Once in awhile, I see something like this my complaint hole goes empty. If this guy can do that, what is holding me back from my dreams? And you? It’s guys like these that reset my mind about how rough I have it sometimes..
Its hard to imagine that this could be true, but when Yuu see it is fact, it should encourage any if us who have been consistently rejected in dome area or areas of our lives. I guess the bottom line is
Delay is not Denial.
I know my sister Pam would appreciate a whole bunch of prayers this mothers day as she sends her ” baby ” Nick off to college. He is ” All–Everything“- lol– The grades, the looks, Homecoming King, Scratch golfer, Captain Of Men‘s Volleyball team- but most importantly good people like his mama and daddy.
I am hoping to comfort her worries by letting her see a show of my fellow bloggers around the world that they would be willing to launch a prayer or two for Nick’s overall well-being, safety, and a hedge of protection from the dark forces trying to take our kids out of the light these days…
So if you consider yourself a praying person please like and say a prayer for Nick’s Alabama future. If you’re not a praying person yet, how about starting today? I truly believe we need to start using our networks as prayer coverings for each other. Lets start here and now !
My data shows bloggers from 65 countries have been on this site..how many can I get an ” Amen” for Nick for today” In ANY language!
Gene Kelly was told he couldn’t dance for most of his first auditions.
Walt Disney was told he just did not have the imagination needed to make it in advertising.
After a performance at the Grand Ole Opry, Elvis Presley was told he’d be better off to go to Memphis and become a truck driver.
Albert Einstein didn’t speak until he was 4 did not read until he was 7. Eventually came around.
Lucille Ball was considered a b -actress and it was recommended she become a secretary.
Jerry Seinfeld was fired after a small part in the sitcom Benson.He was so bad they didn’t notify him but when he showed up for his next read through he wasn’t included in the script, then figured it out.
Abraham Lincoln started several businesses that were total failures.He ran many times for office and failed before becoming president
Marilyn Monroe was urged to consider another career in modeling or acting as she didn’t seem to have the talent
Steve Jobs was fired from his own company.
Hopefully you’re catching the drift here. Trailblazers and leaders rarely get support from their peers -especially from insecure ones. If you are planning on making a difference in whatever your passion is you better get a grip.
If you plan on actually pressing through the negativity, the doubt and haters you better hold on tight and get a grip on what it is you plan on doing just like the above people did and hundreds and hundreds of others have done.
If you have followed me for any length of time or you can just read my homepage and know some of the passion I have for certain issues.
Ive spent a couple decades working in and living through some of these things and have a pretty good understanding of what’s wrong in our system.
Just the other day as I was presenting an idea to a colleague I was caught off-guard when I was asked the following question.
“What are you trying to do to change the world?”
At that moment I froze- and knew I was at a crossroads.
I had to make a decision. Did I really believe what I was saying- that I could actually do this and make a difference or would I take the easy way out and fall back into sheeple position and be a follower?
So after careful thought I said “yes I do think I will change the world” I didn’t know it at the time but question was really important for me. I needed to know if I really believed in what I was doing.
Do you really believe you can make a change- do you have a grip?
We live in a different world than it was just 30 years ago, a radically different world than say 50-75 years ago. Parenting strategies need to move forward with the times. I am not saying parents should be more lenient or that parents should give their children any more freedom then they feel comfortable with. I am saying that we all must become a little more ” hip ” if we want to improve communications with our kids today
Here are 5 keys to getting the most of your parenting experience.
1- Keep It Real!. Do not pretend that evil does not exist or that some people are in it for the wrong reasons. You may have to get to the point of clearly explaining exactly why strangers can be dangerous. Tell your children what has happened to other kids in the past – not to scare them but to educate.If they do not learn it from you they will learn it on the streets.
2- Eliminate Soft Cushy Falls From Your Child’s Every Mistake. We cannot and will not be able to be around for their every mistake in the future. Parents who run around trying to get the soft cushion on the ground before their child feels any pain raise kids who expect to never get consequences when they get older. Some call them spoiled brats.
3-Never Play to their Weaknesses but always to their strengths. In my 20 years of working with children, I have yet to meet one who did not have a few strengths. Focus on those as you help them identify what they are good at. This will help them set realistic expectations as they make decisions about their goals, and teach them to focus on their strengths which will add to their self esteem.
4-Set Boundaries. Contrary to popular belief, statistics show over and over again that children of all ages want and need boundaries. As a matter of fact, we adults do too. Imagine what you might feel if you went on the freeway and a new sign said ” All drivers, just do as you like, no more rules of the road”- you may not like the feeling you have. The only difference between us and them is that they will not admit that they want boundaries, and most adults will.
5-Make your Positive to Negative Comments about 10:1. Yes, you read correctly, you should find at the end of any given day that you made 10x more positive comments then you did negative. Learn to catch them being good, instead of being bad. The reason is simple; positive reinforcement will actually change long term behavior, while criticism only puts a fire out, usually to flame up again soon.
When you use these guidelines you will see a great improvement in the parent child relationship. You will also see the self esteem and confidence levels of your child skyrocket.