Why Some Don’t Get Upset At Pedophiles…The Worst Answer Possible.

One of the darker parts of being a social worker is having to see and learn about some situations that are very disturbing. For me an area that bothers me very much is the problems with older perverted men going after little boys and girls for their sexual gratification.

You may notice that I write alot about the pedophile racket in the Catholic church and any other things t hat harm children.

I’ve written about just about any situation a family can go through from mental health, behavioral health to addiction and parenting just to name a few.

Usually the response is very good because we all go through some struggles at sometime. There has been one thing over the years that has eating away at me though and I’ve just now gotten to the bottom of it. It’s not good news to me.

The sad fact is that we have nearly a million sex offenders in the USA. We have around 300 million people in the USA. This means if you have 1000 followers in your blog, it’s likely that at least 3 are pedophiles, that have been caught. So could it be that the numbers of offenders is much higher and thus the lack of support for anti- offender posts? I hope not. However numbers don’t lie.

A million registered offenders just in the USA is a ton. Anyone share my concern?

Tj

Trump Is A Machine…But Not An ATM…

Love him or love him, you must admit he seems to always find a way to one up the bad guys. .I can’t believe we have been the “Do-Boys for these guys this long anyhow.

Good for you…Again Me President!

And just so those up in the peanut gallery can hear, would you be so kind as to remind us…

Trump tells the UN countries who still are fighting the Israel thing that perhaps its  time they stop getting cash! Oops!

Tj

How About Puttin Your Hands Together In Prayer  For My Nephew Nick As He “Rolls” Into Alabama This Fall?? 

I know my sister Pam would appreciate a whole bunch of prayers this mothers day as she sends her ” baby ” Nick off to college. He is ” AllEverything“- lol– The grades, the looks,  Homecoming King, Scratch golfer, Captain Of Mens Volleyball team- but most importantly good people like his mama and daddy.

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I am hoping to comfort her worries by letting her see a show of my fellow bloggers around the world that they would be willing to launch a prayer or two for Nick’s overall well-being, safety, and a hedge of protection from the dark forces trying to take our kids out of the light these days…

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So if you consider yourself a praying person please like and say a prayer for Nick’s Alabama future. If you’re not a praying person yet, how about starting today? I truly believe we need to start using our networks as prayer coverings for each other. Lets start here and now !

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My data shows bloggers from 65 countries have been on this site..how many can I get an ” Amen” for Nick for today” In ANY language!
Thanks!

TJ

 

Two Sure Bets.

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100% Guarenteed Best Parenting Advice -Period. If You Are A Parent- Read Now. I Doubt You Have Heard This…

 

I don’t recall ever being so bold as to proclaim that I have an answer that every single parent will find invaluable. I am going to put that out there today however. The reason is simple. I personally have lived it, its tried and tested and proven a winner in every venue I have worked in, lived in and taught in. Before I quickly share this, I feel under the circumstances I should at least give you a quick breakdown of my background in this area, so you know I am not blowing smoke from some Dr. Dobson book I just read.

My experience in parenting;

Live in foster parent to over 50 abused, neglected and very troubled teens. For over 4 years I had 6 living with me at a time, for anywhere from 7 to 12 months average. I was responsible to develop individual behavioral plans, treatment goals and teach social skills to each until they were ready to transition back into their home situation. In most cases I worked with the parents of the teens on parenting issues, planning and transition goals for both the parents and the teen.

Certified 4x by Father Flanagan’s Boys and Girls Town as a Family Teacher. I worked in the emergency shelter, group home as mentioned and in both boys and girls homes.

I was hired by the state, specifically the Department of Juvenile Justice to teach parenting to groups, and also lead groups to teens in the system.

I have managed/run several day programs, alternative schools for expelled youth, and while managing one school I was asked to train the entire teacher roster in central Florida on classroom management. Three counties worth, and using a skills and behavior management model that I developed.

The most recent alternative setting I was involved in was for kids who were expelled from public school, sent to the secure treatment facility for violent offenders-then expelled from there. I got them next. Sixty  kids from 8-18- many convicted felons. Gang members, one of which sadly was murdered one night after school near his home by a rival.  Within a year, using my own model for behavior and hiring a staff of 45 then training them, most were saying yes sir and doing well in school. Ready to transition back to public school.

