Read the body of this post before watching the clip.
Above is the link to the 8:56 minute video that is offensive. I feel the information in it is worth overlooking the time of total crude language. I hope you do too.
Wow. I never imagined I would air a clip of an atheist bi-sexual arguing with black people who are still playing the victim about things like slavery and other issues. This guy is straight up rude, arrogant, offensive and much more. He curses more in here then I have had on this blog in 5 years combined. Yet I cannot pass up the opportunity to let the whole world see and hear the truths that are laid out, albeit in an extremely offensive manner. However if an argument or debate that reveals truth so we can move on requires 8 minutes of offensive language I think its worth it.
I am warning you to have your young kids in another room, and if you are one of those people like a few in my old church who runs as fast as they can if anyone says “shit” because they are too ” Godly ‘ then don’t bother. You will have to do what I did, and overlook the offensive and see the amazing truths that are in the midst of them.
Watch at your own risk. One more warning, this is an 8 minute video of an arrogant atheist arguing with a few angry black people about sensitive issues. If you cannot handle that then skip it.
One Last Note- This video ends at around 8:56 or so. I advise you to have your hand on the control by 8 minutes. It only gets worse after this debate. I also will tell you that you may see ads and things that are as inappropriate as this guy. Ignore them and get your 8 minutes of truth. If it bothers you so much that he is rude, pray for him.
” If anyone causes one of these little ones those who believe in me-to stumble, it would be better for them to have a large millstone hung around their neck and to be drowned in the depths of the sea”
Matthew 18:6- NIV
Not everyone is aware of the numbers on this, but almost every child / teen that is molested ends up depressed, addicted, hopeless or suicidal. If they do manage to survive the sick abuse that goes on in the Catholic church-they usually end up on the street running with gangs. It is rare that anyone survive this and live a decent life.
So perhaps Jesus is speaking of this when He said the words above. At any rate, I encourage you – if you have ANY part of getting your kids, or anyone’s to a catholic church-remember this statement from Jesus Christ.
There are currently around 30k priests in the USA under investigation for sexual crimes against minors. And listen to this- those are THEIR numbers so imagine what they may be in reality.
It just is not worth it. Get you kids away from these freaks who use God’s name to sodomize 5 year olds.
Sometimes I like to incorporate humor into my posts to keep the site from just being about depression and addiction and PTSD etc… I just cannot be all too funny with this. This is a topic that is DEADLY. I remember, because my brothers suicide wont seem to get out of my mind some days. So I am going to ask everyone to stop and read this, and you know what it may not even apply to you. But it could prevent what happened with my family. I cannot undo the gunshot that ended my brothers life. But I can share my 20 years of experience in mental health and addictions, from a personal, and then a professional standpoint. I sure hope you will send this to anyone that seems like they may be one step away from tragedy. If it is you. I tell you what to do at the end. Anyhow, I hope you take this to heart. Anyone who follows me knows how much I love you all and just want to keep getting the word out that you cannot delay treatment for mental health without terrible consequences. But let me say this, there is some really good news on here about the success we are having worldwide in a new area to help….tj
Is Therapy Going To Drive Me To Suicide?
Most people in and around the mental health field as a client or provider are familiar with these two terms. The question is, what is the difference? Its a valid question that deserves an honest answer.
So your deciding how to address the situation your going through and the options. Whether it be a depression issue, a divorce issue or any other circumstance that has proved itself to be interfering in your routine to the point that you need at least some action. Lets face it, there are thousands of different providers who all claim to offer up the most successful, healing, lasting and least restrictive and intrusive on your life.
Where do you start? A friend’s recommendation? An ad that catches your eye or ear? The most well known methods? Its a tough call for anyone. It does not have to be. You see just as we have progressed in other industries like automobiles, and appliances and homes, the same applies when it is time for mental health choices. We don’t screw bolts into the sides of peoples heads anymore to see the effect. We don’t torture people hoping to alter behavior or feelings. Things have improved. Much progress has been made in these areas and you will do yourself a disservice by not following up on what is working and what is not.
Just because you are struggling with an issue in your life does not paralyze your ability to educate yourself. Of course you must be strong enough to make your own decisions and choices on treatment unless you are in need of inpatient care. This post is about outpatient care. If you follow along you just may see clearly some things that have been unclear until now. I have had extensive experience in both coaching and therapy, both as a client, and eventually as a professional for 20 years. To try and break down all the theories of personality and modalities of treatment would take an entire book. In my opinion it is not necessary.
Everyone has their opinion about what works best and many of the ideas have validity and can indeed help. However do you want to get 45% help when another method would bump that up to 85%? Of course not. Let me add that I have no dog in the hunt. Our team together has decades of experience in just about every major modality used in outpatient therapy. If you want to come lay on a couch each week while we remind each other how miserable your life has been, someone will take your money. But what about outcomes? After all the whole point of therapy is to get better and move on with your life, right?
