Sometimes You Need A Strong Hand To Hold Onto..Faith In Everyday Life.

One weekend about 18 years ago I took my then 4-year-old son to Walt Disney world. We had a bunch of fun, and it was afternoon before we knew it. As we talked about which areas we still had to visit, my son said ” dad, can we go to Tom Sawyer Island?” I told him we sure could and we proceeded on to the area of the park where it was. I remember us passing signs on the way showing the island and all the cool stuff you could see there.

So we got to the line and waited about 30 minutes ( not too bad for Disney) before the guy that controlled how many people can go opened up the way for us. We got about 100 feet from the entrance to a cave looking massive rock that had a tunnel for everyone to pass through.  I recall feeling a tight squeeze on my hand as we approached, followed by a full on dead stop by my son, and I was basically dragging him for a minute before I realized he was not tired or lazy like I first thought. He was scared.

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Micah looked up at me and said ” No I don’t want to go”. So I calmly asked him what was wrong and he said he did not want to go through the dark tunnel.  In order to get to the actual island and area he wanted to go, you had to pass through this dark and cold tunnel. Pitch black and shaped like a pretzel so as you go through you are guaranteed to run into the sides of the walls, and other people.

At this point I looked him in the eye, and told him I would take him through safely, and never let go. I promised I would not let anything or anyone hurt him. After he asked about any alternative methods of getting there, he agreed as he took one last look at the sign showing what was on the other side. It seemed to motivate him at least enough to go to the entrance with me. We went in.

About 3 minutes and 500 yards in, we were far enough in that we could not see the light from either side, the entrance or the end. Micah did what many young kids do when they want some attention or are trying to avoid going on any further with something. I call it the  ” stop, drop and drag” that every parent experiences at some point. It’s the move where one minute you are walking hand in hand and the next you look down at the end of your wrist and you have this twirling 45 pound weight spinning and dragging their feet.

It was then he said  ” no daddy, I don’t want to go let’s go back”. We could not really see each others face but we could hear each other. I said ” Micah, I know this is very scary. I know it is not what you hoped for. However if you will trust me, and hold tight to my hand, I promise to get you to the island that you want to go to. You may bump into a wall or even another person for a few minutes as we go through this dark and cold part but I wont let go of you and I will lead you safely to the other side”. It really was a defining moment for the 4-year-old.

After a minute of huffing and puffing and  doing the  ” almost crying but not really ” noises while squeezing my hand for a minute he actually said alright. He slowly put both hands around my one wrist and within 3 minutes ( but to him an eternity) we were out the other side. He had a great time there and clearly was glad of his choice to keep trusting.

Micah- Now.

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That story has been a great reminder to me as an adult, when I am facing difficult times. Often times as a person of faith I know what I should do but my flesh, my feelings, are pulling hard in the other direction. I think of that time at Disney world when I , as a father told my child to trust me, and ignore the feelings, and circumstances around him. It reminds me of the promise that all believers have that God will never leave or forsake us. He never has.

I hope today that if you do not have that reassuring hand to grasp on to and trust with all you have, that you would consider calling on your Heavenly Father and taking advantage of His offer to be by your side 24/7. Remember, God will never force Himself on you, you must call out to Him, and He will surely respond. What have you to lose?

tj

Sad But True. I Wonder If They Even Understand What They Are Doing …

Do the Liberals even understand that they’re being punked out by terrorists? Who knows maybe they do and they like it.

After all , it could be that terrorists are the only friends they have ever had..

Diversified Church Is Where It’s At People ..Take A Peek At How We Get Down For The Lord..

People often ask me- what is the secret to a solid home church..so I put together a few clips from some services at my home church..it’s all about diversity..

Identity Crisis- For Reals..Pops.

Sometimes there are no words..only visuals can truly explain an issue of concern…

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wp-1495473459075. He’s down wit’ da truth, for reals.

I am seeing more of this everywhere I go. It matters not what the race and color, its interchangeable.

 

Attention Bloggers- Hurt Human Here- Can Anyone Relate?

This is from a new follower named Valerie. Am I the only one to say I will pray for her? Has anyone else felt like she does? I can tell you that it takes much to get to the point of sharing like this to an entire blogging community where she knows nobody.