I was nominated for Administrator of the year my first year- for that county. ( I hate awards and recognitions as I am not into it, and I am not in it for that). Nevertheless, my Executive Director made me attend the party at the Hilton Oceanside to announce the winner. I was the 2nd place guy, and the winner was a 20 year county judge who was retiring.

 

I also have 4 of my own. 2 boys -2 girls. Boys are up and out. My older son is in the Army reserves, a sniper/ weapons expert, full-time college student and full time worker as well. He took 30th in the nation out of 30k in 9mm marksmen and since then he has had many doors open, he chose military over law enforcement… ( he said he did not want to arrest his friends… : {  umm wait a minute, should I be worried about that statement, I remember thinking…what are his friends doing??? lol)

My younger son -19 is a professional bull rider and is currently around 20th in the world or so, and the current southern states champion in his circuit. He has made more money in the last year then I have in 10 years. I never made a lot, but when I was 19 I was begging for a 10 spot from my mom…so I am super proud.

My little babies are my heartbeat. 9&5 – I am not at all partial but I think they are at least in the top .0001% of cutest kids around….

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Ok, enough about my experience. It was necessary in this unusual scenario, for credibility but please understand I am not bragging at all. I am an imperfect man who has made far too many major mistakes in my lifetime for my liking.

As matter of fact the advice I am sharing now was birthed out of me being forced as a young dad, to either try to hide my problems and mistakes from my kids, put on the old happy daddy face and pretend I have it all together, or keep it legit, and lay it ALL on the table for my then young boys to absorb and possibly judge me on.

Let me reiterate one thing. There is nothing as a parent, even with the experience, training and degrees that I did long enough and consistently enough to call myself a role model parent and stick my chest out. Quite the contrary actually.  I grew up with a father that actually introduced me to all the WRONG things, and ways at a very early age that cost me many good years. Not blaming anyone for my problems, but sometimes I wish I would have had a decent shot at the starting line. It took, and still is taking me decades to untangle some of the crazy webs that have been woven in my brain since 6-8 years old.

My understanding of the value of women, the importance of choosing words carefully as you cannot “un-hear” -and that little issue of being fed alcohol while barely in double digits then not understanding why I was in withdrawals for many of my high school years really messed me up.

So it doesn’t really matter who caused what, or who is to blame. Kids don’t care. It is what it is to them. What you see is what you get.

Now, I will tell you what I decided. I decided to gamble. I laid it all on the line. Came clean with boys. Depression, addiction, everything. Yes, I felt like a loser at that moment. I would never ever trade it though. Never.

So the heart of the matter is this; You are not perfect. You will, if you have not already take a fall….that can become public to your family at best.. I can attest as the chief of all sinners that there is very little you can do to dance your way around, avoid, disguise, and evade issues that you know very well your kids will find out about or already know. It has NEVER worked in my 22 years as a parent and 25 years in this field.

The very best thing you can do for the respect and trust of your family, is come clean. Sit down and talk about what you are struggling with, what you are worried about, take ownership. Not just that though, you need to share your plans to remedy, and invite them to be a part, if appropriate. In my case, the first time I had a sit down of this type, I shared my on-going struggle with addiction to alcohol, and then revealed my plan to enter into an inpatient program.

That was the best move I ever made. Not only did I have a giant monkey off my back, but somehow my kids respected me more. Because of that dialogue many years ago, we have this open door, no fear deal which allows them to talk to me about anything without judgement, and me to do the same. Nobody can use my past struggles against me anymore because I chose to put it out there myself..

I don’t know who this is for , but it must be important to someone as it has been burning a hole in my soul all night to get posted. You may not have the issues I did, maybe its totally different. It doesn’t matter, because the point of this post is to share a golden parenting tip, a sure fire way to be a winner of a parent. It ain’t by being perfect. Because not one of us is. It is by being transparent.

It takes a real ego check to do. Its difficult at first. Then freeing. 

All the years in all the programs, and schools and group homes I ran that I had such great success with had nothing to do with training, or education. Those things came in handy down the road. However the secret to my success with any kid I have worked with or my own kids, is nothing more then honesty.

