I gave up decades ago even sharing with close friends the goings on in my life. Why? Simple; They didnt believe me, or simply couldn’t process the idea that these occurrences would be continuous in one person’s life.
Some of the incidents in our family are common like divorce, diseases, abuse and even our tragic times like my brothers suicide and lots of death in general.
I quickly learned that most things are better left to the family. However , sometimes I just got to let it out! Thats where blogging has been therapeutic for me. Last week or so I mentioned I was exhausted from keeping on top of the pedo-priest deal but happy that somebody busted it wide open. The official in Pennsylvania just blew it out of the water with his huge announcement in August.
We needed a break like that.
Thank God most states are following suit and investigating seriously the huge racket of pedophilia in the church.
But, today I’m sharing a different side of things that I suspect many of you can relate to in your own way.
Battling a group of freaks as powerful and wealthy and nasty as some of Catholic church can be dangerous. I have been in this field long enough to know when you ruffle feathers, you better prepare for war, both *spiritually and naturally.
( *shout out to my atheist friends btw..just ignore that ” spiritual” reference..lol you all know I love ya..)
Since the year I really started digging my heals in the whole thing I have been attacked from so many directions its hard to keep up. It becomes a way of life. You may lose friends, family and even spouses over it.
(I mean thats what I hear)
But as many of of you all know, when you just know in your knower that you cannot be silent about an issue…you cannot back down…its no longer a choice.
For me it was letting innocent kids become suicidal due to the sick pleasures of thousands of perverts in the church- I have no choice.
Recently as I was preparing to gather some documents for reporters off my email and files would you believe just coincidentally ( yeah right) I found myself totally locked out of my email, files and somehow at the same time my cellphone carrier ” accidently”did a FACTORY RESET on my cell!!!
If you dont know what that is, it basically means all the info and documents on your phone go bye – bye. For good.
Since I couldn’t get access to my cell phone now I was locked out of- I wasn’t able to reset my password for my Gmail because Google requires you to have the current phone number and get a text on it which means I was completely locked out and still am of all the documents I had. Fortunately this blog has been a lifesaver in that area because I posted almost all the things I had … statements, emails from officials etc…
I posted most on this blog so they’re all public anyway.
Whatever was behind that – it didn’t work – but it sure was stressful and still is stressful.
By the way I am well aware I’m not the only person that goes through times like this and I know that people have things even worse much worse than I do, I’m not here to claim I’ve got the toughest life I’m sure many of you can relate in your own way to what I’m saying.
So just as I was kind of catching my breath after that incident.. Yesterday brought to surface an entirely different issue from an angle I never expected ..
My mother didn’t feel good and she’s always feeling good but I knew something was wrong and insisted she go to the ER. as it turns out I was overreacting it was just a heart attack.
She only had a heart attack. Of course to my mom it’s like it’s no big deal “I just had a little heart attack they put a stent in and I’ll be okay and home in a few days”
” By the way son did you remember to take the recycle bin out?”
Me-” Yes momma, I got all 4 plastic milk containers in the bin”
It’s driving me crazy…and that’s not a very long trip in my state of mind right now LOL.
I watched the movie called Flawless the other day with Demi Moore and Michael Caine, during the movie they were having a conversation about how nothing worth doing is ever about the money and it struck a chord with me. It is very true.
The last decade or so life has seemed almost unbearable in so many different aspects and yet there’s no turning back.
I think many many people reading this can understand that- whatever your journey and your battle has been, so just keep your eye on the prize and never never never never give up- and never count on anybody else to lift you up and push you and motivate you while your surpassing anything they’ve ever attempted.
Well they are calling me back to my unit now- so gotta go.
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Every once in awhile we all get to feeling like we have it just a little tougher than the rest. Then you get hit between the eyes with what longsuffering and a hard life is REALLY like…I promise as you follow the true trials one family has had with a daughter who has up to 30 violent seizures. Oh yeah- that is 30 per DAY.
Each step of the journey from infant to adulthood and current status is chronicled and will make most of us drop to our knees and ask for forgiveness for complaining how we have it…
In addition and even more important this story is absolutely essential reading for anyone who has relatives with Epilepsy or seizures and the like. You won’t hear complaining as mom tells about endless horrendous violent seizures and hundreds of attempts to find any medical help/
The amazing thing about this story to me is something you or I may find hard to believe. But this is how the family is…
Anissa, now near 50, and still in need of 100% total care all day every day which is still done by her 80 year old mother was born perfectly healthy. Yep. At six months a doctor gave her an overdose of a medication that turned a beautiful blond baby girl into a vegetable for life.
