Tomorrow Is Not Promised…Say It Today.

Moms are not replaceable…they rarely get the love the give out so freely.

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If you must take someone for granted in this life make sure it is not your mother. Mom, the one who believed in you when most had given up. The only person who walks toward you when you find yourself in a dirty mess while the rest fade into the darkness.

The picture here is of my mom and I this Christmas at a dinner. Pretty common right? Not in this case. One week before this picture was taken, my mom suffered a heart attack and had emergency heart surgery. I did not know if I would even see her on this earth again, never mind having a Christmas meal out with her after that

Today Is The Day.

Today, not tomorrow, tell your mom how much you love her and appreciate all the times she stood by you in the dark times and still managed to tell you convincingly that you would make it and that you will succeed. 

After all, you may not have that opportunity tomorrow…

Tj

 

Parents – Do You Know For Sure That Your Child Is Not On Hard Core Porn Or Worse? Really Know?

So I was asked to answer a tough question on this topic on Quora. Here is the question and my answer. Very thought provoking question. Click link below..

A Question Of How To Stop Kids With The Internet

 

This Just In! Kid Behaving Nicely! It Still Happens!

Still Some Good Stock Around…

 

Click the link above. It will renew your faith in parents who still raise their kids right.

 

 

Check Out My Annual Update & Braggin On My Cowboy- Jesse! He Is Killing It!

First of all thanks to all y’all who pray for my son Jesse’s safety in his very dangerous career of professional Bull Riding. You may recall he got stepped on by a bull a year ago and it snapped his leg in two. He has a rod now in there…

BUT- I am NOT surprised to announce to you all that with or without that 6 month setback- He is winning more than ever and I just got the word that he now ranks in the top 50 Pro Bull Riders in the USA!

Whoot! Whoot!

Please continue to pray for him! He is rocking the rodeo circuit from FLA to Cali. He also has his own Custom Saddle Making business too! Anyone in the market contact me! I posted the pic of 10 years ago with both Micah (23) and Jesse ( 20) as well as the last time I got to see my man at Christmas…

Keep them prayers coming! The kid is headed toward world ranking and I could not be prouder

Hopefully you can click on this link and catch him in action!

 Making It Look Easy- Tough As Nails

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Me and my boys – 10 years ago
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My youngest and pro-bull rider all growed up!
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Jesse winning another rodeo

So You Need Help For Yourself Or Your Child? What Next? Let Me Share A Critical Mistake Most Make When Seeking Help…( Mental Health & Addictions)

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So – you finally realized life is not what you expected or even what it once was. You are going to get that child with Ad-Hd some help and NOW! Or maybe you are ready to deal with your depression now, your anxiety, or PTSD. Whatever the case is almost everyone is totally lost when it comes to what type of help to seek who to seek it from and whether or not things like medicine should be involved. Most people pick providers like they pick apples at the supermarket. If it looks ok, go for it.
I cannot tell you how many lives that method has RUINED! You cannot just ” pick ” a counselor, therapist, doctor, coach, or any other professional out of a hat and expect results. Let me give you a dose of reality and also explain why I do what I do.
Take a look at the alphabetical list below. Those are all different types of therapy that therapists and doctors use. You literally are playing Russian Roulette when you just ” pick one”.
The reason I have been able to help people get better fast is simple, I know what they need for their specific issues. I outline a specific plan of action for you or your child. I make sure you are not opening a can of worms you will regret. The number 1 mistake in this area by the way is to jump right into a psychiatrist because you heard on Oprah that your kid must have Ad-Hd or some other disorder. You have no clue that when you leave that office you or your child will be the proud owners of mental health labels that will follow you for life. Not even to mention the types of drugs you or your child may be loaded down with.
So what I do for you is very simple but it saves you much heartache, and thousands of wasted dollars. I have worked for 20 years with all types of therapists and doctors -I know how it works. I also counsel and coach when appropriate for the situation but for anyone and everyone I help them get the appropriate services that will produce results.
Do you have any idea over my career how many crying mon’s have told me of all the different things they have tried and all the meds and all the ” recommendations” from friends? Leave the friends for Board Games and do not play with your own or your child’s mental health.
You have 2 choices. Look below and close your eyes then put your finger on one of the hundreds of types of therapeutic methods and find someone to go to.
Your next option is to contact me before you do ANYTHING. I will work with you on a custom treatment plan that matches your needs. That’s it! It is that cut and dry. Gamble or get better. First come first serve.

