Well Ladies And Gentlemen I think I hear the fat lady clearing her throat..

 

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** Well I think I just realized I did I fail to attach the link to the interview I was discussing this post but you can just Google “Charlotte diocese may disclose names”  and you’ll see the interviews with the priest and the bishop that I’m referring to in this post ..

I thought I attached it but I don’t think I did now so that’s what I am referring to in this post.

You do need to remember if you do watch any of the interviews whether it be with David Haines the speaker of the pedophiles at the Charlotte diocese or Harold,.David a pretend ” Advocate” or the bishop himself who probably chases more altar boys Around the church and anyone they’re all guilty do just players in different capacities and they are equally good actors and they could care less about these victims and it’s a shame to hear them pretend like their heart broken we know darn well the minute the cameras are out   those freaks will be fighting over their pantyhose to see who gets the next altar boy that comes to the door so don’t be fooled by the acting  skills – and it will all come out**

 

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Any of you all have been following my post for the last couple years and father gondek and the Charlotte diocese in general is already well aware of what’s going on but it’s amazing to me that the whole world has been dumbed down so much that they’re so shocked that this is not just a few bad apples but it’s the world’s largest organized pedophile racket the Catholic church and it hasn’t been for many many generations. David Haynes of the Charlotte Diocese of David Harold who I’ve spoken to many times and emailed should win Oscar awards for their performances because they are just excellent at what they’re doing pretending that they don’t know there’s been anything going on since 2004 even though for the last three years I’ve been in communication with both of them about seven or eight different kids that were molested by father gondek and I think I’ve even posted emails on the site from him proving that. But there’s no shame in the pedophiles game and it’s amazing to me that even though Grand Puba Peter jurgis can pretend he’s so heartfelt and sad for all these victims when my guess is  hes on playground Duty right after that interview..

Well the party can only last so long whatever happens in the dark comes out in the light took a few about a year longer than I thought it would but I think I’ve published close to a hundred post on pedophile priests in the last two and a half years or so and I didn’t know how it was going to come down but the Pennsylvania thing sure didn’t hurt because now everybody has to do look up and have their hand in the cookie jar and there’s no way out of it.

When I recover from the last couple years I will be posting details follow-ups but right now I’m out of a little bit of a break because I’m focusing on ensuring that this actually happens the way it should happen and that there’s criminal and civil charges against Gondek and all of his other pedophile priests and all those executive pedophiles at the Charlotte diocese as well because they’re all just as guilty.

So stay tuned and fasten your seatbelt I think it’s going to get pretty ugly pretty quick but not that any of those guys really care because they have no shame at all as you can see where the interviews and they just completely lie and fabricate and cover up every possible angle as if it was really not happening.

I have to remind myself that not everybody has had the benefit of watching a few of these guys especially gondek for 20 years molesting molesting and molesting including my own brother who killed himself over it and after a while it’s not even a question of if he’s guilty it’s just how many hundreds of victims are there so when I hear somebody in the Catholic church say well most of the priests are good God-fearing man and they still are just totally brainwashed it reminds me of the victims themselves who feel that way for a few years after their abuse. But that’s the power in the control of that money and the church has.

I heard the bishop mention he’s going to withhold donations from the Pennsylvania group because it’s so many abuse cases…

And he’s so “absolutely disgusted and broken hearted” over that that he’s going to withhold any more donations..

 

“And the academy award goes to ….”

Well gosh I don’t know they could all get one.? they’re so darn good.

Let me translate for you. that was code for ” damn it now I have to pay 10 million in pedophile fees for my Charlotte crew so I can’t donate to Pennsylvania anymore ”

Well at least it’s proof that Justice does occur at some point regardless of the fact that thousands and thousands maybe more of little kids have been raped and molested and forever ruined emotionally.

it’s very sad but I’m glad to see that that this happened the way it happened because it it was going to take something big in order to uncover something like this and it was very kind of David Haynes to say he  ” might publish”  the names of the priests – since we’ve all been posting them for 2 years anyway that’s very kind of him it doesn’t take Columbo .Haynes – you freak.

You know as well as I do soon as those interviews are over they are all fighting over their nail polish for who gets playground duty after that..

Well that’s all for today so thanks for all of you who have been supporting and praying that the truth would come out and reposting my articles because right now if you just Google that guy’s name it’ll be all over the Internet and a lot of that goes to people like you guys who have supported justice and it took a little village to do that just to get him out there – and you know there’s a bunch more..

Tj

 

I Would Like To Dedicate This Next Post To All The Pedophiles Who Dress Up In The Cloth And Play ” Father ” To Our Little Children..

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” If anyone causes one of these little ones those who believe in me-to stumble, it would be better for them to have a large millstone hung around their neck and to be drowned in the depths of the sea”

Matthew 18:6- NIV

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Not everyone is aware of the numbers on this, but almost every child / teen that is molested ends up depressed, addicted, hopeless or suicidal. If they do manage to survive the sick abuse that goes on in the Catholic church-they usually end up on the street running with gangs. It is rare that anyone survive this and live a decent life.

So perhaps Jesus is speaking of this when He said the words above. At any rate, I encourage you – if you have ANY part of getting your kids, or anyone’s to a catholic church-remember this statement from Jesus Christ.

