

I figured if they did re-post mine to express anger, I would likely have the biggest day of my blogging career, since even 1/4 as many responses for me would be 100+ likes on one post! Who would turn that down? However I decided it was wrong and will not purposely irritate anyone.

But who is to  say there is anything wrong with me and my DLMK posse   ( you)  to make things interesting and see who can post the weakest post from any  day, with the most likes?

I know, curiosity killed the cat. But whats a little fun amongst a blogging family? I don’t want  to cut anyone down  in any comments. I am not asking for negative comments. I am simply asking if it would be wrong of us to start a little contest to see who gets the most love, for the least letters….

Feedback please….

 

Have Any Of These Thoughts Run Through Your Mind?

Any of these thoughts ring a bell?

  • Life is not worth it
  • I hate myself
  • I have screwed things up too much to be fixed now.
  • Nobody likes me/ I have no real friends
  • Everyone else is doing well but me
  • I wonder if anyone would even miss me
  • Addiction sucks and I will always be stuck into this hell.
  • What would be the best way to kill myself, gun? Jump off a bridge?
  • I am so depressed, it’s never going to get better.
  • What would God do or say to me if I did off myself?
  • Nobody understands the pain I am in, I cannot explain it.
  • Why does all the bad stuff happen to me?
  • Where is God?
  • Nobody in my family loves me anymore anyways.
  • I am useless. Worthless.
  • I have no purpose in my life
  • I am not good at anything.
  • I wonder if a lot of people would come to my funeral.
  • I cannot go on its too painful
  • I wish I could talk to someone, but I am scared they might judge me

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These are a partial list of questions that have run through my own mind in the past which prompted me to reach out for help, in several areas. Even with all my education and experience, I still suffered through the same pain and hopelessness that many others do.

The difference in me now, and then is I did have someone who like me had been through the same stuff, and was a professional in the field as well. He was able to lead me to the right resources to get the right help with nobody knowing until I wanted them to know.

Folks, that’s what I am here for today. I am choosing to spend the rest of my career helping people and entire families get through some big hurdles. I can help you its 100% confidential, and I promise  will save you thousands of dollars in fancy offices with lots of suits walking around. If you are having any of those thoughts or similar,like I used to, then get in touch with me email tim@dontlabelmykid.com or if its urgent call my cell 386-675-7549.

Don’t forget your friends and family who might need help if you don’t. Please share this with your readers if you don’t mind so I can get the word out that death is not the answer. Suicide is not the solution, and addiction does not have to own them.

Again- Please take a minute to share this with your people as I cannot reach but my only group.

Peace & Hope

TJ

“Name It Claim It”- “Blab It Grab It” Type Of Faith And Other Carnival Type Of Entertainment…

There is nothing wrong with Christians or pastors being filthy rich. The bible says – the LOVE of money is the root of all evil. Not money itself. I saw an article naming some well-known evangelists as false prophets. The only reason they gave was their net worth. They should go do some homework. Pat Robertson, sold all he owned as he believed God called him to do and start the 700 club. Sixty  years of hard international ministry and he’s worth ninety million. He even is said to be ” part owner of a diamond mine” – OOH… SHHH! Really? I hope God does not hear about that! LOL God made the arrangements.

Jealousy is not becoming.

Are there false money hungry preachers out there? Of course. But understand that wealth is not equal to false prophet.

Right off the bat, I am not a licensed pastor, minister or anything. I am giving my opinion on issues from the perspective of a plain old Christian. I am worn and torn, used and bruised as the next. I’ve been stuck like Chuck, broke as a joke and sicker then a dog. Despite all those things, the only constant in my life, and I do mean ONLY constant, has been the Word of God. It says right there in it will never return void. It does not lie. However sometimes people who preach it sugar coat it, and twist it and act as if they can use God like a vending machine.

Nope. But healing is real. I have seen plenty of miracles with my own eyes. However they were at God’s timetable, using who He wanted and how He wanted . Especially when He wanted.

Miracles do happen, and God shows himself in huge ways. However we play by His rules.

Contrary to popular belief, no Christian, with or without a robe or collar has this routine;

greed

{ Yes Lord, good morning. Here’s my order-Ill take 2 healing jobs, upgrade on my Escalade,  a 100k financial bonus and make my wife more sane  – In JESUS name!-( then stick your dollars in the machine right side up, and BOOM! Its yours.}

If that were the case what we need heaven for? We could make all things as we want right here and now. The fads that come by once in a while and are well televised often end up with a preacher in prison. Many times with good intentions but poor understanding of the Word. Other times preachers are just taking advantage of people and they get what they deserve. I am not sure many of those could even be saved, but that’s not my call. I do know God is not cool with repping Him for profit..

