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Sarah Sanders Is Asked How Christians Can Support Trump, Gives Best Answer We’ve Ever Heard

It truly is amazing to hear and see people who are up to their ears in evil on a daily basis accuse those who are attempting to get out of said evil…

Nobody said Christians are without sin. Quite the contrary, we simply acknowledge and own ours. Try it sometime.

Heres Your Sign Ma’am…

Tj

What Is Your Cuppa Tea?

How many of you like ( if you aready use us) or would prefer to get coaching & counseling from the comfort of your home via email, IM, IMO, Skype, Telephone etc..instead of going into a doctors office each week?

About 1/3 of all those in need of help with a mental health, addiction , behavioral, or coaching needs NEVER seek help simply due to the fear of doctors offices, social phobias , embarrassment , cost or other reasons.

We are here to step in the gap for those of you who want and need help but arent getting it.

Why havent you contacted us ?

Do it today ! Take your life back even if you start in your robe and slippers!!

If you or someone you know needs help but wont reach out through the publc settings, get in touch today – no matter what the issue may be. We have and only use experts who have proven to be very effective in the shortest period of time-  whether therapuetic counseling or coaching, no matter the age or gender.

It doesnt matter the issue from depression to domestic violence, kids having trouble in school, meds, parenting, addiction or whatever.

We can help.

We will work a plan out for your budget and you never have to leave home!

Contact us today;

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Or email tjpettri6@gmail.com.

Today could be the first day of the rest of your life! Its up to you now…

Depression 2018 – My Experience…

 

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I have not posted in a while and I want everyone to know why.  Besides having the ups and downs of major depression, I also decided to do something that I knew could be extremely hard and really was not sure if I could handle it.

Five years ago I started a journey of 7 surgeries for a bone disease I have. I have written about it a few times but basically it amounted to 3 total hip replacements and much pain. I was on heavy-duty narcotics for 2 years for the pain when I was asked a question by my treatment team. The question was about whether I would like to go on a Morphine pump for life or try Suboxone to get off the Morphine and see if it helped with the pain.

I could not fathom the idea of being loaded up on that much Morphine for life so I opted for Suboxone. I was on for 1 year. The pain was less and I felt I made the right choice. However recently when I discussed it with my doctor and told him I wanted to wean off the Suboxone – he advised me to stay on another year. I said no. Lets just wean me off and see how I handle it. He refused and I was forced to make a very tough choice. I could walk out and go off cold turkey which would no doubt mean horrible times ahead for at least a month or two, or sign on for another year and keep my body hooked on a Heroin level Narcotic, or suffer debilitating withdrawals.

I walked away. Three weeks ago. By God’s Grace I made it through the first two weeks without dying. Detox is strongly recommended to survive these type withdrawals. I just decided to tough it out ( I am not recommending it) and get myself off of the last major medicine I was on. I am in my third week and I can honestly say I did not know if I would make it this far.

I have been through hell and back and still am going through the withdrawal symptoms which are horrific.

I want anyone to know that if you are facing a similar situation, make sure you pray about your options. If you are a person of Faith and a praying person – seek God.

No matter what- you can do it. I cannot write much more but I believe this is for someone out there. Do not choose to stay dependent on any drugs. The price you will pay to get off may be tough, but if you remember you are freeing your body of all the dependence – you will make it.

God Bless!

Tj

Drug Rehabs That Keep Patients Addicted- For Insurance Money…Yeah Its Real. Real Pathetic.

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It’s Almost Too Nasty To Be Real…

 

If I told you just a few of the horror stories of drug rehabs and the goings on in there you may think I was crazy. I am speaking truth and this pitiful example is just one of hundreds or more of centers just in Florida that are either serving up heroin to their addicts or doing anything to keep billing insurance.

I’ll be posting some other examples and sadly most are in my home state of Florida but it does happen everywhere. Click the blue link to see the scumbag of the year .

