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My Own Recent World Of Pain… And Depression…Ever Had Someone Bring Up Your Past To Hurt You?

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I’ve been out awhile. I could not tell you how long. Don’t care either. I’m surprised I ever returned to Blogging. My life has been peppered with trauma. In my immediate family we’ve walked through addiction,. Depression, suicide, domestic violence, you name it. I don’t know if you ever ” get used ” to the trauma..However you do learn to cope,

The issues at hand this last week or two were especially troubling to me. Much like the sudden suicide of my brother, and death of both my only grandparents, there was and still is a certain finality about the whole thing.

If you’ve ever lost a loved one unexpectedly, you know that the feelings that troubled you were very different then the typical feeling ” blue” or down. There is a certain finality, a certain heaviness of heart that is present. Those heavy burdens do not rest at night so you can. You cannot shelve them so you can do your job well, or be there for your family. In that sense they are a paralyzing set of feelings.

The emptiness that comes with betrayal, unforgiveness or other human behavior can be as severe as the trauma of having your brother shoot himself in the head after being molested by his catholic priest. I know this for a fact because I have lived through both. This time was different though. I don’t recall ever feeling the way I did ( and still do honestly) before with any family problems, marriage issues or even divorce.

I knew right when this thing started to take its toll that it would need to be published . I didn’t want to publish it, not then, not now not ever. That is how feelings work. They try to get us to believe that we are in charge of what will happen in our future.

So, there were a couple of issues (still present) that appeared to start at the same time. I feel like the one that would most easily be related to by my fellow bloggers would be the issue in my life that has to do with unforgiveness.

I am learning the price of unforgiveness. The cost of refusing to allow God or anybody to help you be able to forgive someone who hurt another. I’m not refusing to forgive anyone.

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The thing is the forgiveness was refused to me by a loved one. Things that happened over the years, situations I have had to work through with depression, addiction etc. have now resurfaced over a decade later and from my own family. Most of my family was supportive of me when I tried to get help in several rehabs, spent years trying different meds for major depression, even though I knew most meds for depression do more harm than good. I didn’t know what else to do. I didnt ask to be an addict anyways. But boy am I paying the price for it regardless.

If you are an addict or former addict you likely have run into it somewhere by somebody, Here is the thing to consider; there are only a handful of people who are close enough to you to have the goods on you in such a way that even if your life has totally changed, they can reach into their memory tool belt and start reminding you in great detail just how much damage you did by each individual season in your life.

If you are like me and have been through depression, addiction and 7 hip surgeries which sapped me of everything I had financially , emotionally, physically and spiritually then you have people out there somewhere that at any given moment could bring memories up and hurt you.

In many ways that is what is going on in my life but with a slight twist. The root reason any person would bring up the past would be unforgiveness, However beyond the unforgivness, some might even take offense when you are having even a tiny bit of success in your life. Why should you get to enjoy a moment in your life until you have suffered as long or longer as the people you hurt along the way.

Now we are in an entire different category than just unforgiveness. We are seeing much more than unforgiveness but the bitterness which comes from unforgiveness. That bitterness wants to hurt and tear down as much as possible. In my case it took me many years after I was doing better to even forgive myself and anyone who knows me will tell you that is how I have been all my life. Much harder on me than anyone could ever be. So when a person you love who has known you a very long time or even a sibling decides to reopen those wounds for you believe it takes a special person to enjoy distributing that kind of pain.

The incident this time was especially final. For lack of a better term I just mean it was much different from a quick reference to the past to make a point . The shock for me was that I could tell by the way the play by-play came so naturally with exact times and dates of every error I ever made . In

Perhaps all these years I was fooling myself about having been forgiven. Whatever the case I was totally caught off guard and more significant than that I felt wounded to the point of becoming physically sick. I have not slept or felt normal in two weeks. So in the past weeks I have thought it all through and a question kept popping in my head. ” How come I have never allowed anyone in my life to have that much power over me with their words, but that day I melted like candle wax.”

The answer came in a few minutes and was simple. Not many people in our lives have that kind of power, meaning not just details of wrong, but the ability to make it personal to them and accuse you of robbing them of quality of life. There are always a few people ( usually family members, spouses etc) who have a much greater stash of weapons in their tool belt of memories.