What if medication is recommended? We all know that game right? Try this for 6 weeks, if it does not make you feel good we will change to the next, and the next and so on. You may be caught up in a weekly sit down regurgitating old dark memories for a year before any medications start working. That is , if they ever work, since even major drug makers have admitted that 5 or 6 of their latest anti-depressants actually cause suicidal thoughts.
OOPS! Yeah, it does happen and it is not uncommon.
But even so, therapy is just so much more ” professional ” sounding. It must be the best if its been around so long. I mean this coaching thing is fairly new. Why take chances on that when you can enjoy the benefits listed above of a therapeutic model?
Maybe because coaching works.
Lets take a closer look at this whole coaching model. The coaching models at least that I am familiar with takes the therapy model and turns it on its head. It rejects everything traditional long term therapy stands for.
Coaching focuses on what is right in your life. What you can do well. What strengths we have. A return to normalcy as soon as possible in the least restrictive environment is key. On the other hand have we all not at one time or another seen a post or article that begins with ” I have been seeing my therapist now for 5 years ” or ‘ My therapist says he thinks I need a higher dose of medication”. If you have not, you need not leave WordPress because they are everywhere.
Try finding one that says they have had their coach for more than a few months. It will be tough. The reason being is coaches create independence for you by emphasizing what you can do and have done well, whereas a typical therapy session will hover around how many failures or let downs occurred and how did you deal with them. If not monitored closely therapy can simply become something you must depend on and have or you will crack. It also can make for real strong job security for the provider. I am in no way saying that this is always the case, I am simply pointing out the facts.
Let me give you another example that may be easier to illustrate. AA & NA have been absolutely famous and known to be the savior for millions who swear they cant make it without it. There is good reason for that. Part of the mantra you must repeat and repeat and repeat until its drilled in your head is that you are powerless over your addiction. Sounds like pure healthy honesty right? We need to face the truth, right? The problem here folks is that most AA & NA programs have a tough time breaking into double digits as far as success in remaining sober for 12 months. Hmm. Sounds like AA & NA need the addicts more than the addicts need it.
Now I can already here people yelling at me reciting the serenity prayer and how the program has kept you clean for 5 years. If that is true, good for you and stick with it. The problem is we have this other 90% who fail and fail and fail. This group is just as important as the 10% who are doing well. right? The program or therapeutic modality cannot replace the addiction. Trading one addiction for another is , well not the goal.
Lets quickly review. Coaching is a process where someone trained in the area your needing comes along side of you and helps you identify your strengths, address any negative patterns that are interfering with your life and resets your thinking and goals to align with your abilities. This process in general is a much shorter and effective one that rarely disturbs your daily routine and acts more as a cheerleader to help you up and out of a rut then a tape recorder that plays your most hideous memories over and over until one week you think you have it beat- but then at your therapy session your forced to drag it back out of the dark corner of your head.
Coaching is not becoming dependent in any way on someone else. Therapy can lead to a total dependency on a person to survive, and even worse create a stigma that you are lesser of a person because you cannot live life normally or without the handicap of a label, diagnoses, or medication.
Am I saying that therapy is a waste and coaching is the only way to get help? Of course not. What I absolutely am saying is that one better be educated on their true need lest they become involved in a very dependent situation that may strip you of self esteem when that method is not needed. I have been a therapist. I have been a coach which is what I am more involved in then formal therapy. There will always be times when someone is in need of long term clinical therapy. What I have learned however is that everyone deserves the chance to be helped up and out of a rut through short term coaching before the much more restrictive clinical environment.
Besides the the stigma, the dependency, and the long term visits in the therapy model, you also need to understand that the difference financially between the two are radical and you are talking tens of thousands of dollars for any long term clinical therapy and that is besides medications. Why would you put yourself or anyone you love in that box before you give them a chance to be coached back to health? So far I have given you my personal and career experience, but in case your wondering, the established and very well run coaching programs that are in existence now are running circles around any treatment centers for addictions and over 20 other issues from domestic violence to PTSD. As a matter of fact many insurance companies wont even pay for therapy anymore. That is right, they pulled out and are happy to pour their efforts into legit coaching programs. Why would they, when the success rates on coaching is 75% and up and traditional treatment centers around 20%? Not to mention coaching is 1/3 the cost if not more to you and to insurers.
I want to close with a very important point. This article is designed to offer new options and hope to those who may not be familiar with coaching model. Any good therapist or doctor will tell you the truth about whether long term expensive therapy is needed or if coaching is what will work best for the client. I wont lie to you, just like any industry, not every provider is truthful and many will keep you or your child locked up and medicated as long as the payer will pay. Authorities are trying to crack down on those who use clients for personal gain but with tens of thousands of programs, it is very hard.
