You managed to fool some into thinking that you had America and her best interest in mind when you were elected. I had doubts before you were elected, but decided to not judge you because you were a muslim.
But you had to go writing 3 BILLION dollar checks to people who hate us like the muslim brotherhood/ your alumni. You continued to attempt to dismantle piece by piece everything that made this country great. Not a coincidence. Yet you still had your sheeple following just as Hollywood is now. You cannot fix stupid.
For the rest of us, seeing what you have done this month by trying to piss off Russia and put our soldiers at risk – now that is a whole new level nasty stinkin jihad crap. Its laughable that you ordered yourself a medal of honor right before you try to start a war.
You should be executed instantly.
Thank God we now have a real man who is an American and God fearing.
President Trump has forgotten more about life then you and your brotherhood will ever learn combined. He is way ahead of you. It is a shame you got even a tour of our white house, much less pretend to be our leader. Don’t let your prayer cloth hit you on the way out.
So its been a very rough road for me in the last decade or two. Many times over did I wonder why the things that were happening were happening-and why those things that were not happening were not. I think everyone goes through that at some stage. It gets worse when you start itemizing the thing that have gone wrong in life. Our nature is to identify what is wrong with a situation or a person.
If you have kids you understand this. The irony with kids, is we can point out what they are doing wrong all day long and never see any real change in them. If we began to identify what it is we want to see them doing, than praise them when they are doing it we begin to see change. It’s a long proven fact that negative reinforcement never changes long-term behavior patterns for the good.
Occasionally I will be out at the store or doctors office and overhear people complaining about what they have to live with My immediate response is to shake my head and wonder how they would deal with what I have on my plate. After all, I grew up with an alcoholic, abusive and violent father who was kind enough to turn me on to alcohol at 13. By the time I was in high school I was a full-blown addict and didn’t know it. The next years it got worse as I had to figure out how to address it. Of course that major depression in the genes did not help. Then my brother and his suicide put another dark cloud over me.
After rehab, 20 different medications or so and trying to make it through college to get into social work, it all got better though….
Not so much. Since then I began a career after college in the field and all but still couldn’t shake the depression and temptation to self medicate. Of course all along even people close to me were starting to judge me as if depression wasn’t real. Meantime I am in the other room trying to figure out how much life insurance I had to leave for my wife and kids. If they only knew. Maybe you know.
After a divorce and the trauma of having to share time to see my little boys it just got worse. I have spent the last 25 years trying to stay one step ahead of addiction and depression and memories of my very abusive childhood. If that is all I had to deal with it would be plenty. Fast forward years and after remarrying I have two little girls to feed. I once again pursue the best work in my field to provide for them and enjoy real living. Just a few years into this, I was out of the blue diagnosed with a rare bone disease called AVN or Avascular Necrosis. Bone death in Greek. In the right hip and doctor says my hip is gone and I need immediate total hip replacement.
Huh? I am 45. I workout. I have kids. I have to work. What do you mean hip replacement? He assured me I would be up and back to work in a couple of months. He as well said a few years. I don’t have money to pay up all bills for that time. However I had no choice. Without the ugly and long version, the doctor and hospital decided I was the perfect candidate to do the surgery live on the web, moderated by 5 other surgeons. I guess to show the world how great they were at surgery. It turned out to be the biggest nightmare of my life. The hip failed 13 months later and began just falling off.. Dropping out socket. After this paralyzing event occurred 2x and I was taken by ambulance to the ER to have it jammed back in place, I called the doctor repeatedly but oddly Even enough no call back.
Short version, he acted as if he didn’t know me, rather than associate his world-wide debut on the internet with failure. I went on to have a world record 11 dislocations in 11 weeks. No help from doctor. Actually it became such a well-known story that some didn’t believe it was true. To this day it’s up on Dr. Earl Stevens website New Zealand. It’s at earlsview.com then just search Tim’s horror story. So thanks to the good doctor , I had my 7th hip surgery just 1 year ago. Lost everything we owned. No home, nothing. Turned down 2x for disability because I am ” too well-educated” which is against the law.
I have had 2 total hip replacements, a revision, bone grafts, core decompression, my jaw bone shaved and then those 11 dislocations. I am tired. I am broke. I wonder why. Just one break is all I need. I deserve disability. I paid in for 20 years. My failed hip has been in a lawsuit with 8000 others and they recently awarded the first 10 people 80 million each for their suffering but before I got excited my attorney said they might fight my case.
What? Fight my case but why? I don’t ask anymore. That’s how my life is.
