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I have read so many stories about parents frustrated that their child is not getting treated according to the needs they have when it comes to IEP time or even classroom management. I have so much to inform you about but I cannot do it in one post so I will focus on the main issues.
1- IEP meetings are frustrating. One thing you as a parent need to know is that is that it is NOT you job to provide and suggest what is needed for your child. The obligation is on the staffing specialist from the school board. Will they offer this? Of course not. you will sit in the meeting and look like an idiot unless you redirect the responsibility to the staffing specialist and the school board. You hold them accountable for what they have implemented for your child and his or her disorder.
Do not sit there and act like your kid is bad and the consequences are deserved if the school is not doing their job. So if your child is disciplined, you need to ask them what they have put in place to avoid the behavior that occurred. What teacher training has your child’s teacher gotten to insure minimal issues? How has the school implemented necessary tools to deal with the disorder your child has?
If you just sit back and let them tell you how much a behavior issue your child is without holding them accountable for what they have done, you are really in the wrong.
I will post more on other issues but this is an important one so make sure you know it is the school board’s responsibility to put in place measures to help your child.
A few days ago I was invited to a FB group that focuses on depression and anxiety and all. I offered up my site for articles and my contacts for personal help. Everyone was happy to see some help arrive since all they all do basically is get on each night and complain how miserable their lives are.
Everyone was happy except one lady who decided to make a comment about a picture I posted of me and my daughter. She said ” I wonder if he is a pervert ?”
I cannot tell you how many words I had in my mind to respond. But I held back on all that- and just called her a bitch. . Was I out of line?
I am very easy to get along with but mess with my family and its on.
Ok I vented so any input?
Has anybody else been as fortunate as I have to have been chosen not once not twice but three times in the last year for prizes over 500,000 cash on Facebook by Facebook itself?
I just want to encourage all of you if you have Facebook accounts don’t give up just stick with it like I have and one day you’ll get a text like you see here that I put my screenshot on of what the result was now in this case she has not returned any messages after I asked for an ID but I’m sure that’s she would must just be busy right now I’m I bet there’s a check in the mail today I was wondering if anybody else has been so fortunate?
I knew my ship would come in one day and yours will to never give up …
Every once in awhile we all get to feeling like we have it just a little tougher than the rest. Then you get hit between the eyes with what longsuffering and a hard life is REALLY like…I promise as you follow the true trials one family has had with a daughter who has up to 30 violent seizures. Oh yeah- that is 30 per DAY.
Each step of the journey from infant to adulthood and current status is chronicled and will make most of us drop to our knees and ask for forgiveness for complaining how we have it…
In addition and even more important this story is absolutely essential reading for anyone who has relatives with Epilepsy or seizures and the like. You won’t hear complaining as mom tells about endless horrendous violent seizures and hundreds of attempts to find any medical help/
The amazing thing about this story to me is something you or I may find hard to believe. But this is how the family is…
Anissa, now near 50, and still in need of 100% total care all day every day which is still done by her 80 year old mother was born perfectly healthy. Yep. At six months a doctor gave her an overdose of a medication that turned a beautiful blond baby girl into a vegetable for life.
She forgave the doctor and never pursued legal recourse- And somehow maintained her strong Christian faith in the midst of such a traumatic event .
This is something you have to see to believe…click the blue link above and see what life can really be like.
I hope this isn’t too misleading, but I certainly was not saying that I have 100k followers. Not many do. I dont care if I ever do.
But now that your here, take a peek at my brief point.
Here’s the great news, your engagement rate/ participation rate from the viewers you do have can be worth much more than a zillion followers and 2% participate. I, like many was on a treadmill to get followers five years ago when I started this blog. Over time I noticed that although I never paid anyone to push bogus abd meaningless followers, and took the high road by staying with followers who found me, it has paid off. If you are familiar with direct mail results they are usually 1-3% .
So if you have 100k followers but they didn’t really follow for your niche, you will have similar results with then actually using your service or engaging in your posts. Thats about 1-3k.