Take a few minutes and enjoy a laugh. The Old School Psychiatrists Were Just a little more upfront and honest with their patients then in today’s world- Would it not be nice if all Doctors were this up front! Today she would likely here ” Maam, you have OCD, your in denial, you are paranoid and I think these 3 prescriptions may help….We can all learn a thing or two from this Bob Newhart clip…
I have worked with and still do some of the finest clinical therapists around and they are excellent. Doctors as well and in no way am I saying nobody needs clinical therapy. What I am doing here is giving you all a little heads up about what is coming down the pipe. Coaching has proven itself, its cost effective, and is the latest and greatest alternative to what we had to live with. You will hear about it if you have not. All the Don’t Label My Kid! Team members are coaches and you can check out our areas of expertise on the home page menu. Read a quick bio of what we each do and reach out to us if you think you need help. We always work with people and have yet to turn anyone away.
This is a post I would not have written even two years ago. However the coaching success, and opportunities for those who have been coached to actually become working coaches after they find success makes this a win win for anyone and everyone. Don’t put it off anymore. No matter what the age, race, background, or need- believe me we have been there and done it. Just look at our bios and you will understand. If you are doing great, and your kids are doing great. but you have this friend from church, neighbor, or relative that is hurting- be the one to help them get help. You never know what people may be just one more step away from and the tragedy of ignoring it can do.
When my brother shot himself after we just watched some television together, I sure wish I would have asked him why he was so quiet for 2 hours. But, I did not. Instead he walked out the door and shot himself in the head. Don’t let that happen to anyone you know. Contact us immediately for prompt response.
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We read each others posts, look at pictures , but very few of us actually know each other. It would be hard to say that you like someone based on their writing, since that is not who they are…
But, and I realize this may be off of the beaten path a tad, but what if you were a blog!
Imagine you were a blog for a moment and you had to pick out a ” blog crush” – but unlike other crushes- you get to pick 3 blog crushes.
Who would be 3 of your top blog crushes?
For me , I like a blog with a good heart, one that keeps themselves up, has their priorities in order and appearances never hurt. Also some sort of clear purpose or mission.
I am for sure not just lookin for some eye candy alone either… there is more too an attractive blog than outward looks..and no easy blogs..you know the type, two likes and a comment and their yours. Hussies.
Spiritual blog is hard is also a draw for me .
Oh and by the way there are no LGBT or gay blogs so any blog crushes are purely platonic and without any reference to sexuality.
My top 3 (although many come to mind ) are
1- mewhoami- keeping perspective
2-gottafindahome- incredible mission for homeless
3-hunt4truth- objectively and persuasively speaking about topics that are important.
Now remember we are not having crushes on people, since we don’t know one another . Strictly blog crushes…
Lastly , why do you think you selected the ones you do. In the end , they are likely blogs most like you yourself., blog!
“There is a time or everything, and a season for every activity under the heavens”
Well, here we are. We have discussed practically every issue in life on this blog in the last four years or so. We have laughed, debated, discussed, prayed and I think I even had a legitimate stalker . The very first mission of this and I hope any blog is to teach. To educate your readers on what it is your here for and especially the question ” what can you do for me”. Today I am going to do a part of my job that is not uncommon in my 20 years as a Social Worker. I am going to press you a little bit. Force you to quit sidestepping and avoiding your needs and issues.
Now don’t think of this as anything negative. Its just the natural progression of things. In my career I would have people make appointments come to the office for some need in the areas of mental health, behavioral health or addictions primarily. There are always exceptions but those were the most popular reasons they would make an appointment to see me.
Almost always on the very first visit I would introduce myself and ask them to tell me about why they were here. I cannot tell you how many stare-offs I had, lol. I would say ” you called me so tell me what I can help you with. ” I never figured out if it was people getting intimidated when they are in a setting they are not used to or what , but so many people forget or froze up. I would usually give them some examples of why people came to see me and gradually somewhere in the list I would here a ” yeah that” or something to help me know where to start probing or asking questions. We always got moving at some point. Some in just a few minutes and some it took a little longer.
On this blog Don’t Label My Kid! I decided to start the educating on my homepage with mental health. I allude to the other areas I am an expert in but that is where I decided to begin, because all our other problems somehow are related to mental health. I then proceeded over the next 3-4 years to make sure I wrote at least 100 articles related to each area I serve. I am not talking about specialty areas like parenting that I also assist and do workshops in, but the main primary areas; Mental, behavior and addictions.
Over 500 total articles on these areas. This is to find out where my reader’s needs are and to get feedback from you as well on any area . As you all well know I always mix in some humor, politics or other issues at random just to keep things from getting to dark and gloomy on here. (Some who pop in at the wrong time think this site is just a random topic site as my last 4 quick posts might have been about humor. lol) Even though I post about a wide variety of topics , they are topics related to life. We are all in that game together.
Now, in this time I have enjoyed a good amount of feedback, comments and gotten a ton from you all about your situations now, past of something you wonder about. I have read and still go over thousands of comments from you all. I have not read anything I have not helped someone with many times over ( except maybe the stalker) .