There are currently around 30k priests in the USA under investigation for sexual crimes against minors. And listen to this- those are THEIR numbers so imagine what they may be in reality.

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It just is not worth it. Get you kids away from these freaks who use God’s name to sodomize 5 year olds.

Just Say No.

TJ

Call Me Soft- My Pick For This Month In Music- But Before You Mock Me- Watch It..

Blake & Christina Bring It With I’m Just A Fool-

 

Usually it’s Tom Petty or Switchfoot I put up as a recent song that was powerful to me. This month its an unlikely pair when it comes to music styles. Blake Shelton who is 100% country and self proclaimed redneck paired with glitz and glam New York style’s Christina Aguilera. I have no idea how I stumbled across it but when I saw those two holding microphones next to each other I knew Christina was not about to jump into a chew tobacco tune with Blake. I have to  admit the first time I watched them sing it, the word powerful came to mind. It could be just me, but I doubt it. Check it out by clicking on the link above!

TJ

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You Or Your Children Need Help. Something Has To Change. Psychiatrist? Psychologist? Therapist? Police ? ( if in danger) What To Do Before Blindly Talking To Anyone For Intervention.

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When it comes time to intervention in your life or your children’s life, it is not something to take lightly. It’s not like going to a grocery store and decided afterwords you want to go to several more stores before buying. All mental health workers from therapists to doctors are trained in their particular flavor of how to find something wrong with you. This is how they get paid. Go to a psychiatry office you will walk out with a script and a diagnoses. The odds are better than not that you will leave with  a new label of some source that like it or not will attach itself to you for life.

Go to a psychologist and you will likely get some reason that you need to come 1-2x per week to get to” what is underneath all this” and spend a ton of money to lay on a couch or sit in a chair for a long time to be reminded of how miserable your life was/is.

Go to a behaviorist like myself and you will likely get a plan of action using behavioral techniques and rewards to attempt at changing behavior. You always go to the least restrictive first. In this case the behaviorist. You NEVER want to have you or your child locked up or labeled for life because you didn’t do your homework. If you have not read my homepage, go back now and read it to get an understanding of how the system works. You may be quite surprised.  The main page article called “Mental Health Is Driving Me Crazy” is the post to read or this may not make as much sense. I promise you won’t regret it.

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I have spent more than 20 years of my life working with  troubled kids, teens and their parents in every possible demographic. I have not only been a part of the professional team but was fortunate to move up quickly in 9/10 companies. After spending many years on the front lines and just as many in management, I was blessed to be asked to start a school in Florida for expelled felons. These students had not only been expelled from public school, but then got themselves kicked out of the alternative school where kids must go if they get expelled from public school. 

I was asked if I could do anything to help them and I knew with my Boys Town training and my hands on experience I could do it. I did and I won awards and all . But the most important task I had to train our teachers was to catch the kids doing something right all day each day instead of a day full criticism at an already over medicated and tired group

I named this blog over four years ago Don’t Label My Kid! for a reason. It was not just a cute title to me. It was symbolic of what clearly is one of the top issues we need to addressed, labeling people in general.

Over the next 4 years I targeted a certain audience to reach. Those are families in need of assistance but many times have no clue what to do. Usually they see a television show with guests that have all got the same disorder Parents look to neighbors, friends and sometimes strangers for feedback on how to cope and deal with the problems they have with their teens.

Many parents could not explain the difference between a psychiatrist and a psychologist much less figure out on their own whuch to see. Parents and their kids just going whichever way the wind blows. Whatever place the  therapist or teacher told them to go not considering the permanent label and scar it could leave. Its  just blindly leading people to their own slaughter. Dont be a part of your own child’s social demize. Let us help develop a family plan of action. We offer hourly rates that are much less than you would pay in an office as we dont have the overhead of buidlings etc.. We will work with you from beginning to end. All you need to do to get on the road to recovery for your family is look at menu of our team and determine who will best suit your needs. Then contact us asap before the damage gets too bad.

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Having been  in and around the circles of addiction, depression and all behavioral and mental health issues in my career allowed me to understand the nuances and many differences between the way one doctor does things compared to another.

Time Frame

Now is the time to act when they are under 13 or 14 although it is still workable at 18 if they are willing. Children as young as 8 years old are being drugged today, dont let this be the case with your loved ones.

Here is the point of this little post. Don’t pretend there is no issue.  Address all the issues as directed by someone who actually has worked and lived it and has education as well.

Don’t try this at home people. Its above anyone’s head who has not been trained extensively on the topic. This is why we have a team with Dont Label My Kid! A team that has 100+ years combined experience in all areas from addiction to behavioral health to spiritual guidance, natural healing and all things mental health. Leave this part to the professionals in this field who have also raised our own kids., or you risk being a willing part in labeling your own child for life.

Discuss your options today for coaching, consulting and anything else you see on our front page menu.

Read Pastor Matt’s bio, as well as Jenny, Mike and Mine to see who would who of us could best help then lets started. You know what they say about the definition of crazy is right? Doing the same thing over and over and expecting different results.

