Wow. Just Wow. A New Low For Humanity. You Just Have To Read This.

If you cannot read this it has been removed from Facebook.

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Is It Possible That A Few Punk Teens Could Actually Sit Back And Laugh While Video Taping A Disabled Man Drowning? Well It Did Happen…

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But its legal.

100% Guarenteed Best Parenting Advice -Period. If You Are A Parent- Read Now. I Doubt You Have Heard This…

 

I don’t recall ever being so bold as to proclaim that I have an answer that every single parent will find invaluable. I am going to put that out there today however. The reason is simple. I personally have lived it, its tried and tested and proven a winner in every venue I have worked in, lived in and taught in. Before I quickly share this, I feel under the circumstances I should at least give you a quick breakdown of my background in this area, so you know I am not blowing smoke from some Dr. Dobson book I just read.

My experience in parenting;

Live in foster parent to over 50 abused, neglected and very troubled teens. For over 4 years I had 6 living with me at a time, for anywhere from 7 to 12 months average. I was responsible to develop individual behavioral plans, treatment goals and teach social skills to each until they were ready to transition back into their home situation. In most cases I worked with the parents of the teens on parenting issues, planning and transition goals for both the parents and the teen.

Certified 4x by Father Flanagan’s Boys and Girls Town as a Family Teacher. I worked in the emergency shelter, group home as mentioned and in both boys and girls homes.

I was hired by the state, specifically the Department of Juvenile Justice to teach parenting to groups, and also lead groups to teens in the system.

I have managed/run several day programs, alternative schools for expelled youth, and while managing one school I was asked to train the entire teacher roster in central Florida on classroom management. Three counties worth, and using a skills and behavior management model that I developed.

The most recent alternative setting I was involved in was for kids who were expelled from public school, sent to the secure treatment facility for violent offenders-then expelled from there. I got them next. Sixty  kids from 8-18- many convicted felons. Gang members, one of which sadly was murdered one night after school near his home by a rival.  Within a year, using my own model for behavior and hiring a staff of 45 then training them, most were saying yes sir and doing well in school. Ready to transition back to public school.

I was nominated for Administrator of the year my first year- for that county. ( I hate awards and recognitions as I am not into it, and I am not in it for that). Nevertheless, my Executive Director made me attend the party at the Hilton Oceanside to announce the winner. I was the 2nd place guy, and the winner was a 20 year county judge who was retiring.

 

I also have 4 of my own. 2 boys -2 girls. Boys are up and out. My older son is in the Army reserves, a sniper/ weapons expert, full-time college student and full time worker as well. He took 30th in the nation out of 30k in 9mm marksmen and since then he has had many doors open, he chose military over law enforcement… ( he said he did not want to arrest his friends… : {  umm wait a minute, should I be worried about that statement, I remember thinking…what are his friends doing??? lol)

My younger son -19 is a professional bull rider and is currently around 20th in the world or so, and the current southern states champion in his circuit. He has made more money in the last year then I have in 10 years. I never made a lot, but when I was 19 I was begging for a 10 spot from my mom…so I am super proud.

My little babies are my heartbeat. 9&5 – I am not at all partial but I think they are at least in the top .0001% of cutest kids around….

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Ok, enough about my experience. It was necessary in this unusual scenario, for credibility but please understand I am not bragging at all. I am an imperfect man who has made far too many major mistakes in my lifetime for my liking.

As matter of fact the advice I am sharing now was birthed out of me being forced as a young dad, to either try to hide my problems and mistakes from my kids, put on the old happy daddy face and pretend I have it all together, or keep it legit, and lay it ALL on the table for my then young boys to absorb and possibly judge me on.

Let me reiterate one thing. There is nothing as a parent, even with the experience, training and degrees that I did long enough and consistently enough to call myself a role model parent and stick my chest out. Quite the contrary actually.  I grew up with a father that actually introduced me to all the WRONG things, and ways at a very early age that cost me many good years. Not blaming anyone for my problems, but sometimes I wish I would have had a decent shot at the starting line. It took, and still is taking me decades to untangle some of the crazy webs that have been woven in my brain since 6-8 years old.