I have heard from the suicidal, the addicts, the parents who are ready to strangle their kids, the people of faith who ask me how I can still believe in God, then the burned out Christians. I have also gotten messages from people suffering with PTSD, abused wives, and people who have had experiences with sexual abuse. This has been especially popular since I have been writing about Father Gondek . People are much more likely to share if they are not alone. My point is, you are here for a reason. I can assure you God did not lead you here to get more depressed or addicted. He did not bring me here to write about your struggles so you can leave the house every day with fresh depression. We are here for a change. It’s what I call a divine appointment.
The stage we are at now, is called Execution.
Execution is where action takes place. It is where you quit playing around with your problem. You quit lust ” liking ” every post about your topic, you take the next step in your journey. It is the favorite part of work life, as I get to use my gifts and help people in general solve problems. How though? What do you do – even if you wanted to take the next step to help? Well, there are three possible answers.
You are getting your first assignment in moving forward with your issues. You should write this date down on your calendar as the day you ” executed “-
Before you can execute you have to select one of the following scenarios that best fits you
1- I have never reached out for help
2-I have reached out but no progress ( gave up )
3-You are currently trying things but have not got anywhere or don’t know if your counsel is right, or the money you would spend is worth it.
Now, I want you to select the one that describes you best. Usually one of those is it. If not no problem we can identify it. So make your selection. Great.
Now – as a consultant I take on three roles, depending on which of the above fits you.
If you are #-
#1-I am your ADVISOR– I will start by accessing your need, identify the best care plan and follow you through the process as needed.
#2-I am your INTERVENTIONIST-I help you resume your attempts by picking up the pieces of whatever you did gain or learn, and reconnecting , but with the appropriate services.
#3- I am your COACH- I act as support to what you think you may want to try, and am someone to stand along side of you as you navigate the process and coach you as is necessary to keep you on he right track.
Your 2nd assignment today is to figure out whether I am your Advisor,your interventionist, or your coach. So, which one?
Here is the moment of truth. You pick up the phone or email me to identify what you are in need of. I have broken it down so you can easily identify your needs from me.
(Although I am very good, I have yet learned to read minds of my followers.)
Touch base to get a Plan Of Care started now!
Cell- Txt- Call- 386-675-7549
*Now a few important things have when you contact me
1- if it involves a child, any and all IEP or special class information from school. Also any mental health official diagnoses or medications they are on or have ever been on. I don’t need copies but I need you to accurately tell me the report. If you are needing help for yourself I just need your past and current mental health diagnises
2- If you are an addict or have a loved one is and you need help – DO NOT GET ANY HELPUNTIL YOU TALK TO ME . PERIOD. Many organizations today get paid to fill beds- not make it a good fit for the client. Also if you walk into a rehab with no knowledge of the process and what you really need, you or your friend’s success rate is about 24%
Again- Any addicts reading or if you are trying to help one get help. CALL ME first. It is critical that you have an understanding of what rehab REALLY means. It’s not what you think.
Your Freedom In 60 seconds my brothers and sisters
I am literally shaking right now in awe and I am hoping to make it through this break without a complete breakdown of blood boiling excitement.
We have just gotten confirmation that our world and those who have been enslaved to the addictions in this world which has caused millions of lives to be ruined, are TOTALLY FREE of its reach anymore. Recent discoveries about telling your mom you have a problem and crafty moves like refusing to give up on HOPE- is all that is really involved.
Yes – you can believe It! Hundreds have confirmed by their ” likes” and this has now been verified.. after billions of dollars and studies, and decades spent trying to break this code- the mystery of addiction has been solved.
While scientists have been researching genetics and the like over the years in laboratories and researching socioeconomic backgrounds to try and find any link to freedom from addiction- it turns out by just a few easy steps it can be done. It has been right in front of us all this time. Its actually being reported in my ear piece from central command that pill bottles are falling from the sky as well as alcohol bottles, presumably tossed from bloggers in high story apartments and high rises who have received our breaking news already..
Those in treatment facilities that have been in bondage to this are rising up and walking away. http://wp.me/p7hi1Z-a12
As you may have noticed by now just by looking around your office, everyone is taken aback that this hundreds years old mystery had been solved and revealed right here on WordPress, and best of all, it will take 1 minute of your precious time to scan and conquer your lifelong addiction..
Elders and Statesman and well-known actresses are now actually stopping their activities to witness history being made here on WordPress…
To think , in one minute, you too will have the key that unlocks addiction. As it says in the manual here- you just don’t lose hope. You tell another you have a problem. It turns out that admitting you have a problem is actually the FIRST step! Who would have thunk? Ladies & Gentleman, may I present your key to freedom in a 1 minute read…click and be free..
Whether it’s an addiction you faced or are facing now or some really stupid thing you did, more than likely your offspring will hear about it at some point in their lives. Do you want the information to get to them accurately , or from many ears and mouths before it makes its way to your children?
We have all heard about the game where kids sit in a line and the kid on one end is told a piece of information, and then it is passed down the row from kid to kid until maybe 15 sets of ears later the final child hears it and is asked to reveal what the info was.