How about showing some Don’t Label My Kid! love? She can read your responses and I bet they would be worth a million bucks right now. If you would like to communicate with her in private then message me tjpetri16@gmail.com with your contact info I will pass along. But any encouragement would be nice…

At the end of the day this is what we are all here for , right?

tj

 

In part, we are a result of our upbringing; in part, genetics; in part environment. But I believe in free will as well. We all make choices, good or bad, and we have to live with the results.
There’s a country-western song about hearing voices in your head. I do all the time. I hear my grandparents, parents, friends. I listen to them because they loved me.

I’m alone now, sick, in a terrible spot, and scared. Now I’m reaching out to God and praying he’ll catch me.

If you’re scared and alone too, please say hi. Maybe we won’t be so scared if we share. They say a burden shared is a burden halved.

 

UPDATE- Valerie just shared some details of her situation, so I asked permission to share with y’all in case you know of a church or a person or group that can help with any of her needs..so read below and please touch base with me if you wish to make contact and I will put you in touch..she lives in Mass. BTW

My house needs cleaning and repair, writing and painting, junk removal. I have no money. Ex declared bankruptcy. He is on mortgage but not deed. My mortgage company called in my note. I owe $406k. They’ll foreclose unless I can fix and sell asap. Have credit score of 480, no car, no family, nowhere to go live. Can’t/won’t leave my only family who are my pets. Need everything. Have nothing. The more scared and upset I get, the sicker I get. My only friend leaving on our dream vacation in two days for two weeks without me because I’m too sick. I want to sell my family house, find a mobile home or something for $100k or less to buy if I get money for my house near Brimfield, ma, to be near her. No idea what to do. In constant panic mode. My address is in north Weymouth, ma 02191. Hot market my area. Thought I’d live and die here.

Are You Ashamed? Its A Yes Or No. Period.  John 14:6..

I have made it clear that my blog is not a ‘ Christian ” blog. Meaning non- believers are more than welcome to be a major part. 

For this quick survey I simply want to know if you are a Christian , and are you unashamed to publicly say it. 

Do you believe what Jesus Christ said in John 14:6. ‘ I am the way , the truth, and the life. No man shall see the Father except through me”? 

If yes, like this post. If no, just pass. I’m curious as to how many true and hard core Jesus freaks are reading this.

 UPDATE-

So far we have had about 6 bold Christians willing to say “I’m not ashamed ” by liking this post.

Just for a little reality check ..

My stalker mini-series was a blockbuster ( for me) at 50+ likes…

So we only have 6 true believers? Tell me those of you who named your blog after some Christian theme, why are you out in this ? Just curious ? 

3-2-1…” And I remember very well it was a Saturday I entered confession with Father Alberto, for the very first time….(this is it)

NOTE- I have either made bold, or made italic anything that is related to the term ” grooming” -which is a term used to describe a behavior pedophiles demonstrate all the time. Grooming is the process of building a trust, or allegiance that is covered in guilt, so there is little chance anyone would talk. You can see by some of the statements I have made bold or italic where either Gondek was grooming, or the youth were showing they were buying it.

…and he touched my leg in a strange way . I assumed it must be like a fatherly type of love”

 

 

(This is the first statement to be released that has documented the events over a two year period with Father  ” Alberto”  Gondek, and the most recent 6 boys he molested. I will share a little each day as time permits. All of this in this post is being dictated in type from the actual victim who spoke up and was deported to Mexico as a punishment. It is uncensored and exactly as I read it. -I will try to add a bit each day until it is finished.)

TJ

… After the retreat weekend I was invited to watch the Mexico vs Argentina game on TV at Father Alberto’s house with some other boys. Without any other option since my friends were going I went. Arriving at his home in Lexington,  North Carolina I was very surprised and it made me very displeased to realize that he let everyone drink alcohol in his house.. not only that but also distributed it as if it was something normal. He gave me an erroneous idea of both the priests and those in charge of the retreat.

Not too long after that a man name Guillermo came to me and invited me to be a part of the youth leaders and something in the Catholic Church they had going on. I agreed although I had already heard that Guillermo and Father Alberto we’re in a loving relationship and that supposedly father bought him things in exchange for sexual favors.

I had to confront Guillermo about that- so I did and he said they are all rumors and he is a good person – then he asked me

don’t you see how supportive he is of the Hispanic community?I had to admit he was very nice to this Hispanic population.

