Would You Take A Drug Test For A New Job That You Knew You Would Fail? These People Do!

25% applicants failing drug tests

Society Today Demands That We Find Each Other Disrespectful- Or At Least Act Like We Do..

This may be a cartoon, but the point is there. The new way to be ” bad ” is to be always on the lookout for any word, any look or any sound that can be misconstrued as disrespectful. Then to drop everything like you have such a wicked temper that it is necessary to run up on someone and say ” why you be disrespecting me B ? “

Then the showdown begins . The sad part is for 90% of these kids it’s a total act . They don’t care about someone bumping into them in a crowded hallway. Or someone dropping a water bottle that lands on their foot. It does not bother them if someone made them drop their textbook by accident. But now they are have to remember to make sure it is known that not only did it bother them, but it will not go unpunished. Otherwise it will backfire and the kid will be see as being soft, weak and having been punked out.

 All they are doing is whatever it takes for them to do to get by without being labeled weak. It is unacceptable to be seen as weak, primarily because you then have opened the door to being punked out on a regular basis once everyone finds out you are soft. It is a sad testimony but it is not just kids either. Full grown men are posing for this too. Whether in Wal-Mart or at the library – everyone is on guard all the time. Worse yet it has now become common for women to get involved.

The most unattractive thing ( besides gold teeth) on a woman, in my opinion is one who can take me in a fight. It literally makes me sick to my stomach to see two mothers with small children get into a shouting match in public and start making physical threats. The kids are shaking, the women start showing their ghetto ( usually learned from some rap song-not from living there) and before you know it weaves and fuzzy slippers are flying.I hate seeing anyone get hurt male or female. I am a big guy, but I have never picked fights and always do everything to deesculate a situation.

With the exception of defending myself or someone touching my children I have excellent self-control. It has never mattered whether I was bench pressing 400lbs at the time or if I was not even working out. I don’t change on that issue. I dont like to hurt people and I dont like to see anyone get hurt. I am the guy at the store who you bump into and I say “sorry are you ok” . It has too much personal response cost for me as far as memories of a violent home go when I was young.

So what is the answer? The answer is to not be afraid to model the opposite type behavior in public. Do something nice for the person that bumps into you. Show your kids how smooth things can be if you give a little. You don’t have to be a doormat and you certainly dont have to sit like some whipping boy and never stick up for yourself. In most situations that would never be required.

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The difference between escalating a situation is most times in our response. Life is 10% what happens to us and 90% how we respond to it. Its our choice. It really is up to us to start modeling appropriate social skills for people especially our kids. In today’s world the risks for bullying in middle and high school is not just a black eye and a wounded ego. It is absolutely destroying me as a parent and as a social worker for 20 years to see the consequences of todays schoolyard ” punk “. First off there are just as many girls harassing and stalking other little 12-13 year old girls as there are guys..

The apathy in some kids today is unprecedented. Just yesterday I posted a story of 4 teens only 8-9th grade who watched a 31-year-old disabled man drown in a retention pond. Why you ask did they not walk over to the little pond and help? They were too busy filming it for YouTube. While he went down begging for help, they mocked him and told him was going to die. He did. No charges files against the kids as there is no law against not helping someone dying.

When asked about it, the prosecutor was taken back, and just responded  ” I never thought we would need a law for this “. Cyber bullying is so rampant today that even young children around 10-12 years old are attempting suicide at an unreal rate. A few years ago here is Florida a 12-year-old little girl was being cyber bullied by 3 girls who she used to be close with.  She jumped into a stone quarry to her death. What must hurt feel like that makes a 12 year old jump to her death? Whatever is happening we all need to step up and model change. Teach social skills. Educate your kids about the impact of bullying. This whole thing is really getting to me. It is actually making me fighting mad.

TJ

 

I Am So Excited! Please Join Us Wont You?

Our New Facebook Page! Follow Now Please!

 

I am so happy I could disco.

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As we draw closer and closer to doing online groups for parenting, addictions, mental health and other things -every move we make is another way to make ourselves more and more available to you. This time its the

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Please click the link at the top of this page and you will have much easier access to the team and also pick up some new followers along the way since our goal is to reach all 150k of the people on r q

Mental Health Is Driving Me Crazy!