So I told you those little tidbits which represents about 25% of my major issues so you know I am not blowing smoke. I have come to realize that I am not in control here. God had allowed this for His purposes, and there is no fighting that because He did allow it. Next I turn to His word and seek out how exactly I am to deal. First it was clear I am not the first to have trials.
1 Peter 1 6-7 – Explains what trials produce in us.
Romans 8:28 –Is a promise that God will work all things together for good for those who love Him and are called according to His purpose.
Hebrews 11 ( The hall of faith) – Describes how we are not to go by feelings or emotions, what we see or think. We walk by faith not by sight.
It is these things I have had to hold on to. It is very hard in today’s world because every single thing that happens in this world today is against what works according to Gods word. The world tries to talk us out of our faith every day. If you are not renewing your mind in real truth each day from Scriptures you will buy the lies of world.
(By the way all my atheist, Buddhist, agnostic, and universe worshippers you know the routine, just skip that bible part if it offends you. I am telling my story and for me its critical. No offense.)
Does any of this take away the pain? No. I have pain. I also have peace. Peace is the difference between panicking in trials and standing firm through them.
Anyways yesterday something else took my mind off of all my problems. I still have 2 kids at home. Girls. My little baby girl had to have surgery in her gums at the hospital .I could not be there so my family sent me a picture of her before and after. She is 5. These 2 pictures made me forget about some things and remember again what is important. I thought I would share them. It moved me for some reason to see her happy, and even though not really awake from surgery yet, she was safe.
I don’t know what your situation is. Maybe harder than mine. Remember, you have a reason to be where you are. You dont get to know all the details.
Here is the deal. Money comes and goes, jobs come and go, health comes and goes. Relationships come and go. Kids come and go. Feelings come and go. If you put your security in any of those you have just strapped yourself onto the roller coaster of a lifetime.
God is the same yesterday, today and forever and His word will never ever return void. I like that..
In he meantime grab who you can that you love. Focus on things you are good at. Start training that brain to catch the positive things about your life and you. It works.
ATTENTION ADDICTS- THIS ENTIRE SERIES IS DESIGNED TO SERVE YOU. HOWEVER PLEASE INVITE FAMILY AND FRIENDS WHO ARE NOT ADDICTS AS WELL.
THEY WILL ALL BE GETTING SOME EDUCATION-CHECK UP FROM THE NECK UP ON WHAT REALLY GOES ON IN THE ADDICTS WORLD AND THE FACT THAT MOST OF THEM WOULD NOT LAST A WEEK IN THE ADDICTS WORLD. ( In a nice way of course)
Family members -and others can and do often sabotage the success of the recovering addict. Several reasons, but number one is they are ignorant of the disease. Snap out of it- grow up! I say to you cerebrally challenged folk, lets get a van full and go to al the cancer wards -room to room telling these people to get over it.
Treatment centerssuck-I have been there back in the gap. Got some good stuff there. Good connections-for the street life.
Depression and hopelessness- is real and those who keep condemning are grave diggers. This is not a Scared Straigth deal. It is a disease
FUTURE LIFE– is available but not likely with the lousy system we have. This series will start in a week or maybe 3 days after that. Once per week I wil introduce a new component of addiction and you all give feedback then we try to arrive at the best solution.
There is no set closing date for the group -I don’t care if it goes on for a decade or two. If we don’t get together and education the public and people who word with addicts, it is only getting worse.
The only person that this series would not apply to is the addict that does not care an has no intention of getting free of the bondage they are in. This is a waste of time. We are going to cut through some decades old BS that even well know places like AA have taught. We will look at the chances of an addict really getting free in this system, but we wont stop there.
There are solid treatment centers.
There are families who know how to treat an addict.
There is a way to get help for depression.
There is hope for a new tomorrow.
I am speaking from experience,..( I mean I have this friend…lol )
So if you dont follow me already, just know that everyone in here keeps it all real and legit , we all want growth .
Next update and final in a few days so please jusr tell all of your family and friends -other addicts to follow this blog-
Wow already 5 countries have hit me but sadly not Italy-
Oh, wait- that’s right they are trying to BAN police from knowing about any rapes. They promised to investigate- THOROUGHLY-
SCOUTS HONOR!- OH WAIT CANT USE THAT ONE-
You all have got me so fired up my blood is boiling – and I feel like I am waking up from a 20 year coma. When this whole thing is said and done — don’t go anywhere because you will never ever ever believe how all the pieces through the years have made a way to this day. Now it is the rubber meets road and I feel the need for SPEED!
I don’t know exactly how this will specifically unfold but I am telling you now so whenever it does I want you see- the rest..of the story all the way back. I mean you will freak out.