On one of my next visits to Lexington to work in Easter book,  father Alberto walked up to me and asked me for my phone number- he said it would he would help me with my school and as a father figure. By then he already knew some of my life through Guillermo and the conversations we had had. 

As I got to know the members of the youth ministry there were many rumors about the father being gay, having a relationship with Guillermo- among many others. Honestly at this point I was on the father’s side… Because in a very intelligent way father Alberto had earned my trust and love. I believed admired and defended him from all rumors.

I believed that he was a noble and honest person. Several times we traveled to his parish and many times the Father invited us to eat his house. Many times the father offered us alcohol .His phone calls become more constant to me everyday, day by day. When I did not answer he would make comments to me “oh you don’t love me anymore”.

Another thing I learned very quickly was that father Alberto did not like men having girlfriends according to him we would lose focus from our service. I heard him ask if Guillermo had a girlfriend several times and many times he told me myself if he discovered I had a girlfriend I better not talk to him anymore.

As  my relationship with the father continued I had heard more and more rumors of many of the boys going over there and getting massages or alcohol and that father Alberto told them the same thing about having a girlfriend. One night when I was over there with them again,  father Alberto serving alcohol and he came out and asked all of us who would like a massage. I refused and was very upset.

All the sudden recently in the next few days you started being very nice to me and helping with great support. He showed me and helped me with school work,  gave me money for gas and invited me to visit and eat at  his house.  He even helped with financial issues for school. I felt more and more in debt to him and grateful to him everyday and he reminded me. At this time I trusted him and appreciated him as my own father so I continue to defend him and believe in him despite the rumors because with me so far he had always kept his silence and distance.

By this time I was friends with all of the youth and we often spent time together. I remember on Halloween the father lent  us all some costumes so we went over to his home and got  costumes for all of us. He offered us all to come in and sleep at his house after we were done with our Halloween parties and things, so we all did so we could hang out another night together.

The next morning I remember very well that several of the other guys were very disturbed and quiet but they weren’t speaking at all. 

One of my friends only would speak terribly of him and almost immediately after that night he went right back to his life of drugs and gangs that he came out of as he got involved more in the church. He never came back.

It was months later when I ran into him again and he actually told me what happened that during that night. Father Alberto  had talked him into a massage in the other room and got him into his boxers.. and then onto onto a table to lay down and give him a massage. Even though he resisted Father forced his hand in his boxers and touched his penis until he had an erection which he did not want. He told me it was near the point of the ejaculation before he got away. Now , right after that he was on the streets again, running with old gang members and doing drugs to ease his pain..

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Veteran successfully treated for PTSD in breakthrough drug study

New Drug For PTSD -Looks Hopeful

If you all know any vets or anyone for that matter who suffer from PTSD -this may be something to share with them. According to the article the new muscle relaxer type drug tool almost all the symptoms away from a vet who suffered so badly he had a seeing eye dog to to help him cope with the public each day..I believe clinical trials are in Texas but they are usually fairly limited so I would get in touch ASAP.

TJ

CNN ” We’ve Got The Impeachment Locked Up..

In a stunning announcement Saturday afternoon, CNN has released new evidence that they believe will have even the most conservative and Trump fan reeling for immediate resignation .

Talking about the president, In a quote from lead investigative reporter Ian Spin had this to say, ” He brushed right through the Supercuts scandal , he froze up a bit on the Baskin Robbins scoop, but today I’m here to tell you Mr. Trump has lost his run of luck.”

Apparently a team of volunteer lefty celebrities agreed  to go undercover in this investigation which supposedly will show that our president has a very sketchy bedroom secret that is supposedly so far out that it’s not only immoral, but ILLEGAL!  Questionable ethics and moral standards are mentioned.  The Implication  is that our president is not a good role model for the activities of a man who is supposed to be a God-fearing wholesome,  morally upright American  role model.

So far the only members of the investigative team demanding impeachment for Trump that have come forward are as follows-

 Miley (AAA) anywhere, anyone, anytime Cyrus

– Cher ( is my son my daughter? ) Bono 

The  runner formerly known as Bruce ( do I use the men’s room during transition? ) Jenner

Mark ( are you over 12 sweetie)Weiner

Rosie ( my mouth runneth over) O’Donnell

Finally-an unidentified sales person ( female ) at an upscale DC Furniture store who has made an extraordinary claim that she personally has sat on the presidents bed. ( this is not confirmed by our sources) furthermore she claims to have physical evidence that will leave no doubt that what Trump did was immoral and illegal..we are awaiting an update any minute on just what this ” evidence” is and clearly understand that if even a shred of this story and where it is leading us is true,  Donald Trump could find himself out of a job. Please stand by….