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Here is the Home Page for Don’t Label My Kid! If you are not a follower you can start following by clicking the follow button on this page. Also please sign up for the newsletter we started on this page! This page will give you a decent overview of what the site is about..

TJ

Looky Here. Why Isn’t CNN Telling Us This? Surprise! See Who Really May Be Headed For Cell Block H…

See Who The Bad Guys Really Are!

You know the media is the media and they will slant here and slant there. However there is a time…when you just have to present truth because you realize it will come out eventually and then you will look like a complete moron. Kind of like CNN has been looking. Lately calling for the impeachment of Trump , citing some glitch in policy or whatever. Meantime, back at the ranch in their newsroom, and off the air, this is what they are really looking at but do not report. Amazing.

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What  If You- Actually Were A Blog? Who Would You Have A Crush On?

We read each others posts, look at pictures , but very few of us actually know each other. It would be hard to say that you like someone based on their writing, since that is not who they are…

But, and I realize this may be off of the beaten path a tad, but what if you were a blog! 

Imagine you were a blog for a moment and you had to pick out a ” blog crush” – but unlike other crushes- you get to pick 3 blog crushes.

Who would be 3 of your top blog crushes?

For me , I like a blog with a good heart, one that keeps themselves up, has their priorities in order and appearances never hurt. Also some sort of clear purpose or mission.

I am for sure not just lookin for some eye candy alone either… there is more too an attractive blog than outward looks..and no easy blogs..you know the type, two likes and a comment and their yours. Hussies. 

 Spiritual blog is hard is also a draw for me .

Oh and by the way there are no LGBT or gay blogs so any blog crushes are purely platonic and without any reference to sexuality.

My top 3 (although many come to mind ) are

1- mewhoami- keeping perspective

2-gottafindahome- incredible mission for homeless

3-hunt4truth- objectively and persuasively speaking about topics that are important.

Now remember we are not having crushes on people, since we don’t know one another . Strictly blog crushes…

Lastly , why do you think you selected the ones you do. In the end , they are likely blogs  most like you yourself., blog! 

Tj

 

 

 

 

 

What Are You Doing Here? On Taking The Next Step… Time To Execute!

“There is a time or everything, and a season for every activity under the heavens”

Ecclesiastes 3:1

 

Well, here we are. We have discussed practically every issue in life on this blog in the last four years or so. We have laughed, debated, discussed, prayed and I think I even had a legitimate stalker . The very first mission of this and I hope any blog is to teach. To educate your readers on what it is your here for and especially the question ” what can you do for me”. Today I am going to do a part of my job that is not uncommon in my 20 years as a Social Worker. I am going to press you a little bit. Force you to quit sidestepping and avoiding your needs and issues.

Now don’t think of this as anything negative. Its just the natural progression of things. In my career I would have people make appointments come to the office for some need in the areas of mental health, behavioral health or addictions primarily. There are always exceptions but those were the most popular reasons they would make an appointment to see me.

Almost always on the very first visit I would introduce myself and ask them to tell me about why they were here. I cannot tell you how many stare-offs I had, lol. I would say ” you called me so tell me what I can help you with. ” I never figured out if it was people getting intimidated when they are in a setting they are not used to or what , but so many people forget or froze up.  I would usually give them some examples of why people came to see me and gradually somewhere in the list I would here a ” yeah that” or something to help me know where to start probing or asking questions. We always got moving at some point. Some in just a few minutes and some it took a little longer.

On this blog Don’t Label My Kid! I decided to start the educating on my homepage with mental health. I allude to the other areas I am an expert in but that is where I decided to begin, because all our other problems somehow are related to mental health. I then proceeded over the next 3-4 years to make sure I wrote at least 100 articles related to each area I serve.  I am not talking about specialty areas like parenting that I also assist and do workshops in,  but the main primary areas;  Mental, behavior and addictions.

Over 500 total articles on these areas. This is to find out where my reader’s needs are and to get feedback from you as well on any area . As you all well know I always mix in some humor, politics or other issues at random just to keep things from getting to dark and gloomy on here. (Some who pop in at the wrong time think this site is just a random topic site as my last 4 quick posts might have been about humor. lol) Even though I post about a wide  variety of topics , they are topics related to life. We are all in that game together.

