You Or Your Children Need Help. Something Has To Change. Psychiatrist? Psychologist? Therapist? Police ? ( if in danger) What To Do Before Blindly Talking To Anyone For Intervention.

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Boy and girl (5-7 years) tying mother with rope in living room

When it comes time to intervention in your life or your children’s life, it is not something to take lightly. It’s not like going to a grocery store and decided afterwords you want to go to several more stores before buying. All mental health workers from therapists to doctors are trained in their particular flavor of how to find something wrong with you. This is how they get paid. Go to a psychiatry office you will walk out with a script and a diagnoses. The odds are better than not that you will leave with  a new label of some source that like it or not will attach itself to you for life.

Go to a psychologist and you will likely get some reason that you need to come 1-2x per week to get to” what is underneath all this” and spend a ton of money to lay on a couch or sit in a chair for a long time to be reminded of how miserable your life was/is.

Go to a behaviorist like myself and you will likely get a plan of action using behavioral techniques and rewards to attempt at changing behavior. You always go to the least restrictive first. In this case the behaviorist. You NEVER want to have you or your child locked up or labeled for life because you didn’t do your homework. If you have not read my homepage, go back now and read it to get an understanding of how the system works. You may be quite surprised.  The main page article called “Mental Health Is Driving Me Crazy” is the post to read or this may not make as much sense. I promise you won’t regret it.

Time to Evaluate Clock Review or Assessment Management

I have spent more than 20 years of my life working with  troubled kids, teens and their parents in every possible demographic. I have not only been a part of the professional team but was fortunate to move up quickly in 9/10 companies. After spending many years on the front lines and just as many in management, I was blessed to be asked to start a school in Florida for expelled felons. These students had not only been expelled from public school, but then got themselves kicked out of the alternative school where kids must go if they get expelled from public school. 

I was asked if I could do anything to help them and I knew with my Boys Town training and my hands on experience I could do it. I did and I won awards and all . But the most important task I had to train our teachers was to catch the kids doing something right all day each day instead of a day full criticism at an already over medicated and tired group

I named this blog over four years ago Don’t Label My Kid! for a reason. It was not just a cute title to me. It was symbolic of what clearly is one of the top issues we need to addressed, labeling people in general.

Over the next 4 years I targeted a certain audience to reach. Those are families in need of assistance but many times have no clue what to do. Usually they see a television show with guests that have all got the same disorder Parents look to neighbors, friends and sometimes strangers for feedback on how to cope and deal with the problems they have with their teens.

Many parents could not explain the difference between a psychiatrist and a psychologist much less figure out on their own whuch to see. Parents and their kids just going whichever way the wind blows. Whatever place the  therapist or teacher told them to go not considering the permanent label and scar it could leave. Its  just blindly leading people to their own slaughter. Dont be a part of your own child’s social demize. Let us help develop a family plan of action. We offer hourly rates that are much less than you would pay in an office as we dont have the overhead of buidlings etc.. We will work with you from beginning to end. All you need to do to get on the road to recovery for your family is look at menu of our team and determine who will best suit your needs. Then contact us asap before the damage gets too bad.

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Having been  in and around the circles of addiction, depression and all behavioral and mental health issues in my career allowed me to understand the nuances and many differences between the way one doctor does things compared to another.

Time Frame

Now is the time to act when they are under 13 or 14 although it is still workable at 18 if they are willing. Children as young as 8 years old are being drugged today, dont let this be the case with your loved ones.

Here is the point of this little post. Don’t pretend there is no issue.  Address all the issues as directed by someone who actually has worked and lived it and has education as well.

Don’t try this at home people. Its above anyone’s head who has not been trained extensively on the topic. This is why we have a team with Dont Label My Kid! A team that has 100+ years combined experience in all areas from addiction to behavioral health to spiritual guidance, natural healing and all things mental health. Leave this part to the professionals in this field who have also raised our own kids., or you risk being a willing part in labeling your own child for life.

Discuss your options today for coaching, consulting and anything else you see on our front page menu.

Read Pastor Matt’s bio, as well as Jenny, Mike and Mine to see who would who of us could best help then lets started. You know what they say about the definition of crazy is right? Doing the same thing over and over and expecting different results.

Contact me -tim@dontlabelmykid.com or in emergency 386-675-7549

tj

CNN ” We’ve Got The Impeachment Locked Up..

In a stunning announcement Saturday afternoon, CNN has released new evidence that they believe will have even the most conservative and Trump fan reeling for immediate resignation .

Talking about the president, In a quote from lead investigative reporter Ian Spin had this to say, ” He brushed right through the Supercuts scandal , he froze up a bit on the Baskin Robbins scoop, but today I’m here to tell you Mr. Trump has lost his run of luck.”