44 minutes later….

We thank you all for standing by. We have been privy to all of the details and are free to release them. The incident in question is legitimate. Donald Trump violated the law and we will see how stiff a penalty he will get. However the incident, was slightly misleading. After the objective news media was allowed to interview the key players, including the stock girl at the furniture store, we have found that the level of moral and ethical integrity has NOT been compromised.

In an unusual move- CNN not only ill-reported but exaggerated a story that they knew to be misleading. Who would have seen that coming ?

Under DC law, tearing off the label of a mattress is a crime. However, in a little known clause, if you have an allergy to makimup-nuuse  (ancient greek chemical)  an ingredient used in the making of mattress tags, you may actually tear the tag off.

So, good news for the President tonight although we here at DLMK News would caution the president that as much as we love him, his ” coloring outside the lines” lifestyle really is not conducive to the office of the President. Please exercise caution Mr. Trump.

That wraps it up for tonight , as always good news and good night.

tj

-Senior Editor (recently promoted)

 

Special; On Parenting- For Parents Of Children With Disabilities…

If you caught my brief bio posted the other day you may have seen that I was responsible write each IEP ( Individual Education Plan ) for all of the students in the schools I  started. As a matter of fact, this blog title (in part)  was named after the unbelievable flaws I saw while doing this. The school boards typically don’t offer parents the help that your child is entitled to if they have a documented disability.

I like to think of a child with a ” disability ” as a child with a ” different ability”

At an IEP meeting, a  ” Staffing Specialist ” from the board is there to represent the board and throw in the hat what they are willing to offer as far as support. Exactly like the psychiatrist who tells you your son or daughter has some  ” disorder ” usually you are at the mercy of their opinion or decision. That should never be the case. However how are you to know what is right and what isn’t?

Simple – email me and I will help you get the help, assistance and services your child deserves!

dontlabelmykid2@gmail.com

( when you email me, please do not go into the entire story, but just the type of situation it is, and your best contact number- I like to hear it straight from you so I can get the details I want and need to help!)

Parenting 101- Got Skills? You Better Or They Wont. Role Modeling & Social Skills.

I am amazed when I walk through Wal-Mart and see a mother dragging a crying 4-5 year old  by the arm yelling

SHUT UP! DO YOU HEAR ME, YOU ARE GOING TO GET YOUR LITTLE ASS WHIPPED WHEN WE GET HOME”

Wrong on so many levels.  But to keep this short , I will point out just a few reasons why this approach never works.

1- You cannot command a child to do something that you are currently reminding them you yourself are incapable of- like  being quiet.

2-Its highly unlikely that ANY child (that can hear)  is going to think ” hmm, I think I will pull it together now that I know I have an  ass whippin  coming when we leave, I’m pumped!”

3-If you want your child to incorporate  any skill  into their daily routine, YOU must first model it, consistently. The ” do as I say not as I do” rule is obsolete.

There are at least 100 valuable social skills that must be taught to any of us in life. About 25 are needed to function successfully as an adult. For a child ages 5-18 it varies by age, but 3-4 for the young child and 15 for the teen are necessary to get through school and relationships without much turmoil.

There is no  “ skill genie ” or  ” skill angel ”  that comes in the night and teaches your child the skills. So they must learn them from someone else….yep thats right.  but, if you choose not to teach them – don’t sweat it, they can always pick up little Johnny’s skill set at school, you know the one who always gets suspended and calls his 3rd grade teacher a slut.

If you want your home to run smoothly, there must be consistency and clear explanation of what is expected. I will take the top two most important social skills ( in my opinion ) that I have taught for 20 years, and break them down here so you can see how you should explain them to your child.

1- Following instructions

a- Look at the person

b- Say ok

c Check back when finished


2- Accepting No ( for an answer)

a- Look at the person

b- Say ok


As I mentioned, these are the top two out of the 100 I train on. You should have at least 15 skills you use to interact with your teen and 4-7 for young  who cannot retain much more.