For help now contact me at tjpetri16@gmail.com and put HELP in the subject. Leave your best contact info. I will be in touch. If it is a real emergency and you need an answer today you can call me directly 386-675-7549 – leave a message and I will get back asap. So there are your 2 choices. I have done my part – now its up to you…

 

TJ

 

 

Parents Who Have A Child With A DSM Diagnoses ( AD-HD?)- And The School Issues…

 

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I have read so many stories about parents frustrated that their child is not getting treated according to the needs they have when it comes to IEP time or even classroom management. I have so much to inform you about but I cannot do it in one post so I will focus on the main issues.

1- IEP meetings are frustrating. One thing you as a parent need to know is that is that it is NOT you job to provide and suggest what is needed for your child. The obligation is on the staffing specialist from the school board. Will they offer this? Of course not. you will sit in the meeting and look like an idiot unless you redirect the responsibility to the staffing specialist and the school board. You hold them accountable for what they have implemented for your child and his or her disorder.

Do not sit there and act like your kid is bad and the consequences are deserved if the school is not doing their job. So if your child is disciplined, you need to ask them what they have put in place to avoid the behavior that occurred. What teacher training has your child’s teacher gotten to insure minimal issues? How has the school implemented necessary tools to deal with the disorder your child has?

If you just sit back and let them tell you how much a behavior issue your child is without holding them accountable for what they have done, you are really in the wrong.

I will post more on other issues but this is an important one so make sure you know it is the school board’s responsibility to put in place measures to help your child.

tj

This Is A Real Sign Of The Times. Tebow Outed For Waiting For Marriage For Sex…

Although they stopped short of mocking Tim Tebow for maintain his vow to wait for marriage for sex, it’s so close you can almost feel it .

I think it’s amazing that it’s become so rare for anyone to uphold their Christian beliefs that if they do it makes news. People love it much more when everyone is living in sin so they won’t feel so bad about their lives. So make the guy sound weird.

I for one am absolutely impressed that a guy with all his attributes and game has done what he has with the pressure of NFL And MLB ” players” all around him.

When I say ” players” I’m not referring to the sports they are involved in. I mean the strip clubs, affairs and domestic violence that is so very prevelent in professional sports today.

I give Tebow props for putting God before man.( Or woman). I doubt we will see that too much in the press but I’m glad there is at least one guy I can point to when my kids ask about things .

Tj

https://www.mercurynews.com/2015/11/30/tim-tebow-dumped-by-former-miss-universe-refusing-sex/

A Parents Worst Nightmare …A Baby Left In A Hot Car For Hours …

This is likely one of the saddest cases of a baby dying that I’ve seen. This documentary tells the true story of a young mother who accidentally left her baby in her car seat for six hours while at work.

A tragic accident and horrible experience for these young parents only to be made much worse by being charged with will fully doing it and bring charged as a criminal for this incident.

One of the first things that came to my mind after seeing this, is how many times in my life, and probably yours too that I have been driving somewhere and for a few minutes I just felt like I had been unaware of all that was around me and how far I had driven with this ” blank period” of time that I seemed to have missed while either focusing on something else or just in the course of my usual routine gotten so used to going the same route that I didn’t realize that I had already driven so far.

At any rate, it’s tragic and I hope and pray the couple gets back on and has more children. I cannot imagine the hell they have been through. Let it serve as a reminder to us all that this could have been any of us.

Watch Stop All the Clocks on Tubi TV: https://play.google.com/store/apps/details?id=com.tubitv&referrer=utm_campaign%3Dandroid-sharing-amazon-giveaway%26utm_medium%3Dsocial%26utm_source%3Dandroid-social%26utm_content%3D24997513

The 10 Thousand Dollar Question I Was Asked Yesterday…Still Floored By It.

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I had posted about the pedophilia, human trafficking, and child abuse problem in general on another site which will remain nameless. ( Although it rhymes with ” Shrinked Tin”) .

One of the comments I got was from a well educated lady who was successful and all. Her comment about my article was ” why don’t you focus on problems you can do something about?”.

After I did my breathing exercises and tried to pray, I reread it and tried to see it from her perspective. However even after that 30 seconds was over I still found myself upset and irritated at this comment. Are we supposed to just let kids be raped, and let child predators have free reign, and just not think about it?

Or is she on to something that my ignorant mind was not; that I really cannot make a difference. I thought on it for awhile. After a few minutes I realized that she may have just answered a question that I have put out there on this site many times. The question being how come the response is so weak when I put out a call for help in sharing current events and situations that could involve yours or my children? Why does nobody seem to care? Maybe she just answered my question. I hope not but I don’t have a better one yet.

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I’m no angel or mother Theresa. I have the same problems everyone else does and stress and all that. But for some reason when I am informed of issues like child rapists in the church or in Boy Scouts or schools, something inside of me stops working right. I get a sick feeling as I would think any parent should. I want to do something. At least take a minor role. Not just stick my fingers in my ears and scream ” lalalala” until the thought passes. This is real . It’s not Star trek.