So anyhow, what IS the real deal then? What should we expect as a Christian here on earth? Well, there are two separate laws. There are laws that are available to anyone, no matter if they worship their Aloe plant or Jesus. For example gravity. Any one of us falls off the roof, we all gettin bruised! Now with that said, I have seen many times where it seems supernatural power had to be present for the person to be breathing.. personally I think believers get first ups on angels in cases like that, but at the end of the day we walk off of a roof, and we go boom.

Next is the law of reciprocity or the idea that when you give you get back . That seems to apply to most anyone. Now I am NOT talking about tithes and offerings. I mean straight up generous people seem to be rewarded for that. God calls it sowing and reaping in the Bible, but you get the idea. Another is the power of the tongue. No matter what you believe, words can hurt from any mouth. There is power in your words.

Okay so now what is the Christian benefit package that differs from the non-believer? According to the Word, eternal life in heaven with the Lord tops the list. But what about now, here on earth? Well, as a child of God who receives Christ as savior – you can now exercise some rights you could not before. You have special privileges and the promise that He will never leave you or forsake you while these horrible trials on earth must go on. Its kinda sorta like when you are a youngster going through scary times, like being scared of the dark, or your first dentist trip it feels just a little bit better when papa or momma is sitting next to you, right? Same idea here. The Christian has the presence of the Lord that others choose not to have.  ( Psalm 27)

There are many books out there about spiritual authority – the authority of the believer, books about what rights the Christian realm. If you like an easy read with simple applications, I recommend Joyce Meyer, or Pat RobertsonJosh McDowell type books. Especially if you are a fairly new believer. If you are a glutton for cerebral torture but love the challenge and all,  pull up a few Watchmen Nee books… The Normal Christian life and many more.  I would stay away from anyone who you would see on Oprah, with rare exceptions, as she likes to weave the ” all roads lead to God path” which sadly for them does not fly with God, according to His word. The thought is really saying to Jesus Christ, ” Hey thanks for the effort, that torture and death and all to pay my penalty for sin, but, tell the Father I will be coming via another airline…

Don’t see that talk ever happening..

If you are a total atheist or someone who gets irritated at the very name of Jesus, I challenge to read a book that I found very helpful on my journey. It’s by Josh McDowell and called “ Lord, Liar, or Lunatic? Very short read and super interesting no matter who you are but especially if you are oriented towards science. Josh is a scientist, and was a full on atheist so ticked off about Jesus freaks creepin around him that he decided to scientifically shut them up..

The point I am making here is don’t let bad teaching ruin eternity. In the end we are all responsible to answer to God. His word says He has provided one way to get past our ugly sin, the blood of Christ. We simply choose to accept what He said, or reject. Our choice. We don’t get the option to not choose …and according to His Word that’s the deal.

( I didn’t write the Bible BTW, so don’t shoot the messenger..)

 

tj

 

CNN ” We’ve Got The Impeachment Locked Up..

In a stunning announcement Saturday afternoon, CNN has released new evidence that they believe will have even the most conservative and Trump fan reeling for immediate resignation .

Talking about the president, In a quote from lead investigative reporter Ian Spin had this to say, ” He brushed right through the Supercuts scandal , he froze up a bit on the Baskin Robbins scoop, but today I’m here to tell you Mr. Trump has lost his run of luck.”

Apparently a team of volunteer lefty celebrities agreed  to go undercover in this investigation which supposedly will show that our president has a very sketchy bedroom secret that is supposedly so far out that it’s not only immoral, but ILLEGAL!  Questionable ethics and moral standards are mentioned.  The Implication  is that our president is not a good role model for the activities of a man who is supposed to be a God-fearing wholesome,  morally upright American  role model.

So far the only members of the investigative team demanding impeachment for Trump that have come forward are as follows-

 Miley (AAA) anywhere, anyone, anytime Cyrus

– Cher ( is my son my daughter? ) Bono 

The  runner formerly known as Bruce ( do I use the men’s room during transition? ) Jenner

Mark ( are you over 12 sweetie)Weiner

Rosie ( my mouth runneth over) O’Donnell

Finally-an unidentified sales person ( female ) at an upscale DC Furniture store who has made an extraordinary claim that she personally has sat on the presidents bed. ( this is not confirmed by our sources) furthermore she claims to have physical evidence that will leave no doubt that what Trump did was immoral and illegal..we are awaiting an update any minute on just what this ” evidence” is and clearly understand that if even a shred of this story and where it is leading us is true,  Donald Trump could find himself out of a job. Please stand by….

44 minutes later….

We thank you all for standing by. We have been privy to all of the details and are free to release them. The incident in question is legitimate. Donald Trump violated the law and we will see how stiff a penalty he will get. However the incident, was slightly misleading. After the objective news media was allowed to interview the key players, including the stock girl at the furniture store, we have found that the level of moral and ethical integrity has NOT been compromised.