I have taken and taught and trained on every possible theory in behavior and parenting. They all have some merit. They also all have one thing in common.

None work effectively, without complete transparency from the adult first. Kids give respect when it is modeled for them. Not forced respect either. Not they are afraid you will yell at them or beat them respect. I mean genuine respect, which unlocks the door for all the parenting books and ideas you want. Until you have that, its like sucking air through a very thin straw..

 

Hope this helps. It works!

 

tj

 

 

 

 

Mailbag! Questions Only We Dare Answer..

Dear DLMK!,

Do you not get it that Obama was much better then Trump? Personally  I have benefitted more from Obamas contributions to his country then anyone.  By a long shot..

Sincerely,

ISIS

Illegal Immigrants

The very reverend Al $harpton

JayZ

Muslim brotherhood

DLMK!- I can see how an American president would be seen as a threat to you. But it is what it is.
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Dear DLMK,

It is appalling to me to see the selfish motives of Donald Trump . As president we expect him to act presidential. Treat the white house with respect. Honor your wife. Dont spin things and participate in corruption. I feel sick . If only the white house walls could talk. 

Regards,.

William Jefferson Clinton.

DLMK- Mr Clinton, not each president can be the role model you were in the white house. We understand that you honored everything from Hanukkah to Monica while there. Let’s work with what we have .

DLMK


Dear DLMK,

Trump may be a good businessman but he has no right to force prayer time if desired in school and force his beliefs on us. And just because he happens to be straight does not give him any right to judge us and our preferences. He’s trying to separate the sheep from the goats I guess but he isn’t my judge. 

Sincerely, 

Imam Al-mohammed.

Dear Imam,

I think what the president is really trying to avoid is an influx of goats under the roofs of American buildings. Or as you all may call them ” Strip Clubs ” . 

DLMK
Tj

No Offers To Help From The Vatican Yet- Hmm . I CANNOT BELIEVE IT.

Check This Out- Heck We Could Work Full Time Jobs Forever Just To Shut This Down-

Go Big- Or- Go HOME!!!

Hmm-sounds fair. — Am I wrong here?  WOW-if it wont open I will fix- gotta go

 

Wow already 5 countries have hit me but sadly not Italy-

Oh, wait- that’s right they are trying to BAN police from knowing about any rapes. They promised to investigate- THOROUGHLY-

SCOUTS HONOR!- OH WAIT CANT USE THAT ONE-

You all have got me so fired up my blood is boiling – and I feel like I am waking up from a 20 year coma. When this whole thing is said and done — don’t go anywhere because you will never ever ever believe how all the pieces through the years have made a way to this day. Now it is the rubber meets road and I feel the need for SPEED!

I don’t know exactly how this will specifically unfold but I am telling you now so whenever it does I want you see- the rest..of the story all the way back. I mean you will freak out.

Thanks again-

tj

Romans 8:28 and Jeremy Camp- I still believe.

Those are the 2 things I spoke and listened to every day 20 years ago..that was just the beginning – and man I cant wait to see the ending.

ATTENTION! NEED JUST ONE MORE PIECE! LETS FINISH THIS RIGHT!

Thank you thank you so very much for re-blogging my brothers story. To my amazement this has taken it to yet another level, making it harder for the pedi-priest to slide out of this deal. I NEED TODAY this.

A consultant, businessman, investor, with some media knowledge and who is interested in what may become a very big and wide open investigation to include national syndicated talk shows and all media. Its sitting on the table.

I have not a minute for posers or anyone who has any other intention then to expose the ENTIRE CULT of pedi-priests in general. Of course after watching my brothers killer be locked up. It may involve books media and much else. I have spent 4 years writing about all this praying that one day this freak and others would be exposed.

Please only contact me if you have resources, negotiation skills with media and publishing and other. Financially you will never worry about your investment as we will do this if an agreement is made that is suitable. I can sell my book tomorrow and get paid because my brother is the one in this case involved. But why stop there? I have the connections to put national deals that would turn on a national spotlight long term on ALL these guys.

So if I find the right partner, we will go that route and hopefully make a HUGE dent in this ring. If not I will sell my own story, be happy Gondek is locked up and move on.

We can nab him- and thanks very much.