For example, the information given to the first child might be this;
“A stretchy sailboat cruised all the way across the water for the crew to get a meal”
By the end of the line the sentence has become this;
” A sexy sailboat cruised all the way across the water for the boss to nailed “
So here is your real question; do you wish for your children to here the truth? Or take your chances in the family gossip circle?
Your kids will respect you very much if you tell them the truth. When I had to do it, I also included a plan of action to remedy the situation as well, and of course follow through.
I highly recommend that route. Just food for thought..
Some footage of the fellas hanging out on some downtime in the Catholic diocese in Charlotte North Carolina….I hear every night at 6 is nail painting pajama party..rumor has it those rascals like to jump on the beds and have a pillow fight – followed by a dog pile…oh boys will be boys..
They are always looking to serve, even on days off. It’s as if they can’t get enoughof just loving on people-especially those little guys..
Some volunteer at the mall as a big furry animal, some are out on skate patrol checking all the local playgroundsto make sure the children have someone watching them….
The guys are willing to do whatever it takes – even potty training and changing duty at the local mall just to give the parents a few minutes to shop alone.When asked if they ever get tired of serving the response from all were amazing. The skating priest really summed it all up – ” Tired of it? This is what keeps us going! As a matter of fact I think I speak for all my fellow priests when I say that a good 75% of us are here just for the kids!”
Ooh! I think I see Bugs Bunny at the mall on potty duty today! It’s a dirty, dirty job. Very few people could even think about doing that!
The Throw Down !
Like A Junkyard brawl- these two were the winners at the Bishops weekly drawing and got the coveted Playground Patrol- but instead of a feel good day identifying lost kids, the heels came off and as you can see, it was ON!
( Fortunately non of those punches broke any nails.)
These two warriors were supposed to be monitoring playgrounds which they were very much looking forward to.. As a matter they told the neighborhood watch program ” We got this” and gave them all a break . These two did not get to touch the lives of small children as they had hoped ( in the ministry sense of course) all because of a tiff over nail polish,.
A Great day to really feel the confessions of todays…8 year olds.
Confession duty can be a tedious task as you might imagine. So each priest is asked what age group they prefer to hear confession from. Oh, look this one decided on…yep
I cannot emphasize enough just how much these priests need to be recognized-for what they do. I don’t think people really have any idea what goes on behind the scenes. All they see is the confessions and rituals but not the overtime put in.
The Godfather Of The Rape & Run Himself
But- the boss of the crew- the don…the man with a 40 year Groom & Doom and rape then good but stay out of jail pass- is who has really gotten away with a decades long predator career and all the while some think he is a priest!!
We finally may be seeing his rich and retired mug on the news because he went for that one last score Our Lady Of The Rosary in Lexington NC in 2010-2013 or so and he went for the jackpot. Juggling 6 boys in two years and through the usual threats and intimidation was able to keep them quiet – until recently…..stay tuned. Father Albert Gondek may be on the receiving end of his hobby if he ever meets Bubba in prison, But we all know that is unlikely, so lets see how the law and media handles it when he is proven guilty, again.
If you all know any vets or anyone for that matter who suffer from PTSD -this may be something to share with them. According to the article the new muscle relaxer type drug tool almost all the symptoms away from a vet who suffered so badly he had a seeing eye dog to to help him cope with the public each day..I believe clinical trials are in Texas but they are usually fairly limited so I would get in touch ASAP.
Mental Health. Looks like this pretty much , right? I took this picture 2 days ago. You know why? I assumed when I contacted the law to pick the body up they may want some documentation of when and where I found the guy. Not that its any big deal, I see these bums all day long here in Daytona. Heck You and me could have ended up like that if we didn’t make the right choices, right? Whatever. Who are we kidding. But for the grace of God, there goes me.
In this case I got to walk away feeling better then I initially thought. You see, when I realized he was stiff, and smelled bad I just instinctively went to see if he had any ID to give the law. I was quite shocked when he about jumped when my hand touched his jacket pocket. He was alive! Sort of. Mike, as I later learned was his name was so scared I came to hurt him that he was shaking, I sat down with him and told him it was all good and I help people like him. I am a social worker. I help all people. No matter the age, race, issues, addictions, etc.
I know you cant see all that well in this picture as far as his age and all, but after we had talked awhile he shared a little about his life. Take a guess as to his age? Just do it, ball park.
Mike is 51.
I was able to offer him some options that he never knew were there. I know because that is my gift. We all have gifts, and in my case I have the ability to identify what people need to make their situation the very best it can be. I have done it for my entire career as a clinical social worker. I have worked with teens, parents, mental health patients, addicted folks, poverty stricken, violent people, even the most seriously developmentally disabled people in the world, literally. I have been called on to improve the quality of life for those who are deaf, dumb, blind, and aggressive. Can you imagine? The people in that arena that I ran programs for were abused so badly as babies that even though many were born ” normal” they had some of the most evil parents and caregivers you could imagine. Tossed in dumpsters as babies left to die, left on the hot Florida beaches as infants simply because the mom or dad was too lazy to bring them to a fire station or another outlet who would gladly have taken them in.