In an unusual move- CNN not only ill-reported but exaggerated a story that they knew to be misleading. Who would have seen that coming ?

Under DC law, tearing off the label of a mattress is a crime. However, in a little known clause, if you have an allergy to makimup-nuuse  (ancient greek chemical)  an ingredient used in the making of mattress tags, you may actually tear the tag off.

So, good news for the President tonight although we here at DLMK News would caution the president that as much as we love him, his ” coloring outside the lines” lifestyle really is not conducive to the office of the President. Please exercise caution Mr. Trump.

That wraps it up for tonight , as always good news and good night.

tj

-Senior Editor (recently promoted)

 

Special; On Parenting- For Parents Of Children With Disabilities…

If you caught my brief bio posted the other day you may have seen that I was responsible write each IEP ( Individual Education Plan ) for all of the students in the schools I  started. As a matter of fact, this blog title (in part)  was named after the unbelievable flaws I saw while doing this. The school boards typically don’t offer parents the help that your child is entitled to if they have a documented disability.

I like to think of a child with a ” disability ” as a child with a ” different ability”

At an IEP meeting, a  ” Staffing Specialist ” from the board is there to represent the board and throw in the hat what they are willing to offer as far as support. Exactly like the psychiatrist who tells you your son or daughter has some  ” disorder ” usually you are at the mercy of their opinion or decision. That should never be the case. However how are you to know what is right and what isn’t?

Simple – email me and I will help you get the help, assistance and services your child deserves!

dontlabelmykid2@gmail.com

( when you email me, please do not go into the entire story, but just the type of situation it is, and your best contact number- I like to hear it straight from you so I can get the details I want and need to help!)

Parenting 101- Got Skills? You Better Or They Wont. Role Modeling & Social Skills.

I am amazed when I walk through Wal-Mart and see a mother dragging a crying 4-5 year old  by the arm yelling

SHUT UP! DO YOU HEAR ME, YOU ARE GOING TO GET YOUR LITTLE ASS WHIPPED WHEN WE GET HOME”

Wrong on so many levels.  But to keep this short , I will point out just a few reasons why this approach never works.

1- You cannot command a child to do something that you are currently reminding them you yourself are incapable of- like  being quiet.

2-Its highly unlikely that ANY child (that can hear)  is going to think ” hmm, I think I will pull it together now that I know I have an  ass whippin  coming when we leave, I’m pumped!”

3-If you want your child to incorporate  any skill  into their daily routine, YOU must first model it, consistently. The ” do as I say not as I do” rule is obsolete.

There are at least 100 valuable social skills that must be taught to any of us in life. About 25 are needed to function successfully as an adult. For a child ages 5-18 it varies by age, but 3-4 for the young child and 15 for the teen are necessary to get through school and relationships without much turmoil.

There is no  “ skill genie ” or  ” skill angel ”  that comes in the night and teaches your child the skills. So they must learn them from someone else….yep thats right.  but, if you choose not to teach them – don’t sweat it, they can always pick up little Johnny’s skill set at school, you know the one who always gets suspended and calls his 3rd grade teacher a slut.

If you want your home to run smoothly, there must be consistency and clear explanation of what is expected. I will take the top two most important social skills ( in my opinion ) that I have taught for 20 years, and break them down here so you can see how you should explain them to your child.

1- Following instructions

a- Look at the person

b- Say ok

c Check back when finished


2- Accepting No ( for an answer)

a- Look at the person

b- Say ok


As I mentioned, these are the top two out of the 100 I train on. You should have at least 15 skills you use to interact with your teen and 4-7 for young  who cannot retain much more.

Remember, the trick is developing a motivation system in your home that is not some temporary fly by night bribe system just so you can get a quiet night and take a long bath. Every reward and consequence your child gets should be a decision your child has made because you have taken the time and effort to creat a system that needs no arguing or debating about. Its built into your family dynamic.

Lastly for this little sample, if you think your children don’t want boundaries set for them ( specific guidelines) you are wrong. Kids are desperate for boundries. As a matter of fact we adults are desperate for boundries. What would you feel like if you jumped on the freeway tomorrow to go to work, and there was a giant neon sign that said

  ” NEW RULES ” AS OF TODAY -THERE ARE NO SPEED LIMITS, NO RULES ON SAFE DRIVING OR ANY OTHER GUIDELINES AND NO MORE EMERGENCY RESPONSE TEAMS”

How safe would you  feel knowing that  anyone could pull a NASCAR on you  and draft you at 125 MPH-  or trade some paint with you sending you and your vehicle rolling  down the hill on the side of the road.