Apparently a team of volunteer lefty celebrities agreed  to go undercover in this investigation which supposedly will show that our president has a very sketchy bedroom secret that is supposedly so far out that it’s not only immoral, but ILLEGAL!  Questionable ethics and moral standards are mentioned.  The Implication  is that our president is not a good role model for the activities of a man who is supposed to be a God-fearing wholesome,  morally upright American  role model.

So far the only members of the investigative team demanding impeachment for Trump that have come forward are as follows-

 Miley (AAA) anywhere, anyone, anytime Cyrus

– Cher ( is my son my daughter? ) Bono 

The  runner formerly known as Bruce ( do I use the men’s room during transition? ) Jenner

Mark ( are you over 12 sweetie)Weiner

Rosie ( my mouth runneth over) O’Donnell

Finally-an unidentified sales person ( female ) at an upscale DC Furniture store who has made an extraordinary claim that she personally has sat on the presidents bed. ( this is not confirmed by our sources) furthermore she claims to have physical evidence that will leave no doubt that what Trump did was immoral and illegal..we are awaiting an update any minute on just what this ” evidence” is and clearly understand that if even a shred of this story and where it is leading us is true,  Donald Trump could find himself out of a job. Please stand by….

44 minutes later….

We thank you all for standing by. We have been privy to all of the details and are free to release them. The incident in question is legitimate. Donald Trump violated the law and we will see how stiff a penalty he will get. However the incident, was slightly misleading. After the objective news media was allowed to interview the key players, including the stock girl at the furniture store, we have found that the level of moral and ethical integrity has NOT been compromised.

In an unusual move- CNN not only ill-reported but exaggerated a story that they knew to be misleading. Who would have seen that coming ?

Under DC law, tearing off the label of a mattress is a crime. However, in a little known clause, if you have an allergy to makimup-nuuse  (ancient greek chemical)  an ingredient used in the making of mattress tags, you may actually tear the tag off.

So, good news for the President tonight although we here at DLMK News would caution the president that as much as we love him, his ” coloring outside the lines” lifestyle really is not conducive to the office of the President. Please exercise caution Mr. Trump.

That wraps it up for tonight , as always good news and good night.

tj

-Senior Editor (recently promoted)

 

Special; On Parenting- For Parents Of Children With Disabilities…

If you caught my brief bio posted the other day you may have seen that I was responsible write each IEP ( Individual Education Plan ) for all of the students in the schools I  started. As a matter of fact, this blog title (in part)  was named after the unbelievable flaws I saw while doing this. The school boards typically don’t offer parents the help that your child is entitled to if they have a documented disability.

I like to think of a child with a ” disability ” as a child with a ” different ability”

At an IEP meeting, a  ” Staffing Specialist ” from the board is there to represent the board and throw in the hat what they are willing to offer as far as support. Exactly like the psychiatrist who tells you your son or daughter has some  ” disorder ” usually you are at the mercy of their opinion or decision. That should never be the case. However how are you to know what is right and what isn’t?

Simple – email me and I will help you get the help, assistance and services your child deserves!

dontlabelmykid2@gmail.com

( when you email me, please do not go into the entire story, but just the type of situation it is, and your best contact number- I like to hear it straight from you so I can get the details I want and need to help!)

Who Am I- When Im Not Making Sure My Label Is Getting Its Publicity? 

When I worked in the alternative school settings one of the first things that troubled me -was when I introduced myself to the first 40 or 50 kids that I would be working with . 

In order to get to me -they were  expelled from high school (public) then also expelled from the next level alternative education program. What shocked me the most was not their attitude or the way they spoke or how they dressed.

It was  how they introduced themselves. Without fail at some point in the introductions on our one-on-one greeting with me,  the youth would include their  “label” or diagnosis from psychiatrist. 

For example – me ” Hi,  my name is Mr. P.” – most times they would begin with  “I’m Ryan I have intermittent explosive disorder” . 

Of course the younger kids couldn’t pronounce their diagnoses or didn’t really remember what it was,  but it was clear that they all had assumed the label assigned to them. They had allowed a space in tbeir God given  identity  to be occupied by a man made identity –  what another human being ( in a position of authority) had stamped them with. 

As the kids got more educated and what that label meant with the requirements were too be given that diagnosis and label they begin to fulfill the prophecy of the label they were given. I believe that there’s only a few reasons why. The first reason is that they were already in position of vulnerability.

It’s no different for us adults today regardless of our environment. Everyday in the feeds on WordPress  you see people constantly referring to their PTSD or Bi- Polar as almost a badge of honor.

The interesting part is most of the time when I go back and look at their name of their blog or what they do -they might be an artist or a poet or somebody involved in sports but completely  unrelated to their diagnosis. What do they choose to bring up and talk about ? Those are man -made, man- given labels.. So in order to test yourself  and find out who YOU believe you are, and just how much of your identity you have sold off to the devil – so to speak..