She forgave the doctor and never pursued legal recourse- And somehow maintained her strong Christian faith in the midst of such a traumatic event .
This is something you have to see to believe…click the blue link above and see what life can really be like.
I hope this isn’t too misleading, but I certainly was not saying that I have 100k followers. Not many do. I dont care if I ever do.
But now that your here, take a peek at my brief point.
Here’s the great news, your engagement rate/ participation rate from the viewers you do have can be worth much more than a zillion followers and 2% participate. I, like many was on a treadmill to get followers five years ago when I started this blog. Over time I noticed that although I never paid anyone to push bogus abd meaningless followers, and took the high road by staying with followers who found me, it has paid off. If you are familiar with direct mail results they are usually 1-3% .
So if you have 100k followers but they didn’t really follow for your niche, you will have similar results with then actually using your service or engaging in your posts. Thats about 1-3k.
If you have 1000 followers who all came because they want and like your niche, your percentage of potential users of your service -well -I’ve seen as high as 45% participation rate. Thats near 500 potential customers. Would you even be able to handle that load? So let’s be realistic here. Unless your a mega business with tons of staff , you can’t handle even 300 new customers in a short period. ( Im speaking now tol service providers) but you who sell items can do your own conversion. So the great news is if you focus on what your readers want and stat with what you know, the relationships you develop are far more valuable abd trust is stronger then a million empty followers.
Take a peek at your total posts and then at your total likes, comments, or reblogs. If your numbers of participants is over 3% you are doing a better job of building trust than the mega site. Dont worry about how many followers, focus on meetung the needs that they are expressing. No matter what you do in your blog it will be strong.
If you have been discouraged about followers, switch gears and cater to your bread and butter.
Maybe someone needed to hear that today. I hope it helps;
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Read the body of this post before watching the clip.
Above is the link to the 8:56 minute video that is offensive. I feel the information in it is worth overlooking the time of total crude language. I hope you do too.
Wow. I never imagined I would air a clip of an atheist bi-sexual arguing with black people who are still playing the victim about things like slavery and other issues. This guy is straight up rude, arrogant, offensive and much more. He curses more in here then I have had on this blog in 5 years combined. Yet I cannot pass up the opportunity to let the whole world see and hear the truths that are laid out, albeit in an extremely offensive manner. However if an argument or debate that reveals truth so we can move on requires 8 minutes of offensive language I think its worth it.
I am warning you to have your young kids in another room, and if you are one of those people like a few in my old church who runs as fast as they can if anyone says “shit” because they are too ” Godly ‘ then don’t bother. You will have to do what I did, and overlook the offensive and see the amazing truths that are in the midst of them.
Watch at your own risk. One more warning, this is an 8 minute video of an arrogant atheist arguing with a few angry black people about sensitive issues. If you cannot handle that then skip it.
One Last Note- This video ends at around 8:56 or so. I advise you to have your hand on the control by 8 minutes. It only gets worse after this debate. I also will tell you that you may see ads and things that are as inappropriate as this guy. Ignore them and get your 8 minutes of truth. If it bothers you so much that he is rude, pray for him.
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Its been five years for me with this blogging thing. I have read my share of articles and opinions on why certain blogs have more followers than others, or one has more comments than the other etc… I have been on the same side, looking at my stats and wondering how come mine are so different from other blogs. I have felt the same feeling of questioning myself and wondering what I should be doing that I was not. The truth is, I have learned and still am learning about things that can benefit my site or draw a certain crowd. So this is a legitimate concern.
However, after five years of this, I recently discovered something that has absolutely changed the way I view my site and truthfully every site! I have made a discovery that, at least for me, is brand new and not talked about much, if it is even well understood. I am not convinced that what I am about to suggest, which potentially affects all of your blogs as well, is even common knowledge in the blogging world. I stumbled on it while pressing in over and over, looking for things I may be missing out on to promote my site.
What I am about to say has the potential to be quite controversial. but I firmly believe nobody will be able to disprove my theory. If everyone who reads this takes what I am saying and weighs it with their own circumstances, I am convinced the end results will be very much in line with each other. Now I want to be honest about the fact that some of my findings were birthed out of my total frustration with my lack of growth during certain seasons and seeming inability to move as fast as some other bloggers.