If you have 1000 followers who all came because they want and like your niche, your percentage of potential users of your service -well -I’ve seen as high as 45% participation rate. Thats near 500 potential customers. Would you even be able to handle that load? So let’s be realistic here. Unless your a mega business with tons of staff , you can’t handle even 300 new customers in a short period. ( Im speaking now tol service providers) but you who sell items can do your own conversion. So the great news is if you focus on what your readers want and stat with what you know, the relationships you develop are far more valuable abd trust is stronger then a million empty followers.
Take a peek at your total posts and then at your total likes, comments, or reblogs. If your numbers of participants is over 3% you are doing a better job of building trust than the mega site. Dont worry about how many followers, focus on meetung the needs that they are expressing. No matter what you do in your blog it will be strong.
If you have been discouraged about followers, switch gears and cater to your bread and butter.
Maybe someone needed to hear that today. I hope it helps;
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Its been five years for me with this blogging thing. I have read my share of articles and opinions on why certain blogs have more followers than others, or one has more comments than the other etc… I have been on the same side, looking at my stats and wondering how come mine are so different from other blogs. I have felt the same feeling of questioning myself and wondering what I should be doing that I was not. The truth is, I have learned and still am learning about things that can benefit my site or draw a certain crowd. So this is a legitimate concern.
However, after five years of this, I recently discovered something that has absolutely changed the way I view my site and truthfully every site! I have made a discovery that, at least for me, is brand new and not talked about much, if it is even well understood. I am not convinced that what I am about to suggest, which potentially affects all of your blogs as well, is even common knowledge in the blogging world. I stumbled on it while pressing in over and over, looking for things I may be missing out on to promote my site.
What I am about to say has the potential to be quite controversial. but I firmly believe nobody will be able to disprove my theory. If everyone who reads this takes what I am saying and weighs it with their own circumstances, I am convinced the end results will be very much in line with each other. Now I want to be honest about the fact that some of my findings were birthed out of my total frustration with my lack of growth during certain seasons and seeming inability to move as fast as some other bloggers.
I really went over and over many times the same old information until one day it just clicked in my head that I had part of the answer to why some blogs are so very much more successful growth wise than others. Not that they are any better or worse, but just a reason that finally made sense to me. The news I am presenting here can make each one of us stop and reconsider what our passion is! What we write about. Why we write about what we do. I even remember one day I wrote a post that I had spent much time researching, and expected it to be well received in my community of bloggers. However, to my dismay, it was just an “average” post in my book. You know, 10-20 likes and maybe a comment or two. Whoopee, right?
Something happened around that same time, though, that brought it all full circle for me. That something was my stumbling upon a blog post on the feed about training dogs to do house tricks and healthy eating habits for your mutt. But then, as I neared the end of the post, I saw this enormous number that appeared on the last line of the post where comments also go. Yeah, it was this number like 469 or something. I must have read that 3 times just to be sure but it sure was 469 people gave their props for the doggy master and doggy diet expert. Now, in all fairness, I was just coming off of a post that I spent several hours researching, an hour and a half writing ( I think I may have even edited that one!) and I was feeling a tad low with my 20 likes on a very important topic for all of us humans, but even lower when I caught the 469 for the doggy dynasty.
Here is what I realized then. People in general simply do not wish to deal with the hard stuff that life has dealt. People in general like to have their ears caressed when reading a blog post. They do not want to be confronted with all the harsh realities we are facing in real world, non-doggy life. Grown ups who are well-educated and should care about certain issues like human trafficking, or pedophile priests, or crooked politicians are more than willing and even likely to skip the post about a crisis we, as a society, has to deal with and instead steer their eyes towards soothing material. Its true!
This is not just what my team writes about or what we deal with in mental health, child abuse, and addiction, but it was my own blog that awakened me to the idea of what was happening. I supported my theory by checking with other bloggers and looking at all the different numbers and it proved to be a working theory.