So of we grown ups need some guidlines, ow much more do our children need them.


TJ

( I am an award winning behavior specialist who has built hundreds of behavior programs to implement in homes of small familes who just want one system to implement so they can quit constant arguing all the time. I also have been hired to put behavorial sysytems in place in large companies to make their own staff get along better)

I was even hired to train all the doctors and staff of a hospital psyhiatric unit how to get along , proving that no matter who you are or how old you are there has to be consistency.

As a foster parent, I created and implented daily systems for very abused and defiant teens and was successful in all. About 50 teens.

If you are tired of unpredictable behavior and response in your family, I would love to help build a system to fit your needs. Once in place you simply maintain it and I will always be available to help with any break downs in the system. Or you can keep living like you are…

(Yeah, I Agree )- so my email is —-dontlabelmykid2@gmail.com-contact me today to set up a personalized- DLMK! Care Plan for your family.

TJ

Another Body … Just Another Bum.. A Drunk Most Likely… Should Have Made A Life For Himself. Right? No. That Could Be Us…. { Turning The Corner- Don’t Label My Kid! Lets Do It!} 2017- Taking It Up A Level..We Need Each Other..

Mental Health. Looks like this pretty much , right?  I took this picture 2 days ago. You know why? I assumed when I contacted the law to pick the body up they may want some documentation of when and where I found the guy.  Not that its any big deal, I see these bums all day long here in Daytona. Heck You and me could have ended up like that if we didn’t make the right choices, right? Whatever. Who are we kidding. But for the grace of God, there goes me.

In this case I got to walk away feeling better then I initially thought. You see, when I realized he was stiff, and smelled bad I just instinctively went to see if he had any ID to give the law. I was quite shocked when he about jumped when my hand touched his jacket pocket. He was alive! Sort of. Mike, as I later learned was his name was so scared I came to hurt him that he was shaking, I sat down with him and told him it was all good and I help people like him. I am a social worker. I help all people. No matter the age, race, issues, addictions, etc.

I know you cant see all that well in this picture as far as his age and all, but after we had talked awhile he shared a little about his life. Take a guess as to his age? Just do it, ball park.

Mike is 51.

I was able to offer him some options that he never knew were there. I know because that is my gift. We all have gifts, and in my case I have the ability to identify what people need to make their situation the very best it can be. I have done it for my entire career as a clinical social worker. I have worked with teens, parents, mental health patients, addicted folks, poverty stricken, violent people, even the most seriously developmentally disabled people in the world, literally. I have been called on to improve the quality of life for those who are deaf, dumb, blind, and aggressive. Can you imagine? The people in that arena that I ran programs for were abused so badly as babies that even though many were born ” normal” they had some of the most evil parents and caregivers you could imagine. Tossed in dumpsters as babies left to die, left on the hot Florida beaches as infants simply because the mom or dad was too lazy to bring them to a fire station or another outlet who would gladly have taken them in.

I started a school for 60 felons, ages 11-18. Gang members, 12 year old kids running crack at 3am on school days for their own parents. I lived for 5 years with 45 teens who were sexually abused very severely. Every group of people I worked with I was so thankful to have a God given gift to see through the outside and meet the true need on the inside. Now, before anyone thinks I am bragging – it could not be further from the truth. I am so  ” ungifted ” in some areas that men should be – lol- I remember a time when I had my young boys with me in my truck and I noticed my wipers were bad. I could not see through them. I stopped at the Auto Zone , ordered up 2 wipers in a manly voice…and spent the next 30 minutes in the parking lot trying to figure out how to put the blades on until my 7 year old son took pity on me. He installed them in 5.

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If you have followed me long you will note that although I share my personal struggles, and trials, I have never laid out an ” I love me post” about my accomplishments in my gifts. One reason is because I realize it is a gift. I can help anyone, in any situation, no matter what the circumstances. I just don’t feel comfortable bragging about something that I was given. Oh, believe me – I can hang with the best of the braggers. I have the degrees, the awards and all that jazz. I could not even tell you where any of them are right now. I don’t care. I care about educating people and helping them save time, money and stress.

What I love most about what I do is I know every single job duty all those people and more have. But I don’t have to become each one. I sure can steer you to who will actually help you and who wants your money. I can tell you that in many cases I have not been able to get to the parent or family in time before they got taken for a ride to the tune of tens of thousands of dollars and more. That’s the reason I am so determined to hold providers of mental health, addictions, behavioral health, and juvenile delinquents accountable for what they do. I know what they should be doing – but you don’t. I am not a psychiatrist, but if you have ever read my home page ” mental heath- its a crazy business” you know I do not mince words. Why? I know the truth.. Do want to know how many doctors or psychologists, psychiatrists have written me nasty letters over the 4 years I have been slamming them? ZERO.

