Addiction Series 2018 – Should An Addict Own All That They Caused? And To What Extent? For Families Of Addicts…

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If you are or have ever suffered from an addiction and fought the disease until you felt like you would never win, you understand that you were not the only one affected. As a matter of fact the impact on loved ones is traumatic. It destroys relationships and hurts everyone involved. But addiction is a disease, so should that fact play into it? Would you be angry at your family member if they had cancer or diabetes and it took a toll on the whole family?

This is a question that goes into the minds of every family and every addict. It’s a very difficult question to answer, but there are some absolutes either way.

First there are no addicts that don’t regret the pain they caused. There are no addicts that don’t wish they could take all the pain and suffering that they’ve caused and make it go away. Some may vocalize it and verbalize it in different ways and others may not even talk to other people about it but that’s the truth.

Next, there are no families of addicts who don’t have some resentment towards their loved one for the pain that they’ve suffered. No matter whose fault or whether it is a disease or not, it does not make the pain any easier to bear.

So how should the addict feel about that pain that they’ve caused others while fighting the disease they have? And what can they do about it if anything? They need to do something and here’s why;

Addiction unlike other diseases often has behaviors associated with it that drastically and dramatically affect family members and loved ones.

Like stealing, lying, cheating,  even physically harming others. These are some behaviors that do not often occur with other diseases like cancer or many others. Two things must be in place in order for this to work. First there must be a genuine desire on behalf of the addict to help heal those that they harmed. Second there has to be a willingness on behalf of the hurt people to forgive and to genuinely forgive. If those two components don’t exist there is no possibility for a new start for that family.

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In groups like AA and NA ( which I am not a big fan of) there is a step to ” make amends” with those you have hurt. However saying your sorry is rarely enough. There needs to be a mutual willingness to work together to heal a sa family. This can occur through therapy effectively. It can also help tremendously if the family of the addict comes to terms with the fact that nobody wants to be an addict. They must also come to terms with the fact that addiction has been scientifically proven to be a disease. A great resource for families to understand the details of this is the Recovery Research Institute.

https://www.recoveryanswers.org/

I encourage all families to study this site and become educated on addiction before deciding how to address the addict in your family.  It is the leading tool for cutting edge information on the disease of addiction.

So does the addict have an out, because it is a disease? Is this what I am implying? No I am not at all. I am saying however that it is a two-sided street to recovery for the family affected by addiction. If you are a family that relies on guilt, shame, embarrassment, or similar tactics, you are likely driving your loved one closer to suicide than being able to quit their addiction.

Any addict would do anything possible to avoid and eliminate pain they have caused their loved ones. But they must be given the opportunity to help in the healing process. You, as a family must engage and become familiar in what to do, how to talk to your addicted loved one, and what boundaries to draw and what ones not to.

Even is an addict gets clean, if there is nothing but resentment and anger from their family then no healing is possible.

During the course of serious addiction there may be good cause to remove the addict from the house due to any threats of harm to the family or other issues. That may have to be part of the process. That does not mean there won’t be a day that you all can be reunited. Don’t throw the baby out with the bath water.

Addiction is a cruel and dirty rotten disease. It takes no prisoners and steps on anyone in it’s path. It can literally break hearts without even trying. It is straight from the pit of hell in my opinion and it hurts way too many people today. The sadder news is that the success rate of addiction treatment centers ion the USA is around 10%. Yep – you read right, 10%.

It takes alot of work and effort for the addict to get well because we do not serve them very well. And groups like AA tend to reinforce to the addict that they are powerless to do anything about their addiction. That is why they also enjoy a 10% success rate. I will note that faith based rehabs and treatment centers do actually have rates of success as high as 80% but not all are willing to allow God into their recovery.

I am not telling you to feel sorry for the addict and ignore their destructive behavior patterns. I am telling you that  they want out as much as you want them out. So treat them like the diseased person they are. I cannot tell you how harmful to the recovery of an addict when they have no family support. I have sat in groups both as a patient long ago and as a professional for 20 years and listened to addicts cry about how their family has given up on them. You know what? Most of them give up on themselves too.