I will ask you this question and you have five words to answer. Number one two three four five and you’d put one word at each number.

Name the five things that describe who you are the best. One word each and remember now- if you find yourself struggling to decide whether you should put a positive attribute like I’m a nurse or I’m a carpenter- because you’re thinking well I’m depressed person or I have PTSD be assured that you have allowed your identity space to be sold out.

The good news is if you can take that back. You can only allow certain amount of time and effort to be dedicated to that. The most successful programs I have ever run and as far as I know that anybody has ever run in any area of mental health -addictions or behavioral health are those that absolutely focus on the skills and strengths of the person. Only when necessary do they pull out the “negatives ” or the weaknesses. Our society tends to highlight the weaknesses and we want to highlight it because it was on Dr. Phil , and in some cases we get rewarded socially for doing that. But the rewards are short term and short lived. So when you take this little 5 question quiz and if you had any trouble naming  five positive or even neutral attributes,  then you should re-think where you got that label and how to cut it off . 

Just a thought for today because they tell me I’ve always been a problem solver due to my ADHD.

 I don’t know. I think Im getting senile. I just saw Dr. Oz talking how about what vegetables help with that..I will tune in next time

Lol

.tj

About

Source: About

(*today’s randomly selected letters may offend some as they involve politics/religion)

 

Deer don’t Label Mi KiDD

I sawed na post in which youd made fun of one a are fine W.Virginia teachers  who wore a TRUCK FUMP Tee to skool.. She has the righst to her politics opinion.

I beeleve you employed she was-

1-mentally challenged,

2-toothles

3-a reason for birt control,

4-chewed tobacco (so?)

5- even that since she had no children -she must be able to “out run her brother“- what kind of stupid coment is that? All because she hates Trump? Wow. You are sumething else. That’s out of line.

West Virginia Mountain MaMa

 

West Virginia Obama Mama

Bubba

 


Dear Bubba-

As much as I dislike Obama and Hillary and dummocrats, you will never hear me make any kind of statements so vile and ugly about politics.  I would not say those type things at all ( unless they were facts and true) because I do not gossip.

Not one of those comments had to do with politics, I was just commenting on her being from West Virginia. I never mentioned anything about children at all. I may, possibly inadvertently repeated a totally inappropriate joke ( i don’t think its funny) that some guy said -about

“what do you call a girl from west virginia who can outrun her brother? A virgin. ”

But again no mention of children that’s lies.

tj

 


 

Hey DLMK!

My name is mohammed m. mohaamed.,

 

I read your sad post about we muslims ” kill people and that we cause division and are confused ourselves. You are uneducated on my religion. My little son mohammed jr. knows more then you. His little sister Muhammed could read the koran to you and right before I sold her she recited the entire book to me by memory. Pretty good for 7 years old. If we kill, it is in peace as our profit mohammed says to. Maybe if you spent some time with us you would also learn how to live a peaceful life.

The only downside at all is our name book only has 2 names in it at we have for our own automatic weapons. That’s a small price to pay for peace.You say I am confused? Man oh man if my wife was in town to watch little m&m and  I didn’t have a few goats waiting I will show you some confusion

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goat man

You Americans are stupid. You don’t know how to learn and use resources.

obamaosama

These days most 14 year old muslim boys already have their pilots license and just to mock your stupidity we had you pay for several shipments of arms thru our fine brother B. Hussein Obama’s generous donation of 3 BILLION dollars for Ramadan.  Its comical you people don’t know what pleasure is. I must now go tend my flock but we will talk again..

Signed

M&M

 


 

Dear M&M ,

I only quoted from your koran.  I apologize for offending you . Perhaps if I spent some with your people in the mosque ( do I have to check my AR at the door?) it would help.

Maybe I will see more clearly the link between the slaughters of your daughters, the dismembering of your wives, bartering your 6 year old’s off to 50 year old’s for marriage

Maybe my reward will be to reveal to me why the kids all must get pilot licenses used to crash planes not fly them…

Let me be clear on one thing.

No matter what- under any circumstances- at any time- ever- do I want t know ANYTHING about you all and your animals.-  I refuse to even think about why you and your goats…well anyways my wife leaves town too….. but the boys round here watch football during those times, go fishing, hunting…we like the humans in these parts…but hey if allah is pleased thats all that matters right? You need a check up from the neck up.

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As you see I did not post the 8 pictures of your ” girls” or whatever you call them but i did post just one as evidence all the readers that you sent this to me, and you are the one with the business idea – and I don’t appreciate offensive pictures your pleasure toys being sent here. Its repulsive. How would you like it if I sent you pix of beautiful naked women? Repulsed correct? Yes i know. So give me the same courtesy.