Now, in this time I have enjoyed a good amount of feedback, comments and gotten a ton from you all about your situations now, past of something you wonder about. I have read and still go over thousands of comments from you all. I have not read anything I have not helped someone with many times over ( except maybe the stalker) .

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I have heard from the suicidal, the addicts, the parents who are ready to strangle their kids, the people of faith who ask me how I can still believe in God, then the burned out Christians. I have also gotten messages from people suffering with PTSD, abused wives, and people who have had experiences with sexual abuse. This has been especially popular since I have been writing about Father Gondek . People are much more likely to share if they are not alone. My point is, you are here for a reason. I  can assure you God did not lead you here to get more depressed or addicted. He did not bring me here to write about your struggles so you can leave the house every day with fresh depression. We are here for a change. It’s what I call a divine appointment.

The stage we are at now, is called Execution.

Execution is where action takes place. It is where you quit playing around with your problem. You quit lust ” liking ” every post about your topic, you take the next step in your journey. It is the favorite part of work life, as I get to use my gifts and help people in general solve problems. How though? What do you do – even if you wanted to take the next step to help? Well, there are three possible answers.

 You are getting your first assignment in moving forward with your issues. You should write this date down on your calendar  as the day you ” executed “-

Before you can execute you have to select one of the following scenarios that best fits you

1- I have never reached out for help

2-I have reached out but no progress ( gave up )

3-You are currently trying things but have not got anywhere or don’t know if your counsel is right, or the money you would spend is worth it.

Now, I want you to select the one that describes you best. Usually one of those is it. If not no problem we can identify it. So make your selection. Great.

Now – as a consultant I take on three roles, depending on which of the above fits you.

If you are #-

#1-I am your  ADVISOR– I will start by accessing your need, identify the best care plan and follow you through the process as needed.

#2-I am your INTERVENTIONIST-I help you resume your attempts by picking up the pieces of whatever you did gain or learn, and reconnecting , but with the appropriate services.

#3- I am your COACH- I act as support to what you think you may want to try, and am someone to stand along side of you as you navigate the process and coach you as is necessary to keep you on he right track.

Your 2nd assignment today is to figure out whether I am your Advisor,your interventionist, or your coach.  So, which one?

Here is the moment of truth. You pick up the phone or email me to identify what you are in need of. I have broken it down so you can easily identify your needs from me.

(Although I am very good, I have yet learned to read minds of my followers.)

Touch base to get a Plan Of Care started now!

Tim@dontlabelmkid.com

Dontlabelmykid2@gmail.com

Cell- Txt- Call- 386-675-7549

*Now a few important things have when you contact me

1- if it involves a child, any and all IEP or special class information from school. Also any mental health official diagnoses or medications they are on or have ever been on. I don’t need copies but I need you to accurately tell me the report. If you are needing help for yourself I just need your past and current mental health diagnises

2- If you are an addict or have a loved one is and you need help – DO NOT GET ANY HELP UNTIL YOU TALK TO ME . PERIOD. Many organizations today get paid to fill beds- not make it a good fit for the client. Also if you walk into a rehab with no knowledge of the process and what you really need, you or your friend’s success rate is about 24%

Again- Any addicts reading or if you are trying to help one get help. CALL ME first. It is critical that you have an understanding of what rehab REALLY means. It’s not what you think.

Tj Petri BSW

Advisor, Interventionist, Coach

Don’t Label My Kid!

The Thousandaire’s Club!…7 Guaranteed Ways To Get To Work On Time EVERY DAY.. 3 Minute Read!

1- Get A Reliable Alarm Clock, And Whisper Your Desired Wake Up Time To It In Portugese At Bedtime Each Night.

2-  Roll Over 3x On An Orange In Your Bed Right Before You Get Up Each Morning .

3-While Brushing Your Teeth Each Morning , Look Directly In The Mirror And Boldy Say  ” I’m A Baller, And Ballers Always Make It To Tip Off”

4- Right As You Close Your Eyes Each Night , Burp The Phrase “Six Thirty”  6.5 Times .

