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Identity Crisis- For Reals..Pops.

Sometimes there are no words..only visuals can truly explain an issue of concern…

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wp-1495473459075. He’s down wit’ da truth, for reals.

I am seeing more of this everywhere I go. It matters not what the race and color, its interchangeable.

 

Special; On Parenting- For Parents Of Children With Disabilities…

If you caught my brief bio posted the other day you may have seen that I was responsible write each IEP ( Individual Education Plan ) for all of the students in the schools I  started. As a matter of fact, this blog title (in part)  was named after the unbelievable flaws I saw while doing this. The school boards typically don’t offer parents the help that your child is entitled to if they have a documented disability.

I like to think of a child with a ” disability ” as a child with a ” different ability”

At an IEP meeting, a  ” Staffing Specialist ” from the board is there to represent the board and throw in the hat what they are willing to offer as far as support. Exactly like the psychiatrist who tells you your son or daughter has some  ” disorder ” usually you are at the mercy of their opinion or decision. That should never be the case. However how are you to know what is right and what isn’t?

Simple – email me and I will help you get the help, assistance and services your child deserves!

dontlabelmykid2@gmail.com

( when you email me, please do not go into the entire story, but just the type of situation it is, and your best contact number- I like to hear it straight from you so I can get the details I want and need to help!)

Ex-Chappaqua High School Drama Teacher Pleads Guilty To Endangering Welfare Of A Child-Pro Pedophilia Judge Blows Him A Symbolic Kiss With A Compliment …Vile..String Them Both Up

Wow. Just wow. Here I have been wondering day after day year after year why nobody will even take a report about a priest who has molested 7 boys. Then I see articles like this and I have my answer. The sad part about this is one of two things is happening. Either the defendant is doing the judge -or the judge is a pedophile too. There is no other excuse for leniency in this type of situation. It should be a decision about life in prison or possibly worse not probation and counseling with a compliment from the court for molesting kids. 

Does the judge have to blow him a kiss or exchange phone numbers right in court for anybody to get it?

This just serves as another piece of evidence that I did not want to hear or believe lately..  I think the problem is that there are more pedophiles in authority figure positions than we ever ever imagined. Teachers, cops judges you name it because if you’re not against it you are definitely for it.

 In this type of situation if you don’t mind a child being raped and molested or sodomized and you can walk away feeling okay about that there’s something not right and it means you’re either taking part in it or benefiting from it some way or somehow.

I don’t know about you but that makes me absolutely want to vomit. The guy openly admitted to molesting kids in his care and gets a compliment from the judge for seeking treatment for alcohol.

 Compliment? 

 Amazing just amazing. If you’re a parent and you put your kids in the care of another adult you definitely need to know who is watching your child. 

 I don’t care if its the family friend for the whole decade -was the teacher or the priest or the uncle .

There is no accountability anymore -anybody is fair game that will rape kids and that is sad. And then people wonder why we have these transgender problems -sexual identity problems -kids committing suicide .

Instead of naming the truth which is they’ve been molested,  we try and justify it by saying they had a pre-existing condition of being other wrong sex or they’re coming out as something they shouldhave been a long time ago. That’s BS .

They were molested or messed with somewhere somehow…

Maybe that’s one of the judges that was busy painting his toenails during the session because he was bored..

 I’m sure the defendant will repay the judge in some way for his mercy..

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It’s Not How You Start That Matters,  But How You Finish -So No Matter What You Gotta Finish Strong!

Its how you finish that counts not how you started

Who Am I- When Im Not Making Sure My Label Is Getting Its Publicity? 

When I worked in the alternative school settings one of the first things that troubled me -was when I introduced myself to the first 40 or 50 kids that I would be working with . 

In order to get to me -they were  expelled from high school (public) then also expelled from the next level alternative education program. What shocked me the most was not their attitude or the way they spoke or how they dressed.