Remember, the trick is developing a motivation system in your home that is not some temporary fly by night bribe system just so you can get a quiet night and take a long bath. Every reward and consequence your child gets should be a decision your child has made because you have taken the time and effort to creat a system that needs no arguing or debating about. Its built into your family dynamic.

Lastly for this little sample, if you think your children don’t want boundaries set for them ( specific guidelines) you are wrong. Kids are desperate for boundries. As a matter of fact we adults are desperate for boundries. What would you feel like if you jumped on the freeway tomorrow to go to work, and there was a giant neon sign that said

  ” NEW RULES ” AS OF TODAY -THERE ARE NO SPEED LIMITS, NO RULES ON SAFE DRIVING OR ANY OTHER GUIDELINES AND NO MORE EMERGENCY RESPONSE TEAMS”

How safe would you  feel knowing that  anyone could pull a NASCAR on you  and draft you at 125 MPH-  or trade some paint with you sending you and your vehicle rolling  down the hill on the side of the road.

So of we grown ups need some guidlines, ow much more do our children need them.


TJ

( I am an award winning behavior specialist who has built hundreds of behavior programs to implement in homes of small familes who just want one system to implement so they can quit constant arguing all the time. I also have been hired to put behavorial sysytems in place in large companies to make their own staff get along better)

I was even hired to train all the doctors and staff of a hospital psyhiatric unit how to get along , proving that no matter who you are or how old you are there has to be consistency.

As a foster parent, I created and implented daily systems for very abused and defiant teens and was successful in all. About 50 teens.

If you are tired of unpredictable behavior and response in your family, I would love to help build a system to fit your needs. Once in place you simply maintain it and I will always be available to help with any break downs in the system. Or you can keep living like you are…

(Yeah, I Agree )- so my email is —-dontlabelmykid2@gmail.com-contact me today to set up a personalized- DLMK! Care Plan for your family.

TJ

It’s Friday! Time For Mike’s Corner- Little Known Facts About Your Health -With Mike Carey!

 

 Did You Know This ?

The majority of people who are diagnosed with Carpal Tunnel really don´t have anything wrong with their wrists.  The problem is that their ankles are out of joint.  In most cases, when the ankles are adjusted, the pain in the wrist goes away.  The electrical pathways from the ankles are connected to the wrists!

If you are struggling with any kind of illness that will not go away- and that your doctor cannot fix, get in touch with Mike and he will help you rid your body once and for all of whatever the disease is , naturally.

Mike works with talent on loan from God! (He didn’t write that)  but I am pretty good at this stuff. Plus I simply have no other way to explain the guy.

www.alternativesolutions4health.com or email him at silverwood08@gmail.com.

Also his cell number is on his sight and if he is not busy with another person he takes calls between 10am -8pm central time. He and his wife reside in Columbia by the way!

Problem with your head, email me- problem with your body email Mike!

 

TJ

 

Oh – By The Way Catholic Pedo-Priest Ring In Lexington NC- Time Is Up! Grab A Chair And Read What Everyone Else Is About To- Tonight Is The Appointed Time…I Am Spilling It – NOW!

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The Proud Papa-Accused of around 20 molestations in the last 20 years-Never a consequence -Now living large on an early paid retiremnt for his efforts…wow.

I wonder If He knows that there actually is a God and he will actually have to face him? How could he believe in God? Seriously..

Well I was hoping the media would be the ones to break this ugly news, but everyone’s time is now up. I wont sit back and be quiet when I know the sickening things that you all do before and after  “confession” and whenever else you are busy chasing altar boys around in the back somewhere. So time is all I got and since the law over your way isn’t interested yet, I thought maybe some thorough details would be in order.

Hmm. Where shall I start? Its 2015, I get information that the very same ” Father” that molested my very own brother back in 1991 or so was at it again even all these years . Father Albert Gondek–  in my brothers case used the textbook groom and doom scenario on Danny in high school…build trust, establish his ” daddy figure role in my brother’s life, and take advantage of him time after time, all the while keeping that steady dose of catholic guilt and intimidation in place.

The coldest part to me is that after my bro put a bullet in his head rather than live with these memories, the good father acted like it was another day at the office.. Well in all honesty – it was. He was shuffled out-of-state not to long after to start at another playground…In North Carolina. I had no idea where he was. That is until 2015 when I got the call that he was very busy chasing not 1, not 2  but 6 or 7 young men around church property…and welcomed them all into his own home…often. The poor boy who spoke up , well he didn’t have a chance against the largest pedophile ring in the world, Vatican city to North Carolina and a whole bunch in-between.

