Just keepin it real… ” Father forgive me, and get your hands out of my pants.”
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As we all know many of us and our following are specifically here for the addictions piece and posts we have on a regular basis. We want to continue to build our resource base for those of you who are addicts, have loved ones or friends who are, or are in groups at church like recovery groups etc. Jenny’s magazine adds a wealth of resources and options for those struggling including programs and service cater to addicts.
Please post her link on you site if you write about addiction so others can take advantage of this awesome resource. We welcome Jenny and have plans to expand our services for addicts even more as we are able. Podcasts, seminars and lots of other options are being looked at so we can really be a very effective resource for those suffering from the disease of addiction.
By the way If anyone ever approaches you about this site and says ” Is Don’t Label My Kid! A site for kids? Addicts? Parenting? Spiritual guidance? Teen behaviors? Or mental health, here is your answer below….
We are about the family. The family is made up of mental health issues, parenting issues, addictions issues, health and nutritional issues, behavioral issues with teens and children, death, grief, suicide, abuse and much more. Here at Don’t Label My Kid! we aim to be a one stop shop for all things family and all the things I mentioned and more. The team you see on the menu on the homepage is not here by accident.
Our goal is to have the very best of the best people with credentials and experience that will serve to make a difference in your life as issues come up. Pastor Matt is a guy with 3 degrees in counseling and religion related studies who has a heart for people who have been hurt by the church ( and who has not in the time we are in?) and focuses on writing for his blog and this blog as well as pastors a church that he started!
You know about my background in social work, mental health and addictions.
Mike Carey at alternativesolutions4health.com is our resident nutritional expert who has quite the track record of 38 years of assisting people who are very sick with disease, rid their bodies of the actual disease, not just treat symptoms. Many times in a week or two. His success rate is 98%. Together we have 100+ years experience . Our long-term goal is to take this thing a step further and make our team members available for virtual counseling and coaching on any of the issues we address–worldwide. You may not realize this but we have followers from 148 countries and guess what? They have the same problems we do. So building out this site to support us doing this is a big deal. We believe it will happen and now that our team has rounded out so nicely we can focus more on doing that.
Just to clarify, we have been providing consulting and counseling services on any of the issues I have discussed above. However it is done mainly via email, Skype and the phone. So you can still get help for whatever your issues are just not through a virtual site yet.
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We all believe we were put here for a reason. We also believe that each of you is here for a reason. Our job is to help others with the training and life experiences we have had in the areas we operate in. Don’t deprive your own family or another of getting some healing and help. Remember you do not know how many times they may have called out to others or God for help. If you are the vessel chosen to share the hope and help of this service with them, do your duty and sleep well tonite.
If need be we work with you financially according to your ability to repay and I guarantee it is always much less than traditional rates of you go into an office and pay 125-200$/ Hr for sessions and 300$ for assessments. If you need help and you are not getting it then it is your own fault because we don’t charge those rates and we work with you if you are going through a difficult time. Never let your family health suffer over money. That is one of the reasons we are here!
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Have a blessed day and please remember right now to make the call to anyone you know who needs help and for whatever reason is not getting it. You never know what you may be preventing. Many people today are just one cut down away from hurting themselves.
The Holidays are a terrible time statically for suicide and depression. If you are aware of anyone who is suffering-don’t make them go through another year alone. Tell them about us. Many times the only thing stopping a person who needs help from getting help is the lack of support or encouragement to make the call, or in some cases, I have made the call for others who just needed a boost to get help.
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Last week I was involved in a pity party. Now let me clear, this one was not self hosted. This one just surround me, enveloped me and I felt like a could not get out. I felt so sorry for myself that I was shutting the laptop down, not changing my clothes for a day or two, and so selfish that I decided not not return any messages that first day. I did not even look up to wave at the old lady who waves to me all the time by the beach when I walk. I felt the ocean itself should feel blessed that I even decided to make the walk that day. Yeah it was pretty bad.
But it got worse. I got to the ” comparing my life to others thing” . I would see my dream jacked up Silverado roll by as just assume he must have won the lottery. Not that he worked for it. This lasted 4–5 days and I was oh so pitiful.
One day last week I got started thinking about the veterans. The guys who had seen that were still affecting them 40 years later. Things worthy of rocking their world. I started taking note of some of the homeless vets who were suffering from PTSD but just returned to jail for trespassing instead of being offered the treatment they needed, They were dumpster diving for food, 50 years old but looking 70. Then I am bombarded by all the lawsuits actual traitors are winning for time served before they turned coat. The illegal immigrants getting more benefits for free than most of us ever get. I cannot imagine having to for the best dumpster food all the while knowing what they know.