It was  how they introduced themselves. Without fail at some point in the introductions on our one-on-one greeting with me,  the youth would include their  “label” or diagnosis from psychiatrist. 

For example – me ” Hi,  my name is Mr. P.” – most times they would begin with  “I’m Ryan I have intermittent explosive disorder” . 

Of course the younger kids couldn’t pronounce their diagnoses or didn’t really remember what it was,  but it was clear that they all had assumed the label assigned to them. They had allowed a space in tbeir God given  identity  to be occupied by a man made identity –  what another human being ( in a position of authority) had stamped them with. 

As the kids got more educated and what that label meant with the requirements were too be given that diagnosis and label they begin to fulfill the prophecy of the label they were given. I believe that there’s only a few reasons why. The first reason is that they were already in position of vulnerability.

It’s no different for us adults today regardless of our environment. Everyday in the feeds on WordPress  you see people constantly referring to their PTSD or Bi- Polar as almost a badge of honor.

The interesting part is most of the time when I go back and look at their name of their blog or what they do -they might be an artist or a poet or somebody involved in sports but completely  unrelated to their diagnosis. What do they choose to bring up and talk about ? Those are man -made, man- given labels.. So in order to test yourself  and find out who YOU believe you are, and just how much of your identity you have sold off to the devil – so to speak..

I will ask you this question and you have five words to answer. Number one two three four five and you’d put one word at each number.

Name the five things that describe who you are the best. One word each and remember now- if you find yourself struggling to decide whether you should put a positive attribute like I’m a nurse or I’m a carpenter- because you’re thinking well I’m depressed person or I have PTSD be assured that you have allowed your identity space to be sold out.

The good news is if you can take that back. You can only allow certain amount of time and effort to be dedicated to that. The most successful programs I have ever run and as far as I know that anybody has ever run in any area of mental health -addictions or behavioral health are those that absolutely focus on the skills and strengths of the person. Only when necessary do they pull out the “negatives ” or the weaknesses. Our society tends to highlight the weaknesses and we want to highlight it because it was on Dr. Phil , and in some cases we get rewarded socially for doing that. But the rewards are short term and short lived. So when you take this little 5 question quiz and if you had any trouble naming  five positive or even neutral attributes,  then you should re-think where you got that label and how to cut it off . 

Just a thought for today because they tell me I’ve always been a problem solver due to my ADHD.

 I don’t know. I think Im getting senile. I just saw Dr. Oz talking how about what vegetables help with that..I will tune in next time

Lol

.tj

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OH MY GOD…I WOULD NOT HAVE BELIEVED…THIS UNLESS..

..OH MY GOD. I’M SPEECHLESS. 

No way did this happen. ..

Kids Own The Labels They Are Assigned..

When a child or a teen is ” diagnosed” and assigned a label, they begin to own the definition of the label. If for example, a teen is told by a doctor and his parents that he or she has ” anger management ” issues, they begin the process of fulfilling that ” calling ” on their life, just as kids who are constantly reinforced by their parents about their gifts and strengths tend to grow into those gifts.

So whatever the assigned label you give your child , and you openly discuss around them and with other adults, just remember  they are kids. They are looking to the people who make impressions in their life, and those they trust to tell them what and who they are. With adults, we have the choice to accept or reject any assigned tags or labels people give us.

Kids don’t have that option yet.  As I stress on the homepage, taking a child to the doctor and getting them a DSM diagnoses and some medicine is a whole lot deeper then just another doctors visit. It shapes their path from that point on. The fact that you take them there and concur with the doctor, just serves to reinforce to the child that the whole issue is in fact true.

I am not saying nobody should take a child to the doctor. What I am saying is that before doing so, do your homework, and find out if the problem you re having with them actually warrants a formal diagnoses. If it does then be supportive and honest with your child in overcoming it with the least amount of fanfare possible.

 

tj

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I guess I wasn’t very clear on my post about Mike Carey -some are asking about mental health issues. 