Yep it was only 2 short weeks after he opened his mouth about how Gondek had been molesting him, and 6 others for 2 whole years– he got his due penalty. Deportation to Mexico. Yeah his whole family was here and still is in NC, but hey you all heard the pope himself say – ZERO TOLERANCE– and he his  word.

Oh, I am sorry some of you thought the ZERO tolerance was for any priest who molested children. No, that’s not quite what he meant.. it’s for the brat that talks, there is a ZERO tolerance.

As a matter of fact if you google -2015  Father Gondek- Our Lady of the rosary Catholic church in Lexington North Carolina, You should see the statement by umm, what is  the guys name, head of NC diocese ..David Harold– just came to me. He did make a brief statement to the public acknowledging that an investigation would be conducted because ” Some incarcerated man-made an allegation! OOPS Mr Harold, you did forget to mention that it was y’all who incarcerated  him, in the deportation holding center… I  am sure it slipped his mind.

Well, now the poor guy is gone to fend for himself in Mexico away from his entire family.  But you know in my walk of faith in my own life I have realized God has a way of showing up a the strangest times. The whole time the pedo-priest crew and Gondek were counting the hours down before the boy was one wheel up on a runway, God sent a total stranger to volunteer in that facility the night before he left.

Turns out, while they were celebrating the evidence being gone, the boy was carefully dictating a very comprehensive statement about his last 2 years …with the others who Gondek preyed on.. wow, what are the odds? I mean times, dates, names, every act and threat and disgusting thing he witnessed was now in writing to a total stranger!

Weird huh? Wait it gets more weird… turns out that there was only one copy of the 4 typed page statement with oh so many crimes and unspeakable acts. The volunteer had it. How do I know that? Oh simple, I am glancing down at it right now on my table. Yep. Just came in my mail one day again from a place where I knew nobody, and nobody knew me. Amazing . How did I get to play a small part in avenging my brothers  death when I had no clue where the guy even was, much less who he was raping these days.

But its true! Sure as I sit here it is true. More evidence and plenty of witnesses, even more than they could deport..no to mention some of the predators were still working in that church and still are right now. I just never thought until now to tell anyone in the church about the little extra info I had stumbled on. Just never crossed my mind. But I bet it is crossing theirs right about now I was kind enough to shoot him and the fellas an email today letting him know about what I would be sharing…

Hey Mr. Harold! If your reading this, well, surprise! You are in the story too! Awesome.

It’s so weird to know that other than  a few trusted members of the media, I am the only one holding the victim statement from a young man who was molested by the same priest as my brother. Wow.

Well there is no way to do this in just one post, and I want to give time for anyone who reads it to sink in…plus whats cool is this site had visitors from around 60 countries  last count! 60 countries to hear and read every detail of the biggest known pedo-priest ring that is now known to actually be SUPPORTED form within the church….wow.

So I am ending this simple intro with a brief outline of how I am releasing details, Each day I will take a day documented in the statement and walk us through what it was like for them. That there makes for hard-hitting reading. Now – of course I can’t name names. Of the victims that is.  As far as Gondek  performing sex acts on the fathers of his victims, I cannot release names otherwise the drug buyers and alcohol buyers and all may be tied to the victims. I can tell you all this Gondek was not serving up holy communion while he gave out nightly naked messages to  the boys.

OOPS I am dong it again letting info slip out. I will quit for today…but please y’all I encourage you to invite everyone you know to follow this and just for kicks if anyone out there is law or media-pull up a seat!’

tj

 

 

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Depression- When “Happy Thoughts” And Yoga Just Don’t Work Any More…

We all have times in our lives when things just seem to be going in a downward spiral. Not the kind of down that keeps you wanting to stay in bed all day and cry, but the type that takes the spring out of your step- and makes it just a little bit harder to smile when you tuck your kids in bed at night. The sun still shines but not quite as bright.

Its also the time when your friends and favorite television motivation guru will prompt you to push yourself harder not to allow these ” little ‘ setbacks to bring you down. Stay strong and all that jazz. Right. Usually that advice backfires because although the intentions may have been good, you end up feeling like ..well..like ..see below..