Here is the main point of what I found. People like me, who tend to deal with sad, even troubling issues much of the times seem to have this common thread of a lower amount of followers and not as many takers in general who even want to face these issues much less spend time thinking through them in a blog post. That seems to be a fact across the board. However, the amazing thing I discovered was that my smaller group of people were participating in, liking, and commenting on about 35% of what we published. Now I don’t know if you ever check those stats but recently I read an article by a very successful blogger who I believe said he sometimes had a 1-5% participation rate when it came to his huge audience actually liking or commenting on his topics. So to see 35% consistently and look back over the years and see it never dropped below 20%, was amazing to me. It told me something that we all need to be aware of. The numbers may not line up on the same side with all bloggers in the same categories. But the numbers are there most times just distributed in different places. In my case, I realized I had a slightly more intense crowd who did not mind getting their hands dirty in some controversy. Therefore, what I was not seeing in overall total followers, I was making up 10 fold in active engagement with my posts.
So, for all of us who blog, we need to start making sure our perspective is accurate. It simply is not likely, on any given day, that a human being with all the problems we already have, would rather spend 20 minutes ingesting some bad news about abused kids, rather than totally avoiding it and thinking about the fact that Rover can roll over. The one is simply much more stressful than the other. So none of us should discount one bit of our efforts writing based on simple numbers alone, but on the whole picture.
Many, many times I have read posts written by bloggers who are very disappointed in how slow their blog has progressed, in comparison to some others. Now it is easy for me to see that most are likely missing out on some part of the value in their work because they follow the popular way of measurement which typically is “How many followers you got?” That usually leads to depression. What if, just for one day, the question went like this, “Hey, what percent of the viewers of your posts actually care enough about them to “like” them or comment?” A much different way of thinking is born. And I am willing to bet that the question could be asked in many more ways that I have not even thought of.
But we as bloggers are followers in that sense. We want what the writer over there has. Yet truly we have no idea, unless he makes us privy to his stats, just how important those 26,000 followers were this month, because he never bothers to look past that and dig into the statistics that WordPress provides. Such as, how many of those people even took time to click “like” out of 26,000? Remember, this is not an “either or” scenario. I am discussing meaning that one type of stat is more important than another. Heck, do you think if tomorrow I found out a way to add-on 5000 followers to my crew, that I would not be running to do it? Of course I would. I want that, too.
We need to stop trying to fit our blogs into ‘cookie cutter’ molds that all line up a certain way. I will close by sharing something that happened my second year of blogging. It was a lonely time. I think I was paying family members 5 bucks to comment on a post just to get some action…lol – it was awfully depressing for me. And then I got an email from a lady out of this country. She was suicidal and an addict who had decided to take her life and truly also believed God was waiting to escort her to hell for being an addict in the first place. Rough, rough situation. Even with 20 years under my belt in social work and counseling, i could not prepare for that. Fortunately I did not have to come up with any miraculous words from my therapy book. You see after she told me in the email, from another country, she had decided to take her life, there was a “but”..”
She said “But then I read your post on faith and addiction and how you were where I was and how God never left you and you made it out, so I decided to keep on trying.” I think it was her and maybe a friend I had asked to read that post on that day. I only had a few dozen followers or a 100 whatever. Not many reading much of anything. But I will tell you that after that night, I knew that if nobody ever read one word of my writing again in history, those two years of dark and slow blog growth were well worth all of it and then some.
Never, ever question how your work, your efforts, are paying dividends. Hey, the facts are, folks, that some people get paid in the form of thousands of new followers pouring into their site each month, or maybe constant re-blogs and praise on almost everything they put on paper. It could be something they are not even aware of like in my situation with the suicidal lady. Be assured that what you are doing is not in vain. The cards have a way of landing a different way all the time and we do not always get to see how. If we are fortunate, we get a glimpse at some point. Even if you do not, never ever stop putting on paper what your heart is screaming to your brain all the time. There is a reason.
Stay with your first love. Don’t worry about the next guy. I can tell you from experience that you may never know the value of your work on this earth. But from experience let me also be the one to tell you it matters, to someone. Sometimes it matters a whole lot!
Watch the clip below. I am convinced it was a drive-by fruiting. The dude in the car hurled a grapefruit at the clerk.
https://www.linkedin.com/embed/feed/update/urn:li:activity:6390521569894035456“>The Guy In The Car Clearly Threw A Grapefruit At The Clerk! It Was A Drive -By Fruiting.
I had posted about the pedophilia, human trafficking, and child abuse problem in general on another site which will remain nameless. ( Although it rhymes with ” Shrinked Tin”) .