 If you are currently seeking treatment for any Mental HealthBehavioral Health or Addictions Issue YES

 DO NOT go and spend hundred’s or thousands of dollars on anything before you contact Mike ..

He has also helped many people with these issues as well. Whether you’re just seeking treatment – or  you have been getting treatment with little success-

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You Need A Mirror. You Need A Shadow.

Sometimes I only want the shadow…

Tj

That’s Right Partner…

The Morning After… Starting Over, Again!

This is a great example of how small things can make big differences in our daily lives. We all know someone who seems to have it all – yet they are absolutely miserable. Angry, bitter at the world and even their own blood.. I don’t like naming names,- but I have seen it many times both in my personal life and in the media.
Leona Helmsly comes to mind.. … ( I said I didn’t like to name any names, but I will on occasion lol) Good stuff.

UPDATE#2 – FATHER ALBERT GONDEK PEDOPHILE- IF YOU HATE CHILD MOLESTERS -STOP HERE! URGENT! PREDATOR PRIEST- NORTH CAROLINA_

“La Folla Femmine.”.

Catholic Pedophile Priests

“The Feminine Mob”

          YOU ARE NEEDED RIGHT NOW!

        UNLESS YOU ARE PRO-PEDOPHILE-READ THIS.

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I have always had a tough time trying to describe the whole pedophile ring in the Catholic church. I’ve always known and millions have suspected what goes on in there but never able to prove it.  Before I go further, I am not saying ALL priests are pedophiles. As a matter of fact, a priest helped me in gathering this information

With that said, its time the world sees just how deeply involved all levels of clergy in some areas really are..

 Because of how ruthless they are in being willing to be to protect their sick hobbies at any cost, I even named them. I call them La Folla Femminine..

                  The Feminine Mob

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After all the years of seeing what I have, one way I try to cope and take any comfort at all is to remind myself that it isn’t over.  The church can bully and hurt people to protect their child predators here on earth but the future outlook is not so bright.

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               Matthew 18:6  (ESV)

but whoever causes one of these little ones who believe in me to sin,[a] it would be better for him to have a great millstone fastened around his neck and to be drowned in the depth of the sea.

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It may just  blow your mind to know what happens from the inside out in the Catholic church (in certain areas)  on a regular basis. The information we have provides some evidence of  things that have never been proven before although always suspected. 

This documentation is a model of sorts that the Catholic church uses to avoid accountability and consequences for what I believe is a huge pedophile ring that spans the globe and leads straight to the pope.

You might recall that father Albert Gondek first came into my life as he was very closely associated with my own brother 20 some years ago. My brother was another victim of this predator, and sadly the end result for my brother was suicide.  Just as it has always been until now, even evidence in writing did not interest the church and Gondek went off free of course. If you care to see what the predator looks like, click below.

 

http://www.charlotteobserver.com/news/local/ckysag/picture50801635/ALTERNATES/LANDSCAPE_1140/Rev.-Albert-J.-Gondek-OSFS

(Did you look at him? I know – me too. Reminds me of certain types of clowns – you know the real creepy ones ? John Wayne Gacy comes to mind. )

After the incident with my brother I decided on a career in Social Work and kind of lost track of Gondek. Due to some very unusual events, I was connected with someone who just “happened” upon me on my blog, and also” happened” to be involved in Gondeks current parish. In a very short period of time we were able to fill in some gaps of time that placed Gondek in certain situations similar to my brothers. Between that information, and you all sharing the story, everything needed fell right into place.

As a Social Worker and a person who has experienced first hand the incredible apathy and disgusting  behaviors in the church, I  have always kept my eye on this problem but always came up with the same dilemma. 

Lawyers and money /millions of dollars over the history of the church has always won over anyone trying to raise awareness to these issues. To sum it up,  anybody who has spoken up or  attempted to bring it to light has either been bullied or bought out.

To date over six billion ( B) has been paid out  just to pay people off and settle with  them so they won’t speak up in court..