I think you and your new idea of putting 1000 goats under an air conditioned roof and serving drinks is nuts. That is just an undercover Muslim Strip Club. And Please do not ever use the term ” deep goat” ever again. You see I deleted all 14 times you said that in this letter.. I recommend making a way for your wife to be home more, although its no secret that the majority of non-goatees say you all purposely send your wives away all the time. That’s even more sick.

You are encouraging this Baaaaaad behavior.

tj

 A Little About Me. The Guy Behind Don’t Label My Kid!- Tj -Up Close And Personal..**sorry for issues with link will have fixed in a few hours. ..

 

Well, I thought after 4 years maybe I should introduce myself… to my ” inner circle”.

 What you are about to read is all true folks- except for some rumor about the home in the background of the picture of my wife and I -being my ” Guest House” – Right… On a Social Workers salary? Not!…

Its actually just our own humble abode. We cannot afford ” guest houses”.

Ok, alright – just got a” friendly” nudge from my wife (ouch) to tell the ” whole ” truth. So It’s actually the Biltmore Hotel, and ” technically speaking” we used our life savings to spend 2 nights there 12 years ago…   Whats the big diff?

Some people are just dream-killers.

Anyhow this really is my story in a snapshot…    ..

http://dontlabelmykid.com/Home.html

Mailbag! Answering The Hard Questions..

Dear DLMK,

I see you are in support of this Trump philosophy. Maybe you should take a closer look at the man.  Billionaire? Right. You fail to mention he has 3 corporate bankruptcies under his belt. Who cant pull that off? 

He is taking advantage of his position and using this country for his own gain.  Doesn’t the man have any morals ? Is he aware that each time he gets in front of a camera or writes anything he represents this nation, our children included?

How do we explain the exploitation of this sort to our children who are trying to make a daily impact on for the good?

He seems to be able to sleep very well even while abusing his authority and basically making his own rules up. Writing his own paychecks basically. And he seems to be in it in part just for the publicity.. Where are his morals?
Sincerely, 

Psychiatrists of America

Rev Albert Sharpton

Arnold Schwarzenegger

Stephen King

Stephan Hawking 

Miley ( anywhere with anyone) Cyrus
CNN

Charlie Sheen

Robert Deniro

Meryl Streep

Mr. Barry Obama ( medal of honor recipient )
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Thank you all for checking in. I realize that Trump is not the only one to accomplish billionaire status. There are almost 1200 others in the WORLD who have ridden that train Thats almost , like .00001% of the general population. My bad.

As far as publicity , I think it goes with the job. And YES Reverend Al, I kept my promise to post your name first after any companies, and YES, I did send your secretary a copy. 

DLMK

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Dear DLMK,

I resemble a recent post on your log implying I have demettia. I resemble that post .Too.The only reason I didn’t come out in public much in my 6 years at the white house is  .well I’ll get back on that. Anyways,

And shuffleboard is so much fun. 

Please dont use my  ” they wanna put y’all BACK in chains ” comment to the black audience as a platform to make fun of me. 

I love those people. As far as I see it they should have every right us whites have. 

So again, please cease from gossiping about  me. 

VP Joe Biden

Sunny Days Retirement

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My apologies Mr Biden. It was a shotgun reaction on our end. And sir, shake a leg on the shuffleboard.

DlMK

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Dear DLMK,

I ran across this picture in one of your old posts . So you think its humorous that 3 men offer up their own firearms to Cher? Suicide is funny?

Jack Kevorkian Jr.

Dear Mr Kevorkian,

I am in total disagreement with those three men. Personally I would never offer up my firearm and an expensive hollow point. 


Witness who charged FBI agent with pedophilia found murdered? – WhosaRat.com

http://whosarat.websitetoolbox.com/post/witness-who-charged-fbi-agent-with-pedophilia-found-murdered-1601274

If you are a parent and this does not scare the hell out of you I would be amazed.

If you find yourself attracted to little kids…Cut your hands off before touching them. By the way , these are the ” good guys ” …Wow.Just wow.

Tj

Mailbag! Questions Only We Dare Answer..

Dear DLMK!,

Do you not get it that Obama was much better then Trump? Personally  I have benefitted more from Obamas contributions to his country then anyone.  By a long shot..

Sincerely,

ISIS

Illegal Immigrants

The very reverend Al $harpton

JayZ

Muslim brotherhood

DLMK!- I can see how an American president would be seen as a threat to you. But it is what it is.
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Dear DLMK,

It is appalling to me to see the selfish motives of Donald Trump . As president we expect him to act presidential. Treat the white house with respect. Honor your wife. Dont spin things and participate in corruption. I feel sick . If only the white house walls could talk. 