Christian Author / Artist Joni Erickson. Joni broke here neck, leaving her totally paralyzed for 50 years now. She can only speak, and draw with a pencil in her mouth these amazing sketches. Totally paralyzed relying on an amazing husband to take her to the rest room , change here and feed her 24/7. My problems just started to look smaller and smaller.
I could go on all day with examples but the point here is We Are Not “Wherever We Go”. Most of problems although some serious, do not have to dictate where we are in our mind. That is up to us. It’s a matter of perspective and to some extent our knowledge of what is going on every day around us. Child trafficking, organized pedophile rings even in the church, entire families lost in a day from an accident. Hundreds of things that make our situations look very minor. Not all, but many.
So here is what I recommend we all do from now on. Take some time to actually select a group of really needy or hurting people and plan an ongoing outreach once per week or month and celebrate those people. It’s a win-win situation for all. We get the benefit of seeing someone lifted up and we get the real perspective of just how serious our own ” problems” are.
Try it, you don’t make it policy anymore to allow your circumstances to dictate where you ” are” .
Happy Veterans day to all and God Bless America!
Any of these thoughts ring a bell?
- Life is not worth it
- I hate myself
- I have screwed things up too much to be fixed now.
- Nobody likes me/ I have no real friends
- Everyone else is doing well but me
- I wonder if anyone would even miss me
- Addiction sucks and I will always be stuck into this hell.
- What would be the best way to kill myself, gun? Jump off a bridge?
- I am so depressed, it’s never going to get better.
- What would God do or say to me if I did off myself?
- Nobody understands the pain I am in, I cannot explain it.
- Why does all the bad stuff happen to me?
- Where is God?
- Nobody in my family loves me anymore anyways.
- I am useless. Worthless.
- I have no purpose in my life
- I am not good at anything.
- I wonder if a lot of people would come to my funeral.
- I cannot go on its too painful
- I wish I could talk to someone, but I am scared they might judge me
These are a partial list of questions that have run through my own mind in the past which prompted me to reach out for help, in several areas. Even with all my education and experience, I still suffered through the same pain and hopelessness that many others do.
The difference in me now, and then is I did have someone who like me had been through the same stuff, and was a professional in the field as well. He was able to lead me to the right resources to get the right help with nobody knowing until I wanted them to know.
Folks, that’s what I am here for today. I am choosing to spend the rest of my career helping people and entire families get through some big hurdles. I can help you its 100% confidential, and I promise will save you thousands of dollars in fancy offices with lots of suits walking around. If you are having any of those thoughts or similar,like I used to, then get in touch with me email email@example.com or if its urgent call my cell 386-675-7549.
Don’t forget your friends and family who might need help if you don’t. Please share this with your readers if you don’t mind so I can get the word out that death is not the answer. Suicide is not the solution, and addiction does not have to own them.
Again- Please take a minute to share this with your people as I cannot reach but my only group.
Peace & Hope
Do the Liberals even understand that they’re being punked out by terrorists? Who knows maybe they do and they like it.
After all , it could be that terrorists are the only friends they have ever had..
This is from a new follower named Valerie. Am I the only one to say I will pray for her? Has anyone else felt like she does? I can tell you that it takes much to get to the point of sharing like this to an entire blogging community where she knows nobody.
How about showing some Don’t Label My Kid! love? She can read your responses and I bet they would be worth a million bucks right now. If you would like to communicate with her in private then message me firstname.lastname@example.org with your contact info I will pass along. But any encouragement would be nice…
At the end of the day this is what we are all here for , right?
In part, we are a result of our upbringing; in part, genetics; in part environment. But I believe in free will as well. We all make choices, good or bad, and we have to live with the results.
There’s a country-western song about hearing voices in your head. I do all the time. I hear my grandparents, parents, friends. I listen to them because they loved me.
I’m alone now, sick, in a terrible spot, and scared. Now I’m reaching out to God and praying he’ll catch me.
If you’re scared and alone too, please say hi. Maybe we won’t be so scared if we share. They say a burden shared is a burden halved.