I am sharing this for a reason. I am hanging my shingle again. For 4 years I have poured my heart out on here about my entire life. Its time to help you all get to where you need and want to be. And I am asking you to trust your family or personal needs into my care. I make the same promise I have kept my entire career. I will NEVER leave you broken. An I will certainly never leave you broke.  I don’t discharge my families when they go through a rough patch financially. I love using my gift. You may have noticed I have never taken a dime for any thing here, I do not sell ads like some. This audience that you all are was hand picked. I have never connected to the internet, other then this WordPress sight.

Last check this blog has had visitors from 65 countries ( that I know of ) and followers from at least 25 that I know of. That’s not my doing. It is no accident. You all are here for a reason. I am here to help.

When Mike Carey came along and was willing to join with this mission, I was and still am ecstatic. Why? Because Mike and I share a similar passion. We both love to use our gifts to help others. We both will never leave anyone hanging until they are well.  I am gong to show you a real life example of how God has already used Mike in my own family. Most of you know I have 2 grown boys, and 2 baby girls. Well, babies to me, they are 5 & 10.

This is my baby Shelbi..

My baby had 72 sticks with a needle that her doctor insisted on to test for allergies. For nothing. Next up he said – blood work! No. No way.. But what can I do? Better late then never – I called our resident gifted man in the healing of diseases. He said ” you took her where” ? ( made me feel even lower lol) –  No more he said , get her on the phone with me tonight for a minute or two. I was thinking to myself-  Hello!! What was I thinking? Tonight Shelbi said hello to Mr. Mike for about 2 minutes, and 10 minutes later he says ” oh she has some poisoning in her system and a viral infection. Go to your local health food store and get 2 items ( like 5 bucks each) and in 7 days it will be gone.

HUH?? What? Why did I forget the other people I have sent to him who had major diseases go away? Anyways no blood work and that’s  Mikes gift.

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If you need physical healing – take advantage of  this gift right in front f you . If its healing in any other area, call on me. I work on a case by case basis, until the job is done. I want you all to take this email address down.

Dontlabelmykid2@gmail.com – to help with Tj-

that is your direct line to me. I will be adding a toll free number as well but for now get me there. I will develop with you what I call a  “Plan of Care ”

There is NO issue you can throw at me that I havent done a hundred times. Confidentially we will put it all in place and work it out financially It sure would make me feel good if you all would entrust your needs to Mike and I. I thank you in advance . .

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With all we are trying to accomplish through this platform of Don’t Label My Kid!  It would really make a big difference if you all would commit to utilizing the gifts that Mike and  I have- for your own family. so that we can keep on helping others and continue trying to do what we do ..put pedophiles away -heal families -help addicts-  bring families together and just grow spiritually , emotionally and physically.

God Bless you all . Please Step up for this..

Tj

Alternative Solutions 4 Health

http://www.alternativesolutions4health.info/

 

Its Friday- Time For- ‘Mike’s Corner’

Did you know that lower back pain (which is a worldwide complaint) most times is pain referred from another part of the body and has nothing to do with the back?  Usually it is a result of the Occipital bone being out. Since the Occipital bone is a part of the brain, chiropractor cannot usually adjust it. However there are 2 herbs that each have a frequency which will cause it to go back in very quickly.

Contact Mike for your personalized evaluation-

silverwood08@gmail.com

2017 Series -Getting Through The Dark Times; Faith It ‘Til Ya Make It!

 

In the last 4 years I have written about many topics from parenting to depression, addiction to PTSD, medication, suicide, therapy  and so much more. It seems like a lot but as I have always said, I don’t speak on anything that I haven’t lived through personally or at the very least studied professionally. In the beginning I thought writing about so many different types of issues would make it seem like life is filled with nothing but bad stuff. However  I learned two important things in the last four years; I am not alone, and people need to hear from others who can relate.

So far I have mostly  discussed all the different types of problems and medical mental health struggles and family issues that exist. And there’s plenty to discuss no doubt. . Up until now, I have not really delved into how we deal with these issues as we go through these dark trials. Its imperative that we have some way of staying grounded during these times we walk  through the valley.

 It’s very important that we have some sort of an anchor to keep us from drifting too far away from reality when we feel so lost in such darkness, and with so few friends. As most of you have understood, if I shared my life experiences, some of these times are gone through very much alone and there are not many people around that can relate. Unless you really search. And most of the time we don’t feel like searching for anything when we’re barely able to wake up every day and get dressed. Having been through very traumatic times that caused depression, and nightmares and loneliness and sometimes the inability to function normally. I can understand the darkness that prevails if we allow it to.