 

 

What A Shocker! Made Up Mental Health Diagnoses Booming In Florida! Someone Is Reading My Blog! Lol

Who Would Have Thunk? Drinking Water Is Bad For You?

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FDA Says Imodium Usage Stinks…

Who would have thunk it? The last thing most people shopping for Imodium are thinking is about getting high..right? They are likely feeling crappy already …

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The Labels We Give With Substance Abuse Disorders Hinders Treatment For Many. 

It seems like we would be past this by now but we really are lagging. Although it’s been many years since science and the medical community confirmed that addiction, like diabetes is a disease, society has chosen to continue to address those stricken with  substance related disorders as ” abusers” .

Why is it critical that we not allow this to continue? Because calling someone an abuser may actually stop one from getting help. It implies a category of failure, not wanting help. It gives the impression that the person did something wrong therefore became an abuser.

If you are in any way involved in the life a person with a substance disorder, this article is crititical in being a help not hurting.

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Are We Really Aware That What We Put In Our Stomach Has A Direct Link To Our Mental Health ?

The Link Between Stomach And Head

 

With all the garbage we hear at doctors offices from that fantasy book known as the DSM – it would do us some good to learn about non- fantasy issues with our health in general .Look into some reality based concerns about the food we eat and how it can actually cause things like depression and anxiety.

Tj

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Will Computers Actually And Literally ‘ Take Over ‘ The World ? Read These Recent Projections About A Few Industries….Amazing. Don’t Study Law Folks!

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Pay Me So I Can Help You Die Faster- Sincerely, Big Pharmaceutical.

Listen To The Small Print- Please

(Please read post before clicking on above link)

Here it is …

 I finally could not contain myself. After 1000+ posts I have refrained from actually giving big pharma the undeserved attention that makes them billions of dollars annually. However after five years and much desire – I have succumb to the urge to actually help the public to listen to the “fine print” in drug ads. If I was a buddhist I would call big pharma -bad karma. 

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The only people who really need to watch this are living breathing humans who have ever been to or plan to be treated by a doctor. Everyone else is excused.

If this were a newspaper ad the last part would what they call the ” fine print” but in this case someone is reading it to you.. I really want you, for your own health, whether a cancer patient or not to click this and listen to the commercial for a new cancer drug.

With all your faculties listen from second one with the opening sad story but happy ending (seemingly) and then listen VERY CAREFULLY as they transition into the deadly side effects! If you take the time to actually listen to the commercial and hear the words they are speaking, you would likely run like you know what before ever taking this even if it was FREE!

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Meanwhile for almost 40 years our very own team member Mike Carey has been helping people get rid of diseases in a matter of weeks! All naturally! Of course not every single disease can just go away but what do you think the rest of the world besides us are doing? Healing with natiural agents like Mike. If you or someone you love needs help in this way, go to his sight and message him for help-

alternativesolutions4health.com – in some cases it’s life or death-literally. Dont delay.

This, ladies and gentleman is a very short summary in the form of a commercial of why we are where we are in American healthcare. Why you ask? Because we are the only country in THE ENTIRE WORLD dumb enough to allow drug makers to advertise on television. It takes advantage of and gives false hopes to an already downtrodden  crowd grasping for a little hope by putting bringing false hope and manipulating desperate minds. I say prison, not cash is what these companies deserve. 

This is the real deal folks. It just does not get any more plain to see than this. This is a major part of why Don’t Label My Kid! was created-to start telling the truth and giving actual successful alternatives for healing when possible.

After the Now, please watch for yourself and see how you feel after the quick voices spew out the REAL truth at the end….shameful.

The actual list of possible terrible side effects ( if I timed it close) takes longer to list and are much more severe than the benefits. Note

One example near the end is that a possible side effect includes DEATH! Sign me up!

NOT!

tj

Check Out The Addiction Magazine In Our Circle Now! Jenny Clark Is Founder!