Regards,.

William Jefferson Clinton.

DLMK- Mr Clinton, not each president can be the role model you were in the white house. We understand that you honored everything from Hanukkah to Monica while there. Let’s work with what we have .

DLMK


Dear DLMK,

Trump may be a good businessman but he has no right to force prayer time if desired in school and force his beliefs on us. And just because he happens to be straight does not give him any right to judge us and our preferences. He’s trying to separate the sheep from the goats I guess but he isn’t my judge. 

Sincerely, 

Imam Al-mohammed.

Dear Imam,

I think what the president is really trying to avoid is an influx of goats under the roofs of American buildings. Or as you all may call them ” Strip Clubs ” . 

DLMK
Tj

Bad News Everyone.   We Have All Been Taken.  …Ptsd, Bipolar, Anxiety and all the others – Dont even exist. ..Now What?

Now as we are getting closer to actually offering REAL services and REAL truth about mental illness, addiction, DSM V , psychology, psychiatry, PTSD , ADHD, and every other issue affecting us all, I need to recap a few issues. 

The beliefs  of Don’t Label My Kid! are not my opinion. Not someone’s philosophy. They are facts. Facts by way of 2 routes. 

1- I personally have lived it. 

2- I have witnessed /worked with at least 500 people in any given duagnoses who have been treated -and documented results. .

The next issue can easily be misinterpreted, so please be careful in reading what I am saying .

The DSM V is the Bible of psychiatry. As you know each of us who has been tagged with a label has been tagged by criteria from this book. 

The acronym actually is for Diagnostic and Statistical manual of Mental health disorders. 

Diagnostic and Statistical Manual of Mental Disorders (Book by American Psychiatric Association).

https://goo.gl/search/Diagnostic+and+Statistical+Manual+of+Mental+Disorders

Here is something quite surprising to many. The book is 100℅ theory with not a shred of any statistics in it. No scientific evidence of anything other than the fact it is a money machine. 

As a matter of fact it is developed and updated every few years by psychiatrists themselves who literally meet in a group of 200 or so anonymously and make up new disorders to diagnose. They pitch an idea , take it to vote, and if  all in favor is greater, it . Dont take my word.. Watch.

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Meanwhile just by sheer coincidence, lol …The big drug companies just happened to have come out with a drug to treat the new disorder. They are even allowed to pay the doctor to write patients for their new drugs. 

 What are we to do with this information?  Does this mean none of us have addiction problems or mental health issues? Of course not. It just needs to be known so people can weigh that out in their decisions to take meds, see a psychiatrist or psychologist or neither. 

Very few parents I’ve worked with knew the difference between  the two professions. 

Another issue is psychotropic medication. I’ve been on 15-20 or so. When I went to investigate who makes them and what proof they could provide that they were effective, I was amazed at what i found..

1st- clinical studies- which are supposed to be mandatory for new drugs are both deceiving and sometimes non-existent. The  FDA is supposed to gate-keep,  but they have very loose rules. 

2- Big pharma is a Billion dollar industry. Not only do they put out drugs that have never shown any real success, but they even seem to mock the victims of their failed drugs. 

 For example about 2 years ago, one of the mega drug companies issued a public statement regarding  some of the antidepressants they had on the market for teens with major depression/suicidal thoughts. 

They announced that they were sorry to announce that 12/13 of the  drugs they marketed to those teens not only did  NOT work, but CAUSED suicidal thoughts. Oops.. .

You would think they would do something right? Nope. They stll sell the same drugs today. 

When I read all of your  comments there is a common theme. Whether it be PTSD or depession/suicidal thoughts , most of you are dissatisfied with any treatment you have attempted. This does not have be the case. 

 What we are doing as a group is using our numbers and experiences on this platform to get effectve treatmenr from successful providers who will not just provide services for us, but effective and individual services with results. 

Here is the point we all need to get . 

Regardless of how we all feel about the DSM or psychiatry in general. 

STOP GIVING YOUR LABEL SO MUCH POWER! 

It is man made. You are not. You do not have to stay where you are.

Some of you have absolutely decided to live out the prophecy given to you by some doctor. Get over that .

 Dont let the tail wag the dog. Yes the symptoms are real. Yes they affect you. Stop there and start joining us who are trying to move forward. The worst thing people can do is get involved in groups where people sit around and talk about how miserable their lives are because of their disorder. 

Thats why AA and NA have 20% success rates. When I had to go to AA for 30 days in my 30’s – I had to down a 12 pack in the parking lot just to get through it.

We need real help with real results. Thats what we are about. Not learning to drag labels around through our lives. OK? 

Thats what I do. I have worked with the best. I have started my own programs  with great success. If I wasn’t sure all of you could get better I would not have wasted 4 years writing 400 articles. 