So although this is a brief post when it comes to addiction, I think its worth leaving it right here because this is such a critical part of helping an addict to het through recovery. Family support. When you go to the Recovery Research Institutes website you will find all kinds of resources like what language to use when talking to an addict, and many other valuable tools that can expedite recovery,

Remember, nobody – not one person on this earth wants to be an addict.

Peace

TJ

 

 

FDA Says Imodium Usage Stinks…

Who would have thunk it? The last thing most people shopping for Imodium are thinking is about getting high..right? They are likely feeling crappy already …

https://www.washingtonpost.com/news/to-your-health/wp/2018/01/30/fda-wants-to-curb-abuse-of-imodium-the-poor-mans-methadone/?utm_term=.30caab688416

Will Computers Actually And Literally ‘ Take Over ‘ The World ? Read These Recent Projections About A Few Industries….Amazing. Don’t Study Law Folks!

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PTSD- How It Effects Soldiers As Bad Or Worse As Civilians…And A Great Story To See It In Movie Form.

By now everyone has heard of PTSD or Post Traumatic Stress Disorder. Although a long time back it was a term reserved for the diagnosis of very severe patients who had been exposed to some extraordinary events. These days 6 years old get the diagnosis when a spanking they got has been labeled abuse and therefore they suffer from PTSD.

Today I watched a movie with Samuel Jackson and a few others that were all in combat together in Iraq. Unlike the war movies I have seen, this was one of the best mental health sides of the truth that I ever have seen. In this flick, it does not end when the 4 who were from the same area leave for home. It does not end until you see how each one chooses to handle their PTSD here at home, in the real world. If  you are a coach or counselor of any type you need to watch this movie.

I think it will change even the most seasoned therapists, as this movie is so absolutely transparent in each of the people’s lives it brings life in you a whole new meaning to what PTSD is really all about.

 

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Home Of The Brave

If have any trouble getting on through the first link, I have posted a second to Tubitv ( 100% free to watch it there)

https://tubitv.com/movies/389507/home_of_the_brave

https://tubitv.com/home

 

 

Get Me Out Of My PTSD!

 

Addictions – Guest Post By Anne Of Freedomborn … Aussie Christian Focus

This is a guest post by Anne, and I cannot tell you how powerful her personal open book , transparent style brings real change in the hearts and hopes of anyone struggling with afflictions , addictions, in Annes case both including bulemia and gambling and more…now she graciously mentioned my name even as partial inspiration for her writing this. I want to be clear I did not request that and maybe I made just a small financial seed to her ministry the day she wrote it, nothing I did or asked her was related to adding me..( I am kidding)

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Anne truly is just that kind hearted.

Enjoy as I did several times her personal trials and victories..

Tj
https://freedomborn.wordpress.com/?s=Addictions&submit=Search

 

BTW- As I am, I would recommend you follow her as she really writes from a perspective that changes hearts not just minds. Here is her home link-

https://freedomborn.wordpress.com/

 

If for some reason it wont take you there then just try manually typing it in your browser but don’t let this one get by.

Addiction Series 2017- Mental Health, Addiction & Faith ( Part 2/3) Executing On The Promises For You As A Believer- Unto Victory.

(*Note this is part 2/3 in a post about Faith, and how it pertains to Addiction and Mental health. Please see home page for the part one posted two days ago.)

The first part of this post was about determining who is going to be in charge in your life, and your circumstances whether good, bad or ugly. This part of the post for those who have chosen to surrender it all to the Lord Jesus Christ, whether that be years ago, recently, or just now as you have read the first post on this. ( If you have just received Christ or rededicated yourself as a result of this post, please leave a comment so I can reach out to you personally)

*I have added a 3rd and final post which will be the final post after this one.

Now that you who are reading this likely know who your  ” Captain” is in Jesus, what exactly does this mean for your situation in mental health or the addiction you have been fighting for 15 years? Just because you are a Christian, now all things will get better and your diseases will disappear? What are these “promises”  I keep hearing about?

Maybe these are some of the questions on your mind. I am going try to answer the most important ones, and answer them from my personal testimony and life experiences . My goal is to let you in on the reality of what God does and does not promise when it comes to our sickness and addictions, and also what you can truly expect from trusting 100% in God’s Word for every circumstance you find yourself in.