Or..there are these guys-

http://www.bing.com/images/search?q=picture+of+priests+being+arrested&FORM=HDRSC2&adlt=strict

Anyone else want to vomit?

 

That’s just the bottom line- me – right?? LOL

What is meant to happen will. Thanks to y’all who stepped up. It just took one and I am one step away from immediate and total focus on this. If I wait too long the next news story will get the chance I have. I have 24-48 hour window to at least solidify a partnership.  From there I can secure any national show I feel like it. That, would be awesome. So thanks and if you or someone in your crew that you trust and has what I need contact me 24 hours around the clock starting 6pm tonite. I will be lining up media as I talk to people and Y’all will understand if it works this way –

contact me by email or text first with any reservations-tjpetri16@gmail.com and text 386-675-7549- If you happen to know that you know that you know this is for you if you feel me -just call asap. Praying.

. If you already see and know and have experience in this and want in just call. I really just need a professional to handle all the negotiation and financials and things I don’t even want to know about. If you do your part the opp to pull in long term media to keep this crime exposed is also there. Its truly one of those one of a lifetime deals. The media has to stay with what is hot. Right this moment it is this. It wont be long.

Love you all for helping-

tj

 

 

 

Why God Didn’t Bless Me Yesterday… ( I Guess)

Some days you just know you aren’t going to have Gods favor , right? I mean our works performance is off, we aren’t careful with our mouth and so on. Yeah that was me yesterday. Just didn’t get enough right to win the favor.

Whew! Yesterday was rough. If someone accused me of being a Christian, I’m not sure there would have been enough evidence to convict me. And I am only sharing the stuff appropriate for public blogging…lol

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For example in the morning at a gas station some old man took it upon himself to point to the cross hanging from my rear view and to the harmless radar detector under it and tell me that one of them needs to go! So I exhorted ( biblical, right?) him and pointed out that perhaps he should go change his Hooters shirt before finger pointing.

After that an old AC/DC song with totally inappropriate lyrics came on- and yes I blasted it and sang every word. I also had my FISH symbol on the back window too,  so that’s like double sinning.

Ok now it gets ugly. For some reason every time I am starving and go through a drive through for a sandwich, I NEVER get a red light so I can get a bite. But when I’m in a hurry somewhere I get every red light made. I ended up saying a word that rhymes with STUCK, BUCK, DUCK. A few times. ( Don’t act all shocked either )
About an hour later some heathen in a new Corvette cut me off the road so I almost hit a tree. I kept my mouth shut and refrained from saying anything.
However, I did happen to run into him at the next light and gave him a friendly wave telling him he was #1 . I learned that wave from Dale Earnhardt of NASCAR and he was a champion so how bad could it be?
So I finally made it to church. I listened as the preacher talked about being saved by faith and not works. My itching ears were scratched.
That really set me free and I actually was ready to roll out early but before I could he went into the fruit of the Spirit and the witness of the believer as well as maturity of the believer.
Then he cracked open the book of James and read on the power of the tongue. I turned my MP3 player off for this part and I realized that there was some good news and some not so good news.

Good News!
1- I’m saved by the blood of Jesus not by my works. There is nothing I can do or say to make God love me any more, or any less!

More difficult news-

2- I am supposed to be different then this world. In it but not of it. Growing as a Christian is critical. There is no putting it on a shelf- you are either going forward and maturing or slipping back into the world.

I learned that it’s not about how many times we fall, but how many times we get up. It’s about not buying the lies of the enemy. It’s about remembering the promises of God no matter what it looks like.

When the enemy of your soul reminds you of all your sin, remind him that as a believer , God sees our sin through the blood of Christ. All He sees is the blood sacrifice of Christ. My Godfather used to have a pad of paper he would hand to each of us as we were growing up. He would tell us to write down every sin we could ever remember on the sheet, and assured us nobody would see it.

After we reluctantly wrote them down, he reached behind the notepad and flipped over what was a blood red plastic cover. He then showed it to us and asked us what sins we saw that we had written. None. The red cover had made them go away. That cover represented the blood of Christ, and how God sees believers in Christ.