 There’s a few things in my life that I can honestly say, are the only reasons that I am here today, both physically and mentally spiritually and emotionally. I know that if it took those things to keep me saying then all of you also had to have some way that you’ve coped something that held you together. and some? To that you’ve used to make it to the point, we are able to even write about it today on a blog. The truth is professionally I’ve seen that it isn’t a very high percentage of us that are able to make it even this far- in fact we are a  very blessed group of people to have come through what we have and able to share it with other people. Speaking of sharing it with other people that is a critical piece in healing. It isnt always about us -the spotlight can’t always be on us even in our dark times and the truth is some of the ways out of these dark times the very quickest are by reaching out to others and pulling them up with the knowledge we have.

Sometimes when you need a friend the most you got to go and be a friend to someone. . Sometimes when you need encouragement the most you need to go and encourage someone. And even sometimes when you need financial help, you need to reach out to someone who you know could use what little bit you have and help them.. The point is as tempting as it is when we are in these dark times, the worst thing we can do is send out invitations for a pity party. I have always found some good advice from a guy that sings a song full of truth abut these times. I would like to share this song with you and I’ve shared the one with lyrics so you can read along… Please take 3:38 minutes out and watch it…at the end of this post. It may just resonate with you somehow…( you may have to click on it to play it)

So as I kick off the on going series on how we have made it to the point we are, I would ask that you all share any advice that you have. I shared all the problems lol- now I need help with looking at many solutions. I am leaving this wide open, and welcome any guest posts on the topic. Like I said – the more you share the more therapeutic it is.

So lets see where this goes y’all

If You’re Going Through Hell..

Private: Invitation Only–Please Join Us In The Fight To Provide Effective Services To Those Suffering. Tj & Mike

**This information is intended for the recipient and nobody else. Please lets keep this in house.. Greetings , You all are in for some very exciting news!  If you have received this invitation you are a part of a special group of people. You are special to us in that you are followers of Mike […]

 

 

https://drive.google.com/file/d/0B_T8zNEl5CBkbEs3WmZoZHZnQ2c/view?usp=drivesdk

Above and below are 2 different ways to hear Tj  give his   personal greeting and update. In order to hear it you may have to load the open. If neither will work for you just skip it I will be doing these regularly.

udio- TJ greeting and update of the Dont Lablel My Kid! Projects(I

**This information is intended for the recipient and nobody else. Please lets keep this in-house..

Mike Carey alternative Solutions 4 Health & Tj from Dont Label My KId!

I made a quick audio update ( both links above, but had a few problems on one of the times I tried to open, you may have to download first but if its more than a few minutes just let it go, as it is jut an update and I will be dong these from time to time…tj


Greetings ,

You all are in for some very exciting news!  If you have received this invitation you are a part of a special group of people. You are special to us in that you are followers of Mike Carey – Alternative Solutions 4 Health, or TJ -(Dont Label My KId) and Mike have teamed up! That’s right we are joining forces to reach some goals and accomplish some things that have never been done before. We want you all along with us. Much is happening in the way of change and we have some exciting things in the works.

We want the people who have been supportive of us to get some too.

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(Notes- It has come to our attention that a fairly large group of bloggers were included in this private invitation who may or may not be followers of Don’t Label My Kid! Or Mike Carey .)

(After checking into it we found that you all actually are  considered by  WordPress to be followers of Don’t Label My Kid! via what I call the ‘ “undercover follower” method lol which I actually learned  is an option that I was unaware of. The other possibility is you register  so much on the site you are considered followers.

Either way you are blood.

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Just come on home – make it official-go click follow on this site. You do have to do that to take part so if you could make sure you all are ” legal” by like tomorrow we can stop the confusion…..And now we return to our regular programming. .)

With  Mike’s incredible knowledge and gifts in areas of  health and the mission of DLMK to serve a huge group of people worldwide who are desperate for help in the areas of mental, behavioral health and addictions it seemed a match made in heaven to team up and meet the needs of the total person in ways that have never been done. AS4H and DLMK have one thing in common.

Success rates that are at least double or more of many of the options available. That is not to say there are not very talented people working in our areas because there is. We have a unique chance to make sure that all components that a person may need in treatment, we can help with and using the same team, same model and same philosophy. Not all have that advantage.

Beliefs in how and who in treatment are absolutely identical. Both are believers in getting to the root issue; both believe in as natural of a healing as is possible; both are  committed to a return to normalcy asap. Sadly the country we live in supports financially those who keep people sick. It pays very well.

The goals of physical treatment centers and other care is already in the works. As matter of fact we will be talking with a major insurer in Florida about helping fund treatment centers! At this moment right now we have a goal to get services out to the world through virtual means. Mike can do what he does and the whole team can each help in reaching out to the world. However one thing holds us back.