Romans 8:28 and Jeremy Camp- I still believe.
Those are the 2 things I spoke and listened to every day 20 years ago..that was just the beginning – and man I cant wait to see the ending.
I was going over the whole election process and speeches with a few of my peeps earlier and I asked this question – ” What was the best and most truthful accusation or slam that Hillary had against Trump?”
Peeps– He became a billionaire by FAILING 4x filing corporate bankruptcy.
Me– Umm ( while googling)- There are 1200 billionaires or so in the world. The average has filed CB 3.75x.
Any more, I ask?
Peeps– Didn’t you here him make fun of a handicapped guy?
Me-Yes- and it was wrong. Thank God he took ownership, we don’t need any liars. I will have a flawed honest person any day over a flawed manipulating liar anytime.
Me– BTW- How many felony counts did you come up with for Hillary – was it 39 or 44 like I heard? And should she have to serve life if she doesn’t win?
Peeps– Change topic.
Lastly and the best was Obama pretending to act as if Trump was ” Startled” after entered the White House and really heard what goes down-From the President….(gag)
Me- I think Trump was so freaking tired of counting how many prayer towels he needs to get out and bored of hearing all the Islamic prayers from the other rooms. Intimidated? That is actually pretty funny. I bet Trump did consider jumping the freaking table andforcing Obama to do one thing he has refused to do as president in 8 years…SALUTE our own flag!
That’s it. I am out. What an 8 year journey of stupidity – on US. Thank God for an American President! A Christian American! Amen. Out. Don’t let your prayer clothe hit your ass on the way out Obama-
I am seriously embarrassed and ashamed that America not only put a muslim liar hater who wont even salute the damn flag in office once, but when we found his true motives out, (perhaps when open door to Islamic crap, no guns for Americans, but 30 BILLION cash to the freaking Muslim brotherhood on ramadamdamdam or whatever so they could buy arms to murder us….?) For reals people? I was on my knees when Trump won. If not Obamas ” legacy” ( to kill America ) would be carried out by Hillary.
What’s happening in this world?
Its TRUMP TIME NOW – So sweep that white house out and do it up. BTW you morons on television who swore you would move if Trump won….I believe he offered flight? Why no takers? Just like Hillary- BS.
You may not realize this, but I am actually a fan of yours. I listen to you on the radio when Tom Brady and I play golf! Its ” The Donald” here! Seriously I appreciate what you are doing to help children and do check in occasionally. Today my purpose for writing may be both shocking and a little different. Now that the election is over I can finally let this out-
Believe it or not, back in the gap, Hillary and I went together for a short while -I mean as teens. At the time I had a thing for making music and I broke up with her to head to Tennessee to see how I would do. I didn’t do very well at first and word got through to me through Hillary’s IPAD that she was mocking me all over town.
It hurt, but I stuck with it, and as a personal favor for myself, I would like you to play a little tune I wrote about the years since then….so please. could you please dedicate my song ” how do you like me now” to her? It just feels right. This ones for you Hillary-
( Oh and thanks Toby Keith for making it sound right)
Dear President Elect Trump- We had no idea! Enjoy! DLMK Staff~
Long time reader, first time writer. I just want to ask your opinion on something. Do you think the Obamas are going to TRASH the place on their last night at the White House? I heard their media consultant JAY-Z was coming in town for the bash. Just wondered what you thought.
Leroy in Texas
We have no reason to think any trashing, bashing and destroying will be going on there. If there was any slight hint of this type of behavior, it could have been last week when Obama mentioned that he was going to INSURE his legacy lived on as he ” bounced” out of the White House- Don’t rely on me anyhow I haven’t checked my latest Urban Dictionary for the latest meaning on ” bounced” in months.
I hate living in crisis. I thought all people did until I started in the counseling/ coaching field 20 years ago. I found actually that some people have grown up in such a crazy environment with violence and fear all the time, that when a little peace time comes, they feel uncomfortable. Now after many years of coaching I have learned that before any help getting up and out of ruts can be offered, people need to be made aware that they have grown comfortable with dysfunction and be forced into a decision; should I stay or should I go?”
After a decision has been made to move into a life of peace, the work begins, but there is no point in even starting if a person feels unable to move on. These days healing and new beginnings move along much quicker with the methods I use because my job is to get people well. I don’t want you to keep coming back to my office each week, so we can re-hash the misery in the past, keeping wounds fresh all the time. That’s how many therapists make a living. Keep people un-well and keep the bills coming. After all, if all the patients got well, how would this type of therapist pay his bills?