Many people may ” know” about your problem maybe it was even on the news. Who cares, look at Bill Clinton. He has absorbed truthful and embarrassing accusations with proof that he was guilty yet he never even thought of stopping public spotlight. None of the people who ” knew” had the right authority or tools. However, can you imagine if he had not had Hillary trained as well he did? She had and still has the power to drop him in a New York second if he steps out of line again. Fortunately for him, she is as greedy as he is, and has ridden his coat tails all the way to where she got.

My point is that we are always vulnerable to someone. On the other side of the coin if I had to name one lesson I learned during this, is I found out that as a Christian, my security is not 100% in Christ as it should be. My concern should be for His reaction to my life, not any human. It’s just very hard when you have a small circle of family that has the ability to make things hurt more with their words than the average person.

We have all made mistakes. Do not let someone control your emotions by reminding you of your past.

TJ

This Is A Real Sign Of The Times. Tebow Outed For Waiting For Marriage For Sex…

Although they stopped short of mocking Tim Tebow for maintain his vow to wait for marriage for sex, it’s so close you can almost feel it .

I think it’s amazing that it’s become so rare for anyone to uphold their Christian beliefs that if they do it makes news. People love it much more when everyone is living in sin so they won’t feel so bad about their lives. So make the guy sound weird.

I for one am absolutely impressed that a guy with all his attributes and game has done what he has with the pressure of NFL And MLB ” players” all around him.

When I say ” players” I’m not referring to the sports they are involved in. I mean the strip clubs, affairs and domestic violence that is so very prevelent in professional sports today.

I give Tebow props for putting God before man.( Or woman). I doubt we will see that too much in the press but I’m glad there is at least one guy I can point to when my kids ask about things .

Tj

https://www.mercurynews.com/2015/11/30/tim-tebow-dumped-by-former-miss-universe-refusing-sex/

My Favorite Cowboy Took 1st In Texas This Weekend! Watch Him Go 8 Seconds!

I have to share this because the last time I shared anything about my son Jesse, the bull rider, it was that he was on the hospital with a broken leg and a new rod in his leg. Well, he proved last night in Texas he is back. Took First place! I know its my own kid, but it ain’t bragging if its true…lol

Have You Something To Celebrate? A New Book? A Published Article? How About Just Good News In Your Family Or Career? Illness Healed? We Want To Share It! Let Us Know!

We all get so caught up in all the negativity in what is going on in today’s world that we thought a monthly post highlighting some really good things would be cool. You can just use your first name unless you are alright with the publicity. It can be something you are thankful for like finding a job after a long absence, a healing of a sickness that has been plaguing you or your family.

 

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If you have good news form the writing world, like a book published, or an article published, or any milestone no matter how big or small. We have spent a year complaining so why not continue this thanksgiving spirit throughout the year?

Here is all you do. Drop me an email at tim@dontlabelmykid.com  and put ” Good News” in the subject line. Then give a brief summary of what happened that you are excited about and thankful for . If you want to keep your name a secret just use initials and if you would like the publicity just use your entire name and any other details you want included!

Its free and fun! We all need a reversal of mindset sometimes, share with us what has happened to you and we will post it!

TJ

My Pain- And How I Use Writing To Self Medicate. As A Matter Of Fact I Am Trashed Right Now…

**Note-this post was voted in the top 5 best reads of all posts on WordPress for this day June 16th 2017 – ( by the DLMK team)


 

I am using right now . Just so my junkie friends know I am keeping this legit.

Lately I have found myself writing a little more than usual. I just have felt much more at ease when I am entrenched and entranced in a post I am working on. It may sound odd but even when I am just breaking to do regular daily things that we all do like using the restroom, some chores, maybe a meal now and again , I feel that kind of urge to hurry and finish so I can get back to my blog.

It’s not healthy. I am a counselor, an adviser and consultant on mental health, behavioral health and addictions and have been for 20 years and pretty darn good at it I might add. I do not have issues with balance, and stress, or addictive patterns anymore. Or do I? I realized today ( which happens to be my birthday ) – Oh, thank you!  Anyway I realized that I have to deal with this. So I stared at the laptop for a few hours today but refrained from posting. I abstained to prove that I have it, and it does not have me.

Who am I fooling. The only difference between me today and me 23 years ago, is I am using writing and reading others writing as my fix, my medicine to mask the pain or stress I have. Back in the gap, I would have just popped 4-5 mg of Zannys ( xanax) maybe an oxy 80mg and slammed a few shots to ease my pain.

 It’s truly the same idea. Maybe I have achieved a certain level of maturity in that I wont reach for the pills and booze now, but my keyboard is taking the place of it.