My understanding of the value of women, the importance of choosing words carefully as you cannot “un-hear” -and that little issue of being fed alcohol while barely in double digits then not understanding why I was in withdrawals for many of my high school years really messed me up.

So it doesn’t really matter who caused what, or who is to blame. Kids don’t care. It is what it is to them. What you see is what you get.

Now, I will tell you what I decided. I decided to gamble. I laid it all on the line. Came clean with boys. Depression, addiction, everything. Yes, I felt like a loser at that moment. I would never ever trade it though. Never.

So the heart of the matter is this; You are not perfect. You will, if you have not already take a fall….that can become public to your family at best.. I can attest as the chief of all sinners that there is very little you can do to dance your way around, avoid, disguise, and evade issues that you know very well your kids will find out about or already know. It has NEVER worked in my 22 years as a parent and 25 years in this field.

The very best thing you can do for the respect and trust of your family, is come clean. Sit down and talk about what you are struggling with, what you are worried about, take ownership. Not just that though, you need to share your plans to remedy, and invite them to be a part, if appropriate. In my case, the first time I had a sit down of this type, I shared my on-going struggle with addiction to alcohol, and then revealed my plan to enter into an inpatient program.

That was the best move I ever made. Not only did I have a giant monkey off my back, but somehow my kids respected me more. Because of that dialogue many years ago, we have this open door, no fear deal which allows them to talk to me about anything without judgement, and me to do the same. Nobody can use my past struggles against me anymore because I chose to put it out there myself..

I don’t know who this is for , but it must be important to someone as it has been burning a hole in my soul all night to get posted. You may not have the issues I did, maybe its totally different. It doesn’t matter, because the point of this post is to share a golden parenting tip, a sure fire way to be a winner of a parent. It ain’t by being perfect. Because not one of us is. It is by being transparent.

It takes a real ego check to do. Its difficult at first. Then freeing. 

All the years in all the programs, and schools and group homes I ran that I had such great success with had nothing to do with training, or education. Those things came in handy down the road. However the secret to my success with any kid I have worked with or my own kids, is nothing more then honesty.

I have taken and taught and trained on every possible theory in behavior and parenting. They all have some merit. They also all have one thing in common.

None work effectively, without complete transparency from the adult first. Kids give respect when it is modeled for them. Not forced respect either. Not they are afraid you will yell at them or beat them respect. I mean genuine respect, which unlocks the door for all the parenting books and ideas you want. Until you have that, its like sucking air through a very thin straw..

 

Hope this helps. It works!

 

tj

 

 

 

 

No Offers To Help From The Vatican Yet- Hmm . I CANNOT BELIEVE IT.

Check This Out- Heck We Could Work Full Time Jobs Forever Just To Shut This Down-

Go Big- Or- Go HOME!!!

Hmm-sounds fair. — Am I wrong here?  WOW-if it wont open I will fix- gotta go

 

Wow already 5 countries have hit me but sadly not Italy-

Oh, wait- that’s right they are trying to BAN police from knowing about any rapes. They promised to investigate- THOROUGHLY-

SCOUTS HONOR!- OH WAIT CANT USE THAT ONE-

You all have got me so fired up my blood is boiling – and I feel like I am waking up from a 20 year coma. When this whole thing is said and done — don’t go anywhere because you will never ever ever believe how all the pieces through the years have made a way to this day. Now it is the rubber meets road and I feel the need for SPEED!

I don’t know exactly how this will specifically unfold but I am telling you now so whenever it does I want you see- the rest..of the story all the way back. I mean you will freak out.

Thanks again-

tj

Romans 8:28 and Jeremy Camp- I still believe.

Those are the 2 things I spoke and listened to every day 20 years ago..that was just the beginning – and man I cant wait to see the ending.

ATTENTION! NEED JUST ONE MORE PIECE! LETS FINISH THIS RIGHT!

Thank you thank you so very much for re-blogging my brothers story. To my amazement this has taken it to yet another level, making it harder for the pedi-priest to slide out of this deal. I NEED TODAY this.