Oh and just FYI, you know just by my homepage how hard  I am on drug makers and doctors who exploit people that don’t need meds or labels. I called them out right from the start. How many arguments do you think I have received from doctors or therapists or drug makers?

ZERO. NONE. BECAUSE ITS TRUE. 


Now onto solutions. 

As of yesterday I have an investor interested  awaiting some data and things from us.  If it looks good he is willing to help us provide services                  INTERNATIONALLY! 

He needs some data obviously before dropping serious cash . 

1-One issue is what types of disorders are affecting the most people.Please note in a comment or reply to a post the name or names of the disorder you or your loved one struggles with. You need not tell details just the name for data collection.

2- If anyone here is an expert in fundraising or knows a philanthropic person interested in treatment please contact me asap.If you have other ways to raise funds quickly let me know. Crowdfunding or whatever. Investors dont pay for the expenses of getting the plan together. 

It’s going to be about 10k to pay the experts to design the things we need Develop and present business plan. . Web design, languages,  marketing, and consulting. When that is secured and the others are done we can possibly be able to initiate services worldwide. Let’s just start by using the resources you have. Things work out for us when we pull together. 

OK ,keep doin what we do!  Don’t forget to add in the type of disorder you or your family member deals with..Also I recently started a Facebook Group called Break Through. Sign in as a member there as well.! 

Tj

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Tj @ dontlabelmykid  would like to chat with you on Skype. Go to https://go.skype.com/dl-skype

Followers please add. Treatment for all requires all to be involved! We are getting closer. Now we must expand our presence..

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TJ- Don’t Label My Kid!- Message to my crew. These Little Ladies Are Mine. Boys are up and out. When I look at them I thank God I even get to hold them. It should not be.

This post is about giving many others a chance to watch their babies grow up. Not many would have made it through what I did, and I believe the purpose for this was to make some changes so others could not suffer through certain things that can kill. So please take this to heart and lets do this thing.  I don’t get to make the plans or set dates, but I am pretty sure this is an appointment we all need to be at.  Thanks for taking a few out to read and do what you can. .. You may make it possible for a guy like me to be smiling down at his little girls like I am here, when he would not have made it before…

You all who have been here for a while already know that as a group some very cool things happen through this blog . Nothing anybody could have planned but just incredible events. Well, fasten your seat belts because here we go again.  Last week I was looking around for just the right people to introduce to all of us as experts in their particular area of service. Lets face it, we are all here because some aspect of our lives are not where we would like them to be. You all have written and been very open about anything from suicidal thoughts to physical disabilities or like me a lifetime of hell with addictions issues.  You remember I started last week our kick off on addiction and invited everyone to invite their families and friends who just didn’t get it. Cool right? I  really want to offer every single person here the treatment they need whether it be PTSD or a fear of dinosaurs.  You know why? Because as many of you may know, treatment in general sucks. It is not at all very successful, and just is a dead-end.  I however, having a great resume on the rehab floor, and also as a social worker have had the answers to why. It’s not too complicated but much is about money. Greed. There are other things too and if I had the funding I would have offered REAL treatment from day one. But, I spent my last million a few years ago . Lol.

Well here is where the weird stuff we get as a group once in a while came in. In the last 3 days there has been an influx all over the media and in the treatment and mental health industry to pour out tons of money to start researching peoples experiences and issues with their failed treatment and actually consider making some changes. Wow! What a coincidence! That’s what we all have been talking about for 4 years. Hmm. Is anyone with me yet? We have the hard data compliments of WordPress. 

So bottom line we are one  of a very tiny group who has the opportunity that we do. That is to ask successful providers to give all of us the services we need and our family and friends too. My job is to find the very best 10  or 15 experts in every area we need to sign on to being here for us. I am talking virtual counseling all the way to 6 month stays out-of-state or country if needed. But that’s not the end. Personally I have been in 3 rehabs since age 23 or so. The first one sucked . The second one was a little better because I got some good drugs from other ” patients” – and the last was fair because  staff let us sneak a pill now and then.

So do we all get why our country is falling apart? The treatment centers and treatment is sub-par and I am being  generous. I went into this field hoping that a day like this would happen. Where we would have the upper hand. It’s here. But 2 things must happen.

1- I have to find and recruit the best of the best in each area we all need.

2 -You all need to share the news   DONT LABEL MY KID!    is a place that ANYONE who needs treatment can come. I will make sure nobody is turned away. That is handled by financial people who can split insurances and get grants or whatever.   If you read what Charles on LinkedIn posted and I reposted here 50 THOUSAND PEOPLE on FACEBOOK alone are looking for  treatment. Not 500. 50k.  Why shouldn’t we be the ones to get the best providers on our team and have them get help through us?  We could start hiring from within for admissions and case management jobs. Everyone of us can play a role in a trailblazing effort.