 

I am writing about this for two reasons. First because as a recovered addict, I’d feel like a hypocrite if I did not share when I struggle and make others feel like they are weird because they have these type issues come up. Second, because the therapist needs therapy right now. I need help to break this open and get to the bottom of it. There is great revelation and healing that can come from expressing feelings, whether through the written word, the spoken word, or any other way one can get things out in the open.

I once worked for a psychiatrist who after just a short while entrusted me with completing all of her initial assessments. It’s a big deal because that means each new patient who came into her office did not meet with her, but me. I conducted what is called a psycho-social assessment which was a 10 page interview process that is designed to give the clinician doing the assessment enough information to make an official diagnoses from the same DSM-V that the doctors use.  I would make my decision and then pass it to the doctor to review . After a short time she just signed whatever I gave her. It was a high compliment.

One day we got to talking about our lives and personal family histories and all. After sharing a few things that had happened, were happening and may happen she was speechless. She could not understand how I even made it as far as I did , much less be so good. She named me ” the wounded healer”. To this day I see myself as a wounded healer.

So back to my problem now, I am aware that I am self-medicating. I have written enough posts already to carry me on for a year or more. I have no reason to keep on this marathon blog session. However the minute I try to lay my head down at night I realize I do not care for this uncomfortable silence in my brain. So within a half hour I am usually back up from my attempt to rest. I reach for this , and so the story goes. I hate it. I hate it that for 3 days I have closed my eyes for about 45 minutes per day if that.

Now the hard part to figure out which stress factor in my life has me right now. There are plenty to go around. Then the therapist in me wants to get all clinical and fancy like I am back at the shop with a new patient. Then I think thoughts like this ” Well I am sure since it is my birthday, my subconscious memory is playing old tapes about things I left undone, or as we EXPERTS call it  – ” unfinished business” in my life .

Then reality hits and in frustration I blurt out to my screen ” What a load of crap that is”.

Now I am still nowhere. Or am I ? Maybe by verbalizing this and sharing my true feelings. I  might get some relief. Or maybe it wont get me relief and poor me has to suffer a week or two of this. Either way I need a remedy to this. So in my case in my situation today I have chosen to do something different. Anything that might throw me off of this pattern I am in.

I made a decision.

My decision is to review my perspective a bit. I needed to reflect on some good things and quit buying into all the lies the enemy of my soul wants me to by into. For example what would I have thought 4 years ago when I had 16 followers and could not find the motivation to even post because I knew only a few would see it and out of those few maybe one or two might like it. Boy now those were hard times, I tell you what, compared to that I am in heaven right now. I can literally write a post about anything I want and know that a whole bunch of people from dozens of countries will see it in minutes. What the heck am I complaining about? Too much opportunity? Wow, poor me.

So you see what once would have been a dream to me — to have an audience and an abundance of things to share about somehow has been renamed in my brain to be a big problem. The amazing twists that our minds can out on us.

Now as I finish up this post, I am left with a different perspective. Now I am thinking – wow, what a roll I have been on, but I have got to mix in a way to get some sleep. It’s not healthy to not sleep, but it is healthy and just fine to roll out post after post with good content. I plan to keep it up until it naturally slows down, but never believe the lie that doing what I love to do is somehow stressful. Lack of sleep is my issue. Not blogging.

When I started this post I had no idea how it would end. Now I see that I am just fine and have much less to be stressed about then I thought. The sleep deprivation is likely causing the twisted thinking. My blogging is fine. Right on track with my goals and the reason I started this thing to share my experiences with as many as is possible.

I encourage everyone to share things when in binds like mine.  It matters not how you share but let another human in. It does two things.;  Resets perspective & identifies any changes you can make today. Otherwise, sit back and enjoy the ride!

Have Any Of These Thoughts Run Through Your Mind?

Any of these thoughts ring a bell?

  • Life is not worth it
  • I hate myself
  • I have screwed things up too much to be fixed now.
  • Nobody likes me/ I have no real friends
  • Everyone else is doing well but me
  • I wonder if anyone would even miss me
  • Addiction sucks and I will always be stuck into this hell.
  • What would be the best way to kill myself, gun? Jump off a bridge?
  • I am so depressed, it’s never going to get better.
  • What would God do or say to me if I did off myself?
  • Nobody understands the pain I am in, I cannot explain it.
  • Why does all the bad stuff happen to me?
  • Where is God?
  • Nobody in my family loves me anymore anyways.
  • I am useless. Worthless.
  • I have no purpose in my life
  • I am not good at anything.
  • I wonder if a lot of people would come to my funeral.
  • I cannot go on its too painful
  • I wish I could talk to someone, but I am scared they might judge me

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These are a partial list of questions that have run through my own mind in the past which prompted me to reach out for help, in several areas. Even with all my education and experience, I still suffered through the same pain and hopelessness that many others do.