A consultant, businessman, investor, with some media knowledge and who is interested in what may become a very big and wide open investigation to include national syndicated talk shows and all media. Its sitting on the table.

I have not a minute for posers or anyone who has any other intention then to expose the ENTIRE CULT of pedi-priests in general. Of course after watching my brothers killer be locked up. It may involve books media and much else. I have spent 4 years writing about all this praying that one day this freak and others would be exposed.

Please only contact me if you have resources, negotiation skills with media and publishing and other. Financially you will never worry about your investment as we will do this if an agreement is made that is suitable. I can sell my book tomorrow and get paid because my brother is the one in this case involved. But why stop there? I have the connections to put national deals that would turn on a national spotlight long term on ALL these guys.

So if I find the right partner, we will go that route and hopefully make a HUGE dent in this ring. If not I will sell my own story, be happy Gondek is locked up and move on.

We can nab him- and thanks very much.

Or..there are these guys-

http://www.bing.com/images/search?q=picture+of+priests+being+arrested&FORM=HDRSC2&adlt=strict

Anyone else want to vomit?

 

That’s just the bottom line- me – right?? LOL

What is meant to happen will. Thanks to y’all who stepped up. It just took one and I am one step away from immediate and total focus on this. If I wait too long the next news story will get the chance I have. I have 24-48 hour window to at least solidify a partnership.  From there I can secure any national show I feel like it. That, would be awesome. So thanks and if you or someone in your crew that you trust and has what I need contact me 24 hours around the clock starting 6pm tonite. I will be lining up media as I talk to people and Y’all will understand if it works this way –

contact me by email or text first with any reservations-tjpetri16@gmail.com and text 386-675-7549- If you happen to know that you know that you know this is for you if you feel me -just call asap. Praying.

. If you already see and know and have experience in this and want in just call. I really just need a professional to handle all the negotiation and financials and things I don’t even want to know about. If you do your part the opp to pull in long term media to keep this crime exposed is also there. Its truly one of those one of a lifetime deals. The media has to stay with what is hot. Right this moment it is this. It wont be long.

Love you all for helping-

tj

 

 

 

Why God Didn’t Bless Me Yesterday… ( I Guess)

Some days you just know you aren’t going to have Gods favor , right? I mean our works performance is off, we aren’t careful with our mouth and so on. Yeah that was me yesterday. Just didn’t get enough right to win the favor.

Whew! Yesterday was rough. If someone accused me of being a Christian, I’m not sure there would have been enough evidence to convict me. And I am only sharing the stuff appropriate for public blogging…lol

Past

For example in the morning at a gas station some old man took it upon himself to point to the cross hanging from my rear view and to the harmless radar detector under it and tell me that one of them needs to go! So I exhorted ( biblical, right?) him and pointed out that perhaps he should go change his Hooters shirt before finger pointing.

After that an old AC/DC song with totally inappropriate lyrics came on- and yes I blasted it and sang every word. I also had my FISH symbol on the back window too,  so that’s like double sinning.

Ok now it gets ugly. For some reason every time I am starving and go through a drive through for a sandwich, I NEVER get a red light so I can get a bite. But when I’m in a hurry somewhere I get every red light made. I ended up saying a word that rhymes with STUCK, BUCK, DUCK. A few times. ( Don’t act all shocked either )
About an hour later some heathen in a new Corvette cut me off the road so I almost hit a tree. I kept my mouth shut and refrained from saying anything.
However, I did happen to run into him at the next light and gave him a friendly wave telling him he was #1 . I learned that wave from Dale Earnhardt of NASCAR and he was a champion so how bad could it be?
So I finally made it to church. I listened as the preacher talked about being saved by faith and not works. My itching ears were scratched.
That really set me free and I actually was ready to roll out early but before I could he went into the fruit of the Spirit and the witness of the believer as well as maturity of the believer.
Then he cracked open the book of James and read on the power of the tongue. I turned my MP3 player off for this part and I realized that there was some good news and some not so good news.

Good News!
1- I’m saved by the blood of Jesus not by my works. There is nothing I can do or say to make God love me any more, or any less!