Contact me -tim@dontlabelmykid.com or in emergency 386-675-7549

tj

So Whats It Going To Be? Therapy Or Coaching? Do You Even Know The Difference? You Should.

Sometimes I like to incorporate humor into my posts to keep the site from just being about depression and addiction and PTSD etc… I just cannot be all too funny with this. This is a topic that is DEADLY. I remember, because my brothers suicide wont seem to get out of my mind some days. So I am going to ask everyone to stop and read this, and you know what it may not even apply to you. But it could prevent what happened with my family. I cannot undo the gunshot that ended my brothers life. But I can share my 20 years of experience in mental health and addictions, from a personal, and then a professional standpoint. I sure hope you will send this to anyone that seems like they may be one step away from tragedy. If it is you. I tell you what to do at the end. Anyhow, I hope you take this to heart. Anyone who follows me knows how much I love you all and just want to keep getting the word out that you cannot delay treatment for mental health without terrible consequences. But let me say this, there is some really good news on here about the success we are having worldwide in a new area to help….tj

 

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Is Therapy Going To Drive Me To Suicide?

Most people in and around the mental health field as a client or provider are familiar with these two terms. The question is, what is the difference? Its a valid question that deserves an honest answer.

So your deciding how to address the situation your going through and the options. Whether it be a depression issue, a divorce issue or any other circumstance that has proved itself to be interfering in your routine to the point that you need at least some action. Lets face it, there are thousands of different providers who all claim to offer up the most successful, healing, lasting and least restrictive and intrusive on your life.

Where do you start? A friend’s recommendation? An ad that catches your eye or ear? The most well known methods? Its a tough call for anyone. It does not have to be. You see just as we have progressed in other industries like automobiles, and appliances and homes, the same applies when it is time for mental health choices. We don’t screw bolts into the sides of peoples heads anymore to see the effect. We don’t torture people hoping to alter behavior or feelings. Things have improved. Much progress has been made in these areas and you will do yourself a disservice by not following up on what is working and what is not.

Just because you are struggling with an issue in your life does not paralyze your ability to educate yourself. Of course you must be strong enough to make your own decisions and choices on treatment unless you are in need of inpatient care. This post is about outpatient care. If you follow along you just may see clearly some things that have been unclear until now. I have had extensive experience in both coaching and therapy, both as a client, and eventually as a professional for 20 years. To try and break down all the theories of personality and modalities of treatment would take an entire book. In my opinion it is not necessary.

Everyone has their opinion about what works best and many of the ideas have validity and can indeed help. However do you want to get 45% help when another method would bump that up to 85%? Of course not. Let me add that I have no dog in the hunt. Our team together has decades of experience in just about every major modality used in outpatient therapy. If you want to come lay on a couch each week while we remind each other how miserable your life has been, someone will take your money. But what about outcomes? After all the whole point of therapy is to get better and move on with your life, right?

What if medication is recommended? We all know that game right? Try this for 6 weeks, if it does not make you feel good we will change to the next, and the next and so on. You may be caught up in a weekly sit down regurgitating old dark memories for a year before any medications start working. That is , if they ever work, since even major drug makers have admitted that 5 or 6 of their latest anti-depressants actually cause suicidal thoughts.

OOPS! Yeah, it does happen and it is not uncommon.

But even so, therapy is just so much more ” professional ” sounding. It must be the best if its been around so long. I mean this coaching thing is fairly new. Why take chances on that when you can enjoy the benefits listed above of a therapeutic model?

Maybe because coaching works.

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Lets take a closer look at this whole coaching model. The coaching models at least that I am familiar with takes the therapy model and turns it on its head. It rejects everything traditional long term therapy stands for.

Coaching focuses on what is right in your life. What you can do well. What strengths we have. A return to normalcy as soon as possible in the least restrictive environment is key. On the other hand have we all not at one time or another seen a post or article that begins with  ” I have been seeing my therapist now for 5 years  ” or  ‘ My therapist says he thinks I need a higher dose of medication”. If you have not, you need not leave WordPress because they are everywhere.

Try finding one that says they have had their coach for more than a few months. It will be tough. The reason being is coaches create independence for you by emphasizing what you can do and have done well, whereas a typical therapy session will hover around how many failures or let downs occurred and how did you deal with them. If not monitored closely therapy can simply become something you must depend on and have or you will crack. It also can make for real strong job security for the provider. I am in no way saying that this is always the case, I am simply pointing out the facts.

 

Let me give you another example that may be easier to illustrate. AA & NA have been absolutely famous and known to be the savior for millions who swear they cant make it without it. There is good reason for that. Part of the mantra you must repeat and repeat and repeat until its drilled in your head is that you are powerless over your addiction.  Sounds like pure healthy honesty right? We need to face the truth, right? The problem here folks is that most AA & NA programs have a tough time breaking into double digits as far as success in remaining sober for 12 months. Hmm. Sounds like AA & NA need the addicts more than the addicts need it.

Now I can already here people yelling at me reciting the serenity prayer and how the program has kept you clean for 5 years. If that is true, good for you and stick with it. The problem is we have this other 90% who fail and fail and fail. This group is just as important as the 10% who are doing well. right? The program or therapeutic modality cannot replace the addiction. Trading one addiction for another is , well not the goal.