I am going to make some statements that might sound a little different then some you have heard about the topics we discuss. You see I am not theorizing here. Everything I tell you is something I have walked through personally in almost every case, and in the rare instant I did not, I either worked with a population who fit in that group or have special training in the area.  I have been labeled or diagnosed both officially and unofficially with more than 6 ” disorders ” ranging from PTSD to Major Depression to Addiction . All the while I was getting trained as a Social Worker and working in the field as well. I got my share of experience. I like to think of my time in rehab and at meetings, along with half a dozen doctors, as ” internships ” to help me be a great Social Worker. Yeah, I like to.

For the entire time I struggled with trauma as a young child to addiction beginning as a teen, I would have always considered myself a Christian. I had no problem believing that I was a sinner who needed a savior and that Jesus took care of that at the cross.

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Mom prayed & kept a journal each morning.  Years later I realized the impact it had.

I understood bits and pieces of the Christian life an even saw great examples of faith in actions through my mother, who was always ( and still does) up at the crack of dawn sitting on the couch having her devotional time, and always writing more and more in her prayer journals. I also witnessed enough of real Christians to know that God was real and there was a difference in those who were faithful believers and those who were still chasing ” the fish learned to walk and became a man 50 billion years later ” stories, or in those who simply did not feel the need to make God a priority at the time.

As I entered adulthood I was very fortunate to have a few key people who God put in my way to get me from point A to point B. Then He put 1 or 2 very unique people that were more of mentors and still are. I described my life as a teen a someone who was a Christian, and knew God was real and all. Honestly other than the fact that we went to church, I never saw or felt much of a difference between me and the non believer. Really until I was in my late 20’s or so I thought there was one benefit of being saved -heaven. Don’t get me wrong, I was not complaining! I just did not see any other benefits other than eternal life with God.

When I went to college for social work, my brother had recently killed himself without any warning and also I had lost both my grandparents. So we had 3 funerals kind of close together for people who were in my very small inner circle of family. I went in kind of starting a new chapter in my life as I was also starting a 5 year career at Father Flanagan’s Boys Town.  Somewhere between baggage of my childhood, my ongoing addiction issue, the pressures of a new job and college were really getting to me. So, what did I do?

I got married and started a family to add to those things! Wow. I really had it out for myself.

About 5 years into my career and after I graduated from college, I felt something beginning to crack in me. I was trying to handle all the pressures which already were overwhelming, I could not without wanting to use alcohol to cope. Then came the divorce and not being with my 2 boys each night anymore. That tore me apart.

So many pressure laced things were happening to me, some self-induced and some just life, that I rarely could ever even speak to anyone about it. They would become so overwhelmed by just me sharing a few examples that I could tell they were not ready to hear all of my real struggles. On top of that my ex is 100% narcissistic and totally used each one of my failures to somehow make her a victim or regain the spotlight in any way possible. Little things like getting arrested for DUI were impossible to hide from her. Imagine. She had word out that I had been running with the mafia or something.  At this point in my life I was absolutely stripped of anything I had ever had, material or emotionally, and could not put one foot in front of the other. I ended up in my first alcohol/ drug rehab. ( oh, I mean internship).

Realizing that the Word is 100% true and it never lies. Ever.

Through a series of events God aligned me with the person who would serve as a spiritual mentor in a way I was not used to. My mother demonstrated faith to me. This friend of my mother’s was brought to me for an entirely different purpose. I was going to see how a person lives their lives according to Gods Word. This lady had and still has been disciplined enough to spend several hours each day studying the Bible.

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I remember calling her many many times asking for advice, which she refused to give. The answer always went like this ” Well, you know what the Word says about that ” – I was like  ” Oh no I don’t ! I would not even know where to look. You mean they talk about real life stuff in there? ”  That was around 20 years ago, and it was the beginning of a life long journey I am still on . It was as if one day that dusty old Bible of mine came alive and became relevant and very important to my decisions. After a year of her mentoring me, it occurred to me that ALL of life’s issues are answered in there. Man I could have saved myself some real heartache! Even though this post is about mental health and addiction, I assure you that the Word of God is absolutely infallible and always the best resort for any life decisions.