5-Utilize A Wake-Up Service

6- Eat Prunes At Midnight

7- Massage The Toe On Your Foot That Represents The Hour You Need To Arrive At Work 3x After Your Last Bowel Movement.

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Yo-Sup- Help- I Need An Ethics Gauge From My Fellow Bloggers…

Alright I will keep this short but I really do want the truth on this …so all my ” likers” who never take the time to write a sentence about WHY you liked or did not like my post, please as a special favor to me, just quickly throw your two cents in here. Just in case those of you who squeeze that cross pen until blood comes out are reading, I don’t get paid per like or anything if that’s what you are afraid of. I am actually stumped and just need you to tell me ethical or unethical.

Ok you may have noticed that a week or so ago I re-blogged one of those ” 2 minute read”  posts from millionaire digest to make a point. My point was that the paragraph which made up the whole post was comprised of like 3 tips on starting your day positive;

1- Brush teeth

2- Yoga

3- Refuse to allow negative energy

The reason I re-blogged it was because I noticed that the little hiccup of a post got 450 likes! I am slaving away to feed my people solid food that you can take with you like manna for the day,  for maybe 40-50 likes on a good day..

Honestly I was expecting to get some ” your jealous” comments which I did not! 

Actually I got almost as many likes on that as I do on some of  my better posts!! So a few days ago,  I test drove that machine one more time to be sure it was not a fluke. You all actually agreed with me that it was silly. 

I mean what 

Put your hands togehter for a one minute read entitled

” How to SELF-MOTIVATE- YOURSELF ( actual title)

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Well, I have a confession to make. The thought crossed my mind to continue to BLAST the same few Millionaire posts that I see each day with 5 sentences, and 450 likes, until, well,  I was hoping to irritate them soooo much, that they would re-blog my post to cut me down and get back at me.You thinkin what I am thinkin?

Numbers wise , Hmm.

Negative attention is better then no attention! 

There is a 30 second read for ya!

I figured if they did re-post mine to express anger, I would likely have the biggest day of my blogging career, since even 1/4 as many responses for me would be 100+ likes on one post! Who would turn that down? However I decided it was wrong and will not purposely irritate anyone.

But who is to  say there is anything wrong with me and my DLMK posse   ( you)  to make things interesting and see who can post the weakest post from any  day, with the most likes?

I know, curiosity killed the cat. But whats a little fun amongst a blogging family? I don’t want  to cut anyone down  in any comments. I am not asking for negative comments. I am simply asking if it would be wrong of us to start a little contest to see who gets the most love, for the least letters….

Feedback please….

 

How To Parent Like A Boss- But Not Act Like One…

I spent about a third of my career living with and working with some of the most severely troubled kids as far as behaviors go. My task was to turn the behavior around so these kids could actually function in public settings. Not to just ” get by ” but to excel.

I was able to do so at a very high rate of success no matter what the family situation, or the life circumstances, as long as the kid could understand what  we were trying to accomplish. As long as they could function independently. For those with borderline IQ and developmental issues, I accomplished the same results but with a different system.

For now anyway I will share about how I worked with just your average kid. I’m going to lay out some tips for you to take control of your home and in such a way that everybody feels like they won..

I’ve written quite a bit on tips for parenting and different ideas. However I’ve not gone into a lot of detail on specific plans simply because I’m not sure that I will have an interactive audience and that people will appreciate what I’m going to lay out. So I’m going to try this today and see what the response is like – if you feel that it’s helping you and you’d like to hear the rest of the story ( which is not going to happen in one post) please let me know through your comments that you would like to hear the rest. This is something that took me over a decade to learn by experience and it’s not something I can lay out in one post but I can give you a great idea of how to change what you’re currently doing enough that it will make a difference in your life, in a short series.

I’m going to go ahead and call this an in-depth series on parenting and if it goes well we will  make it an ongoing series with the intent for you to ask questions and I answer questions according to your specific need and situation.  If I feel that it’s not drawing enough interest I will change it from in-depth-series to a drowned one. That is totally up to you.

The information I’m going to share with you will include information that I was paid by the state to train parents on, to train entire school districts of teachers on,  to work in home with families on,  as well as my five years as a living foster parent to around 35 teenagers.  I also have 4 kids of my own ages 6-22.