More difficult news-

2- I am supposed to be different then this world. In it but not of it. Growing as a Christian is critical. There is no putting it on a shelf- you are either going forward and maturing or slipping back into the world.

I learned that it’s not about how many times we fall, but how many times we get up. It’s about not buying the lies of the enemy. It’s about remembering the promises of God no matter what it looks like.

When the enemy of your soul reminds you of all your sin, remind him that as a believer , God sees our sin through the blood of Christ. All He sees is the blood sacrifice of Christ. My Godfather used to have a pad of paper he would hand to each of us as we were growing up. He would tell us to write down every sin we could ever remember on the sheet, and assured us nobody would see it.

After we reluctantly wrote them down, he reached behind the notepad and flipped over what was a blood red plastic cover. He then showed it to us and asked us what sins we saw that we had written. None. The red cover had made them go away. That cover represented the blood of Christ, and how God sees believers in Christ.

We do need to keep growing though because each day that passes in this world the armor of God becomes more critical. If you aren’t familiar with the armor yet , then today is a perfect time to look into We do need to keep growing though because each day that passes in this world it!

Bottom line here is I was just as saved yesterday as any day. It’s not what I do for Him, but what He already did at the cross .

tj Continue reading “Why God Didn’t Bless Me Yesterday… ( I Guess)”

Open Letter To The Addict-Real Open.

Dear Addict-

You are constantly shunned and shamed by people who have never walked in your shoes. You have felt like you are useless, worthless and a failure because you have been unable to ” snap ” out of it like your family or friends tell you. You have sat alone many nights contemplating taking your life. The people judging you each day are usually actually doing sinful things in their own life, but somehow it makes them feel better about themselves to put you down. You are not sinning, you are fighting a disease.

The truth is that addiction does not discriminate and truth be told, one of the leading group of professionals who are in treatment for addiction- are Doctors! You wont hear much on that, but know your not alone. Your no dirtier they are. You just wont have the white jacket on at your NA meeting.

Why don’t people go to the cancer wards all over and tell the patients to ” snap out ” of it? After all if you should then they should -right? Your self-esteem is low and people use your weaknesses against you and even for their gain. The egotistical judges in this world who drive by a tired and depressed addict on the street like to name call and say get a job. You know that if you could somehow get help and get well, you would love to work. Its killing you that you have this chain of bondage around you each day.

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Nobody knows your background, how you became involved in whatever it is you are stuck in. As a matter of fact we both know that most of the judges out there would never have made it even half the time you have trying to battle this. They have sometimes never experienced childhood abuse, violence, trafficking, or incredible loss. They may not have a family with a history of addictions that they have had to fight like you in silence. You isolate, you then take a chance and go out in public, but if you fail, you resort back to isolating and contemplating life.

You know what? Good news for you today! The same Lord that died and rose from the dead loves you. He died for you too. He isn’t mad at you. He is a judge of the heart, not the outward actions. He is the only one who can give freedom from bondage. Don’t let the world fool you into thinking that you are a sinner and they aren’t just because your struggles are visible. Millions of those same judges are at home at night looking at child porn and other disgusting things. God knows it, so don’t sweat the small stuff. Pull yourself up and get back on the horse. It isn’t about if you fall, we all fall. It is about how you respond. Don’t stay down. Never stay down.

Next time you look in dismay at your scarred up arms – Remember These Scars.

Your value and identity and hope is in Him, not the hypocrites criticizing what they don’t understand.

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Peace

tj

The Day I Saw satan…

I’ll never forget where I was on that day. I was at the office where I met with families. There was a little television that the receptionist kept on low. We only had around 5 therapists in the office that day and it was quiet.

It would prove to be an ominous quiet that I still feel. Suddenly a woman therapist burst out with a loud cry.

. The rest of us got up to see if she was ok. As we all reached the little area at the same time we looked up at what she was seeing on the television.

All I remember is staring at the screen in disbelief and my mouth open but no words could be found. Soon after I became physically ill and was trying not to throw up as I grabbed my truck keys . I had to go get my kids. After all nobody knew when and where this thing would end. My boys were just in elementary school back then .