Our Words and Gods Word They Must Line Up

Once we get to the place where we have the revelation deep down that the Word really is God breathed, we must also understand that we must know that Word in order to activate it. When you and I became believers, every promise in that book is available to us and us only. The problem is, just as with any gift given us, if we do not reach out to take it and use it, it is of zero value. So it goes with the bible. Now that you got all of the above, it is time to find out where in this Word my needs right now are addressed. My worry, my anxiety, my addiction, etc. These are all addressed and we have specific instructions. Lets take worrying for example. One of my favorite verses on this topic is in Proverbs 3:5-6 ” Trust in the Lord with all your heart, and lean not on your own understanding. In all your ways submit to Him and He will make your paths straight “.

So when you start worrying you now have an alternative to go to. A real life  (not mind over matter) word from God on how to handle it. Next you must learn to substitute the promises God gives for all the negative self talk like ”  I am sooo worried I think I will have a heart attack ” You would be shocked at how many people speak their way into sickness because they refuse to control their tongue. It is critical that once you know the specific word for your situation, you recite it aloud whenever you can to remind yourself of the truth. Of what God says about your situation, regardless of how it looks either.

The final post will be on specific scripture and promises for those sick, including addiction and mental illness. The final post is your blueprint for freedom from bondage – Gods way and His timing. I will post it no later than Sunday,  two days away.

TJ

 

Addiction 2017 – We Chose To Make American’s Drug Dependent- We Have No “epidemic” That We Did Not Prescribe To Ourselves..Read On..

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Day after day we belabor the point that America has such an ” epidemic” with this drug and that drug, and this year the other one took the lead.. We never had an epidemic of anything. This country was set up to make people dependent on drugs period. We don’t cure, we treat at best, we kill when treating symptoms. Does anyone else not see that the entire planet is managing by using the natural remedies we already have to CURE, not treat symptoms. There was a conscious decision at some point to make America drug dependent for financial gain, period. If any other country in the world acted as stupidly as we did by allowing drugs to be advertised on television- giving the impression that they work, and allowed their people to be BS’d to death by endless ” clinical studies” that we all know are nothing more than another way to slip a useless drug past the blind cash infested FDA so that another new drug is ready when the new deluge of bogus DSM ” disorders” are introduced every 5 years or whatever- that country would have the exact same ” epidemic” we do. Its called GREED. The USA makes up a tiny 5% of the world right? Yet we consume 80% of all narcotics and 50% of all prescription drugs around the globe.

We Prescribed Our Own Epidemic..

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I encourage you all to read the above- this very short post I put on Linkedin and just consider what I am saying. We in America were never given a choice for our diseases, natural or prescription. There is good reason for that – Natural Heals! Prescriptions create addicts and lots of cash. Sound wrong? It is. It is straight up truth though. Greed is our epidemic. I will be doing much more on this down the road, but until we the people quit buying into the idea that drug makers are working harder each day to find good medicines to help with symptoms of disease- we will get nowhere. Drug makers NEVER cure disease.  They have no intention of doing anything but dragging out our dependency on any and all bogus drugs they can. Even if millions of deaths are the cost.

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Meanwhile on the the other sides of the world people get completely healed of cancer and other diseases by the very plants God put in jungles! Healed, not treat symptoms. Just ask Mike Carey our partner and expert in this area. He has been guiding people through total disposal of diseases for 38 years! He is not shocked. We are. The whole wide world does it right and looks out for their people. Not America. Big Pharma fights in court anyone pursuing any natural healing agents. It would dip into their BILLION dollar pockets…

Does that sound too cruel to be real? Yes it does. Unfortunately I don’t have another sentence to add here saying it is not true.

Check Mike’s Site For Some Real Life Testimonials Of Healing Done Right..

www.alternativesolutions4health.com

TJ

“Name It Claim It”- “Blab It Grab It” Type Of Faith And Other Carnival Type Of Entertainment…

There is nothing wrong with Christians or pastors being filthy rich. The bible says – the LOVE of money is the root of all evil. Not money itself. I saw an article naming some well-known evangelists as false prophets. The only reason they gave was their net worth. They should go do some homework. Pat Robertson, sold all he owned as he believed God called him to do and start the 700 club. Sixty  years of hard international ministry and he’s worth ninety million. He even is said to be ” part owner of a diamond mine” – OOH… SHHH! Really? I hope God does not hear about that! LOL God made the arrangements.