Those not  willing to take the bribe have suffered the wrath. Deportation,  the cutting off of food sources or income for their families,  exile from the local community and rumors of much worse things. In this particular case only one of the boys came forward out of the seven,  and  coincidentally  two weeks later  the Catholic church shipped him off to Mexico deportation .

Here is how slick  these guys are–

Check this out. After they got rid of the young man the spokesperson for the North Carolina diocese, who sent me the email you see in this post, made a statement something like this  ” Although we have no evidence, just an allegation from an incarcerated man, out of an abundance of caution Father Al is being moved to another state while we work with law enforcement to do a thorough investigation.”

He failed to leave out one critical piece of information He incarcerated the young man, in the deportation holding area.

And of course no investigation took place, no law enforcement was notified, nor was any agency.

 

The movie Spotlight  was a good door opener to get to the bottom of the real truth about the pedo-priest ring that I believe could be a majority in certain areas of the Catholic church.  Although they mostly uncovered records of older cases where people have covered things up and it wasn’t in real-time with real molesters and  real victims – it did serve as a tool to make the Catholic church at least cough up a tiny bit of information and sort of admit that maybe there were a few more pedo-priests than they thought. They came up with some sort of public announcement to pacify everyone.

  •  They opted telling the media they would put in place a committee to hold priests accountable. I know of no such committee.

  •  They also said publicly that they had a ZERO  tolerance in the area of pedophilia in the church..

  •  After reviewing all the records, I must say they were telling the truth about the ZERO tolerance.  They just left one critical part out.

  •  The ZERO tolerance was not for the priests but for the brat or who opened his mouth. You better believe there is a  ZERO tolerance for that..

  • Its bad news for the victim who chooses to make known the torment he’s experiencing by any member of   La Folla Femminine…

                                       

 When they are not busy painting each others fingernails – they are about the business of protecting their hobby.

 In a sense the movie was a victory for the church because the truth did not get exposed about the everyday functioning of this huge ring –  however it  did call for some action and accountability which now is an open door to show the truth of the extent of  it.

  In my opinion there should be a non-stop 24/7 investigative show just like COPS –    going  after all the priests still working and  molesting kids , every single day and night until it’s shut down.

The truth is it doesn’t matter if you had a trillion dollars or a trillion lawyers that’s not what drives this. There’s only one thing that can make the attention stay on this issue and that is the cameras of the media.

 If  just ONE affiliate  would keep the camera rolling after one incident and go to the next one and the next one and the next one they would be the first to spearhead something that could be the most effective positive change in the history of the church.

ARE WE GOING TO LET THIS PREDATOR WALK JUST LIKE HE ALWAYS HAS?

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Unfortunately we have many  followers who are leading the way in the media . It will take a leader.

So my fellow bloggers, this is where the power of networking comes in and I need ALL of you to connect here.

                   LETS BLOW THIS UP SO IT CANNOT BE IGNORED.

If you all share this we can hit over a MILLION people just for starters…how about it?

Again the case is about Father Albert Gondek-Lexington, North Carolina- Our Lady Of The Rosary Catholic Church. Google that info you will confirm he was accused (again) in 2015- This case involved 7 boys and one who spoke up. We have all the neccessary statements, eye witnesses, living breathing people to testify of the hideous sex, drugs and intimidation scheme that Father Albert ran on young boys….disgusting.

He was recently rewarded for being a confessed predator with an early PAID retirement and no report to the law.. LETS MAKE THE LAW SEE IT AND THE MEDIA SEE IT.

 

As I said, it  has never been proven that pedophilia in the church is SUPPORTED…until now…

Many of you who helped me to put the word out about him in the last year will remember that we really needed some additional evidence and proof and some attention on this case. I shared with you the immediate results that all of you have gotten by blogging that post originally. 

One of the things you may be surprised about is the power the church has had to intimidate that even some law enforcement agencies seem intimidated by the church. 

Afraid to ruffle any feathers with full understanding that kids were being  raped  inside the very churches they drive by each day. Difficult to imagine.