We do need to keep growing though because each day that passes in this world the armor of God becomes more critical. If you aren’t familiar with the armor yet , then today is a perfect time to look into We do need to keep growing though because each day that passes in this world it!

Bottom line here is I was just as saved yesterday as any day. It’s not what I do for Him, but what He already did at the cross .

tj Continue reading “Why God Didn’t Bless Me Yesterday… ( I Guess)”

Open Letter To The Addict-Real Open.

Dear Addict-

You are constantly shunned and shamed by people who have never walked in your shoes. You have felt like you are useless, worthless and a failure because you have been unable to ” snap ” out of it like your family or friends tell you. You have sat alone many nights contemplating taking your life. The people judging you each day are usually actually doing sinful things in their own life, but somehow it makes them feel better about themselves to put you down. You are not sinning, you are fighting a disease.

The truth is that addiction does not discriminate and truth be told, one of the leading group of professionals who are in treatment for addiction- are Doctors! You wont hear much on that, but know your not alone. Your no dirtier they are. You just wont have the white jacket on at your NA meeting.

Why don’t people go to the cancer wards all over and tell the patients to ” snap out ” of it? After all if you should then they should -right? Your self-esteem is low and people use your weaknesses against you and even for their gain. The egotistical judges in this world who drive by a tired and depressed addict on the street like to name call and say get a job. You know that if you could somehow get help and get well, you would love to work. Its killing you that you have this chain of bondage around you each day.

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Nobody knows your background, how you became involved in whatever it is you are stuck in. As a matter of fact we both know that most of the judges out there would never have made it even half the time you have trying to battle this. They have sometimes never experienced childhood abuse, violence, trafficking, or incredible loss. They may not have a family with a history of addictions that they have had to fight like you in silence. You isolate, you then take a chance and go out in public, but if you fail, you resort back to isolating and contemplating life.

You know what? Good news for you today! The same Lord that died and rose from the dead loves you. He died for you too. He isn’t mad at you. He is a judge of the heart, not the outward actions. He is the only one who can give freedom from bondage. Don’t let the world fool you into thinking that you are a sinner and they aren’t just because your struggles are visible. Millions of those same judges are at home at night looking at child porn and other disgusting things. God knows it, so don’t sweat the small stuff. Pull yourself up and get back on the horse. It isn’t about if you fall, we all fall. It is about how you respond. Don’t stay down. Never stay down.

Next time you look in dismay at your scarred up arms – Remember These Scars.

Your value and identity and hope is in Him, not the hypocrites criticizing what they don’t understand.

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Peace

tj

Yup — Learning To Be Full Of Grace And Truth.

via Yup — Learning To Be Full Of Grace And Truth.

These words should bring great hope to those like me who are so very in need of a saviour..

 

The Day I Saw satan…

I’ll never forget where I was on that day. I was at the office where I met with families. There was a little television that the receptionist kept on low. We only had around 5 therapists in the office that day and it was quiet.

It would prove to be an ominous quiet that I still feel. Suddenly a woman therapist burst out with a loud cry.

. The rest of us got up to see if she was ok. As we all reached the little area at the same time we looked up at what she was seeing on the television.

All I remember is staring at the screen in disbelief and my mouth open but no words could be found. Soon after I became physically ill and was trying not to throw up as I grabbed my truck keys . I had to go get my kids. After all nobody knew when and where this thing would end. My boys were just in elementary school back then .

I snatched them up and hugged their necks real hard. Being a social worker I have seen about everything. Worked with some mean and nasty violent people

This was different. I realized then that satan is alive and his demons were killing my people. I’ll never forget it. Even now I can’t find words to describe it. I only can get any comfort in thinking of the eternal swim in a hot lake that will occur. I remember feeling like I wanted to go home. To my real home. I’ve seen enough.