Lets quickly review. Coaching is a process where someone trained in the area your needing comes along side of you and helps you identify your strengths, address any negative patterns that are interfering with your life and resets your thinking and goals to align with your abilities. This process in general is a much shorter and effective one that rarely disturbs your daily routine and acts more as a cheerleader to help you up and out of a rut then a tape recorder that plays your most hideous memories over and over until one week you think you have it beat- but then at your therapy session your forced to drag it back out of the dark corner of your head.

Coaching is not becoming dependent in any way on someone else. Therapy can lead to a total dependency on a person to survive, and even worse create a stigma that you are lesser of a person because you cannot live life normally or without the handicap of a label, diagnoses, or medication.

Am I saying that therapy is a waste and coaching is the only way to get help? Of course not. What I absolutely am saying is that one better be educated on their true need lest they become involved in a very dependent situation that may strip you of self esteem when that method is not needed. I have been a therapist. I have been a coach which is what I am more involved in then formal therapy. There will always be times when someone is in need of long term clinical therapy. What I have learned however is that everyone deserves the chance to be helped up and out of a rut through short term coaching before the much more restrictive clinical environment.

Besides the the stigma, the dependency, and the long term visits in the therapy model, you also need to understand that the difference financially between the two are radical and you are talking tens of thousands of dollars for any long term clinical therapy and that is besides medications. Why would you put yourself or anyone you love in that box before you give them a chance to be coached back to health? So far I have given you my personal and career experience, but in case your wondering, the established and very well run coaching programs that are in existence now are running circles around any treatment centers for addictions and over 20 other issues from domestic violence to PTSD. As a matter of fact many insurance companies wont even pay for therapy anymore. That is right, they pulled out and are happy to pour their efforts into legit coaching programs. Why would they, when the success rates on coaching is 75% and up and traditional treatment centers around 20%? Not to mention coaching is 1/3 the cost if not more to you and to insurers.

I want to close with a very important point. This article is designed to offer new options and hope to those who may not be familiar with coaching model. Any good therapist or doctor will tell you the truth about whether long term expensive therapy is needed or if coaching is what will work best for the client. I wont lie to you, just like any industry, not every provider is truthful and many will keep you or your child locked up and medicated as long as the payer will pay. Authorities are trying to crack down on those who use clients for personal gain but with tens of thousands of programs, it is very hard.

Take a few minutes and enjoy a laugh. The Old School Psychiatrists Were Just a little more upfront and honest with their patients then in today’s world- Would it not be nice if all Doctors were this up front! Today she would likely here ” Maam, you have OCD, your in denial, you are paranoid and I think these 3 prescriptions may help….We can all learn a thing or two from this Bob Newhart clip…

I have worked with and still do some of the finest clinical therapists around and they are excellent. Doctors as well and in no way am I saying nobody needs clinical therapy. What I am doing here is giving you all a little heads up about what is coming down the pipe. Coaching has proven itself, its cost effective, and is the latest and greatest alternative to what we had to live with. You will hear about it if you have not. All the Don’t Label My Kid! Team members are coaches and you can check out our areas of expertise on the home page menu. Read a quick bio of what we each do and reach out to us if you think you need help. We always work with people and have yet to turn anyone away.

This is a post I would not have written even two years ago. However the coaching success, and opportunities for those who have been coached to actually become working coaches after they find success makes this a win win for anyone and everyone. Don’t put it off anymore. No matter what the age, race, background, or need- believe me we have been there and done it. Just look at our bios and you will understand. If you are doing great, and your kids are doing great. but you have this friend from church, neighbor, or relative that is hurting- be the one to help them get help. You never know what people may be just one more step away from and the tragedy of ignoring it can do.

When my brother shot himself after we just watched some television together, I sure wish I would have asked him why he was so quiet for 2 hours. But, I did not. Instead he walked out the door and shot himself in the head. Don’t let that happen to anyone you know. Contact us immediately for prompt response.

Write these contacts down. Print this out. Share with a friend. Share with your followers. We cannot help unless you get in touch. At the bottom is a personal cell number that is available to call 24/7- 365. If you are in trouble now, or know who is , you may call it anytime.

Otherwise for a consult about a family plan, or individual need and 100% confidential, email one of these – leave a contact number in the subject if you wish to be called back

dontlabelmykid2@gmail.com or tim@dontlabelmykid.com

Emergency Crisis Line- 386-675-7549

TJ

 

Ladies And Gentlemen We Are Actually Breaking Into The Entire WordPress Blog -Cast Live Feed To Bring You History In The Making! Come Hither And Bring The Family ….

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Your Freedom In 60 seconds my brothers and sisters

 

I am literally shaking right now in awe and I am hoping to make it through this break without a complete breakdown of blood boiling excitement.

We have just gotten confirmation that our world and those who have been enslaved to the addictions in this world which has caused millions of lives to be ruined, are TOTALLY FREE of its reach anymore. Recent discoveries about telling your mom you have a problem and crafty moves like refusing to give up on HOPE- is all that is really involved.