I prefer to help people into the decision-making process, and if they choose to get on with their life, to help them up and out of their rut with the support I feel they need on their end, which is usually free. It is much simpler, less painful, and much less costly than the traditional – go to your therapist, lay down on the couch and get analyzed to death method. I have written over 300 posts here and get an unbelievable amount of feedback on how, where, who, and all of the questions that go with getting started in the healing process, dealing with issues like depression, suicide, addiction, divorce, abuse, and dozens more issues people are suffering with.
It is disheartening to look a the amount of people claiming to want help, then compare it to the actual number who follow-up with me. Much of it is due to that comfort factor I mentioned earlier, but the bottom line is that we as humans are procrastinators. We avoid doing anything until it slaps us in the face so many times we have to address it. I started this projected to help people on-line as I have in person for 20 years. I make getting well much less painful than some ways.
I never turn anyone away for any reason other than refusal to comply. I work with adults, teens, entire families, and every possible population you can think of. After 3 years of doing this, I am not feeling that a very high percentage of those reaching out saying they need help are actually following through with our plans. The success rate of the people I work with is very high with 8/10 saying they have moved on into a self supportive stage without the need for weekly consulting from me ( after just a few months)
It’s the initial pulling the trigger, making the move, making contact that is the struggle. So as we start a new month here, I am going to challenge every reader, follower, visitor, client, or contact of mine to help a friend or loved one make that first move. Be there when they cannot find a reason to even lift the phone up and help lift it. DO SOMETHING.
If you have a coach/therapist that you use and prefer then use them. If not, connect them to me by this email address firstname.lastname@example.org– I will respond personally very soon and get started. Every person has a different need, there is no cookie cutter method so after we all talk ( you can be in on the first call if they wish) then we will come up with a plan that works for all!
Make November a new start for someone. Excuses are weak and old, we all know someone to help. I challenge all of you to take the first step. Leave your contact info and good time on the email and we will get moving!
I can’t remember the amount of times I have heard someone say ” I could never forgive them for that” or ” Ill never forgive him/her for that”. On the surface it sounds reasonable, especially after you hear the circumstances involved. Sometimes it is sickening and disgusting what people have done to others. At first it sounds plausible to put up the ” unforgiven ” sign by their names and move on, thinking that somehow we have hurt them back.
In reality, it is we who suffer from being unwilling to forgive. Holding onto our forgiveness is one of the most destructive and hateful things we can do-to ourselves. Before I go any further I want to answer a question that I know some of you are thinking. The question being ” why should I forgive them, I will never forget what they did”. Forgiveness and forgetting are two separate issues. I can forgive my father for some horrific things that have affected me and mine into the 2nd generation. However I will not forget, and I would never put myself or anyone else in the position to be hurt by him again.
Forgiveness does not = tolerance. Forgiveness does not = acceptance. Forgiveness does not = erasing the memory. Forgiveness to others means we deliver the same thing to others that we want so badly from the ones we have hurt. Forgiveness to others means the forgiveness we ask God for can flow through us into other people and that we can enjoy the same forgiveness from God that we want sometimes to withhold from others. In the case of forgiveness it really makes no difference if you acknowledge God or not, it is a law in place just like gravity. We cannot change the consequences of gravity whether we like it or not. I hate the fact that if I walk to close to the edge of my roof, I will fall and get injured or even worse. Does this change the effects of violating gravity? Of course not.
So how does forgiveness compare to gravity anyway? It is relevant in the sense that we are made to love and forgive, not to hate and keep account of other’s wrongs. Therefore if we go against that truth and hold back on forgiving, we end up getting clogged up inside like a stopped up toilet. Everything about it is crappy. We may not understand why we are feeling so angry and irritated, and why we feel so bitter. It is because withholding the forgiveness we were meant to give means it stays within us. It dwells in us and becomes bitterness, anger and many times physical illness. In order to release any clogs in our own feelings and enjoy the Grace we get to enjoy from God, we must release what we are holding in the form of un-forgiveness to make room for our own forgiveness to be realized.
You have all seen people who mourn the death of a loved one, to the point that they die still in mourning. Many times they wear only black until the day they die even. The loss didn’t just kill the loved one, but them too. There is a time to mourn, and a time to dance and a time for everything. Not any of those events are to last forever in this world. Just as we have seen the mourning that seems life long of another human, we have also seen the lifelong bitterness in one who has never forgiven others on something. They literally eat themselves away with the cancer of anger inside. That clogged up hole in our soul just wont allow us to enjoy the forgiveness we ask of others and of God. There is a conflict of interest here.