Jealousy is not becoming.

Are there false money hungry preachers out there? Of course. But understand that wealth is not equal to false prophet.

Right off the bat, I am not a licensed pastor, minister or anything. I am giving my opinion on issues from the perspective of a plain old Christian. I am worn and torn, used and bruised as the next. I’ve been stuck like Chuck, broke as a joke and sicker then a dog. Despite all those things, the only constant in my life, and I do mean ONLY constant, has been the Word of God. It says right there in it will never return void. It does not lie. However sometimes people who preach it sugar coat it, and twist it and act as if they can use God like a vending machine.

Nope. But healing is real. I have seen plenty of miracles with my own eyes. However they were at God’s timetable, using who He wanted and how He wanted . Especially when He wanted.

Miracles do happen, and God shows himself in huge ways. However we play by His rules.

Contrary to popular belief, no Christian, with or without a robe or collar has this routine;

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{ Yes Lord, good morning. Here’s my order-Ill take 2 healing jobs, upgrade on my Escalade,  a 100k financial bonus and make my wife more sane  – In JESUS name!-( then stick your dollars in the machine right side up, and BOOM! Its yours.}

If that were the case what we need heaven for? We could make all things as we want right here and now. The fads that come by once in a while and are well televised often end up with a preacher in prison. Many times with good intentions but poor understanding of the Word. Other times preachers are just taking advantage of people and they get what they deserve. I am not sure many of those could even be saved, but that’s not my call. I do know God is not cool with repping Him for profit..

So anyhow, what IS the real deal then? What should we expect as a Christian here on earth? Well, there are two separate laws. There are laws that are available to anyone, no matter if they worship their Aloe plant or Jesus. For example gravity. Any one of us falls off the roof, we all gettin bruised! Now with that said, I have seen many times where it seems supernatural power had to be present for the person to be breathing.. personally I think believers get first ups on angels in cases like that, but at the end of the day we walk off of a roof, and we go boom.

Next is the law of reciprocity or the idea that when you give you get back . That seems to apply to most anyone. Now I am NOT talking about tithes and offerings. I mean straight up generous people seem to be rewarded for that. God calls it sowing and reaping in the Bible, but you get the idea. Another is the power of the tongue. No matter what you believe, words can hurt from any mouth. There is power in your words.

Okay so now what is the Christian benefit package that differs from the non-believer? According to the Word, eternal life in heaven with the Lord tops the list. But what about now, here on earth? Well, as a child of God who receives Christ as savior – you can now exercise some rights you could not before. You have special privileges and the promise that He will never leave you or forsake you while these horrible trials on earth must go on. Its kinda sorta like when you are a youngster going through scary times, like being scared of the dark, or your first dentist trip it feels just a little bit better when papa or momma is sitting next to you, right? Same idea here. The Christian has the presence of the Lord that others choose not to have.  ( Psalm 27)

There are many books out there about spiritual authority – the authority of the believer, books about what rights the Christian realm. If you like an easy read with simple applications, I recommend Joyce Meyer, or Pat RobertsonJosh McDowell type books. Especially if you are a fairly new believer. If you are a glutton for cerebral torture but love the challenge and all,  pull up a few Watchmen Nee books… The Normal Christian life and many more.  I would stay away from anyone who you would see on Oprah, with rare exceptions, as she likes to weave the ” all roads lead to God path” which sadly for them does not fly with God, according to His word. The thought is really saying to Jesus Christ, ” Hey thanks for the effort, that torture and death and all to pay my penalty for sin, but, tell the Father I will be coming via another airline…

Don’t see that talk ever happening..

If you are a total atheist or someone who gets irritated at the very name of Jesus, I challenge to read a book that I found very helpful on my journey. It’s by Josh McDowell and called “ Lord, Liar, or Lunatic? Very short read and super interesting no matter who you are but especially if you are oriented towards science. Josh is a scientist, and was a full on atheist so ticked off about Jesus freaks creepin around him that he decided to scientifically shut them up..