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All4uraddiction.com is the online magazine that our newest  Don’t Label My Kid! team member Jenny Clark founded. Please click below and check out all the great addiction resources and make sure to join over 10k others and subscribe now!

While Pastor Matt brings extensive pastoral, counseling and blog writing experience to the team, and Mike Carey his own incredible natural recipes for ridding the body of diseases like liver cancer and Hep. C. , Jenny Clark also has her own brand of service and we are super excited to add her to the list of professionals who make this team of resources up. Read about her experience with addictions and other professional milestones by clicking the blue link at the bottom and make sure once in the magazine to subscribe for your emailed version quarterly.

As we all know many of us and our following are specifically here for the addictions piece and posts we have on a regular basis. We want to continue to build our resource base for those of you who are addicts, have loved ones or friends who are, or are in groups at church like recovery groups etc.  Jenny’s magazine adds a wealth of resources and options for those struggling including programs and service cater to addicts.

Please post  her link on you site if you write about addiction so others can take advantage of this awesome resource. We welcome Jenny and have plans to expand our services for addicts even more as we are able.  Podcasts, seminars and lots of other options are being looked at so we can really be a very  effective resource for those suffering from the disease of addiction.

By the way If anyone ever approaches you about this site and says ” Is Don’t Label My Kid! A site for kids? Addicts? Parenting? Spiritual guidance? Teen behaviors? Or mental health, here is your answer below….

YES!

We are about the family. The family is made up of mental health issues, parenting issues, addictions issues, health and nutritional issues, behavioral issues with teens and children, death, grief, suicide, abuse and much more. Here at Don’t Label My Kid! we aim to be a one stop shop for all things family and all the things I mentioned and more. The team you see on the menu on the homepage is not here by accident.

Our goal is to have the very best of the best people with credentials and experience that will serve to make a difference in your life as issues come up. Pastor Matt is a guy with 3 degrees in counseling and religion related studies who has a heart for people who have been hurt by the church ( and who has not in the time we are in?) and focuses on writing for his blog and this blog as well as pastors a church that he started!

You know about my background in social work, mental health and addictions.

Mike Carey at   alternativesolutions4health.com is our resident nutritional expert who has quite the track record of 38 years of assisting people who are very sick with disease, rid their bodies of the actual disease, not just treat symptoms. Many times in a week or two. His success rate is 98%. Together we have 100+ years experience . Our long-term goal is to take this thing a step further and make our team members available  for virtual counseling and coaching on any of the issues we address–worldwide. You may not realize this but we have followers from 148 countries and guess what? They have the same problems we do. So building out this site to support us doing this is a big deal. We believe it will happen and now that our team has rounded out so nicely we can focus more on doing that.

Just to clarify, we have been providing consulting and counseling services on any of the issues I have discussed above. However it is done mainly via email, Skype and the phone. So you can still  get help for whatever your issues are just not through a virtual site yet.

Email or call me to set up services of any kind.

Tim@dontlabelmykid.com

386-675-7549

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We all believe we were put here for a reason. We also believe that each of you is here for a reason. Our job is to help others with the training and life experiences we have had in the areas we operate in. Don’t deprive your own family or another of getting some healing and help. Remember you do not know how many times they may have called out to others or God for help. If you are the vessel chosen to share the hope and help of this service with them, do your duty and sleep well tonite.

If need be we work with you financially according to your ability to repay and I guarantee it is always much less than traditional rates of you go into an office and pay 125-200$/ Hr for sessions and 300$ for assessments. If you need help and you are not getting it then it is your own fault because we don’t charge those rates and we work with you if you are going through a difficult time. Never let your family health suffer over money. That is one of the reasons we are here!

Everyone has friends, neighbors or loved ones who are desperately seeking or at least needing help on one of the areas we help with. If they do not know about our services than SHAME on YOU!