I’m going to start by naming a few basic fundamentals that must be in place before anything will be successful.

1- As a parent yelling and screaming at your child is about the worst thing you can do no matter what the circumstance.

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2-Your interactions with your child on a daily basis should include at least 10 positive comments to every 1 negative or criticizing statement. ( Yes it’s possible) The reason for this is simple; negative reinforcement ( yelling or putting one down NEVER changes behavior patterns for more than a minute, and hour, a day if your lucky. If you want real change, you need to identify what it is specifically you want to see happen from your child, tell them, and then wait. Keep waiting. Wait until you  ” catch them ” doing what you wanted. Now its high praise time. You don’t need to buy them an xbox or anything, just some verbal praise reminding them of what they did so well. Keep training your brain to catch them doing what they are supposed to , and keep reminding them that you noticed and giving them an age appropriate token of appreciation. For example a 7-year-old might like a hug. A 15-year-old might like a comment like,  ” you are really impressing me, keep this up and maybe we can talk about that ( enter whatever thing they have been bugging you about getting) soon!

3- Without specific skills and expectations for your child it’s impossible to succeed because there is no mutual understanding. Don’t assume your child can read your mind. Always incorporate the skills I will teach you into your daily dialogue with you child. I am going to provide you with a bunch of social skills to incorporate into your home. These should become common to hear in your daily conversations. There are dozens we can add but start slow with the major ones.

4- Do away with terms like ” be good ”  or ” don’t be bad” . Your idea of good maybe totally different then your child thinks of good as. Train yourself to start Identifying​ specifically what you expect . For example instead of  ” Jimmy , you be good while we are gone ” , say ” Jimmy please don’t forget to finish math, make your bed, and follow instructions of the sitter.”

5- Never, ever say  ” because I said so, that‘s why “- because – well just dont.

On of the major problems parents have is not keeping things realistic. Especially in issuing consequences. I can’t tell you how many times I have heard a parent say to their 10-year-old something like this – ” you keep on screwing up like this boy and you can forget about summer baseball league.

WHAT? This just in…10 year old kids have an attention span of a few minutes. You think they can connect on that kind of consequence when they are still thinking if they will get ice cream for dinner? Keep it real, and age appropriate. By the way, if the kid does comprehend that baseball might be out, whats the point of trying at anything now? Now you lost him for good.

The trick to all these pieces is to weave them into a motivation system that you design for your child that is permanent – a system that you both know backwards a forward and leaves 100% of the outcome up to the child. It’s all their choice. In a well-developed system, there is no power struggle, no yelling, at all. Simple, because the options are laid out beforehand clearly for the child. If she wants to earn x, she does this. If she does not care to follow any instructions she issues herself a consequence. No shocking angry threats, just a simple choice for the child, and they no what the outcome will be whether they do the right thing or not.

I have already gone further then I intended to without even knowing if people want and need what I have to say. Maybe you have parenting all figured out. You may not need me. However if you don’t fall into that group and like the rest of us you have struggled before, then I need you to make it known. Tell me through your comments what your area of need is and if you will benefit from this type teaching. Let me know that you will be involved in this series or not. I will not continue if nobody is willing to share that they need help.

Skills for today to start incorporating into your home.

1-Following instructions

A- look at the person

B-say ok.

C- complete the task 

4-check back when finished
2-Accepting No

A-look at the person 

B-say ok

( No eye rolling, body language or mumbling)

Problem
Solving

Teach your child to use the SODAS method when they cannot  make up their minds on an issue. Role  play with them on this method so when  nobody is around to discuss a problem with your child has a way to make the right choices.

S-situation

O-optiins

D-disadvantage

A-advantage

S-solution



If you need more specific and personalized information then what you see in the series, that is when you contact me for a personalized plan of care. 

 I have never turned anyone away for not being able to pay some sky-high fee. I will gladly help you put a system in place that is perfect for your family.

Contact me at tim@dontlabelmykid.com to set up a virtual appointment and discuss a personalized plan of care for your situation.

For now – lets see if you all need what I have to offer. Please make yourself known.

tj

 

 

Wow-Just Wow- Is There Any Wonder Why We Have A Crisis With Pedo-Priests? The Fish Always Stinks From The Head Down.