I snatched them up and hugged their necks real hard. Being a social worker I have seen about everything. Worked with some mean and nasty violent people

This was different. I realized then that satan is alive and his demons were killing my people. I’ll never forget it. Even now I can’t find words to describe it. I only can get any comfort in thinking of the eternal swim in a hot lake that will occur. I remember feeling like I wanted to go home. To my real home. I’ve seen enough.

Tj

Tick Tick Tick….Not Looking Good Hillary..

http://www.westernjournalism.com/obamas-secret-8-billion-bribe-to-the-muslim-brotherhood/

http://insider.foxnews.com/2015/11/02/hillary-mistress-deception-judge-napolitano-breaks-down-newly-released-benghazi-email

https://conservativedailypost.com/breaking-judicial-watch-found-hillary-deleted-benghazi-requests/

http://conservativetribune.com/confused-hillary-benghazi-cant/?utm_source=Facebook&utm_medium=PostTopSharingButtons&utm_content=2016-09-09&utm_

http://conservativetribune.com/trump-supporter-booby-traps-sign/?utm_source=Facebook&utm_medium=PostTopSharingButtons&utm_content=2016-09-08&utm_campaign=websitesharingbuttons

http://americannews.com/students-replace-under-god-with-under-allah-in-pledge/

http://americannews.com/muslims-demand-army-change-its-dress-code-to-include-turbans-and-beards/

 

I do believe there is a pattern that began about, well maybe 8 years ago. Did Hillary agree to sell out America to Obama and muslims just so she would get his backing when it came time for her to run?? Wow. But I totally believe it. After all, she has been supporting all of his anti-American efforts all these years. Plus her last name is Clinton. Enough said. If you still haven’t seen the light ( and you need not be Colombo ) please take another look..

She and Obama should be imprisoned right now, instead she is running for president?

Just to be fair Trump is no angel. After all, he asked a muslim protester to be removed from his speech, so he must be racist. He also made a few off the cuff statements that he regrets. So, I see why the libs are so against him…

No I don’t. I think they have had way too much koolaid.

Hey its just my 2.

 

Tj

 

Mailbag! Questions Only WE Dare To Answer!

 

Dear DLMK-

Long time reader, first time writer. Regarding the coming elections, I have a serious concern about Donald Trump. His obvious motive for what he does is to use money to manipulate, cover up, and taint the truth about everything he does not care for. We cannot let this country ” buy ” itself into rules and pretend they are valid just so we don’t have to deal with reality- while also getting it both ways. In my opinion we are simply fooling ourselves. Shame on us.

Sincerely,

Mr. Thomas Scott

VP-Atheists Association of (SE) USA.

Running for President -Agnostics of America


Dear Mr. Scott-

Thank you for your letter and also for following us. In response to your question, we also concur that oftentimes people find it easier to spend millions or ignore obvious reason in order to have things appear their own way. It is for this very reason that you will have our vote when you run for the top position in the Agnostics of America org. You clearly have the ability to be a bit more flexible in these areas.

DLMK

 


 

Dear DLMK-

It is with a heavy heart and a broken spirit that I take these ruthless jabs from Donald Trump, just for a few votes. My husband and I have served this country with honor and integrity for decades, while Mr. Trump has gone bankrupt 6 times on his way to becoming a billionaire. During my husband’s time in office, he was known by even the secret service to make the most use of his office than any president in history.

I am also proud to say the secret service team said that during all the time working while my husband was president, he took tireless measures to make sure his family was safe. As a matter of fact one guard at the oval office said that nightly my  husband could be heard yelling ” watch out for Hillary” – ” Watch out for Hillary” –Now that’s a family man. It isn’t all about the fun and games Mr. Trump.

Signed,

H.Rodham Clinton ( 3x Candy Crush Champion)

 

 

 


 

 

 

Some Thoughts For Today..

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Hillary , -I Don’t Know How To Use A Computer-

Finally. We hear the reason why so many rules were  broken and security was breached by Hillary’s use of email. Simple enough, she just doesn’t know how to use a computer!  Geez,  Mrs. Secretary,  all you had to do was tell us in the first place.  It sounds very logical.