The difference in me now, and then is I did have someone who like me had been through the same stuff, and was a professional in the field as well. He was able to lead me to the right resources to get the right help with nobody knowing until I wanted them to know.

Folks, that’s what I am here for today. I am choosing to spend the rest of my career helping people and entire families get through some big hurdles. I can help you its 100% confidential, and I promise  will save you thousands of dollars in fancy offices with lots of suits walking around. If you are having any of those thoughts or similar,like I used to, then get in touch with me email tim@dontlabelmykid.com or if its urgent call my cell 386-675-7549.

Don’t forget your friends and family who might need help if you don’t. Please share this with your readers if you don’t mind so I can get the word out that death is not the answer. Suicide is not the solution, and addiction does not have to own them.

Again- Please take a minute to share this with your people as I cannot reach but my only group.

Peace & Hope

TJ

How To Parent Like A Boss- But Not Act Like One…

I spent about a third of my career living with and working with some of the most severely troubled kids as far as behaviors go. My task was to turn the behavior around so these kids could actually function in public settings. Not to just ” get by ” but to excel.

I was able to do so at a very high rate of success no matter what the family situation, or the life circumstances, as long as the kid could understand what  we were trying to accomplish. As long as they could function independently. For those with borderline IQ and developmental issues, I accomplished the same results but with a different system.

For now anyway I will share about how I worked with just your average kid. I’m going to lay out some tips for you to take control of your home and in such a way that everybody feels like they won..

I’ve written quite a bit on tips for parenting and different ideas. However I’ve not gone into a lot of detail on specific plans simply because I’m not sure that I will have an interactive audience and that people will appreciate what I’m going to lay out. So I’m going to try this today and see what the response is like – if you feel that it’s helping you and you’d like to hear the rest of the story ( which is not going to happen in one post) please let me know through your comments that you would like to hear the rest. This is something that took me over a decade to learn by experience and it’s not something I can lay out in one post but I can give you a great idea of how to change what you’re currently doing enough that it will make a difference in your life, in a short series.

I’m going to go ahead and call this an in-depth series on parenting and if it goes well we will  make it an ongoing series with the intent for you to ask questions and I answer questions according to your specific need and situation.  If I feel that it’s not drawing enough interest I will change it from in-depth-series to a drowned one. That is totally up to you.

The information I’m going to share with you will include information that I was paid by the state to train parents on, to train entire school districts of teachers on,  to work in home with families on,  as well as my five years as a living foster parent to around 35 teenagers.  I also have 4 kids of my own ages 6-22.

I’m going to start by naming a few basic fundamentals that must be in place before anything will be successful.

1- As a parent yelling and screaming at your child is about the worst thing you can do no matter what the circumstance.

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2-Your interactions with your child on a daily basis should include at least 10 positive comments to every 1 negative or criticizing statement. ( Yes it’s possible) The reason for this is simple; negative reinforcement ( yelling or putting one down NEVER changes behavior patterns for more than a minute, and hour, a day if your lucky. If you want real change, you need to identify what it is specifically you want to see happen from your child, tell them, and then wait. Keep waiting. Wait until you  ” catch them ” doing what you wanted. Now its high praise time. You don’t need to buy them an xbox or anything, just some verbal praise reminding them of what they did so well. Keep training your brain to catch them doing what they are supposed to , and keep reminding them that you noticed and giving them an age appropriate token of appreciation. For example a 7-year-old might like a hug. A 15-year-old might like a comment like,  ” you are really impressing me, keep this up and maybe we can talk about that ( enter whatever thing they have been bugging you about getting) soon!

3- Without specific skills and expectations for your child it’s impossible to succeed because there is no mutual understanding. Don’t assume your child can read your mind. Always incorporate the skills I will teach you into your daily dialogue with you child. I am going to provide you with a bunch of social skills to incorporate into your home. These should become common to hear in your daily conversations. There are dozens we can add but start slow with the major ones.