One of the comments I got was from a well educated lady who was successful and all. Her comment about my article was ” why don’t you focus on problems you can do something about?”.
After I did my breathing exercises and tried to pray, I reread it and tried to see it from her perspective. However even after that 30 seconds was over I still found myself upset and irritated at this comment. Are we supposed to just let kids be raped, and let child predators have free reign, and just not think about it?
Or is she on to something that my ignorant mind was not; that I really cannot make a difference. I thought on it for awhile. After a few minutes I realized that she may have just answered a question that I have put out there on this site many times. The question being how come the response is so weak when I put out a call for help in sharing current events and situations that could involve yours or my children? Why does nobody seem to care? Maybe she just answered my question. I hope not but I don’t have a better one yet.
I’m no angel or mother Theresa. I have the same problems everyone else does and stress and all that. But for some reason when I am informed of issues like child rapists in the church or in Boy Scouts or schools, something inside of me stops working right. I get a sick feeling as I would think any parent should. I want to do something. At least take a minor role. Not just stick my fingers in my ears and scream ” lalalala” until the thought passes. This is real . It’s not Star trek.
Now I must give credit to the die hards, the regulars that are always ready to get involved. You all know who you are. But I know there are thousands more parents out there seeing this because you are reading the parenting and medication articles and all. But where does everyone go when the real Fit hits the Shan?
Just to be clear here, Im not writing this to judge anyone or put anyone down, but to actually get to the bottom of this. Is the” Shrinked Tin” lady right? Am I rowing upstream with a broken paddle, sucking air through a thin straw? Am I thinking that a dent will be made if I write another 1000 articles on these issues?
Maybe Im naive to the world we live in. Maybe it’s me who needs to check myself and focus on things that I can easily change.
Nope. That is just not in my DNA. When my kids were born, it was as if my heart grew legs and walked around outside of me. It feels everything they feel. It hurts when they hurt. It rejoices when they rejoice. That’s just how it is. It cannot just be me and a few other parents out there. I know most parents deeply love their children .
And it’s gotten worse than just parents not getting involved. As I posted the other day , I cannot even get ANY law enforcement agency in North Carolina to even LOOK at a severe Child Predator case!
I mean rock solid evidence eyewitnesses, 7 victims, statements , you name it. I did my homework. Yet nobody that is supposed to serve and protect , will take a stinkin report. They won’t take 30 minutes to follow up with a phone call. It’s their JOB!
So I’m looking for answers. I need answers. I don’t want to believe what is happening. It isn’t humane. There are people who will stop traffic on a busy highway and risk their lives to get out and move a turtle safely across the road. You have seen it. I have too. God bless them.
But what about your own children?
It just makes no sense.Ill never stop doing what I do simply because I’ve witnessed the damage first hand that goes on in the lives of innocent children after abuse. I could never turn a deaf ear. I am just an average guy with all the same struggles everyone has. So why can’t I find enough like minded people?
If you know, please do share. Meantime, I’m going to keep calling the law until they get so sick of me they investigate just to get me off their back.
Thanks for letting me vent.
I have to share this because the last time I shared anything about my son Jesse, the bull rider, it was that he was on the hospital with a broken leg and a new rod in his leg. Well, he proved last night in Texas he is back. Took First place! I know its my own kid, but it ain’t bragging if its true…lol
Attention please to all of our followers and visitors. This is a guest post I wrote for a brand new blog out called – His Excellent Grace – here on WordPress.
It is a blog about people’s personal encounters with God’s grace and events that occurred in their life where they feel God intervened in their circumstances in miraculous way. I am asking you all to check it out and follow the link at the end of this post to get there. You need not be a Christian to want to read about the incidents that take place and are documented, no more than you must be a cop to watch Cops!
So whether atheist, agnostic, tree worship person or what, everyone will enjoy reading about these different times in people’s lives when they believe God intervened with His grace. I am Tj at Don’t Label My Kid! and this is my personal story of one time I felt that God had intervened on my behalf. And by the way, anyone of you who would like to share a short post about God’s grace in your life is invited to fill out the contact sheet with your attached testimony!