I sincerely hope that every parent who is considering sending their child to Catholic anything will seriously reconsider. This man is basically giving the thumbs up for his flock of pedo-priests to pursue homosexual relationships within the church.

How scary is that?

Off duty priest trolling

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Its your call people but this is no joke. I would not let my kid ride their bike past a catholic church these days, much less give them over to a priest for anything.

Confession just ain’t what it used to be.

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Remember-this freak has admitted or been found guilty in over 10 cases in recent years, which means he has probably racked up 20x that which we don’t know about. What did he get? An early paid retirement and no consequences except a promise to pray. Father Albert Gondek- Lexington North Carolina richest man in Lexington North Carolina. He should have been in front of a firing squad decades ago. However The Charlotte North Carolina diocese, headed by Peter Jugis, David Harold and David Haine decided Gondek should get an early retirement for all his stress…how pathetic.

tj

Identity Crisis- For Reals..Pops.

Sometimes there are no words..only visuals can truly explain an issue of concern…

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wp-1495473459075. He’s down wit’ da truth, for reals.

I am seeing more of this everywhere I go. It matters not what the race and color, its interchangeable.

 

“Name It Claim It”- “Blab It Grab It” Type Of Faith And Other Carnival Type Of Entertainment…

There is nothing wrong with Christians or pastors being filthy rich. The bible says – the LOVE of money is the root of all evil. Not money itself. I saw an article naming some well-known evangelists as false prophets. The only reason they gave was their net worth. They should go do some homework. Pat Robertson, sold all he owned as he believed God called him to do and start the 700 club. Sixty  years of hard international ministry and he’s worth ninety million. He even is said to be ” part owner of a diamond mine” – OOH… SHHH! Really? I hope God does not hear about that! LOL God made the arrangements.

Jealousy is not becoming.

Are there false money hungry preachers out there? Of course. But understand that wealth is not equal to false prophet.

Right off the bat, I am not a licensed pastor, minister or anything. I am giving my opinion on issues from the perspective of a plain old Christian. I am worn and torn, used and bruised as the next. I’ve been stuck like Chuck, broke as a joke and sicker then a dog. Despite all those things, the only constant in my life, and I do mean ONLY constant, has been the Word of God. It says right there in it will never return void. It does not lie. However sometimes people who preach it sugar coat it, and twist it and act as if they can use God like a vending machine.

Nope. But healing is real. I have seen plenty of miracles with my own eyes. However they were at God’s timetable, using who He wanted and how He wanted . Especially when He wanted.

Miracles do happen, and God shows himself in huge ways. However we play by His rules.

Contrary to popular belief, no Christian, with or without a robe or collar has this routine;

greed

{ Yes Lord, good morning. Here’s my order-Ill take 2 healing jobs, upgrade on my Escalade,  a 100k financial bonus and make my wife more sane  – In JESUS name!-( then stick your dollars in the machine right side up, and BOOM! Its yours.}

If that were the case what we need heaven for? We could make all things as we want right here and now. The fads that come by once in a while and are well televised often end up with a preacher in prison. Many times with good intentions but poor understanding of the Word. Other times preachers are just taking advantage of people and they get what they deserve. I am not sure many of those could even be saved, but that’s not my call. I do know God is not cool with repping Him for profit..

So anyhow, what IS the real deal then? What should we expect as a Christian here on earth? Well, there are two separate laws. There are laws that are available to anyone, no matter if they worship their Aloe plant or Jesus. For example gravity. Any one of us falls off the roof, we all gettin bruised! Now with that said, I have seen many times where it seems supernatural power had to be present for the person to be breathing.. personally I think believers get first ups on angels in cases like that, but at the end of the day we walk off of a roof, and we go boom.

Next is the law of reciprocity or the idea that when you give you get back . That seems to apply to most anyone. Now I am NOT talking about tithes and offerings. I mean straight up generous people seem to be rewarded for that. God calls it sowing and reaping in the Bible, but you get the idea. Another is the power of the tongue. No matter what you believe, words can hurt from any mouth. There is power in your words.