UPDATE- Valerie just shared some details of her situation, so I asked permission to share with y’all in case you know of a church or a person or group that can help with any of her needs..so read below and please touch base with me if you wish to make contact and I will put you in touch..she lives in Mass. BTW
My house needs cleaning and repair, writing and painting, junk removal. I have no money. Ex declared bankruptcy. He is on mortgage but not deed. My mortgage company called in my note. I owe $406k. They’ll foreclose unless I can fix and sell asap. Have credit score of 480, no car, no family, nowhere to go live. Can’t/won’t leave my only family who are my pets. Need everything. Have nothing. The more scared and upset I get, the sicker I get. My only friend leaving on our dream vacation in two days for two weeks without me because I’m too sick. I want to sell my family house, find a mobile home or something for $100k or less to buy if I get money for my house near Brimfield, ma, to be near her. No idea what to do. In constant panic mode. My address is in north Weymouth, ma 02191. Hot market my area. Thought I’d live and die here.
If you all know any vets or anyone for that matter who suffer from PTSD -this may be something to share with them. According to the article the new muscle relaxer type drug tool almost all the symptoms away from a vet who suffered so badly he had a seeing eye dog to to help him cope with the public each day..I believe clinical trials are in Texas but they are usually fairly limited so I would get in touch ASAP.
Wow. Just wow. Here I have been wondering day after day year after year why nobody will even take a report about a priest who has molested 7 boys. Then I see articles like this and I have my answer. The sad part about this is one of two things is happening. Either the defendant is doing the judge -or the judge is a pedophile too. There is no other excuse for leniency in this type of situation. It should be a decision about life in prison or possibly worse not probation and counseling with a compliment from the court for molesting kids.
Does the judge have to blow him a kiss or exchange phone numbers right in court for anybody to get it?
This just serves as another piece of evidence that I did not want to hear or believe lately.. I think the problem is that there are more pedophiles in authority figure positions than we ever ever imagined. Teachers, cops judges you name it because if you’re not against it you are definitely for it.
In this type of situation if you don’t mind a child being raped and molested or sodomized and you can walk away feeling okay about that there’s something not right and it means you’re either taking part in it or benefiting from it some way or somehow.
I don’t know about you but that makes me absolutely want to vomit. The guy openly admitted to molesting kids in his care and gets a compliment from the judge for seeking treatment for alcohol.
Amazing just amazing. If you’re a parent and you put your kids in the care of another adult you definitely need to know who is watching your child.
I don’t care if its the family friend for the whole decade -was the teacher or the priest or the uncle .
There is no accountability anymore -anybody is fair game that will rape kids and that is sad. And then people wonder why we have these transgender problems -sexual identity problems -kids committing suicide .
Instead of naming the truth which is they’ve been molested, we try and justify it by saying they had a pre-existing condition of being other wrong sex or they’re coming out as something they shouldhave been a long time ago. That’s BS .
They were molested or messed with somewhere somehow…
Maybe that’s one of the judges that was busy painting his toenails during the session because he was bored..
I’m sure the defendant will repay the judge in some way for his mercy..
This is what I’ve been preaching all along since day one but it’s sure nice to have somebody like Mike Carey share something like this with us.
Most medical studies deemed bogus! Even Dangerous!
Courtesy of big Pharmaceutical. Even if you don’t want to hear this you really should read it- it’s a life-or-death issue.
Did you know that there are only two eye colors blue and brown. Colors of green and gray or hazel are all shades affected by the toxins build up in your body. As a matter of fact with a good cleansing the colors will be restored to blue!
Anyone who has suffered from what they call acid reflux really has what’s called a hiatal hernia. This can be cured permanently with a simple adjustment.
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When I worked in the alternative school settings one of the first things that troubled me -was when I introduced myself to the first 40 or 50 kids that I would be working with .
In order to get to me -they were expelled from high school (public) then also expelled from the next level alternative education program. What shocked me the most was not their attitude or the way they spoke or how they dressed.
It was how they introduced themselves. Without fail at some point in the introductions on our one-on-one greeting with me, the youth would include their “label” or diagnosis from psychiatrist.
For example – me ” Hi, my name is Mr. P.” – most times they would begin with “I’m Ryan I have intermittent explosive disorder” .
Of course the younger kids couldn’t pronounce their diagnoses or didn’t really remember what it was, but it was clear that they all had assumed the label assigned to them. They had allowed a space in tbeir God given identity to be occupied by a man made identity – what another human being ( in a position of authority) had stamped them with.