Now I must give credit to the die hards, the regulars that are always ready to get involved. You all know who you are. But I know there are thousands more parents out there seeing this because you are reading the parenting and medication articles and all. But where does everyone go when the real Fit hits the Shan?

Just to be clear here, Im not writing this to judge anyone or put anyone down, but to actually get to the bottom of this. Is the” Shrinked Tin” lady right? Am I rowing upstream with a broken paddle, sucking air through a thin straw? Am I thinking that a dent will be made if I write another 1000 articles on these issues?

Maybe Im naive to the world we live in. Maybe it’s me who needs to check myself and focus on things that I can easily change.

Nope. That is just not in my DNA. When my kids were born, it was as if my heart grew legs and walked around outside of me. It feels everything they feel. It hurts when they hurt. It rejoices when they rejoice. That’s just how it is. It cannot just be me and a few other parents out there. I know most parents deeply love their children .

And it’s gotten worse than just parents not getting involved. As I posted the other day , I cannot even get ANY law enforcement agency in North Carolina to even LOOK at a severe Child Predator case!

I mean rock solid evidence eyewitnesses, 7 victims, statements , you name it. I did my homework. Yet nobody that is supposed to serve and protect , will take a stinkin report. They won’t take 30 minutes to follow up with a phone call. It’s their JOB!

So I’m looking for answers. I need answers. I don’t want to believe what is happening. It isn’t humane. There are people who will stop traffic on a busy highway and risk their lives to get out and move a turtle safely across the road. You have seen it. I have too. God bless them.

But what about your own children?

It just makes no sense.Ill never stop doing what I do simply because I’ve witnessed the damage first hand that goes on in the lives of innocent children after abuse. I could never turn a deaf ear. I am just an average guy with all the same struggles everyone has. So why can’t I find enough like minded people?

If you know, please do share. Meantime, I’m going to keep calling the law until they get so sick of me they investigate just to get me off their back.

Thanks for letting me vent.

Tj

My Favorite Cowboy Took 1st In Texas This Weekend! Watch Him Go 8 Seconds!

I have to share this because the last time I shared anything about my son Jesse, the bull rider, it was that he was on the hospital with a broken leg and a new rod in his leg. Well, he proved last night in Texas he is back. Took First place! I know its my own kid, but it ain’t bragging if its true…lol

Parenting 101 ( + 1/2)… How You Gain And Retain Respect From Your Children.

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Hey you parents! Listen up I got something real good for ya!

Its been awhile since I have written on parenting. Some recent events have prompted me to write a post one of what I consider most of the biggest issues in parenting today-Respect.

For those who have been with me awhile you know that a major part of my life as a social worker has been teaching parenting. I did not learn what I know about this from one of my degrees or any formal education. My learning was experience in life first as a foster parent to over 40 teens, then as a parent to my 4 children.

I say this so if you do not know me, you can trust what I am saying to be true. So here we go with the issue of respect.

In every parenting class I have taught, parent I have worked with in counseling settings and in all of my 20 years in social work I have seen this issue of how to gain and maintain the respect of your child. You see, people generally err on the side of ” strictness” and yelling and screaming at their kids, or they err on the other side, which is that they roll over and become a living breathing doormat for their children.

The first type lean towards emotional abuse, and actually tear down confidence in the child, and occasionally out of sheer fear they obey…until they cannot take it anymore and they rebel completely. Those abusive parent yelling at kids all the time parties do not last long before one or both sides blow a gasket.

The second type, the doormats are the one who we see in public and listen to their teens call them names and curse and them as if they were buddies having an argument. Here is a memo to you parents this just in -YOU ARE NOT YOUR CHILD’S BUDDY! You are not there to be a punching bag or to be a negotiator with your kid. You are there to set boundaries, teach skills, and issue correction and reward depending on the circumstance.

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The biggest problem with parents in the first category os their pride. They feel like if they want to verbally abuse their kid, its their right. Even though they are getting ZERO respect from the child in his heart, they cannot overcome their temper tantrums and learn to speak with their kids in a normal voice tone no matter what the issue. Here is the trick- Let the consequence do the work. The advantage of having rules is that when one is broken you can already have consequences that are natural and logical in place.

For example, if my son gets an hour per school night, after his homework to play video games, and I see that its been 2 hours and he has taken advantage of me, I do not need to get “mad” at him. i need to teach him responsibility. I would say “Hey Johnny, sorry that you chose to use 2 hours up on your video games on a school night, so tomorrow you lost your video privileges . Try to remember next time, ok buddy. I love you, goodnite.”