4- Do away with terms like ” be good ”  or ” don’t be bad” . Your idea of good maybe totally different then your child thinks of good as. Train yourself to start Identifying​ specifically what you expect . For example instead of  ” Jimmy , you be good while we are gone ” , say ” Jimmy please don’t forget to finish math, make your bed, and follow instructions of the sitter.”

5- Never, ever say  ” because I said so, that‘s why “- because – well just dont.

On of the major problems parents have is not keeping things realistic. Especially in issuing consequences. I can’t tell you how many times I have heard a parent say to their 10-year-old something like this – ” you keep on screwing up like this boy and you can forget about summer baseball league.

WHAT? This just in…10 year old kids have an attention span of a few minutes. You think they can connect on that kind of consequence when they are still thinking if they will get ice cream for dinner? Keep it real, and age appropriate. By the way, if the kid does comprehend that baseball might be out, whats the point of trying at anything now? Now you lost him for good.

The trick to all these pieces is to weave them into a motivation system that you design for your child that is permanent – a system that you both know backwards a forward and leaves 100% of the outcome up to the child. It’s all their choice. In a well-developed system, there is no power struggle, no yelling, at all. Simple, because the options are laid out beforehand clearly for the child. If she wants to earn x, she does this. If she does not care to follow any instructions she issues herself a consequence. No shocking angry threats, just a simple choice for the child, and they no what the outcome will be whether they do the right thing or not.

I have already gone further then I intended to without even knowing if people want and need what I have to say. Maybe you have parenting all figured out. You may not need me. However if you don’t fall into that group and like the rest of us you have struggled before, then I need you to make it known. Tell me through your comments what your area of need is and if you will benefit from this type teaching. Let me know that you will be involved in this series or not. I will not continue if nobody is willing to share that they need help.

Skills for today to start incorporating into your home.

1-Following instructions

A- look at the person

B-say ok.

C- complete the task 

4-check back when finished
2-Accepting No

A-look at the person 

B-say ok

( No eye rolling, body language or mumbling)

Problem
Solving

Teach your child to use the SODAS method when they cannot  make up their minds on an issue. Role  play with them on this method so when  nobody is around to discuss a problem with your child has a way to make the right choices.

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O-optiins

D-disadvantage

A-advantage

S-solution



If you need more specific and personalized information then what you see in the series, that is when you contact me for a personalized plan of care. 

 I have never turned anyone away for not being able to pay some sky-high fee. I will gladly help you put a system in place that is perfect for your family.

Contact me at tim@dontlabelmykid.com to set up a virtual appointment and discuss a personalized plan of care for your situation.

For now – lets see if you all need what I have to offer. Please make yourself known.

tj

 

 

Diversified Church Is Where It’s At People ..Take A Peek At How We Get Down For The Lord..

People often ask me- what is the secret to a solid home church..so I put together a few clips from some services at my home church..it’s all about diversity..

Attention Bloggers- Hurt Human Here- Can Anyone Relate?

This is from a new follower named Valerie. Am I the only one to say I will pray for her? Has anyone else felt like she does? I can tell you that it takes much to get to the point of sharing like this to an entire blogging community where she knows nobody.

How about showing some Don’t Label My Kid! love? She can read your responses and I bet they would be worth a million bucks right now. If you would like to communicate with her in private then message me tjpetri16@gmail.com with your contact info I will pass along. But any encouragement would be nice…

At the end of the day this is what we are all here for , right?

tj

 

In part, we are a result of our upbringing; in part, genetics; in part environment. But I believe in free will as well. We all make choices, good or bad, and we have to live with the results.
There’s a country-western song about hearing voices in your head. I do all the time. I hear my grandparents, parents, friends. I listen to them because they loved me.

I’m alone now, sick, in a terrible spot, and scared. Now I’m reaching out to God and praying he’ll catch me.

If you’re scared and alone too, please say hi. Maybe we won’t be so scared if we share. They say a burden shared is a burden halved.

 

UPDATE- Valerie just shared some details of her situation, so I asked permission to share with y’all in case you know of a church or a person or group that can help with any of her needs..so read below and please touch base with me if you wish to make contact and I will put you in touch..she lives in Mass. BTW

My house needs cleaning and repair, writing and painting, junk removal. I have no money. Ex declared bankruptcy. He is on mortgage but not deed. My mortgage company called in my note. I owe $406k. They’ll foreclose unless I can fix and sell asap. Have credit score of 480, no car, no family, nowhere to go live. Can’t/won’t leave my only family who are my pets. Need everything. Have nothing. The more scared and upset I get, the sicker I get. My only friend leaving on our dream vacation in two days for two weeks without me because I’m too sick. I want to sell my family house, find a mobile home or something for $100k or less to buy if I get money for my house near Brimfield, ma, to be near her. No idea what to do. In constant panic mode. My address is in north Weymouth, ma 02191. Hot market my area. Thought I’d live and die here.