I really went over and over many times the same old information until one day it just clicked in my head that I had part of the answer to why some blogs are so very much more successful growth wise than others. Not that they are any better or worse, but just a reason that finally made sense to me. The news I am presenting here can make each one of us stop and reconsider what our passion is! What we write about. Why we write about what we do. I even remember one day I wrote a post that I had spent much time researching, and expected it to be well received in my community of bloggers. However, to my dismay, it was just an “average” post in my book. You know, 10-20 likes and maybe a comment or two. Whoopee, right?
Something happened around that same time, though, that brought it all full circle for me. That something was my stumbling upon a blog post on the feed about training dogs to do house tricks and healthy eating habits for your mutt. But then, as I neared the end of the post, I saw this enormous number that appeared on the last line of the post where comments also go. Yeah, it was this number like 469 or something. I must have read that 3 times just to be sure but it sure was 469 people gave their props for the doggy master and doggy diet expert. Now, in all fairness, I was just coming off of a post that I spent several hours researching, an hour and a half writing ( I think I may have even edited that one!) and I was feeling a tad low with my 20 likes on a very important topic for all of us humans, but even lower when I caught the 469 for the doggy dynasty.
Here is what I realized then. People in general simply do not wish to deal with the hard stuff that life has dealt. People in general like to have their ears caressed when reading a blog post. They do not want to be confronted with all the harsh realities we are facing in real world, non-doggy life. Grown ups who are well-educated and should care about certain issues like human trafficking, or pedophile priests, or crooked politicians are more than willing and even likely to skip the post about a crisis we, as a society, has to deal with and instead steer their eyes towards soothing material. Its true!
This is not just what my team writes about or what we deal with in mental health, child abuse, and addiction, but it was my own blog that awakened me to the idea of what was happening. I supported my theory by checking with other bloggers and looking at all the different numbers and it proved to be a working theory.
Here is the main point of what I found. People like me, who tend to deal with sad, even troubling issues much of the times seem to have this common thread of a lower amount of followers and not as many takers in general who even want to face these issues much less spend time thinking through them in a blog post. That seems to be a fact across the board. However, the amazing thing I discovered was that my smaller group of people were participating in, liking, and commenting on about 35% of what we published. Now I don’t know if you ever check those stats but recently I read an article by a very successful blogger who I believe said he sometimes had a 1-5% participation rate when it came to his huge audience actually liking or commenting on his topics. So to see 35% consistently and look back over the years and see it never dropped below 20%, was amazing to me. It told me something that we all need to be aware of. The numbers may not line up on the same side with all bloggers in the same categories. But the numbers are there most times just distributed in different places. In my case, I realized I had a slightly more intense crowd who did not mind getting their hands dirty in some controversy. Therefore, what I was not seeing in overall total followers, I was making up 10 fold in active engagement with my posts.
So, for all of us who blog, we need to start making sure our perspective is accurate. It simply is not likely, on any given day, that a human being with all the problems we already have, would rather spend 20 minutes ingesting some bad news about abused kids, rather than totally avoiding it and thinking about the fact that Rover can roll over. The one is simply much more stressful than the other. So none of us should discount one bit of our efforts writing based on simple numbers alone, but on the whole picture.
Many, many times I have read posts written by bloggers who are very disappointed in how slow their blog has progressed, in comparison to some others. Now it is easy for me to see that most are likely missing out on some part of the value in their work because they follow the popular way of measurement which typically is “How many followers you got?” That usually leads to depression. What if, just for one day, the question went like this, “Hey, what percent of the viewers of your posts actually care enough about them to “like” them or comment?” A much different way of thinking is born. And I am willing to bet that the question could be asked in many more ways that I have not even thought of.
But we as bloggers are followers in that sense. We want what the writer over there has. Yet truly we have no idea, unless he makes us privy to his stats, just how important those 26,000 followers were this month, because he never bothers to look past that and dig into the statistics that WordPress provides. Such as, how many of those people even took time to click “like” out of 26,000? Remember, this is not an “either or” scenario. I am discussing meaning that one type of stat is more important than another. Heck, do you think if tomorrow I found out a way to add-on 5000 followers to my crew, that I would not be running to do it? Of course I would. I want that, too.
We need to stop trying to fit our blogs into ‘cookie cutter’ molds that all line up a certain way. I will close by sharing something that happened my second year of blogging. It was a lonely time. I think I was paying family members 5 bucks to comment on a post just to get some action…lol – it was awfully depressing for me. And then I got an email from a lady out of this country. She was suicidal and an addict who had decided to take her life and truly also believed God was waiting to escort her to hell for being an addict in the first place. Rough, rough situation. Even with 20 years under my belt in social work and counseling, i could not prepare for that. Fortunately I did not have to come up with any miraculous words from my therapy book. You see after she told me in the email, from another country, she had decided to take her life, there was a “but”..”