Yes – you can believe It! Hundreds have confirmed by their ” likes”  and this has  now been verified..  after billions of dollars and studies,  and  decades spent trying to break this code-  the mystery of addiction has been solved.

While  scientists have been researching genetics and the like over the years in laboratories and researching socioeconomic backgrounds to try and find any link to freedom from addiction-  it turns out by just a few easy steps it can be done. It has been right in front of us all this time. Its actually being reported in my ear piece from central command that pill bottles are falling from the sky as well as alcohol bottles, presumably tossed from  bloggers in high story apartments and high rises who have received our breaking news already..

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Those in treatment facilities that have been in bondage to this are rising up and walking away. http://wp.me/p7hi1Z-a12

As you may have noticed by now just by looking around your office, everyone is taken aback that this hundreds years old mystery had been solved and revealed right here on WordPress, and best of all, it will take 1 minute of your precious time to scan and conquer your lifelong addiction..

Elders and Statesman and well-known actresses are now actually stopping their activities to witness history being made here on WordPress…

To think , in one minute, you too will have the key that unlocks addiction. As it says in the manual here- you just don’t lose hope. You tell another you have a problem. It turns out that admitting you have a problem is actually the FIRST step! Who would have thunk? Ladies & Gentleman, may I present your key to freedom in a 1 minute read…click and be free..

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If Your Presence Does Not Make An Impact- Your Absence Wont Make A Difference..

People are always looking to impress others. Some flash money, some flash their bodies, some try to make people laugh. The list goes on. How though, do we truly make a lasting impact on the people we are interacting with? I came up with a few ways to leave a group of people knowing you have made an impact.

1-Dont over-talk. If everyone is competing for airtime trying to get their two cents in, the only person truly leaving a lasting impression is the mystery person. The one who spoke only when the conversation warranted.

2-Never gossip, judge, or cut others down. If the group is doing that, either exit the conversation or stay quiet and pull out your day timer to double-check your schedule. No matter what do not allow yourself to be associated with people known to do this. If you have no choice, and you cannot do the day timer thing, then speak up for yourself and say ” I am sorry I am just not comfortable talking about people behind their back.

3-Dont do what most do and try to impress others by fancy jargon, recent incredible accomplishments and desperate measures to get the spotlight. Instead, when you do talk be brutally transparent. Tell the truth about how you feel, or what you think about things, even your weaknesses. This is not too common and you will be remembered for that alone. ( Not bragging but my ” brutally honest strategy is how I got where I am today with well over 75 followers!) LOl- ok next.

4-Listen. Most people spend so much time bumpin their gums that they don’t take time to actually hear what people are talking about. Many times, you may have a great answer for the group to hear, but you are so busy talking you never have time to  actually give the valuable information. Be the odd man out and listen.It makes you stand out.

5- Lastly, mix in an Altoid.

Most of the things on the list have one thing in common. They are not the norm in today’s schmoozing circles. Simply by being different ( in a good way) you raise awareness to you and your cause, because you are not just another worker bee trying to compete. You are out of the ordinary. When you are not there​, you are actually missed.Thats making an impact!

tj

 

Have Any Of These Thoughts Run Through Your Mind?

Any of these thoughts ring a bell?

  • Life is not worth it
  • I hate myself
  • I have screwed things up too much to be fixed now.
  • Nobody likes me/ I have no real friends
  • Everyone else is doing well but me
  • I wonder if anyone would even miss me
  • Addiction sucks and I will always be stuck into this hell.
  • What would be the best way to kill myself, gun? Jump off a bridge?
  • I am so depressed, it’s never going to get better.
  • What would God do or say to me if I did off myself?
  • Nobody understands the pain I am in, I cannot explain it.
  • Why does all the bad stuff happen to me?
  • Where is God?
  • Nobody in my family loves me anymore anyways.
  • I am useless. Worthless.
  • I have no purpose in my life
  • I am not good at anything.
  • I wonder if a lot of people would come to my funeral.
  • I cannot go on its too painful
  • I wish I could talk to someone, but I am scared they might judge me

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These are a partial list of questions that have run through my own mind in the past which prompted me to reach out for help, in several areas. Even with all my education and experience, I still suffered through the same pain and hopelessness that many others do.

The difference in me now, and then is I did have someone who like me had been through the same stuff, and was a professional in the field as well. He was able to lead me to the right resources to get the right help with nobody knowing until I wanted them to know.

Folks, that’s what I am here for today. I am choosing to spend the rest of my career helping people and entire families get through some big hurdles. I can help you its 100% confidential, and I promise  will save you thousands of dollars in fancy offices with lots of suits walking around. If you are having any of those thoughts or similar,like I used to, then get in touch with me email tim@dontlabelmykid.com or if its urgent call my cell 386-675-7549.

Don’t forget your friends and family who might need help if you don’t. Please share this with your readers if you don’t mind so I can get the word out that death is not the answer. Suicide is not the solution, and addiction does not have to own them.

Again- Please take a minute to share this with your people as I cannot reach but my only group.

Peace & Hope

TJ

Meantime, The Fellas From The Charlotte NC Diocese Get A Day Off- Would You Believe They Cant Stay Away From Serving Even One Day? Tireless.