“Name It Claim It”- “Blab It Grab It” Type Of Faith And Other Carnival Type Of Entertainment…

There is nothing wrong with Christians or pastors being filthy rich. The bible says – the LOVE of money is the root of all evil. Not money itself. I saw an article naming some well-known evangelists as false prophets. The only reason they gave was their net worth. They should go do some homework. Pat Robertson, sold all he owned as he believed God called him to do and start the 700 club. Sixty  years of hard international ministry and he’s worth ninety million. He even is said to be ” part owner of a diamond mine” – OOH… SHHH! Really? I hope God does not hear about that! LOL God made the arrangements.

Jealousy is not becoming.

Are there false money hungry preachers out there? Of course. But understand that wealth is not equal to false prophet.

Right off the bat, I am not a licensed pastor, minister or anything. I am giving my opinion on issues from the perspective of a plain old Christian. I am worn and torn, used and bruised as the next. I’ve been stuck like Chuck, broke as a joke and sicker then a dog. Despite all those things, the only constant in my life, and I do mean ONLY constant, has been the Word of God. It says right there in it will never return void. It does not lie. However sometimes people who preach it sugar coat it, and twist it and act as if they can use God like a vending machine.

Nope. But healing is real. I have seen plenty of miracles with my own eyes. However they were at God’s timetable, using who He wanted and how He wanted . Especially when He wanted.

Miracles do happen, and God shows himself in huge ways. However we play by His rules.

Contrary to popular belief, no Christian, with or without a robe or collar has this routine;

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{ Yes Lord, good morning. Here’s my order-Ill take 2 healing jobs, upgrade on my Escalade,  a 100k financial bonus and make my wife more sane  – In JESUS name!-( then stick your dollars in the machine right side up, and BOOM! Its yours.}

If that were the case what we need heaven for? We could make all things as we want right here and now. The fads that come by once in a while and are well televised often end up with a preacher in prison. Many times with good intentions but poor understanding of the Word. Other times preachers are just taking advantage of people and they get what they deserve. I am not sure many of those could even be saved, but that’s not my call. I do know God is not cool with repping Him for profit..

So anyhow, what IS the real deal then? What should we expect as a Christian here on earth? Well, there are two separate laws. There are laws that are available to anyone, no matter if they worship their Aloe plant or Jesus. For example gravity. Any one of us falls off the roof, we all gettin bruised! Now with that said, I have seen many times where it seems supernatural power had to be present for the person to be breathing.. personally I think believers get first ups on angels in cases like that, but at the end of the day we walk off of a roof, and we go boom.

Next is the law of reciprocity or the idea that when you give you get back . That seems to apply to most anyone. Now I am NOT talking about tithes and offerings. I mean straight up generous people seem to be rewarded for that. God calls it sowing and reaping in the Bible, but you get the idea. Another is the power of the tongue. No matter what you believe, words can hurt from any mouth. There is power in your words.

Okay so now what is the Christian benefit package that differs from the non-believer? According to the Word, eternal life in heaven with the Lord tops the list. But what about now, here on earth? Well, as a child of God who receives Christ as savior – you can now exercise some rights you could not before. You have special privileges and the promise that He will never leave you or forsake you while these horrible trials on earth must go on. Its kinda sorta like when you are a youngster going through scary times, like being scared of the dark, or your first dentist trip it feels just a little bit better when papa or momma is sitting next to you, right? Same idea here. The Christian has the presence of the Lord that others choose not to have.  ( Psalm 27)

There are many books out there about spiritual authority – the authority of the believer, books about what rights the Christian realm. If you like an easy read with simple applications, I recommend Joyce Meyer, or Pat RobertsonJosh McDowell type books. Especially if you are a fairly new believer. If you are a glutton for cerebral torture but love the challenge and all,  pull up a few Watchmen Nee books… The Normal Christian life and many more.  I would stay away from anyone who you would see on Oprah, with rare exceptions, as she likes to weave the ” all roads lead to God path” which sadly for them does not fly with God, according to His word. The thought is really saying to Jesus Christ, ” Hey thanks for the effort, that torture and death and all to pay my penalty for sin, but, tell the Father I will be coming via another airline…

Don’t see that talk ever happening..