I started a school for 60 felons, ages 11-18. Gang members, 12 year old kids running crack at 3am on school days for their own parents. I lived for 5 years with 45 teens who were sexually abused very severely. Every group of people I worked with I was so thankful to have a God given gift to see through the outside and meet the true need on the inside. Now, before anyone thinks I am bragging – it could not be further from the truth. I am so ” ungifted ” in some areas that men should be – lol- I remember a time when I had my young boys with me in my truck and I noticed my wipers were bad. I could not see through them. I stopped at the Auto Zone , ordered up 2 wipers in a manly voice…and spent the next 30 minutes in the parking lot trying to figure out how to put the blades on until my 7 year old son took pity on me. He installed them in 5.
If you have followed me long you will note that although I share my personal struggles, and trials, I have never laid out an ” I love me post” about my accomplishments in my gifts. One reason is because I realize it is a gift. I can help anyone, in any situation, no matter what the circumstances. I just don’t feel comfortable bragging about something that I was given. Oh, believe me – I can hang with the best of the braggers. I have the degrees, the awards and all that jazz. I could not even tell you where any of them are right now. I don’t care. I care about educating people and helping them save time, money and stress.
What I love most about what I do is I know every single job duty all those people and more have. But I don’t have to become each one. I sure can steer you to who will actually help you and who wants your money. I can tell you that in many cases I have not been able to get to the parent or family in time before they got taken for a ride to the tune of tens of thousands of dollars and more. That’s the reason I am so determined to hold providers of mental health, addictions, behavioral health, and juvenile delinquents accountable for what they do. I know what they should be doing – but you don’t. I am not a psychiatrist, but if you have ever read my home page ” mental heath- its a crazy business” you know I do not mince words. Why? I know the truth.. Do want to know how many doctors or psychologists, psychiatrists have written me nasty letters over the 4 years I have been slamming them? ZERO.
I am sharing this for a reason. I am hanging my shingle again. For 4 years I have poured my heart out on here about my entire life. Its time to help you all get to where you need and want to be. And I am asking you to trust your family or personal needs into my care. I make the same promise I have kept my entire career. I will NEVER leave you broken. An I will certainly never leave you broke. I don’t discharge my families when they go through a rough patch financially. I love using my gift. You may have noticed I have never taken a dime for any thing here, I do not sell ads like some. This audience that you all are was hand picked. I have never connected to the internet, other then this WordPress sight.
Last check this blog has had visitors from 65 countries ( that I know of ) and followers from at least 25 that I know of. That’s not my doing. It is no accident. You all are here for a reason. I am here to help.
When Mike Carey came along and was willing to join with this mission, I was and still am ecstatic. Why? Because Mike and I share a similar passion. We both love to use our gifts to help others. We both will never leave anyone hanging until they are well. I am gong to show you a real life example of how God has already used Mike in my own family. Most of you know I have 2 grown boys, and 2 baby girls. Well, babies to me, they are 5 & 10.
This is my baby Shelbi..
My baby had 72 sticks with a needle that her doctor insisted on to test for allergies. For nothing. Next up he said – blood work! No. No way.. But what can I do? Better late then never – I called our resident gifted man in the healing of diseases. He said ” you took her where” ? ( made me feel even lower lol) – No more he said , get her on the phone with me tonight for a minute or two. I was thinking to myself- Hello!! What was I thinking? Tonight Shelbi said hello to Mr. Mike for about 2 minutes, and 10 minutes later he says ” oh she has some poisoning in her system and a viral infection. Go to your local health food store and get 2 items ( like 5 bucks each) and in 7 days it will be gone.
HUH?? What? Why did I forget the other people I have sent to him who had major diseases go away? Anyways no blood work and that’s Mikes gift.
If you need physical healing – take advantage of this gift right in front f you . If its healing in any other area, call on me. I work on a case by case basis, until the job is done. I want you all to take this email address down.
Dontlabelmykid2@gmail.com – to help with Tj-
that is your direct line to me. I will be adding a toll free number as well but for now get me there. I will develop with you what I call a “Plan of Care ”
There is NO issue you can throw at me that I havent done a hundred times. Confidentially we will put it all in place and work it out financially It sure would make me feel good if you all would entrust your needs to Mike and I. I thank you in advance . .
With all we are trying to accomplish through this platform of Don’t Label My Kid! It would really make a big difference if you all would commit to utilizing the gifts that Mike and I have- for your own family. so that we can keep on helping others and continue trying to do what we do ..put pedophiles away -heal families -help addicts- bring families together and just grow spiritually , emotionally and physically.
My older son is 22 and a sharp shooter in the Army, full-time college student and full time worker. I am praying he never reads this, and am fairly confident he wont. He does not take much interest in my writing.. ( I know, I don’t get it either). For the purpose of this story I will call him ” stinky “. It takes place in a quiet southern town about 50 miles northwest of Orlando Fl. in about 1995. In a grocery store called Publix.