She said “But then I read your post on faith and addiction and how you were where I was and how God never left you and you made it out, so I decided to keep on trying.” I think it was her and maybe a friend I had asked to read that post on that day. I only had a few dozen followers or a 100 whatever. Not many reading much of anything. But I will tell you that after that night, I knew that if nobody ever read one word of my writing again in history, those two years of dark and slow blog growth were well worth all of it and then some.
Never, ever question how your work, your efforts, are paying dividends. Hey, the facts are, folks, that some people get paid in the form of thousands of new followers pouring into their site each month, or maybe constant re-blogs and praise on almost everything they put on paper. It could be something they are not even aware of like in my situation with the suicidal lady. Be assured that what you are doing is not in vain. The cards have a way of landing a different way all the time and we do not always get to see how. If we are fortunate, we get a glimpse at some point. Even if you do not, never ever stop putting on paper what your heart is screaming to your brain all the time. There is a reason.
Stay with your first love. Don’t worry about the next guy. I can tell you from experience that you may never know the value of your work on this earth. But from experience let me also be the one to tell you it matters, to someone. Sometimes it matters a whole lot!
Watch the clip below. I am convinced it was a drive-by fruiting. The dude in the car hurled a grapefruit at the clerk.
https://www.linkedin.com/embed/feed/update/urn:li:activity:6390521569894035456“>The Guy In The Car Clearly Threw A Grapefruit At The Clerk! It Was A Drive -By Fruiting.
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If I had the chance, I would sit down with you, make you a cup of tea and spill my mistakes in marriage. In essence, I would share my story with you. I wouldn’t stop there though. I know that it’s only because of God’s mercy that I have a thriving marriage and family today.
Bill and I have been married for twenty-four years and we honestly look forward to loving each other for as long as God gives us. It wasn’t always this way though. Four years into our marriage Bill told me in a phone call that he wanted a divorce. I had received salvation just a few months before this and he felt I was changing too much for his liking. He didn’t enjoy me any more and was no longer happy in our relationship. I hung up the phone and went straight to God with it. In that pivotal moment of my life, God asked me a powerful question,
“Will you run or will you stay and fight?”
Run is what I always did when things got to hard emotionally for me. I ran to music and hid in it for hours. Or I would run away literally ending the relationship that was being impacted. But this time was different. This time God was asking me if I would stay. I wanted to stay. I wanted to fight, but I didn’t know how. I had failed so many times before. My past includes a divorce and 3 children that were hurt by my failures. God promised me that He would teach me how to fight but it would have to be His way and not my own. I said yes and He started me on the journey that I have called Boot Camp for so long.
That day started a fight I had never walked through before. During my own personal boot camp my heart was shattered. My faith was tested. My identity was ripped to pieces. It seemed that nothing was safe. Even then, I still chose to stay in the fight because God had given me a vision of what my marriage could look like at the end of my journey. Bill fought against me with everything he had within him. He yelled at me more than he talked to me. He made me feel like I was worth nothing and my life had no value with him. He attacked every area of me including how I was raising our children and the type of wife I was becoming. One day in a fit of anger he threw his wedding ring out the door and told me, “My life ended the day I married you!”
These were days I just wanted to stop fighting and run away. My heart could not take any more. Giving him what he wanted had to be easier than what I was enduring. It was on one of these days that God said the following words to me,
“Be still and know that I am God.”
Those words turned into thousands instantly as the Holy Spirit began to teach me what they meant. This happened many times over the course of my fight for my marriage. What I learned is so valuable that my marriage was saved!!
Can you relate to me on some level? Have you been through something like this in your own marriage? Have you thought about giving up and giving in? I want to encourage you to stay in just a little longer. The ending of your marriage doesn’t have to happen. If you are willing to give God a season of your life, I am willing to counsel you on how to stand strong and fight the way God has designed us to. Today, Bill and I are strong and our life is full as God has used my season of Boot Camp to teach me many more lessons since then.