The point I am making here is don’t let bad teaching ruin eternity. In the end we are all responsible to answer to God. His word says He has provided one way to get past our ugly sin, the blood of Christ. We simply choose to accept what He said, or reject. Our choice. We don’t get the option to not choose …and according to His Word that’s the deal.

( I didn’t write the Bible BTW, so don’t shoot the messenger..)

 

tj

 

She Has Announced The 24th Reason Why She Did Not Win, But Refusing To Say ” Lost” -As This Baby Was              ” Stolen ”  From Her…

Hillary don’t you think you lost this election fair and square? Just a simple right or wrong will suffice.  – I mean if…

“WRONG!! Tell them Willy , tell them I won ! ”

Well – This Should Rock Some Worlds! Most MEDICAL STUDIES = BOGUS!!

This is what I’ve been preaching all along since day one but it’s sure nice to have somebody like Mike Carey share something like this with us.

Most medical studies deemed bogus! Even Dangerous!

Courtesy of big Pharmaceutical. Even if you don’t want to hear this you really should read it- it’s a life-or-death issue.

http://www.naturalnews.com/2017-05-08-science-shock-almost-all-medical-studies-are-bogus-reproducibility-approaches-zero.html

tj

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**This information is intended for the recipient and nobody else. Please lets keep this in house.. Greetings , You all are in for some very exciting news!  If you have received this invitation you are a part of a special group of people. You are special to us in that you are followers of Mike […]

 

 

https://drive.google.com/file/d/0B_T8zNEl5CBkbEs3WmZoZHZnQ2c/view?usp=drivesdk

Above and below are 2 different ways to hear Tj  give his   personal greeting and update. In order to hear it you may have to load the open. If neither will work for you just skip it I will be doing these regularly.

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**This information is intended for the recipient and nobody else. Please lets keep this in-house..

Mike Carey alternative Solutions 4 Health & Tj from Dont Label My KId!

I made a quick audio update ( both links above, but had a few problems on one of the times I tried to open, you may have to download first but if its more than a few minutes just let it go, as it is jut an update and I will be dong these from time to time…tj


Greetings ,

You all are in for some very exciting news!  If you have received this invitation you are a part of a special group of people. You are special to us in that you are followers of Mike Carey – Alternative Solutions 4 Health, or TJ -(Dont Label My KId) and Mike have teamed up! That’s right we are joining forces to reach some goals and accomplish some things that have never been done before. We want you all along with us. Much is happening in the way of change and we have some exciting things in the works.

We want the people who have been supportive of us to get some too.

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(Notes- It has come to our attention that a fairly large group of bloggers were included in this private invitation who may or may not be followers of Don’t Label My Kid! Or Mike Carey .)

(After checking into it we found that you all actually are  considered by  WordPress to be followers of Don’t Label My Kid! via what I call the ‘ “undercover follower” method lol which I actually learned  is an option that I was unaware of. The other possibility is you register  so much on the site you are considered followers.

Either way you are blood.

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Just come on home – make it official-go click follow on this site. You do have to do that to take part so if you could make sure you all are ” legal” by like tomorrow we can stop the confusion…..And now we return to our regular programming. .)

With  Mike’s incredible knowledge and gifts in areas of  health and the mission of DLMK to serve a huge group of people worldwide who are desperate for help in the areas of mental, behavioral health and addictions it seemed a match made in heaven to team up and meet the needs of the total person in ways that have never been done. AS4H and DLMK have one thing in common.

Success rates that are at least double or more of many of the options available. That is not to say there are not very talented people working in our areas because there is. We have a unique chance to make sure that all components that a person may need in treatment, we can help with and using the same team, same model and same philosophy. Not all have that advantage.

Beliefs in how and who in treatment are absolutely identical. Both are believers in getting to the root issue; both believe in as natural of a healing as is possible; both are  committed to a return to normalcy asap. Sadly the country we live in supports financially those who keep people sick. It pays very well.

The goals of physical treatment centers and other care is already in the works. As matter of fact we will be talking with a major insurer in Florida about helping fund treatment centers! At this moment right now we have a goal to get services out to the world through virtual means. Mike can do what he does and the whole team can each help in reaching out to the world. However one thing holds us back.