Some footage of the fellas hanging out on some downtime in the Catholic diocese in Charlotte North Carolina….I hear every night at 6 is nail painting pajama party..rumor has it those rascals like to jump on the beds and have a pillow fight – followed by a dog pile…oh boys will be boys..

They are always looking to serve, even on days off.  It’s as if they can’t get enough of just loving on people-especially those little guys..

Some volunteer at the mall as a big furry animal, some are out on skate patrol checking all the local playgrounds to make sure the children have someone watching them….

The guys are willing to do whatever it takeseven potty training and changing duty at the local mall just to give the parents a few minutes to shop alone.When asked if they ever get tired of serving the response from all were amazing. The skating priest really summed it all up – ” Tired of it? This  is what keeps us going! As a matter of fact I think I speak for all my fellow priests when I say that a good 75% of us are here just for the kids!” 

 

Ooh! I think I see Bugs Bunny at the mall on potty duty today! It’s a dirty, dirty job. Very few people could even think about doing that!

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Free Hugs!

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The Throw Down !

Like A Junkyard brawl- these two were the winners at the Bishops weekly drawing and got the coveted Playground Patrol- but instead of a feel good day identifying lost kids, the heels came off and as you can see, it was ON!

( Fortunately non of those punches broke any nails.)

These two  warriors were supposed to be monitoring playgrounds which they were very much looking forward to..  As a matter they told the neighborhood watch program ” We got this” and gave them all a break . These two did not get to touch the lives of small children as they had hoped ( in the ministry sense of course) all because of a tiff over nail polish,.
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  A Great day to really feel the confessions of todays…8 year olds.

Confession duty can be a tedious task as you might imagine. So each priest is asked what age group they prefer to hear confession from. Oh, look this one decided on…yep
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I cannot emphasize enough just how much these priests need to be recognized-for what they do. I don’t think people really have any idea what goes on behind the scenes. All they see is the confessions and rituals but not the overtime put in.

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The Godfather Of The Rape & Run Himself

But- the boss of the crew- the don…the man with a 40 year  Groom & Doom and rape then good but stay out of jail pass- is who has really gotten away with a decades long predator career and all the while some think he is a priest!!

We finally may be seeing his rich and retired mug on the news because he went for that one last score Our Lady Of The Rosary in Lexington NC in 2010-2013 or so and he went for the jackpot. Juggling 6 boys in two years and through the usual threats and intimidation was able to keep them quiet – until recently…..stay tuned.  Father Albert Gondek  may be on the receiving end of his hobby if he ever meets Bubba in prison,  But we all know that is unlikely, so lets see how the law and media handles it when he is proven guilty, again.

Castration an option?

Father Gondek

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Sick Freak

Nowhere to run now. Nowhere to hide.

 

TJ

Veteran successfully treated for PTSD in breakthrough drug study

New Drug For PTSD -Looks Hopeful

If you all know any vets or anyone for that matter who suffer from PTSD -this may be something to share with them. According to the article the new muscle relaxer type drug tool almost all the symptoms away from a vet who suffered so badly he had a seeing eye dog to to help him cope with the public each day..I believe clinical trials are in Texas but they are usually fairly limited so I would get in touch ASAP.

TJ

Special; On Parenting- For Parents Of Children With Disabilities…

If you caught my brief bio posted the other day you may have seen that I was responsible write each IEP ( Individual Education Plan ) for all of the students in the schools I  started. As a matter of fact, this blog title (in part)  was named after the unbelievable flaws I saw while doing this. The school boards typically don’t offer parents the help that your child is entitled to if they have a documented disability.

I like to think of a child with a ” disability ” as a child with a ” different ability”

At an IEP meeting, a  ” Staffing Specialist ” from the board is there to represent the board and throw in the hat what they are willing to offer as far as support. Exactly like the psychiatrist who tells you your son or daughter has some  ” disorder ” usually you are at the mercy of their opinion or decision. That should never be the case. However how are you to know what is right and what isn’t?

Simple – email me and I will help you get the help, assistance and services your child deserves!

dontlabelmykid2@gmail.com

( when you email me, please do not go into the entire story, but just the type of situation it is, and your best contact number- I like to hear it straight from you so I can get the details I want and need to help!)

Another Body … Just Another Bum.. A Drunk Most Likely… Should Have Made A Life For Himself. Right? No. That Could Be Us…. { Turning The Corner- Don’t Label My Kid! Lets Do It!} 2017- Taking It Up A Level..We Need Each Other..

Mental Health. Looks like this pretty much , right?  I took this picture 2 days ago. You know why? I assumed when I contacted the law to pick the body up they may want some documentation of when and where I found the guy.  Not that its any big deal, I see these bums all day long here in Daytona. Heck You and me could have ended up like that if we didn’t make the right choices, right? Whatever. Who are we kidding. But for the grace of God, there goes me.

In this case I got to walk away feeling better then I initially thought. You see, when I realized he was stiff, and smelled bad I just instinctively went to see if he had any ID to give the law. I was quite shocked when he about jumped when my hand touched his jacket pocket. He was alive! Sort of. Mike, as I later learned was his name was so scared I came to hurt him that he was shaking, I sat down with him and told him it was all good and I help people like him. I am a social worker. I help all people. No matter the age, race, issues, addictions, etc.