As the kids got more educated and what that label meant with the requirements were too be given that diagnosis and label they begin to fulfill the prophecy of the label they were given. I believe that there’s only a few reasons why. The first reason is that they were already in position of vulnerability.
It’s no different for us adults today regardless of our environment. Everyday in the feeds on WordPress you see people constantly referring to their PTSD or Bi- Polar as almost a badge of honor.
The interesting part is most of the time when I go back and look at their name of their blog or what they do -they might be an artist or a poet or somebody involved in sports but completely unrelated to their diagnosis. What do they choose to bring up and talk about ? Those are man -made, man- given labels.. So in order to test yourself and find out who YOU believe you are, and just how much of your identity you have sold off to the devil – so to speak..
I will ask you this question and you have five words to answer. Number one two three four five and you’d put one word at each number.
Name the five things that describe who you are the best. One word each and remember now- if you find yourself struggling to decide whether you should put a positive attribute like I’m a nurse or I’m a carpenter- because you’re thinking well I’m depressed person or I have PTSD be assured that you have allowed your identity space to be sold out.
The good news is if you can take that back. You can only allow certain amount of time and effort to be dedicated to that. The most successful programs I have ever run and as far as I know that anybody has ever run in any area of mental health -addictions or behavioral health are those that absolutely focus on the skills and strengths of the person. Only when necessary do they pull out the “negatives ” or the weaknesses. Our society tends to highlight the weaknesses and we want to highlight it because it was on Dr. Phil , and in some cases we get rewarded socially for doing that. But the rewards are short term and short lived. So when you take this little 5 question quiz and if you had any trouble naming five positive or even neutral attributes, then you should re-think where you got that label and how to cut it off .
Just a thought for today because they tell me I’ve always been a problem solver due to my ADHD.
I don’t know. I think Im getting senile. I just saw Dr. Oz talking how about what vegetables help with that..I will tune in next time
If you’ve ever wondered why I keep pushing for services for everyone and talking about providing treatment that actually does something besides make the providers rich, and keep talking about providing virtual services and all those things today is your day. You are in for a rare treat, ESPECIALLY if you or a loved one has seemed to be stuck in an addiction cycle forever.
Never in my 23 years as a social worker working with addicts and in mental health or behavioral health, have I ever been so blessed as I was today to be able to share this with you; actual documented of how truly stupid our whole system is when it comes to addictions treatment. It’s almost hard for me to believe. What you’re looking at is a post on LinkedIn by a clinician that works in addictions. She says ( I am paraphrasing)
“I have this client and he’s like this and this and this anyone got any advice on what to do with him?” I was reading going –No, lady but you should! You are the ” specialist”
You’ll notice it says 83 comments. Out of 83 comments I think they were over 70 opinions from clinicians and doctors and addiction specialists giving opinions on what she might do. Actual opinions suggesting a certain diagnoses and even treatment recommendations.They have never met him don’t know anything about him and they’re recommending their brand of treatment.
Nobody should be publicly posting that type of information to begin with. It would be easy to track the kid down just by where she works, and a little homework. So if you had it in your family or a friend or you are an addict not everybody thinks that you’re crazy. If you’re an addict- I know the truth and there are lots of people who are trying to come forward and help an addict so they can get effective treatment.
It is bad enough that people seem to think addiction is a hobby like golf – but they don’t even get the fact that just as diabetes is a disease, so is addiction. Would you go to the cancer unit at a major hospital and start yelling at all the patients to ” snap ” out of it ? Of course not. The families of addicts do it each day. To make things worse, nobody seems to know how to treat it..
I wonder how those people would respond if I told them that about 10% of addicts in treatment right now are doctors…
Personally I was invited to meet with a major insurer in July to be considered in a joint partnership to build treatment centers using my model of care. I am doing all I can to bring awareness to the terrible system we live in. If you have read my home page ” mental health its a crazy business” you know that this same problem exists there too. Basically whoever or whatever company is getting paid to ” treat ‘ ( its hard to even call it that) patients in addictions and mental health facilities get paid their 50-100k per bed no matter of the patient does better or not..
I want you to keep this in mind every time you want to judge anybody who can’t seem to shake an addiction. Don’t you think they would like to get better instead of being stuck in hell while everyone around them shouts how they should ” try ” harder! Excuse me, but try harder at what? As you can see the ones supposed to be teaching addicts how to try don’t know themselves! Sad.
Lets hope this momentum keeps up where people are starting to open their mouths like Forbes…