It is very expensive technical work to build a portal  as we will using the Don’t Label My Kid! site as a platform. The site today has followers from 60 countries. The cost to make this happen is huge but not as a team. You are part of our team. It’s not a one-sided team and that’s why nobody else but our followers got invitations. As we succeed, you succeed. Why pay an outside investor a ton of money to help us when we can work together and meet all of our needs?

With that said – in order to reach who we need to reach we will need help.  So we are asking that you take a hard look at what is in front of you right now and consider getting involved to the extent that are able. We think no matter what level you are supporting us he return will far outweigh any monthly investment. When we need to add some service providers to our database who do you think we will utilize?

That’s right – you.

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In closing I will give a quick example or two. The placement of your blogs name on a separate page on the website goes to anyone at any level. Think about this. How much would it cost for a newspaper as or magazine/radio ads -100? More ? Even then you must hope and pray that people hear or see your ad at the very time they need your service.

Our followers are made up of people like you same demographic. That’s gold. The potential reach for your name in a day could be 500k- you see DLMK has followers that have 100k each!  So it’s a great deal. Please jump in, Today is the kick-off let’s do it up!

                               Here is our Commitment to You –

**For those come on board now, we will do something to show you our appreciation. We provide care for the total person here . We make sure that whether it’s a general doctor, a psychologist, an addictions specialist or any other type of care, that we have the best of the best.

So, to those who become any level as a founding member -we have you covered for any crisis needs in your immediate family. Free.

The 3 subscriptions are below are simply select what is best and sign up…

(We do have a few limited partnerships available. These are NOT for the average blogger or small business owner . The investment and commitment are much greater and suited for large set ups. People looking make some high level career advances with other projects we are working on and things like that. They are listed after the 3 below.)

***THIS JUST IN- PLEASE READ*****Mike Carey and I just spoke Today is 4/29/2107  at 10:40pm Eastern Time.

Mike has told me to take away the hours of consulting that go with the package if you are a Founders Club Member…Instead, when you become an active member now AT ANY LEVEL– He said PUT NO LIMIT ON IT!!! This means by subscribing you are on Mike’s List Of Clients and you NEVER have to pay for his service..

He also said as a small token of his appreciation to those who are serving, or have served in the military Everything ( all of his services) are on the house and the same goes for those in Christian Pastoral ministry or retired from it. 

Finally, if you want to become a member but cannot afford 25.00$ / Month we will offer scholarships if you can provide proof

. We also exchange services for memberships-if you have a skill we can use, or a product we can use..

Thanks in advance for trusting us and becoming Founding Club Members !


Don’t Label My Kid!  & Alternative Solutions 4 Health Founders club

                                          ~ Status Options~

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25.00-  Official Member

1-Your Blog Featured on separate page with founders only

2-Access to private database of services

*** Note – If you are wanting to bump up to GOLD but cannot afford it? Bring us 5 new members at any level and you got it .

(They must become followers of either Mike, Tj or both to be eligible.)

Subscribe as Official Member

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50.00-  GOLD Member

1-Your Blog Featured on Separate page with Founders Members only

2-Access to private database of services

3-  Founders Group Member Tag for your Homepage

4- A free hour per month of consultation with any of  team! phone Email

Subscribe as Founders Gold Member


NOTE! Want to become a Platinum member without the extra 50 bucks? No problem, bring us 5 Gold members!


100.00– Platinum

1-Your Blog Featured on Separate page with Founders Members only

2-Access to private database of services

3-Founders Group PLATINUM Member Tag for your homepage

4-1 Guest post on the DLMK site per quarter to share your blog’s mission or post a blog of your choice (these will be highlighted and recognized as a Guest Post From Founding Member-available only to Platinum members)

5- 2 hours per month of personal consultation from an actual team member to help you identify the appropriate service for you or a loved one’s personal situation.via email or phone and if the situation calls for it.

100% confidential and no longer available to non followers.

Subscribe as Founders Platinum Member

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                    The Executive Access – Boardroom Access Partners

We are also offering an entirely different type membership. They are Limited Partnerships – meaning only 10 of each are being considered at this time. The positions are for those who are aggressively pursuing some specific goals in a business, career or any pursuit that would require high-profile connections or simply need  to do more than run a small business, and need the help of a larger group to help them to the next level.