I know you cant see all that well in this picture as far as his age and all, but after we had talked awhile he shared a little about his life. Take a guess as to his age? Just do it, ball park.

Mike is 51.

I was able to offer him some options that he never knew were there. I know because that is my gift. We all have gifts, and in my case I have the ability to identify what people need to make their situation the very best it can be. I have done it for my entire career as a clinical social worker. I have worked with teens, parents, mental health patients, addicted folks, poverty stricken, violent people, even the most seriously developmentally disabled people in the world, literally. I have been called on to improve the quality of life for those who are deaf, dumb, blind, and aggressive. Can you imagine? The people in that arena that I ran programs for were abused so badly as babies that even though many were born ” normal” they had some of the most evil parents and caregivers you could imagine. Tossed in dumpsters as babies left to die, left on the hot Florida beaches as infants simply because the mom or dad was too lazy to bring them to a fire station or another outlet who would gladly have taken them in.

I started a school for 60 felons, ages 11-18. Gang members, 12 year old kids running crack at 3am on school days for their own parents. I lived for 5 years with 45 teens who were sexually abused very severely. Every group of people I worked with I was so thankful to have a God given gift to see through the outside and meet the true need on the inside. Now, before anyone thinks I am bragging – it could not be further from the truth. I am so  ” ungifted ” in some areas that men should be – lol- I remember a time when I had my young boys with me in my truck and I noticed my wipers were bad. I could not see through them. I stopped at the Auto Zone , ordered up 2 wipers in a manly voice…and spent the next 30 minutes in the parking lot trying to figure out how to put the blades on until my 7 year old son took pity on me. He installed them in 5.

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If you have followed me long you will note that although I share my personal struggles, and trials, I have never laid out an ” I love me post” about my accomplishments in my gifts. One reason is because I realize it is a gift. I can help anyone, in any situation, no matter what the circumstances. I just don’t feel comfortable bragging about something that I was given. Oh, believe me – I can hang with the best of the braggers. I have the degrees, the awards and all that jazz. I could not even tell you where any of them are right now. I don’t care. I care about educating people and helping them save time, money and stress.

What I love most about what I do is I know every single job duty all those people and more have. But I don’t have to become each one. I sure can steer you to who will actually help you and who wants your money. I can tell you that in many cases I have not been able to get to the parent or family in time before they got taken for a ride to the tune of tens of thousands of dollars and more. That’s the reason I am so determined to hold providers of mental health, addictions, behavioral health, and juvenile delinquents accountable for what they do. I know what they should be doing – but you don’t. I am not a psychiatrist, but if you have ever read my home page ” mental heath- its a crazy business” you know I do not mince words. Why? I know the truth.. Do want to know how many doctors or psychologists, psychiatrists have written me nasty letters over the 4 years I have been slamming them? ZERO.

I am sharing this for a reason. I am hanging my shingle again. For 4 years I have poured my heart out on here about my entire life. Its time to help you all get to where you need and want to be. And I am asking you to trust your family or personal needs into my care. I make the same promise I have kept my entire career. I will NEVER leave you broken. An I will certainly never leave you broke.  I don’t discharge my families when they go through a rough patch financially. I love using my gift. You may have noticed I have never taken a dime for any thing here, I do not sell ads like some. This audience that you all are was hand picked. I have never connected to the internet, other then this WordPress sight.

Last check this blog has had visitors from 65 countries ( that I know of ) and followers from at least 25 that I know of. That’s not my doing. It is no accident. You all are here for a reason. I am here to help.

When Mike Carey came along and was willing to join with this mission, I was and still am ecstatic. Why? Because Mike and I share a similar passion. We both love to use our gifts to help others. We both will never leave anyone hanging until they are well.  I am gong to show you a real life example of how God has already used Mike in my own family. Most of you know I have 2 grown boys, and 2 baby girls. Well, babies to me, they are 5 & 10.

This is my baby Shelbi..

My baby had 72 sticks with a needle that her doctor insisted on to test for allergies. For nothing. Next up he said – blood work! No. No way.. But what can I do? Better late then never – I called our resident gifted man in the healing of diseases. He said ” you took her where” ? ( made me feel even lower lol) –  No more he said , get her on the phone with me tonight for a minute or two. I was thinking to myself-  Hello!! What was I thinking? Tonight Shelbi said hello to Mr. Mike for about 2 minutes, and 10 minutes later he says ” oh she has some poisoning in her system and a viral infection. Go to your local health food store and get 2 items ( like 5 bucks each) and in 7 days it will be gone.

HUH?? What? Why did I forget the other people I have sent to him who had major diseases go away? Anyways no blood work and that’s  Mikes gift.

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If you need physical healing – take advantage of  this gift right in front f you . If its healing in any other area, call on me. I work on a case by case basis, until the job is done. I want you all to take this email address down.

Dontlabelmykid2@gmail.com – to help with Tj-

that is your direct line to me. I will be adding a toll free number as well but for now get me there. I will develop with you what I call a  “Plan of Care ”

There is NO issue you can throw at me that I havent done a hundred times. Confidentially we will put it all in place and work it out financially It sure would make me feel good if you all would entrust your needs to Mike and I. I thank you in advance . .