Depression and all types of mental illness is something that I have helped people through at every level. The good news is that this type of depression is known in the mental health field as ”  situational depression “-  it always passes. Nobody is immune. Loved ones pass away, divorces happen, jobs are lost and sometimes it all seems to happen at once. Take heart – the best way to deal with this is to simply be prepared for it.

I live in a state where we get hurricanes each year. Those of us who have been all of our lives think nothing of it. We know what to do and honestly its when a ton of hurricane parties take place! Houses all boarded up and no electric but its a time for friends and neighbors to hang..

Now take a newbie to Florida- who has not been pre-taught about 100 mph winds -or palm trees and 7-11 dumpsters being launched  down roads, well that is a whole different deal. You get the point. Preparation is half the battle.

Now lets bump it up a notch. The symptoms are more severe, and longer lasting. This is literally where whoever you work through it with can dictate how you live and approach the rest of your life. It takes a person who can assess your root issues and direct you and help you into the appropriate treatment plan. Here is where our system falls apart. You can see 10 different therapists, social workers, doctors and get 10 answers.

I have always used a tool called a psychosocial assessment to start the process of identifying the most serious issues and how to get the right help from the right person.

When you hear terms major depression, bi-polar, mood disorder, and the like you could easily be diagnosed with ANY of those if you present with the same symptoms to 5 different clinicians. No big deal you say? Oh yes – yes it is.  The guy who labels you with mood disorder may not even recommend meds. However if you are unlucky and catch the wrong guy and he decides you have bi-polar 2- Whoa Nellie- now you are into Lithium, and other heavy meds as well as a heavy label..

Just like with the parenting tips, there is no 1 way fits all. You must meet someone who wants you on the LEAST amount of meds ( if any) and the LEAST heavy duty label. ( I know a guy who is excellent btw)

If you or someone you know is struggling and not bouncing back from a few weeks of mild blues, its time to take a closer look.

Dontlabelmykid2@gmail.com – I can help .

tj

 

 

Another Body … Just Another Bum.. A Drunk Most Likely… Should Have Made A Life For Himself. Right? No. That Could Be Us…. { Turning The Corner- Don’t Label My Kid! Lets Do It!} 2017- Taking It Up A Level..We Need Each Other..

Mental Health. Looks like this pretty much , right?  I took this picture 2 days ago. You know why? I assumed when I contacted the law to pick the body up they may want some documentation of when and where I found the guy.  Not that its any big deal, I see these bums all day long here in Daytona. Heck You and me could have ended up like that if we didn’t make the right choices, right? Whatever. Who are we kidding. But for the grace of God, there goes me.

In this case I got to walk away feeling better then I initially thought. You see, when I realized he was stiff, and smelled bad I just instinctively went to see if he had any ID to give the law. I was quite shocked when he about jumped when my hand touched his jacket pocket. He was alive! Sort of. Mike, as I later learned was his name was so scared I came to hurt him that he was shaking, I sat down with him and told him it was all good and I help people like him. I am a social worker. I help all people. No matter the age, race, issues, addictions, etc.

I know you cant see all that well in this picture as far as his age and all, but after we had talked awhile he shared a little about his life. Take a guess as to his age? Just do it, ball park.

Mike is 51.

I was able to offer him some options that he never knew were there. I know because that is my gift. We all have gifts, and in my case I have the ability to identify what people need to make their situation the very best it can be. I have done it for my entire career as a clinical social worker. I have worked with teens, parents, mental health patients, addicted folks, poverty stricken, violent people, even the most seriously developmentally disabled people in the world, literally. I have been called on to improve the quality of life for those who are deaf, dumb, blind, and aggressive. Can you imagine? The people in that arena that I ran programs for were abused so badly as babies that even though many were born ” normal” they had some of the most evil parents and caregivers you could imagine. Tossed in dumpsters as babies left to die, left on the hot Florida beaches as infants simply because the mom or dad was too lazy to bring them to a fire station or another outlet who would gladly have taken them in.