More importantly we can blaze a new trail of treatment  for outpatient treatment centers so that people with the disease of addiction are treated like people with the disease of addiction. Not losers who don’t care. Do you know how many lives that could save?  This little mystery blog we all met on years ago has already done  more to change major issues than any reporters could. That’s just one case about that priest who molested my brother. That isn’t over yet either.

So if I know you all we can do this and make a name that nobody will forget. For the people needing treatment and by the people needing treatment. It is not about me. It would not be a grand accomplishment if I said look what I did. But if I could share the efforts and input and conditions of all of us and the world saw how it all happened, I have to believe we would see long-term change.

Do you know that even if you can get your loved one into a rehab, the chances of recovery are slim. Embarrassing even. You would think those places would do their jobs right? And most of them do try to rise above the average 35-40% success rate . As a matter of fact the top 10 highest rated programs in the country do in fact boast a considerably higher success rate then the other 90%.

The only difference in their programs ( besides up to 75,000$ higher price tag)  is that some have an extra component to supplement the traditional 12 step method that AA and NA use.  Perhaps even a doctor who himself is a recovered addict. The luxury centers in Florida , California often incorporate yoga, hiking and special fruit diets. Fruits and yoga instructors don’t come cheap. All that said we do have some very effective treatment centers in the USA. I suppose there are also a few Ford Pintos still running too. The point here is not that nobody cares or is trying, but it is to address the reality of the logistics, treatment methods, staffing available and many other factors that together present an epidemic right now as we are currently in a never before seen high rate of overdose deaths from opiates and heroin. Gone are the days of the Andy Griffith sticking Otis in the jail cell until he sobers up. It is dead serious and all over.

This may be the most important post I have ever written as the timing of all this gives us as a group an opportunity to make a dent or even spearhead a new way of thinking when it  comes to treatment.

You all know I don’t keep track of numbers or stats and pay for publicity. The reason 4 years ago I didn’t even consider it was two-fold. First, I have lived the hell of addiction since age 12 due to exceptional parenting by my father.  (NOT).  The point is I know what it is like to want to give up. I know what it feels like to give it everything you got, and have people accuse you of being a slacker who didn’t care about anyone else.  I know what its like to drive home from work excited that I had made up my mind not to drink that night and as my truck passed the ABC liquor store it automatically turned in all by itself.

If you want to talk opiates , or anything else have no fear I have been there too. Mine is addiction depression. Yours may be grief. It may be disease in your body. It does not matter. All can be treated. 

So assuming you have the funding, the open bed, and the right circle of clinicians who are the decision makers  in that tiny percentage of the programs,  you may actually have as high as a 3/4 chance of remaining clean. At least for a year. Now as for the other 90% of programs that do  not have that fruitful, ocean side venue  with the possibility of a real live recovered addict as a role model to help treat them, the sad reality is that maybe 3-4 clients will stay clean for even a year. I personally think it is a horrible hope to stick any struggling addict in a system with results like that. I mean now you may be talking random philosophies of treatment for these citizens who just don’t take their lives seriously, and don’t care about the pain they are causing their families. Snap out of it. Grow up.

At least that’s how I felt when I myself found myself on a cold floor in withdrawals with a tiny mattress to lay on as I vomited and contemplated whether life was worth living. My first program I got lucky because the ” tough love shifter” who marched in like military generals demanding roll call and even exercise while you prayed your heart would not fail seemed to be there as a I began to come out of my life threatening symptoms of opiate and alcohol withdrawal. I remember one nice older lady who used to sneak us an apple or two even just to insure a healthy outcome. She may have known more than we all thought, since the crew I did time with all lasted weeks longer in our sobriety then some others.  That at least gave our families an extra week or two to see us sober. It must have been pure bliss for mom and dad.

Not so much. The next program AA though had a little secret that they were so proud of because it has been around for a century. You see they made it mandatory that we all spent an hour or two each day with al the other failures repeating publicly that we had no control over our situation. Thankfully they had a lifelong open door welcome policy to return after our  ” treatment ” just to remind ourselves of our future -the same as it was that day. If it wasn’t for the hope of making it 30 days or even 60 without using and getting to be presented publicly with a  poker chip  for our good behavior, I may have never had the success I did of well over 3 months sober. Pure heaven.  The only problem was I still felt like I was sick. Like I had well, almost like a real human who was productive  in society  would get, a disease.

Crazy me, here I go back to denial. I sucked it up like you do when you hold your breath.  Until again I had to breath. Now that I look back I am being a little hard on the program, because after my first 30 days of peeing clean, I did get to go into a real public place like the working folk and play pool for an hour with the fellas. Heck the guard that brought us even went out for a smoke break once. It was like we were on parole!