Okay so now what is the Christian benefit package that differs from the non-believer? According to the Word, eternal life in heaven with the Lord tops the list. But what about now, here on earth? Well, as a child of God who receives Christ as savior – you can now exercise some rights you could not before. You have special privileges and the promise that He will never leave you or forsake you while these horrible trials on earth must go on. Its kinda sorta like when you are a youngster going through scary times, like being scared of the dark, or your first dentist trip it feels just a little bit better when papa or momma is sitting next to you, right? Same idea here. The Christian has the presence of the Lord that others choose not to have.  ( Psalm 27)

There are many books out there about spiritual authority – the authority of the believer, books about what rights the Christian realm. If you like an easy read with simple applications, I recommend Joyce Meyer, or Pat RobertsonJosh McDowell type books. Especially if you are a fairly new believer. If you are a glutton for cerebral torture but love the challenge and all,  pull up a few Watchmen Nee books… The Normal Christian life and many more.  I would stay away from anyone who you would see on Oprah, with rare exceptions, as she likes to weave the ” all roads lead to God path” which sadly for them does not fly with God, according to His word. The thought is really saying to Jesus Christ, ” Hey thanks for the effort, that torture and death and all to pay my penalty for sin, but, tell the Father I will be coming via another airline…

Don’t see that talk ever happening..

If you are a total atheist or someone who gets irritated at the very name of Jesus, I challenge to read a book that I found very helpful on my journey. It’s by Josh McDowell and called “ Lord, Liar, or Lunatic? Very short read and super interesting no matter who you are but especially if you are oriented towards science. Josh is a scientist, and was a full on atheist so ticked off about Jesus freaks creepin around him that he decided to scientifically shut them up..

The point I am making here is don’t let bad teaching ruin eternity. In the end we are all responsible to answer to God. His word says He has provided one way to get past our ugly sin, the blood of Christ. We simply choose to accept what He said, or reject. Our choice. We don’t get the option to not choose …and according to His Word that’s the deal.

( I didn’t write the Bible BTW, so don’t shoot the messenger..)

 

tj

 

CNN ” We’ve Got The Impeachment Locked Up..

In a stunning announcement Saturday afternoon, CNN has released new evidence that they believe will have even the most conservative and Trump fan reeling for immediate resignation .

Talking about the president, In a quote from lead investigative reporter Ian Spin had this to say, ” He brushed right through the Supercuts scandal , he froze up a bit on the Baskin Robbins scoop, but today I’m here to tell you Mr. Trump has lost his run of luck.”

Apparently a team of volunteer lefty celebrities agreed  to go undercover in this investigation which supposedly will show that our president has a very sketchy bedroom secret that is supposedly so far out that it’s not only immoral, but ILLEGAL!  Questionable ethics and moral standards are mentioned.  The Implication  is that our president is not a good role model for the activities of a man who is supposed to be a God-fearing wholesome,  morally upright American  role model.

So far the only members of the investigative team demanding impeachment for Trump that have come forward are as follows-

 Miley (AAA) anywhere, anyone, anytime Cyrus

– Cher ( is my son my daughter? ) Bono 

The  runner formerly known as Bruce ( do I use the men’s room during transition? ) Jenner

Mark ( are you over 12 sweetie)Weiner

Rosie ( my mouth runneth over) O’Donnell

Finally-an unidentified sales person ( female ) at an upscale DC Furniture store who has made an extraordinary claim that she personally has sat on the presidents bed. ( this is not confirmed by our sources) furthermore she claims to have physical evidence that will leave no doubt that what Trump did was immoral and illegal..we are awaiting an update any minute on just what this ” evidence” is and clearly understand that if even a shred of this story and where it is leading us is true,  Donald Trump could find himself out of a job. Please stand by….

44 minutes later….

We thank you all for standing by. We have been privy to all of the details and are free to release them. The incident in question is legitimate. Donald Trump violated the law and we will see how stiff a penalty he will get. However the incident, was slightly misleading. After the objective news media was allowed to interview the key players, including the stock girl at the furniture store, we have found that the level of moral and ethical integrity has NOT been compromised.

In an unusual move- CNN not only ill-reported but exaggerated a story that they knew to be misleading. Who would have seen that coming ?

Under DC law, tearing off the label of a mattress is a crime. However, in a little known clause, if you have an allergy to makimup-nuuse  (ancient greek chemical)  an ingredient used in the making of mattress tags, you may actually tear the tag off.