We designed these slots with a few things in mind. One is to help some of our own followers achieve their goals, so in the future they can pay it forward and continue the mission that we have started. Another is to help us achieve our financial goals so we can begin doing what we do best, help others. The financial investment for the Executive is 500/monthly and the Boardroom is 1000/month. It is the highest level of commitment on both sides that exists.

In some ways these are open to what the two sides can do for each other. We have the advantage of being able to be flexible and creative.

The primary differences between the two is one has access to the board of directors on certain issues and has a voice and even a vote on issues related to the services fund-raising project. The Boardroom Access partner is that person.

There is a process to discuss either of these. If you are interested contact Tj to set up a phone conference -tim@dontlabelmykid.com.

occasionally we will have a need for a staff member and offer it out as a regular position. Right now we are looking to fill a few part-time executive assistant positions in exchange for platinum memberships .

We hope you find just the right opportunities so we can see you grow while we grow!

thanks Mike Carey and Tj Petri

Health Trivia!Get Ready To Be Shocked?.

http://www.alternativesolutions4health.info/facts/

Mike Carey is the owner of alternativesolutions4health- and our new partner . 

Since meeting him I have never ceased to be amazed  at the new things I learn . I had to share this quick fact sheet of things he shares on his site …

tj

Tranquil Thursday- How About It?

This has been a long stretch for me in the area of multi-tasking and frankly I need to laugh and kick it light today- and If I need that I am sure many of you do as well. So all day today I will stick with only humorous and short posts..

If things workout I might even reach down into my mailbag and close my eyes to pick a few random letters to DLMK!  If you all have a preference btw then let me know you would like Mailbag more or less often, or what you enjoy the most..

I cannot seem to find anything I want or have left to force feed down your throats anyway-( I mean in a gentle way) lol

tj

 

tj

So lets see I will kick the day off with a personal favorite – The armed granny..

 

 

The Things We Say!

Almost daily I see or hear something that if you think it through- makes no sense. Now admittedly-  part of that is because I am an analyzer. I am always listening to what I say and also for what others say to see if it actually makes sense. I  think what got me in this whole hobby was back a few years ago when some comedians were big on the term ” oxymoron”.

Since then I am  more aware of words that I and others speak. Anyways this particular sign about the baby ” not on board” actually has a story with it.  About 20 years ago in Florida there was a sheriff we had who was extremely successful at nailing high level drug traffickers who used the I-95 corridor to run their wares back and forth to and from Miami and the surrounding areas.

It was uncanny how he and his deputies were arresting  5x  as many drug runners as any other agency north or south of his jurisdiction on the interstate. His guys were literally stopping people and asking them to pop the trunk sometimes and finding dozens of keys of cocaine, or millions of dollars in cash stacked up. After several years of this some of the arrested men began to file lawsuits against the department, claiming that they were all stopped as a result of “profiling” by the deputies.

The claim was this-the group of 5 or so people who did not know each other before this said that the sheriff had stopped them unlawfully as they were not speeding or had not broken any laws. The claim was two fold. First, that they were all black men between 23-30. Second they all had ” baby on board ” signs in their rear windows.

                                                  They won.

For a certain period of time the judge ruled that something like 50 cases must be dismissed due to what they called ” profiling “.  The drug dealers were not given their drugs back, but they were released immediately, given a formal apology  by the court and then allowed to march right into the police station evidence department and take their drug money back.

It was drug money because the dogs had sniffed the scent of drugs at the stop. So racial/sign profiling was banned. The signs obviously were put in the windows to give police the impression that a nice young couple may be driving along with their newborn . Now this was back in the gap, when thsoe signs has just became popular.

How this relates to mental health, I am not sure other then people thought it was CRAZY!  So that is my justification for posting it here..

Anyhow I thought it was interesting the far reaching grasp little things like a window sign have. The sign on this post, just shows us the flip side and begs the question -did the first one even make any sense to put out? Would any of us slow down due to a  ” baby on board ” sign-or speed up for a  ” no baby on board ” sign?

tj