It is very expensive technical work to build a portal  as we will using the Don’t Label My Kid! site as a platform. The site today has followers from 60 countries. The cost to make this happen is huge but not as a team. You are part of our team. It’s not a one-sided team and that’s why nobody else but our followers got invitations. As we succeed, you succeed. Why pay an outside investor a ton of money to help us when we can work together and meet all of our needs?

With that said – in order to reach who we need to reach we will need help.  So we are asking that you take a hard look at what is in front of you right now and consider getting involved to the extent that are able. We think no matter what level you are supporting us he return will far outweigh any monthly investment. When we need to add some service providers to our database who do you think we will utilize?

That’s right – you.

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In closing I will give a quick example or two. The placement of your blogs name on a separate page on the website goes to anyone at any level. Think about this. How much would it cost for a newspaper as or magazine/radio ads -100? More ? Even then you must hope and pray that people hear or see your ad at the very time they need your service.

Our followers are made up of people like you same demographic. That’s gold. The potential reach for your name in a day could be 500k- you see DLMK has followers that have 100k each!  So it’s a great deal. Please jump in, Today is the kick-off let’s do it up!

                               Here is our Commitment to You –

**For those come on board now, we will do something to show you our appreciation. We provide care for the total person here . We make sure that whether it’s a general doctor, a psychologist, an addictions specialist or any other type of care, that we have the best of the best.

So, to those who become any level as a founding member -we have you covered for any crisis needs in your immediate family. Free.

The 3 subscriptions are below are simply select what is best and sign up…

(We do have a few limited partnerships available. These are NOT for the average blogger or small business owner . The investment and commitment are much greater and suited for large set ups. People looking make some high level career advances with other projects we are working on and things like that. They are listed after the 3 below.)

***THIS JUST IN- PLEASE READ*****Mike Carey and I just spoke Today is 4/29/2107  at 10:40pm Eastern Time.

Mike has told me to take away the hours of consulting that go with the package if you are a Founders Club Member…Instead, when you become an active member now AT ANY LEVEL– He said PUT NO LIMIT ON IT!!! This means by subscribing you are on Mike’s List Of Clients and you NEVER have to pay for his service..

He also said as a small token of his appreciation to those who are serving, or have served in the military Everything ( all of his services) are on the house and the same goes for those in Christian Pastoral ministry or retired from it. 

Finally, if you want to become a member but cannot afford 25.00$ / Month we will offer scholarships if you can provide proof

. We also exchange services for memberships-if you have a skill we can use, or a product we can use..

Thanks in advance for trusting us and becoming Founding Club Members !


Don’t Label My Kid!  & Alternative Solutions 4 Health Founders club

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25.00-  Official Member

1-Your Blog Featured on separate page with founders only

2-Access to private database of services

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(They must become followers of either Mike, Tj or both to be eligible.)

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50.00-  GOLD Member

1-Your Blog Featured on Separate page with Founders Members only

2-Access to private database of services

3-  Founders Group Member Tag for your Homepage

4- A free hour per month of consultation with any of  team! phone Email

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100.00– Platinum

1-Your Blog Featured on Separate page with Founders Members only

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3-Founders Group PLATINUM Member Tag for your homepage

4-1 Guest post on the DLMK site per quarter to share your blog’s mission or post a blog of your choice (these will be highlighted and recognized as a Guest Post From Founding Member-available only to Platinum members)

5- 2 hours per month of personal consultation from an actual team member to help you identify the appropriate service for you or a loved one’s personal situation.via email or phone and if the situation calls for it.

100% confidential and no longer available to non followers.

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                    The Executive Access – Boardroom Access Partners

We are also offering an entirely different type membership. They are Limited Partnerships – meaning only 10 of each are being considered at this time. The positions are for those who are aggressively pursuing some specific goals in a business, career or any pursuit that would require high-profile connections or simply need  to do more than run a small business, and need the help of a larger group to help them to the next level.

We designed these slots with a few things in mind. One is to help some of our own followers achieve their goals, so in the future they can pay it forward and continue the mission that we have started. Another is to help us achieve our financial goals so we can begin doing what we do best, help others. The financial investment for the Executive is 500/monthly and the Boardroom is 1000/month. It is the highest level of commitment on both sides that exists.

In some ways these are open to what the two sides can do for each other. We have the advantage of being able to be flexible and creative.

The primary differences between the two is one has access to the board of directors on certain issues and has a voice and even a vote on issues related to the services fund-raising project. The Boardroom Access partner is that person.

There is a process to discuss either of these. If you are interested contact Tj to set up a phone conference -tim@dontlabelmykid.com.

occasionally we will have a need for a staff member and offer it out as a regular position. Right now we are looking to fill a few part-time executive assistant positions in exchange for platinum memberships .