It was reported that at least 2 people offered help, according to these 2 public emails found in Hillary’s mailbox

Dear Hillary I would be glad to help you learn anything you need to about computers. I actually invented the internet.-Al Gore

Hillary,-  Honey, I have done extensive work involving desktops in the white house,  I will help if you like.-Bill C

She apparently declined help and now regrets it.

And with that I am going to list my top 3 Hillary lies and see if this should make the list.

1-” I was an integral part of the Ireland peace process”. ( One problem here- nobody there recalls seeing her at the table )

2-“Chelsea was jogging around the twin towers when 911 happened”. ( later we saw her on television discussing how she and her daughter watched it on television from their apartment.)

3-“We were flat broke when we left the white house.” ( the year after leaving. the Clinton’s reported an income of 12 million.)

I think it deserves a spot on this list.

 

 

Tj

Obama@Trump- You Dont Care About American Safety

Are You Serious Mr. President? 

The movie Wag The Dog with Dustin Hoffman comes to mind here.

The financier of the Muslim Brotherhood ( 3 billion ) and the one who has made every effort to take American gun rights, is now making yet another amazing accusation.

President Obama says Trump is not concerned with the safety of this country. Excuse me but was it not you Mr. President who stroked a 3 Billion dollar check to the Muslim Brotherhood a few years back? They used the funds for arms.

You have at the same time tried all you can to take the gun rights of Americans away.  Now when Trump shows concern about the violence with the muslim population you spin it into an anti-religious thing. I for one am glad to hear someone show actual concern for our safety, whereas I have seen nothing but what appears to be a purposeful stripping away of any power and rights we hold by you.

tj

Gun That Killed Teen Sold For 250k By Shooter.

Zimmerman Gets 250k For Gun He Killed Black Teen With – Sold As ” Piece Of History”

 

Just when I think we are making progress in society with all the race issues and the like I am silenced by something like this, that I have no words to explain they why in it.

I followed the George Zimmerman -Trayvon Martin trial pretty closely. I really didn’t know which way things would go, but it seemed like if breaks were to be had, Zimmerman was getting them. I am not saying he intentionally murdered Trayvon, I just mean that things seemed to have went his way a lot.

Zimmerman shot and killed 17-year-old Martin in his neighborhood while involved in a neighborhood watch program. Trayvon was in the area one night with a hoody and then the story is told about the two struggled and then the teen was shot. Of course during the trial, it didn’t help that the usual publicity seekers flew in for a day throw the race card in.However, even Al Sharpton and his ranting along with the riots that almost occurred didn’t change the outcome of the trial.

Zimmerman was found not guilty of the crime of murder. It was a shock to many, and things did go his way many times in the trial, but it is what it is. Its over. With that said, the thoughts of sadness still remain of a needless killing of another kid. People still talk about  this story, maybe because Zimmerman keeps popping up in the news for other unrelated crimes.

When it was a reported that he was allowed to keep, and sell the murder weapon at auction for 250k, heads really turned.  The buyer of the gun said it was a ” piece of history’ . It should be noted that Zimmerman is donating a portion of the money to a few black charities. For whatever that is worth.

I don’t know exactly what it is about this deal, but it does not feel right. I think it is really just pouring salt in the wounds and mocking the tragedy.

tj

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Indonesia Says Castrate Or Kill Child Predators

Child Predators Finally Getting What They Need-

http://www.cnn.com/2016/05/25/world/indonesia-sex-abuse-chemical-castration/index.html

It is for sure the most difficult topic to think about and as a parent to imagine. I have seen a lot in this world. I even understand why people do the things they do sometimes. There are people who have been through very hurtful childhoods and do things in response to those experiences.

Taking an innocent child, powerless to help themselves, and forcing yourself on them causing unimaginable physical and emotional pain, for your own pleasure? It is just not anything I can find a reason to justify no matter what the circumstances. It seems to me that anyone with a human soul would first slit their own wrists than even consider the thought.

It has always been a mystery to me why predators are ever released from prison. The data is very clear that the repeat rate is very high. So I applaud Indonesia for at least making a move in the right direction. Better late then never.

 

tj