So sure, after a few detox weekends , verbal tongue lashings and contract signings in front of the staff who had never been so disobedient to life as I , I eventually was set FREE! I will never forget walking out of the compound to see my own truck there and more importantly my two young sons. They must have been seen me as a role model. I honestly to this day do not think they ever saw the 20-30 slices up and down my arm to my wrist from trying to figure out how to bleed out while in my hellish withdrawals. I couldn’t even get that right. Nevertheless, I had learned to hold my breath longer now. I was as a clean as a whistle. Never stepped foot into another rehab. It was the darn jail cells that got to me though when I earned my first DUI. I didn’t care for it.

Thank goodness on my 2nd DUI the judge allowed me to check in to a 90 day inpatient program. Heck with good behavior, my superiors at my job an as a clinical social worker would never even know!  This program was much different. I felt like a real human the while time. There was no television or computers. You spent all day working physical labor, the were fed well, but this place didn’t have the walk of shame hour each night. Instead mandatory church.  Oh well, I guess it couldn’t hurt. I knew right away I was never going to score oxy and Vicodin’s like at the Miami place, but hey, I will try.

People that was when I was only 30. It took almost 10 more years to even stay functional. That’s unacceptable. I tried everything. I took the shame and guilt and accusations . You all know. So do you want to let it all go or seize a chance to show the kind of pain uneducated people cause others  cause?

That’s it I am done. I got work to do.

Are you going to do your part?

tj

Note*  To reiterate, I never said that all treatment facilities are useless. What I am saying is due to sheer need, different treatment types, and financial issues, people are dying not living.

I spoke to the Executive Director Of the # 1 best treatment center in the USA last night about this.  Asked his opinion.  He understands the problem.  Lets do this.

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Just a quick note. I have great respect for these short read posts that fix things in a jiff. My life hasnt worked like that so if you follow me through some deep issues, they will be more then 2 minute cure alls. I just dont want to disappoint anyone, thats all. Go with what is best for you. 

Tj

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Surprise! That Mental Health Disorder You Have- Is All In Your Head!

 

One of the reasons I started this blog was because after 20 years in the field of Social Work and Mental Health I learned information that was shocking to me. One piece of that information I got just out of college  was that the DSM or the psychiatrist”s  bible from which they diagnose patients  is 100% theory with no scientific backing whatsoever.

As a matter of fact every single diagnosis in there is made up by a group of psychiatrists that get together every few years and vote on something. One guy may come to the table  with a new idea and they all take a look. Soon a vote takes place and if its yes then we have yet another diagnoses. That’s all it takes to pass the new diagnosis. 

Although  the title  DSM says Diagnostic and Statistical Manual, you will not find any statistics in there. So what does it mean for everybody .It means two things .

First,  it means that many, many kids and adults are being over prescribed medication

Second the FDA  who regulates drugs ( allegedly)  makes sure drug makers prove that the drug passed trials and tested out.More and more evidence of loopholes in that process comes out everyday.

Pharmaceutical companies are allowed to pay doctors to write prescriptions , and you bet they are  right behind those doctors after they have their disorder vote. The drug companies need to get back to the lab right? Not really. 

Recently a huge pharmaceutical company just revealed that 13/15 prescription antidepressants that they marketed over the last 4 years for teenagers who have suicidal thoughts- actually cause  the suicidal thoughts

Did they get punished or stop marketing it? Absolutely not.

. So you see there’s a big problem.. Whenever I read or hear somebody here describe their torture from about how tormenting the disorder label is – PTSD,AD/HD, ODD or whatever it is- I hate seeing that a label owns the person. Owns them psychologically  which leads to physical and other things as well.There’s no denying that people have symptoms of problems in their life .Many need treatment to work through the symptims and pain. Who though? Yellow pages?

If you’ve ever read the first page of this blog or any articles on the site you would have known that the  key to getting help with things like PTSD or different disorders is about finding the correct person who can help you up and out. Today’s therapeutic model is pathetic. You go in  with PTSD and on a  weekly basis you sit and you rehash it over and over until it’s so ingrained in you can never get rid of it

That’s not therapy, that’s job security.

 Before you go off and get a prescription for medication and get a label for life have   make sure you’re aware of all of the repercussions that are possible

If you were standing in front of me right now and I said “define the difference and job descriptions between a psychiatrist,  psychologist, clinician and a therapist”  would you be able to tell me?

If not – you’re already behind the eight ball. If you do suffer  from symptoms of traumatic events or any major issues , they don’t go away. .Any symptoms of  major trauma are real. But you need to be educated in knowing  the right person to go to for help,  otherwise you’re going to lock yourself into a lifetime of that.

Contact me if  you need any more information on this subject.

Tj