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With all we are trying to accomplish through this platform of Don’t Label My Kid!  It would really make a big difference if you all would commit to utilizing the gifts that Mike and  I have- for your own family. so that we can keep on helping others and continue trying to do what we do ..put pedophiles away -heal families -help addicts-  bring families together and just grow spiritually , emotionally and physically.

God Bless you all . Please Step up for this..

Tj

2017 Series -Getting Through The Dark Times; Faith It ‘Til Ya Make It!

 

In the last 4 years I have written about many topics from parenting to depression, addiction to PTSD, medication, suicide, therapy  and so much more. It seems like a lot but as I have always said, I don’t speak on anything that I haven’t lived through personally or at the very least studied professionally. In the beginning I thought writing about so many different types of issues would make it seem like life is filled with nothing but bad stuff. However  I learned two important things in the last four years; I am not alone, and people need to hear from others who can relate.

So far I have mostly  discussed all the different types of problems and medical mental health struggles and family issues that exist. And there’s plenty to discuss no doubt. . Up until now, I have not really delved into how we deal with these issues as we go through these dark trials. Its imperative that we have some way of staying grounded during these times we walk  through the valley.

 It’s very important that we have some sort of an anchor to keep us from drifting too far away from reality when we feel so lost in such darkness, and with so few friends. As most of you have understood, if I shared my life experiences, some of these times are gone through very much alone and there are not many people around that can relate. Unless you really search. And most of the time we don’t feel like searching for anything when we’re barely able to wake up every day and get dressed. Having been through very traumatic times that caused depression, and nightmares and loneliness and sometimes the inability to function normally. I can understand the darkness that prevails if we allow it to.

 There’s a few things in my life that I can honestly say, are the only reasons that I am here today, both physically and mentally spiritually and emotionally. I know that if it took those things to keep me saying then all of you also had to have some way that you’ve coped something that held you together. and some? To that you’ve used to make it to the point, we are able to even write about it today on a blog. The truth is professionally I’ve seen that it isn’t a very high percentage of us that are able to make it even this far- in fact we are a  very blessed group of people to have come through what we have and able to share it with other people. Speaking of sharing it with other people that is a critical piece in healing. It isnt always about us -the spotlight can’t always be on us even in our dark times and the truth is some of the ways out of these dark times the very quickest are by reaching out to others and pulling them up with the knowledge we have.

Sometimes when you need a friend the most you got to go and be a friend to someone. . Sometimes when you need encouragement the most you need to go and encourage someone. And even sometimes when you need financial help, you need to reach out to someone who you know could use what little bit you have and help them.. The point is as tempting as it is when we are in these dark times, the worst thing we can do is send out invitations for a pity party. I have always found some good advice from a guy that sings a song full of truth abut these times. I would like to share this song with you and I’ve shared the one with lyrics so you can read along… Please take 3:38 minutes out and watch it…at the end of this post. It may just resonate with you somehow…( you may have to click on it to play it)

So as I kick off the on going series on how we have made it to the point we are, I would ask that you all share any advice that you have. I shared all the problems lol- now I need help with looking at many solutions. I am leaving this wide open, and welcome any guest posts on the topic. Like I said – the more you share the more therapeutic it is.

So lets see where this goes y’all

If You’re Going Through Hell..

ADDICTION SERIES 2017- The Pathetic Failure To Provide Effective Care & The Hoax Of AA & NA..

People are always talking about how addicts don’t seem to ” want ”  get better or that they don’t try hard enough . We now recognize addiction  as a disease and that’s progress.

However- the blame for the miserable 25% -40%  (at best) success that some claim they have, goes right back to the providers. In this country is least when we go to an auto repair shop we expect them to know how to repair the auto, or we don’t keep taking it there. If we go to a lawn mower shop we want them to know how to repair our brand of lawn mower and wouldn’t accept anything less. Things in the area of human care and condition are quite different . There is no accountability for starters.

 As  you see in this LinkedIn document posted here,  my featured image,  one addictions “specialist”  asks a question of other ” specialists” ..on how to handle a client.. that in itself is not typical or shouldn’t be but what really should be astonishing to all is the response..

 The result is not one or two opinions but more than 80!

How comfortable would you feel if that patient was you or one of your loved ones that you we’re going to get effective care?  That is unbelievable. How could we ever treat anybody effectively if we can’t even agree on how to treat addictions in general? 

This is one of the reasons that Don’t Label My Kid! is advocating and implementing our own treatment models and services so that we can make sure treatment is actually successful and appropriate..

Another mind-blowing statistic is the failure rate of AA and NA organization,  how it came to be and what a prosperous organization it is financially. In this link you can read of all about it.

What hope does the addict really have- knowing what we do?

We are striving to be that hope!

The Hoax of NA and AAThe Hoax of NA and AA

http://www.alternet.org/books/pseudoscience-aa-and-rehab

tj

Listen To An Audio Update From TJ …

Take a few minutes and listen to what is happening at DLMK!

You may have to load this first then open back up to play..

 

TJ- Audio Greeting & Update