It’s amazing to see  the Catholic church try to defend this problem by saying ” we’ve only had three or four hundred convicted pedophile priests” . There is good reason for that – it’s hard to convict a priest when the church protects them from the law and conceals the evidence.

Below is the link to the Bishops accountability page, where the church is supposed  to share with the public the status of the accused.

 As I just mentioned, the church officially came out with only 300 actual legit cases in a public statement recently.

What you are going to see when you have time to open this ( it’s NOT a 3 minute read) might shock you..rather then 300, their numbers range from 10-20k victims or “valid claims ” as they say. When you scroll through the lists, state by state or diocese by diocese you will think you are searching white pages of a major city.

There is more.  You see the author and editor of this site is non other then the Catholic church. Imagine, if they are willing ( only because they had no choice) to publish these pedo-priests- then God only knows how many truly exist? 

My instinct tells me it’s on the wrong side of 50% of priests , but if you count those who  aide and cover-up offenses of others, much higher.

http://www.bishop-accountability.org/AtAGlance/USCCB_Yearly_Data_on_Accused_Priests.htm

Check this article from an actual real Cardinal. Truth. He himself advocating to get rid of the  many pedophiles in the Catholic church. You know, the ones  that the pope swears are not there.

http://www.newsbusters.org/blogs/culture/callista-ring/2017/01/23/young-pope-accidentally-confirms-catholic-doctrine-attempt

If  you’ve been following this you’ll remember it wasn’t just one-but six or seven boys he molested over two a year period. I am skipping much for times sake, but here is the bottom line. The email you see on top of this post is the actual email I received just days ago from one of the head pedo-priests of the North Carolina diocese. He was responding to a request I made months ago for an update on the ” investigation. “

 

 

He assumed I was just like the restbegging 2f the planet and would take what he said as gospel. He had no idea that I was fully aware of what he did with the victim, by deporting him just 2 weeks after he opened his mouth about Gondek.

I have the information in part due to you all bye the way.

As you see, he boldly and pompously wrote me the email – revealing the consequence for Gondek – all the while with full knowledge of the crimes committed. Just another day at the office!

 So Gondek, after molesting 7 boys, and getting so busted that they could not keep him  in the church any longer, was “sentenced” to an early PAID retirement, with a promise to do prayer and penance.

At least that’s what he thinks. As I read his pathetic email, I was also scanning an important document detailing what occurred – names, dates, offenses committed, and a whole lot of ugly detail about what the freak Gondek did to these kids. . Much of it I will never be able to post. You get the idea. ..

I have all the details and am more then willing to lay it all out for the world to see..

 I forgot to tell him that part. Maybe he’s reading it here now!

Their party has to end some time.

I’m hoping  these pedo-priests will soon be pedo-prisoners . See how they enjoy the same treatment they gave the young boys..

Then again they may not mind. The important thing is that they can’t molest and hurt kids anymore when they’re locked up.

 

Since I cannot get the proper attention of media or law enforcement for this pedophile, with proof of at least 7 boys molested-

 Lets Do What We Do Best- Spread The Word!

I am asking each one of you to share, re-blog, send to contacts in high places, in low places, or wherever you see fit. Just get it out. Dont let this die off. Its time for the pedo-priest rings to go down.

 

                  LETS  BLOW IT UP!

Thanks in advance-

tj

 

 

 

   

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https://duo.google.com/

 If you’re a parent and you want to know where your child is or who  they are  hanging with .. without asking  them upfront.. this is my latest recommendation.. I use it with my own family to subtly find out where they are and who they’re with. 

It’s a little tool called Google Duo.

I worked very hard  to put it  together for Google..

Ok, maybe I didn’t actually  work on it at all …I just downloaded it -but it’s the same thing right?

 The point is it’s an excellent tool to use to communicate with your loved ones for free/ one minute download and  no other bells and whistles or  new numbers to deal with.

Tj