So, good news for the President tonight although we here at DLMK News would caution the president that as much as we love him, his ” coloring outside the lines” lifestyle really is not conducive to the office of the President. Please exercise caution Mr. Trump.

That wraps it up for tonight , as always good news and good night.

tj

-Senior Editor (recently promoted)

 

Parenting 101- Got Skills? You Better Or They Wont. Role Modeling & Social Skills.

I am amazed when I walk through Wal-Mart and see a mother dragging a crying 4-5 year old  by the arm yelling

SHUT UP! DO YOU HEAR ME, YOU ARE GOING TO GET YOUR LITTLE ASS WHIPPED WHEN WE GET HOME”

Wrong on so many levels.  But to keep this short , I will point out just a few reasons why this approach never works.

1- You cannot command a child to do something that you are currently reminding them you yourself are incapable of- like  being quiet.

2-Its highly unlikely that ANY child (that can hear)  is going to think ” hmm, I think I will pull it together now that I know I have an  ass whippin  coming when we leave, I’m pumped!”

3-If you want your child to incorporate  any skill  into their daily routine, YOU must first model it, consistently. The ” do as I say not as I do” rule is obsolete.

There are at least 100 valuable social skills that must be taught to any of us in life. About 25 are needed to function successfully as an adult. For a child ages 5-18 it varies by age, but 3-4 for the young child and 15 for the teen are necessary to get through school and relationships without much turmoil.

There is no  “ skill genie ” or  ” skill angel ”  that comes in the night and teaches your child the skills. So they must learn them from someone else….yep thats right.  but, if you choose not to teach them – don’t sweat it, they can always pick up little Johnny’s skill set at school, you know the one who always gets suspended and calls his 3rd grade teacher a slut.

If you want your home to run smoothly, there must be consistency and clear explanation of what is expected. I will take the top two most important social skills ( in my opinion ) that I have taught for 20 years, and break them down here so you can see how you should explain them to your child.

1- Following instructions

a- Look at the person

b- Say ok

c Check back when finished


2- Accepting No ( for an answer)

a- Look at the person

b- Say ok


As I mentioned, these are the top two out of the 100 I train on. You should have at least 15 skills you use to interact with your teen and 4-7 for young  who cannot retain much more.

Remember, the trick is developing a motivation system in your home that is not some temporary fly by night bribe system just so you can get a quiet night and take a long bath. Every reward and consequence your child gets should be a decision your child has made because you have taken the time and effort to creat a system that needs no arguing or debating about. Its built into your family dynamic.

Lastly for this little sample, if you think your children don’t want boundaries set for them ( specific guidelines) you are wrong. Kids are desperate for boundries. As a matter of fact we adults are desperate for boundries. What would you feel like if you jumped on the freeway tomorrow to go to work, and there was a giant neon sign that said

  ” NEW RULES ” AS OF TODAY -THERE ARE NO SPEED LIMITS, NO RULES ON SAFE DRIVING OR ANY OTHER GUIDELINES AND NO MORE EMERGENCY RESPONSE TEAMS”

How safe would you  feel knowing that  anyone could pull a NASCAR on you  and draft you at 125 MPH-  or trade some paint with you sending you and your vehicle rolling  down the hill on the side of the road.

So of we grown ups need some guidlines, ow much more do our children need them.


TJ

( I am an award winning behavior specialist who has built hundreds of behavior programs to implement in homes of small familes who just want one system to implement so they can quit constant arguing all the time. I also have been hired to put behavorial sysytems in place in large companies to make their own staff get along better)

I was even hired to train all the doctors and staff of a hospital psyhiatric unit how to get along , proving that no matter who you are or how old you are there has to be consistency.

As a foster parent, I created and implented daily systems for very abused and defiant teens and was successful in all. About 50 teens.

If you are tired of unpredictable behavior and response in your family, I would love to help build a system to fit your needs. Once in place you simply maintain it and I will always be available to help with any break downs in the system. Or you can keep living like you are…

(Yeah, I Agree )- so my email is —-dontlabelmykid2@gmail.com-contact me today to set up a personalized- DLMK! Care Plan for your family.

TJ