Stinky was 2 years old and riding on the kid part of the shopping cart, you know – the part where they just stare at you until something on the shelf catches their eye, they lunge for it, you swerve, they cry? Yeah that type deal. Well Stinky and I were at about the half way point of our shopping trip when I noticed a slight scent coming from the same vicinity that Stinky was sitting. At first I panicked of course but then as a new first time dad would do, I ignored it and reminded myself that I had out a ” pull up” on him right before we came in the store.
This was right when pull-ups had come out, and were a true Godsend, just in case. We went about another aisle down and I noticed the scent was getting stronger and I admit I began to worry a little. Not knowing what exactly to do in the middle of this giant store, I began to slow my roll and let the others pass me by while strategically heading to the diaper/wipes/paper towel isle. As I approached this isle, I happened to glance down at the newly waxed tiled floor of the grocery.
We got a problem.
I remember thinking to myself that I had not recalled seeing any little brown dots peppering the tiles before. I quickly grabbed the nearest bag of paper towels, ripped them open and leaned down, to wipe-the dots off the tiles around me. I remember going in reverse, and wiping up a few tiles behind us as well. It was then I realized that I had no idea this breadcrumb poop trail had been going on. I just remember ripping through the paper towels and making sure I grabbed ” Bounty ” the “quicker picker upper”. Within seconds I found myself going into a kneeling position, one hand on the cart ( pulling backwards) and one hand full of paper towels wiping poop drops as I went backwards dodging other shoppers and acting as if I was looking for my contact or something.
Within a minute I was zipping back at high rate of speed, weaving and bobbing between other shoppers. I was good. So good that within about 4 minutes and 2 rolls of Bounty, I had reached the end of the trail..finally. I wiped up the last splatter and casually made my way to the men’s room. You see, new parent or not, I am a smart cookie. I remembered to bring an emergency outfit and pull-up for such a time as this. I am not bragging here, but within 5 minutes my boy and I were calmly exiting the men’s room as if nothing had gone down..er, well you get it .
As I calmed down we shopped some more, and finally decided we had all we needed. I gave myself a little mental pat on the back for handling it as well as I did. We rolled up to the checkout counter and waited our turn. I think I was playing peek a boo or something as we waited. Heck I thought, nobody needs to know about this one. It was our little secret. So finally the line died down, and we pulled up and began unloading our groceries. The checkout girl was kind enough to help and we began to toss things on the belt. About 2 minutes into it, I noticed the girl making a funny face and she began to cough. Not the ” I have a cold ” cough, but a sickly and frowning face type of cough. Within a minute she began to let out a quiet but audible shriek and then said then she said these words ” What is that smell?”
I’m cool – I mean I cleaned it all up. I thought.
As it turns out, dad forgot to check one spot- the spot directly below the kid’s poop shoot in the cart. As it turns out I guess the girl happened to pullout a package of ground beef from directly below Stinky. The package had little brown droppings on it. Before I could get her attention, she was on the store loudspeaker begging for assistance on isle 4. It went something like ” clean up on isle 4 ” and by the time she had run her big mouth all over the speaker, a parade of bag boys, and a few managers had made their way up to see and smell what went on.
I remember a collective ” ooh gross ” from the customers in line behind me while scattering to another line, me begging to pay the bill, and stinky just smiling through it all. What started as a proud daddy and son shopping day, ended as a walk of shame to the parking lot in slow motion. A group of bag boys were sent to follow us and retrieve the cart so they could rinse and scrub it. I humbly put Stinky in his car seat and we drove off into the moon-light.
To this day I cannot eat raisinets or milk-duds. I know, I know its gross.
Did you know that lower back pain (which is a worldwide complaint) most times is pain referred from another part of the body and has nothing to do with the back? Usually it is a result of the Occipital bone being out. Since the Occipital bone is a part of the brain, chiropractor cannot usually adjust it. However there are 2 herbs that each have a frequency which will cause it to go back in very quickly.
In the last 4 years I have written about many topics from parenting to depression, addiction to PTSD, medication, suicide, therapy and so much more. It seems like a lot but as I have always said, I don’t speak on anything that I haven’t lived through personally or at the very least studied professionally. In the beginning I thought writing about so many different types of issues would make it seem like life is filled with nothing but bad stuff. However I learned two important things in the last four years; I am not alone, and people need to hear from others who can relate.
So far I have mostly discussed all the different types of problems and medical mental health struggles and family issues that exist. And there’s plenty to discuss no doubt. . Up until now, I have not really delved into how we deal with these issues as we go through these dark trials. Its imperative that we have some way of staying grounded during these times we walk through the valley.