END OF STORY.

There is no need for some long drug out fight where you wear each other down until one gives in or up. If you have taught your child how to speak to you whether getting a reward or a consequence, giving a consequence should never be a problem.

The moral of this story is you MUST have boundaries that are very clear and understood by both sides, and you NEVER bend the rules because they cry loud, call you a rotten parent or whatever. If you have never been hated by your child at some point, you have never been a parent.

Now this next part is even more important than anything I have said, and I am going to end with it. If you never learn anything about parenting again, remember this one thing.

You MUST believe that your child wants boundaries. They WANT boundaries. We all want boundaries. If I got on the expressway tomorrow and a new sign read,

” NEW LAW-NO RULES TO THE ROAD”,

I would be scared out of my mind to drive with some of the crazy drivers out there. If I went to look at a 50th floor condo and took a walk out the sliding door to see the balcony view out and the long way down, there better be a little fence or railing there to protect me! I am not walking out any balcony 50 floors up with no fence.

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Why? Is the fence that’s made of weak aluminum and stands 4 feet tall really going to stop me from falling or leaning over it? Of course not. But it sure makes me feel better that it is there!

In the same way your child wants boundaries to feel secure. They will never come up to you and say “can you please issue a few more rules for me dad?” However you must understand that after working with thousands of kids and parents, that those “cool ” and “easy” parents that let their kid do all the stuff they aren’t supposed to and talk to them like a buddy- guess what mom and dad ? When they are done using you and they are with their buddies, you’re a sucker, not a cool parent. When it comes to their security, you have given them zero.

Don’t ever kid yourself and think you can make up for lost ground or “get in good ” with your kid by bending the rules. All you’re doing is writing the word sucker on your back. No respect at all. You know who gets the respect? The parent who despite the pleading, whining or whatever refuses to change the rules. That my friends is what makes a kid feel safe.

It is a child’s job to test boundaries. My son Jesse ( he doesn’t read my stuff) is 20. When he was 4-6 years old he was the master of testing limits. I mean you draw a line at the beach and say “y’all can play as much as you want just stay in these boundaries”, he was the first one, always to almost run to that line and just barely slip his toe over it to see if I meant what I said. Boy oh boy, if you are a parent you know how much easier sometimes when you are tired to just give in and let it go.

But you cannot. You know why? You are making more work for yourselves when they get older and the issues are about using your truck, or prom night. You want them to know boundaries before the big show.

If you want respect from your child, you must play the parent. Doing the above, how I explained if you are not already will improve your life dramatically and your relationship with your children.

I hope this is helpful!

TJ

I Would Like To Dedicate This Next Post To All The Pedophiles Who Dress Up In The Cloth And Play ” Father ” To Our Little Children..

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” If anyone causes one of these little ones those who believe in me-to stumble, it would be better for them to have a large millstone hung around their neck and to be drowned in the depths of the sea”

Matthew 18:6- NIV

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Not everyone is aware of the numbers on this, but almost every child / teen that is molested ends up depressed, addicted, hopeless or suicidal. If they do manage to survive the sick abuse that goes on in the Catholic church-they usually end up on the street running with gangs. It is rare that anyone survive this and live a decent life.

So perhaps Jesus is speaking of this when He said the words above. At any rate, I encourage you – if you have ANY part of getting your kids, or anyone’s to a catholic church-remember this statement from Jesus Christ.

There are currently around 30k priests in the USA under investigation for sexual crimes against minors. And listen to this- those are THEIR numbers so imagine what they may be in reality.

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It just is not worth it. Get you kids away from these freaks who use God’s name to sodomize 5 year olds.

Just Say No.

TJ

Movie- You Want To Know The Truth About How Catholic Churches Handle Their Pedophile Priests? Prepare To Be Disgusted.

Here is the link through TubiTv to the movie that should disgust everyone, and make those who ever leave their kids alone with a priest stop it. Remember as you watch, there are 28k priests under investigation by the Catholic priests under investigation as we speak…

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And those are numbers coming from the Catholic church itself, so you have to figure double that in reality..Watch Deliver Us From Evil below…

Deliver Us From Evil- Watch The Pathetic Lines The pedophile priests Use To Justify Molesting little boys

tj

Redditch parents mourn third child’s heart death – BBC News – Parenting 2018

Just when we thought our role as parents was getting unbearable, we are given a strong dose of reality.. I’d like to see someone take the initiative and create a WordPress support for this family. It doesn’t need to cost money, but if anyone would like to coordinate a mass letter drive to send our prayers and support contact me tim@dontlabelmykid.com.

http://www.bbc.com/news/uk-england-hereford-worcester-42675124

Tj