If you are a total atheist or someone who gets irritated at the very name of Jesus, I challenge to read a book that I found very helpful on my journey. It’s by Josh McDowell and called “ Lord, Liar, or Lunatic? Very short read and super interesting no matter who you are but especially if you are oriented towards science. Josh is a scientist, and was a full on atheist so ticked off about Jesus freaks creepin around him that he decided to scientifically shut them up..

The point I am making here is don’t let bad teaching ruin eternity. In the end we are all responsible to answer to God. His word says He has provided one way to get past our ugly sin, the blood of Christ. We simply choose to accept what He said, or reject. Our choice. We don’t get the option to not choose …and according to His Word that’s the deal.

( I didn’t write the Bible BTW, so don’t shoot the messenger..)

 

tj

 

If You Live A Roller Coaster Life Emotionally, Here Is A Reminder That You Possess The Controls Of The Rollar Coaster…( Reblog from Life Less Ordinary)

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50+ Countries That Visit This Blog ..Many With Giant Symbols Or Logos On Their Homepage , Yet When I Asked Who Was Unashamed Of The Gospel, I Have Under 20 Likes…Any Ideas? I Know You All Can’t Be Posers…

What would you say if your name was taken out of the lambs book? Would there just be a casual OK??

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Mental Health & Faith..Either Or? 

Can I be crazy and be a Christian? . Sometimes I think it’s required..There seems to be a lot of confusion today on whether or not mental health and Christianity can cohabitate. In  the same way  any  disease like diabetes or cancer could also live within  a Christian- so can Mental Health.

I  will be sharing my relationship with  mental health and my faith in detail over the next month or two, so stay tuned. This issue or simple question here though is  answered by the fact we live in a fallen world at present. The reason there is any sickness or death is because this is not heavan. 

If you have specific questions about faith and anything feel free to shoot me an email and I will try to post an answer in  a timely fashion.

I have been to the bottom​ in my life . Not ” rock bottom” – worse. I mean the place even rock won’t go! So I have been forced to decided if faith in anything is worth having . 

One last note , if you are wondering if a person with a below normal IQ or mentally incapacitated person can be a Christian, it simply depends on whether or not they can process the concept of original sin, the Gospel message, and understand the process of becoming a Christian. 

If the answer is no, then according to scripture they could not become a believer while here on earth . Despite what some cults teach today, we cannot stand in and be baptized for someone who doesn’t understand it, like some pinch hitter in a baseball game. Baptizing the dead is also not an option . As a matter of fact scripture says that baptism itself cannot save one anyhow. 

 In the  the same vein, they would by no means be separated from the love of God due to their inability to understand..

I have written over 500 posts on mental health, addiction, family issues, parenting, etc..but I can tell you this..what I have to share about faith dwarfs that. That would be due to my life experiences which have made it mandatory to search out truths on mamy differrent levels. 

As a matter of fact very soon we will have a minister who will be doing consulting and counseling from this site.  He’s a friend of mine, and will  discuss things like this with people and also those who want to discuss their  personal faith. I do that as well, from a peer to peer spiritual coaching standpoint, but some people prefer a licensed minister. ..

Talk soon about this! 

Tj


Special; On Parenting- For Parents Of Children With Disabilities…

If you caught my brief bio posted the other day you may have seen that I was responsible write each IEP ( Individual Education Plan ) for all of the students in the schools I  started. As a matter of fact, this blog title (in part)  was named after the unbelievable flaws I saw while doing this. The school boards typically don’t offer parents the help that your child is entitled to if they have a documented disability.

I like to think of a child with a ” disability ” as a child with a ” different ability”

At an IEP meeting, a  ” Staffing Specialist ” from the board is there to represent the board and throw in the hat what they are willing to offer as far as support. Exactly like the psychiatrist who tells you your son or daughter has some  ” disorder ” usually you are at the mercy of their opinion or decision. That should never be the case. However how are you to know what is right and what isn’t?

Simple – email me and I will help you get the help, assistance and services your child deserves!

dontlabelmykid2@gmail.com

( when you email me, please do not go into the entire story, but just the type of situation it is, and your best contact number- I like to hear it straight from you so I can get the details I want and need to help!)