It’s very important that we have some sort of an anchor to keep us from drifting too far away from reality when we feel so lost in such darkness, and with so few friends. As most of you have understood, if I shared my life experiences, some of these times are gone through very much alone and there are not many people around that can relate. Unless you really search. And most of the time we don’t feel like searching for anything when we’re barely able to wake up every day and get dressed. Having been through very traumatic times that caused depression, and nightmares and loneliness and sometimes the inability to function normally. I can understand the darkness that prevails if we allow it to.
There’s a few things in my life that I can honestly say, are the only reasons that I am here today, both physically and mentally spiritually and emotionally. I know that if it took those things to keep me saying then all of you also had to have some way that you’ve coped something that held you together. and some? To that you’ve used to make it to the point, we are able to even write about it today on a blog. The truth is professionally I’ve seen that it isn’t a very high percentage of us that are able to make it even this far- in fact we are a very blessed group of people to have come through what we have and able to share it with other people. Speaking of sharing it with other people that is a critical piece in healing. It isnt always about us -the spotlight can’t always be on us even in our dark times and the truth is some of the ways out of these dark times the very quickest are by reaching out to others and pulling them up with the knowledge we have.
Sometimes when you need a friend the most you got to go and be a friend to someone. . Sometimes when you need encouragement the most you need to go and encourage someone. And even sometimes when you need financial help, you need to reach out to someone who you know could use what little bit you have and help them.. The point is as tempting as it is when we are in these dark times, the worst thing we can do is send out invitations for a pity party. I have always found some good advice from a guy that sings a song full of truth abut these times. I would like to share this song with you and I’ve shared the one with lyrics so you can read along… Please take 3:38 minutes out and watch it…at the end of this post. It may just resonate with you somehow…( you may have to click on it to play it)
So as I kick off the on going series on how we have made it to the point we are, I would ask that you all share any advice that you have. I shared all the problems lol- now I need help with looking at many solutions. I am leaving this wide open, and welcome any guest posts on the topic. Like I said – the more you share the more therapeutic it is.
I had forgotten why I discontinued watching television about 2 years ago until yesterday when I glanced at some news while I was out running errands. It is so discouraging and depressing not to mention embarrassing to see what we as a society have come to tolerate to accept and sacrifice ethically morally and spiritually. It’s clear that as a whole this country is so confused about its own identity and yet the numbers of people seeking the truth or seeking out the manual for a living (the Holy Bible) decreases all the time according to statistics.
I don’t know how you operate but in my world if something isn’t working and I can’t fix it I usually as a last resort at least go to the manual. Sure I should have done it at first but I’m not like that so I don’t. So occasionally I’ll spend a lot of wasted effort on things I could have save time on by going directly to the manual. So we have clearly failed in what we have tried to accomplish in this world in this United States of America yet we refuse to go to the manual. The only reason I can think of is selfishness not wanting accountability and a spiritual battle that has taking this country by the throat and threatened with a sword of our enemy to back off from goodness and righteousness.
So no matter what you have subscribed to in the past and no matter what you grew up with if your life is not going well and you see around you what I see- maybe its time we look at the manual and see what it says. To my knowledge to this day not one single word has ever been found to return void.
And by the way I didn’t write it so please don’t shoot the messenger! The bottom line is that nobody’s ever disproved the bible and every single word in that is a promise that it will never come back void- yet so many are afraid to touch or open it. I think that is evidence of itself that we all know the truth deep down inside. If my neighbor hung Superman signs all over his house and in his yard put up Superman posts it wouldn’t bother me a bit I realize who Superman is and what Superman is not. If my neighbor put up crosses and pictures of Christ all over his house and yard and it irritated me that would raise some questions because if I really knew it was no existing being or no God of the universe or no Jesus Christ of Nazareth exists, it wouldn’t affect me just like Superman wouldn’t. Give that some thought for a minute. Why do some get that irritated feeling in their gut at the name of JESUS? Does this make you angry- JESUS! JESUS! JESUS!
If so, why?
People spending millions of dollars to take down a cross or hide bibles in school classes just so they don’t have to hear or see about Jesus Christ? They have become more tolerant of cults that support things like raping children, sharia law and chopping off arms and vaginal mutilation for young girls. Makes no sense does it?
I mean how would you look at me if I made the news for spending millions and protesting in the streets how offended I am by my neighbors Superman gear? You would think I should be locked up somewhere, right? LOL!
Its like a 3rd grader plugging his ears when he doesn’t want to hear the answer the way he wanted the adult to say it. Its very sad and sometimes I’m ashamed and embarrassed for our own kind. Its sad as we should be leading the way in sharing good news and hope with people.
We act like the stubborn husband who refuses to ask directions, all the while his wife is holding a road map in one hand and a GPS in another. In this case God is holding out His Word, in His hands to us..
No matter what the reason we have gotten off track-God made us a blessed country by surrendering and submitting to His name. Now we have withdrawn from doing this corporately, and we see the handiwork of our own decisions.
My question is why is everyone refusing to test it out? Maybe its time we ” rebelled ” against the world system we now are stuck in of hatred, violence, and the removal ( in our hearts) of surrendering as one nation under GOD?