We hope you find just the right opportunities so we can see you grow while we grow!

thanks Mike Carey and Tj Petri

So- You Plan On Moving On Up To The Average Do You? Wow! Shooting For The Stars..(* Recommended Reading- By Me)

You may notice I recommeded this right? But its my own writing! I know, I just put down a new standard. You will understand soon..

What Or Who Are We Really Trying To Be?

Someone recently askied me this ” did you know that the post I read of yours today was xxxx  amount of words? That’s like 1200 more than the average post, I am just letting you know..”

I looked her and shook my head smirking…I said ” I know ain’t that insane nobody but me has figured out about how long a post should be, what a shame”

Now, we are friends and I was picking up what she was trying to put down. However there is a grain of truth in what I said. Not about ME being the standard, but who has the right to set a ” standard”  anyhow and is that what we are all striving for?

Can you imagine going into a job interview and when the boss says ” tell me what your ambitions are, your dreams and what you are striving to be?” So you sit up, chest out, and firmly and proudly say ” well sir , I am striving to be the average at what  I do, I believe I have what it takes to meet the ” standard”.  As a matter fact sir I currently am almost dead even with the other professionals at everything I do!

Wow- You are Hired! Right ? Is that what you would hope to hear? I would not hold your breath! Lol.. Yet Do we even realize or know what we are striving to be? Can you identify what your goal to attain really is? Is it to be ” as good as so and so” you’r professional hero? If so you might want to step it up a notch. What good is it for me to finally climb Mt. Everest just to stand on top and proudly say YES! Today I am as good as all those who stood before me! I am now rolling in the same class with some pretty higher-ups!

Wow- good for you. You  have just proven that you are capable of doing something so awesome, so incredible and so top-notch that you can now say you are just like the rest who accomplished the very same thing…lol.

You have noticed in the last 25 years or so we have plowed into, stayed in and are even trying to go further a humongous initiative to get everything done FAST!

1- Fast Food

2-Fast Books

3- Fast Travel

4-Fast EVERYTHING!

I am not exaggerating in this sense. About any ad these days for almost anything has something to do with the speed that we can get it  ” over with” …

So lets look quickly at what its done for us..

1-Fast Food- No more family dinner time at 6 no matter what where our whole posse gets together and talks about our day. Its has really reversed that into us being with our ” new ” families – coworkers almost all day, and talking about what fast food we ate by ourselves for lunch…

2- Fast travel Well, the old adage ” stop and smell the roses” is not gone totally- but the most roses have taken other jobs or are secretly looking around I think! Business is not what it once was. I was looking at my grandmother’s picture collection a few months ago. My grandfather was an incredible man. He worked 50 years as an accountant at Mobile oil after coming here from Germany at age 7 with no English language skills. He was made fun of and all but he pressed on to become one of the most awesome husbands and men in general I have ever known.

Each year at Mobile after he became fairly successful, he got a bonus. He loved to golf and had lots of cool hobbies he could have spent that on. But no matter what it was a tradition that he used his bonus to send my grandmother and a few friends of her choice on a cruise of her choice. And he was proud to do it. In the last years those cruises became world cruises! A real treat for granny and her girls. So as I looked through her albums I noticed that besides having an album for each years cruise, they were filled with pictures for each stop, each port, each special city of all the ladies smiling and laughing.

My first thought was wow, they were the standard. That’s when they did stop for each rose, they did eat together, they did make any speed in life acceptable only if it would bring them back together quicker when they were separated for any reason. Missing a dinner as a family was a bummer. My grandparents were married almost 60 years. You know what-it wasn’t rare back in their day. Today I am waiting for someone to come out with a webinar on How to marry 6x in 60 years- without leaving work-lol…

So here is my point. Not everything that glitters is platinum. I know I know gold..but that’s changed too. Some changes have been great, trains , planes and all allow us to enjoy more of  life that is if that’s what we use it for. I could go on past fast food, books, microwaves, an all that forever. I don’t think the majority of our need for speed has been the best for our families and health. However once again we created another monster we cannot feed.

Looking at the rates of the family breakdown alone is depressing. I am not saying our obsession with rushing through life has desroyed our families…wait yes I am saying that.

Don’t let the ” standard ” define you. You define the standard.

Wow, that was pretty good stuff! I am going to recommend this to a few of my friends .  WHAT ? Whats the look for?

Oh, OOPS– that’s not really, well appropriate is it? Pushing my own stuff.

Well excellent then! I will do it.

I have just set a new standard!

Make a note of that in your book of standards before you forget.

Now- how about you go and set your own standard today. But whatever you do , don’t you dare do a word count on your or my posts! LOL

I am out-

tj