My background ~
I knows what it’s like to be an imperfect wife and I’m well aware that my past would have been my future if it had not been for God’s intervention in my life and my obedience to follow His voice. I wasn’t always obedient. I resisted God in the beginning because He was asking me to change first. I felt enough change was happening in me and Bill was the one God needed to concentrate on. What I didn’t know then is God wasn’t just teaching me how to fight for my marriage He was getting me ready to fight for marriages all over the world. My mission is to challenge you to take a stand for your marriage and then teach you how God has designed us to love our husbands during the challenges we all face in marriage. My marriage is a living testimony of God’s “Grace Grace” (Zechariah 4). Your marriage can be turned around and restored as well. But you have to be willing to listen to voice of the Holy Spirit and change as He directs you to. He will ask you to do some hard things (I have a long list myself). Change is good, especially when God uses it to draw us closer to Him.
No matter where your marriage stands, I want to encourage you that God is big enough to not just help you stay married but to also teach you how to enjoy a blessed marriage for a lifetime. I know that I have to be very candid in sharing everything I have learned through trial, error, and prayer to turn my strained and struggling marriage around. I can help you through it. You just have to willing to try. I have been counseling wives for more than 10 years now and have witness God redeem and restore many marriages. Their fight wasn’t easy but they stood firm in their faith and God and
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Well I did not want to let the cat out of the bag, but during my off time at the Dont Label My Kid! Executive studios, I have been building my machine to race with the big boys here in Daytona. Heres a look at my the kind of machines I will be putting my life on the line with here in Daytona-
I need your support on this! …
Joke of the day – What are the most common last four words a redneck says before he dies?
Answer – ” Hey Y’all, Watch This!”
Here is the link through TubiTv to the movie that should disgust everyone, and make those who ever leave their kids alone with a priest stop it. Remember as you watch, there are 28k priests under investigation by the Catholic priests under investigation as we speak…
And those are numbers coming from the Catholic church itself, so you have to figure double that in reality..Watch Deliver Us From Evil below…
I really don’t like politics. However as of late, when I realized we had a muslim brotherhood member in office, I vowed to start listening and learning more. Last night was Trump’s first State of the Union address, and I tuned in to try to understand more of what both sides are fighting about, both conservatives and liberals. I wanted to come in with an open mind and a willingness to hear commentaries from both sides.
I never got the chance. You see the members of the network I tuned in to gave such a pre speech cut down of what was to come, trying to washout any value in the speech before it was even given, that they lost my ear. I had to avoid listening to too much pre speech moaning and whining about the president . I felt like I was back in 3rd grade on the playground and the class bully was threatening to take their ball and go home unless they got to play the position they wanted, and cheat along the way just because they had the ball. Before we even started.
After the speech was over I was expecting some ” shoe in mouth” reaction by the liberals to save face because the speech turned out so well. However, my hopes were popped like a balloon as I listened to them complain about such moronic issues that once again I was amazed anyone actually paid them to be there and talk. Childish behavior.
1- It was too long . Whaaaaaa
2-The first lady came in by herself without the President. ( Duh, that’s just the order of the program), and despite what the NBC critics said in yet another desperate attempt to find a flaw with the president – it does not mean there is ” trouble in paradise” for the couple.
3- The president ” took advantage” of some sensitive stories like the guy with no legs, the families who lost a daughter to street violence and a few others. ( Hey guys, it’s better than pimping rapper Jay-z and Beyonce at the white house gigs like Obama did.) What are you thinking ” taking advantage of this”? Because he gave props and prayers to the families that have suffered?
You can’t fix stupid I guess.
4-The President clapped when everyone else did, so this must mean he thinks he is better than us all. ( Hey people, should he have brought a pocket game boy to play during the cheering? What leader does not join in celebrating success with his/ her people?)
5-His huge tax break is up in 2027. (Duh, so will his terms).
6-He was selling himself, Donald Trump.
(I am sorry to inform you that just because he happens to be the record-breaking president in taking action when he said he would and fulfilling promises he made does not mean he was ” selling himself” . He was cheering for our progress as a country.
I could keep going and going but I won’t. You get the idea. The bottom line is I never got to evaluate policy and learn how he is doing on the issues too much because the liberal media was so busy throwing stones that I could not get to it. My evaluation is that it was one of the most hopeful and encouraging fact filled speeches that I have heard in a long time and for sure better than anything that EVER came out of the muslim brotherhood representative we had in there for 8 years.
Donald Trump is not Jesus. None of us are. So he that hath no sin, cast the first stone. Everyone else,
Shut your pie hole.
I still love all my democrat and liberal friends. As a matter of fact I even pray for you all! However the 3rd grade name calling and behavior has got to stop if you truly love the USA. It isn’t about you. it is about all of us. The election is over and you should be too.