Like most, I have been the recipient many times over of God’s excellent grace and I will share an example here today. Grace comes in all shapes and sizes and I have experienced much of both. This story is about my sons, Micah and Jesse. I was divorced when my two boys were young, so we did the weekend thing and they stayed at their mothers during the week. The divorce, as most do, took a huge toll on all involved, the boys were feeling in the middle and struggling with the whole thing.
I was a strong Christian at the time, but I daily worried that due to some of my own struggles that they would not have interest in “My Jesus”.
My boys were not exactly seeing me “walk the walk” all the time, and even though we were in church almost every Sunday, and I knew the word of God, I still was modeling behaviors that confused them and I was worried they would reject Christ when they were a few years older just because of what they saw in me. But I prayed all the time for the healing of memories for them, and for the breaking of generational curses of addiction that had come from up my family line. I just hoped somehow through my mess they would see a message and through my tests, they would see a testimony. Despite my struggles I had seen miracles and knew the power of God.
I knew that they needed to experience God for themselves and prayed often that God would reveal Himself to them so no matter what they had seen of me in my past they would come to the Lord because of their own experiences. That prayer was answered in both my boys lives on one occasion after a church service. They were maybe 10 & 8 years old. I had decided to stop at the Chinese place by the beach on the way home and eat some lunch. On the way. I asked my son Micah what he learned in Sunday school. He said “We learned about God’s favor, and how we Christians can have it.” I was happy to hear he was learning good solid biblical teaching. I was not, however, prepared for what was to come next.
As we pulled into the parking lot, Micah looks over to me and says, “Hey dad, lets pray for favor in the restaurant!” “Huh?” I was struggling for an answer and I thought he would forget in a minute. Nope. As we parked the truck he looked over at me again and said “What about the favor? Pray for it dad!” I was up against a wall. By now my younger son Jesse had become intrigued with this whole favor thing, and was also staring me down for an action prayer. I said, “You know son, God loves the prayers of the little children! You should pray!” It wasn’t that I was afraid to pray, I just could not think of how God could give us favor in a restaurant.
So Micah said a short prayer like “Dear God, please let us have some of your favor in here, Amen.” Precious – Yet very scary to me. What could possibly happen? We would each be given an extra fortune cookie? I just could not see it but I had no choice. His childlike faith was expectant. I was so encouraged by his faith but did not want him to be let down.
In this case, it was me with the little faith. While I doubted and worried I was about to see a life changing experience for my two boys that to this very day they recall vividly. It set a foundation for their faith and it was the answer to my prayer that they would both experience God. To me, I know also God was dropping some Excellent Grace on me because what happened was exactly what I wanted, a personal experience for them.
So here is what happened the moment we left the truck after the prayer; I opened the door for them to walk in and we waited about three minutes for the hostess. I was still more frustrated than a hornet trapped in an old Coke can, just trying to imagine what favor we could get before we left. The hostess came and grabbed three menus and asked us to follow her. We walked to the table she stopped at, waiting for her to lay the napkins or whatever down, and let us be seated. She didn’t do that though. Instead, she took a glance at all of us with a very serious look on her face, and then she reached around me to tap Micah on the shoulder.
Obviously curious what was going on, I totally stuck my face right in the way to hear what she was to say to him. What business does she had with my 10-year-old? She proceeded around me and looked Micah dead in the eye and serious as a heart attack and said. “Sugar, you are eating for free today!” No reason, rhyme or even explanation! She just walked away as if nothing unusual had taken place.
I was kind of numb about it at first thinking only of how come she picked him. Duh, she picked him because he prayed with the faith of a child for favor and sure enough he got it. That incident was one of the most powerful testimonies my kids ever saw and we still talk about it once in a while today. Not only did God grant me answered prayer about my children not running from Him, but He went further and straight up did a miracle for a 10-year-old who asked for it. Simple, simple faith it was.
To this day I count that incident as a shining example of how God gave me something I did not deserve, a miracle for my boys to see that solidified their faith in God at a very young age. It may not work the same in every situation, but it did that day, and I needed a second chance for their faith to not be crushed by past circumstances. To this day, now in their 20’s, they are both grounded and rooted in the Christian faith. I am so very grateful God showed up and showed off with His Excellent Grace on that day.