Tj

Shh..I Do Believe I Hear The Distant Sound Of A Fat Lady Clearing Her Throat…

AP Photos 10 Sept 2016 by Patrick Howley WASHINGTON, D.C. — A review of FBI Director James Comey’s professional history and relationships shows that the Obama cabinet leader — now under fire for his handling of the investigation of Hillary Clinton — is deeply entrenched in the big-money cronyism culture of Washington, D.C. His personal and […]

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Tick Tick Tick….Not Looking Good Hillary..

http://www.westernjournalism.com/obamas-secret-8-billion-bribe-to-the-muslim-brotherhood/

http://insider.foxnews.com/2015/11/02/hillary-mistress-deception-judge-napolitano-breaks-down-newly-released-benghazi-email

https://conservativedailypost.com/breaking-judicial-watch-found-hillary-deleted-benghazi-requests/

http://conservativetribune.com/confused-hillary-benghazi-cant/?utm_source=Facebook&utm_medium=PostTopSharingButtons&utm_content=2016-09-09&utm_

http://conservativetribune.com/trump-supporter-booby-traps-sign/?utm_source=Facebook&utm_medium=PostTopSharingButtons&utm_content=2016-09-08&utm_campaign=websitesharingbuttons

http://americannews.com/students-replace-under-god-with-under-allah-in-pledge/

http://americannews.com/muslims-demand-army-change-its-dress-code-to-include-turbans-and-beards/

 

I do believe there is a pattern that began about, well maybe 8 years ago. Did Hillary agree to sell out America to Obama and muslims just so she would get his backing when it came time for her to run?? Wow. But I totally believe it. After all, she has been supporting all of his anti-American efforts all these years. Plus her last name is Clinton. Enough said. If you still haven’t seen the light ( and you need not be Colombo ) please take another look..

She and Obama should be imprisoned right now, instead she is running for president?

Just to be fair Trump is no angel. After all, he asked a muslim protester to be removed from his speech, so he must be racist. He also made a few off the cuff statements that he regrets. So, I see why the libs are so against him…

No I don’t. I think they have had way too much koolaid.

Hey its just my 2.

 

Tj

 

I Hate This Place. I Don’t Feel At Home.

There was a time years ago when I woke up and always found something to look forward to. That’s over.

It’s for sure not because I am not blessed with a beautiful family and all. I could not ask for better. Its deeper then that, it’s what I brought them into that bothers me. I expected they would have an even better world to tackle. Man was I ever wrong. We are living in the most vile, pathetic, sexed up, text up, sick, cruel, selfish, evil, bloody, gory, trigger happy, angry, twisted, demonic, anti-God, and hard to look at world. I wish I could describe it.

I can’t even get our own president to support our country. Hannah Montana grew up and now as Miley Cyrus calls herself a ‘ pansexual” – ?? Men want men women want women and even, well see below.

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If you try to have any Christian values you are a bigot. That just is what it is. What is scary is that the sheep of the world are following the others right off the cliff. Rarely is anybody staying true to their values because they don’t want to ” offend ” anyone.

Write me, cuss me or whatever but as long as I have breath I will state the truth. I will always teach my kids what is real and what is not -what is right and wrong. I would rather go down swinging and face God not compromising then try to blend in with the latest potion or new age crap. Look up people. It’s the real deal, someone bigger then us is in control. My Bible says that Jesus Christ of Nazareth stated in John 14:6 that he is ” The way, the truth and the life, and no man shall come to the Father but by Him”.

First, I didn’t write it  or say it, so if it doesn’t sit well with you yell upwards. If you have any evidence at all that what He stated is not true, please email me with your docs at tim@dontlabelmykid.com. I will drop EVERYTHING. I heard some guy at Ali’s funeral say that we all live in different ponds, but they all lead to the same place, same God. Really? Then someone needs to hit the Lord with the news that the whole cross thing was not necessary. Come on people, we all see what is happening in the world, are you still hugging trees, or has it hit you that the ” tree maker” has to be somewhere?

Finally, for those ready to cast stones at any of us struggling believers- not so fast. I am not saved by anything I did. I don’t have the answers. I know someone who does though. Don’t let the dark places whisper in your ear that you aren’t good enough. You know what? You aren’t. None of us are, so get over it. If we were good enough to get to heaven we wouldn’t need a savior, but if you are like me you are the chief of all sinners just getting back on the horse each day. Thank God He is not judging me by my works but by the shed and sacrificed blood of Jesus. There is Zero other ways people. Is this really something we should be toying with? Right now we all need to come together again as one nation under God and pray loud and proud in the name of Jesus that He would spare this nation after these rebellious years of late.

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Blood well shed

Just my 2. Peace.

tj