I started a school for 60 felons, ages 11-18. Gang members, 12 year old kids running crack at 3am on school days for their own parents. I lived for 5 years with 45 teens who were sexually abused very severely. Every group of people I worked with I was so thankful to have a God given gift to see through the outside and meet the true need on the inside. Now, before anyone thinks I am bragging – it could not be further from the truth. I am so  ” ungifted ” in some areas that men should be – lol- I remember a time when I had my young boys with me in my truck and I noticed my wipers were bad. I could not see through them. I stopped at the Auto Zone , ordered up 2 wipers in a manly voice…and spent the next 30 minutes in the parking lot trying to figure out how to put the blades on until my 7 year old son took pity on me. He installed them in 5.

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If you have followed me long you will note that although I share my personal struggles, and trials, I have never laid out an ” I love me post” about my accomplishments in my gifts. One reason is because I realize it is a gift. I can help anyone, in any situation, no matter what the circumstances. I just don’t feel comfortable bragging about something that I was given. Oh, believe me – I can hang with the best of the braggers. I have the degrees, the awards and all that jazz. I could not even tell you where any of them are right now. I don’t care. I care about educating people and helping them save time, money and stress.

What I love most about what I do is I know every single job duty all those people and more have. But I don’t have to become each one. I sure can steer you to who will actually help you and who wants your money. I can tell you that in many cases I have not been able to get to the parent or family in time before they got taken for a ride to the tune of tens of thousands of dollars and more. That’s the reason I am so determined to hold providers of mental health, addictions, behavioral health, and juvenile delinquents accountable for what they do. I know what they should be doing – but you don’t. I am not a psychiatrist, but if you have ever read my home page ” mental heath- its a crazy business” you know I do not mince words. Why? I know the truth.. Do want to know how many doctors or psychologists, psychiatrists have written me nasty letters over the 4 years I have been slamming them? ZERO.

I am sharing this for a reason. I am hanging my shingle again. For 4 years I have poured my heart out on here about my entire life. Its time to help you all get to where you need and want to be. And I am asking you to trust your family or personal needs into my care. I make the same promise I have kept my entire career. I will NEVER leave you broken. An I will certainly never leave you broke.  I don’t discharge my families when they go through a rough patch financially. I love using my gift. You may have noticed I have never taken a dime for any thing here, I do not sell ads like some. This audience that you all are was hand picked. I have never connected to the internet, other then this WordPress sight.

Last check this blog has had visitors from 65 countries ( that I know of ) and followers from at least 25 that I know of. That’s not my doing. It is no accident. You all are here for a reason. I am here to help.

When Mike Carey came along and was willing to join with this mission, I was and still am ecstatic. Why? Because Mike and I share a similar passion. We both love to use our gifts to help others. We both will never leave anyone hanging until they are well.  I am gong to show you a real life example of how God has already used Mike in my own family. Most of you know I have 2 grown boys, and 2 baby girls. Well, babies to me, they are 5 & 10.

This is my baby Shelbi..

My baby had 72 sticks with a needle that her doctor insisted on to test for allergies. For nothing. Next up he said – blood work! No. No way.. But what can I do? Better late then never – I called our resident gifted man in the healing of diseases. He said ” you took her where” ? ( made me feel even lower lol) –  No more he said , get her on the phone with me tonight for a minute or two. I was thinking to myself-  Hello!! What was I thinking? Tonight Shelbi said hello to Mr. Mike for about 2 minutes, and 10 minutes later he says ” oh she has some poisoning in her system and a viral infection. Go to your local health food store and get 2 items ( like 5 bucks each) and in 7 days it will be gone.

HUH?? What? Why did I forget the other people I have sent to him who had major diseases go away? Anyways no blood work and that’s  Mikes gift.

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If you need physical healing – take advantage of  this gift right in front f you . If its healing in any other area, call on me. I work on a case by case basis, until the job is done. I want you all to take this email address down.

Dontlabelmykid2@gmail.com – to help with Tj-

that is your direct line to me. I will be adding a toll free number as well but for now get me there. I will develop with you what I call a  “Plan of Care ”

There is NO issue you can throw at me that I havent done a hundred times. Confidentially we will put it all in place and work it out financially It sure would make me feel good if you all would entrust your needs to Mike and I. I thank you in advance . .

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With all we are trying to accomplish through this platform of Don’t Label My Kid!  It would really make a big difference if you all would commit to utilizing the gifts that Mike and  I have- for your own family. so that we can keep on helping others and continue trying to do what we do ..put pedophiles away -heal families -help addicts-  bring families together and just grow spiritually , emotionally and physically.

God Bless you all . Please Step up for this..

Tj