WARNING!RELIGOUS ALERT! RELIGOUS ALERT! WARNING!
The words God, sin, and Jesus appear in the following paragraphs…just giving warning -Read at your own risk! Lol
Lastly, and this is geared for believers in Christ or those considering Christ, who of us is without sin? I surely don’t want to stand before God and weigh out my sins against another’s and hope I had less..
The bible says there is ” None righteous No not one”. We all need forgiveness. How can we possibly go before God daily and ask for forgiveness, but carry a backpack full of hatred and un-forgiveness in our own spiritual backpack? I think I know the answer. Some of us truly believe that some sins are worse than others, and we get to decide who deserves forgiveness. The truth is, not one of us could ever do enough to ” earn ” forgiveness from God. The whole reason Christ came and died in our place was so those who accept Him and ask for forgiveness can have a way to stand before God one day with full knowledge that He sees us through the blood of Jesus, not through the list of sins we had.
BTW-There is no sin that cannot be forgiven by the blood of Jesus, except for refusing Him ( Blaspheme of the Holy Spirit)
The thief on the cross next to Jesus never had time to ask forgiveness of anyone he hurt or stole from. He never had time to do a bunch of good deeds to level out his sin scale. His only hope was to turn to Christ and ask Him to remember him and forgive him. The answer might offend many of us who still think we are ” good” people or ” better than most” because we really want to believe we have a secret pass to heaven because we didn’t murder or commit any ” major sin”. Jesus simply said to the repentant thief ” I say to you today you will be with me in paradise”
Hold on just a minute Lord, we may think. That is not fair! I lived a good life and he did nothing good. It just isn’t fair. Do we really want fair? The Lord said that the wages of sin is death, but the gift of God eternal life. You see, sin is a disease we all have, like cancer. Some people’s disease presents in outward ways, like a thief, or an addict. These are the more likely to be judged by the ones who sin is a little more secret. Then there are the ” secret sinners” who love to point out others visible sin while they themselves may be involved in much more vile sin themselves. The bottom line is we all have sin. If we want fair, it is death, according to God. If we want eternal life we accept the gift of the cross and ask God and thank God for the forgiveness that we already posses as a child of the King.
The death on the cross should have been and should be ours. He made a way out for us.
You need not go right to the person who hurt you and have a celebration while telling them you forgive them. You can simply say to God
“ Lord, anyone who has ever accused, abused, neglected or affected me in a hurtful way, I release them by forgiving them, and therefore release myself from stopping up my own forgiveness from flowing daily that Ineed so much from you.”
Maybe it will be a long time if ever that you say it face to face, although it is recommended if possible. Even if you just tell God and from your heart release them from un-forgiveness, you will begin to notice a weight lifted.
There is one other option. We can roll the dice and when we die- argue our case before the Lord. We could just tell Him thanks for the cross thing, but, I’m good and whip out a list of good deeds…
As for me I think I will take the easy way out. Take the free gift and be thankful every day for it. It doesn’t give me a license to sin and does not make me a better person then others. I am not even close to being able to get myself into heaven.
But I do know someone who can, and did take care of that.
Drop the weight inside you today and forgive. Then you can move on with your life.
Doctors have the highest suicide rate of any profession, as most sources will report. In psychiatry for example there are 3 major obstacles to be aware of, that can affect both the patient and the psychiatrist;
1- Drawing a line between treating and empathizing with others and actually carrying the burden of the patient by over sympathizing and attaching. Many doctors have a difficult time separating their life from the lives of the patients they treat. This has proven to be a factor in the suicide rate of doctors in general. The profession alone has the highest suicide rate of all professions, Depression, then can come aboard and eventually it has led to the death of 400 doctors per year, by suicide. There are other factors that can also lead to depression however this seems to be the most prevalent.
2- Stigma/ Consequences attached to self reporting or seeking treatment. Who wants to go see a depressed doctor? The possibilities and scenarios are endless, but sadly there are few if any ways to get the help needed and maintain a level of confidentiality. This, in and of itself has proven to be a major player – untreated mental illness in the field.
3- The knowledge and resources needed to carry out the act of suicide. Suicide is 2nd only to accidents in deaths of physicians. Many times when the option is readily available, the chances of follow through go up. Although hand guns have been used in many deaths, many other methods have also been used by doctors who are well aware what it would take to end their life by chemical ingestion of some type.
It seems we have a weak link in the chain of providers, as these professionals are not really allowed ( professionally ) to have depression, or suffer from a mental illness. Any resources for physicians who need confidential care themselves should be available for them.