Let your loved ones and friends know they can get help at a place where they will not be turned away or judged in a 100% confidential setting. For the record we do NOT report to anyone about our client’s mental or behavioral issues so unlike an office and a doctor, who is required to inform people of diagnoses under certain circumstances we do not reveal to anyone your personal history. Many times a doctor’s office will be required to report certain  illnesses to your employer or others you really do not need in your business. We do not discuss your situation with anyone unless you ask us to, like if you have a court situation where you have to prove you got help with anger management or counseling for addiction and all, we count.

What happens at Don’t Label My Kid!- Stays at Don’t Label Kid!

Now take some time to browse All4uraddicton the magazine. You will be amazed !

Have a blessed day and please remember right now to make the call to anyone you know who needs help and for whatever reason is not getting it. You never know what you may be preventing. Many people today are just one cut down away from hurting themselves.

The Holidays are a terrible time statically for suicide and depression. If you are aware of anyone who is suffering-don’t make them go through another year alone. Tell them about us. Many times the only thing stopping a person who needs help from getting help is the lack of support or encouragement to make the call, or in some cases, I have made the call for others who just needed a boost to get help.

Here is the magazine for you to browse and become familiar with-again subscibe so you will get each edition.

DLMK! Team Member Jenny Clark’s Successful Addiction Referral Magazine Click Here And Remember To Subscribe!

Dont Pass This By Too Quickly If You Are On Anti-Depressants..And Please Dont Shoot The Messenger, But You Are Being Played…

Sometimes in life we miss the most obvious things,  even when they right in our face. The old saying ” you are so close to the foresst you cannot see the trees”  is true in many aspects of life and many of them have a direct effect on you and I.

Take the Catholic church and their well organized pedophilia racket. It’s so out in the open that the Catholic church even has a website to share with the public how big of an issue it is. Last time I checked in on their Bishops Accountability site they unashamedly posted just under 30k priests currently involved in a molestation accusation. Let me say that number again. 30 thousand priests ( and those are the ones the church is willing to talk about) So imagine what the true numbers might look like. From the Vatican down they are openly and proudly trying to make it illegal for police to know about any molestation allegations against priests!

One New York Bishop recently proposed to the New York Times that the age of consensual sex for priests and their little play toys and alter boys should be…..brace yourself…age 7.

He is asking that as long as the kid they molested is seven or older, its consensual sex. Im not making this up. No shame in their game at all. Not even hiding it. Yet how many devout Catholics will still be attending mass this Saturday or Sunday with their children. Im a parent folks, and if that is you let me just ask this ..

What Are You Thinking?”

But this post is not about pedoohiles, it is about something that is also being used as a tool to hurt people for personal gain. Im talking about the big drug companies who make anti-depressants. Folks let me ask that if you have not yet read my home page called ” Mental Health Is Driving Me Crazy” please stop here take 5 to read it as it is the entire foundation for this topic.

Now the article I’m sharing with you is just one of thousands from doctors all over the world. They are trying to clue the public in that they are likely being duped, when it comes to anti-depressants and what their true effectiveness ( or lack of) is.

Just like the pedopriest problem, this information is public and available to everyone, yet nobody seems to be paying attention. The doctors are not giving their ” opinions ” on drugs. They are stating statistical facts that the drug makers themselves are not even hiding. Its identical to the situation in the Catholuc church . Nobody is hiding the sin or wrong doing. We the public follow along each other like sheep being led to the slaughter. Never looking up to see what is going around us.

If you did not know this,  sheep are some of the dumbest animals in the world. If sheep are following in a line and the first one marches off the edge of a 200 foot cliff, guess what the others do? They follow it right off the cliff to their death!

We are no better folks. Its really time for us to start paying attention to things like these. Just like the sheep, gullible people walk off cliffs to their death, but it may be meds not the steep cliff that kills us.

Before you read this article I just want to point out again like I usually do that mental health is real,  depression is real and there’s no question about that. Many doctors like the one in this article will give you different avenues to deal with depression that don’t have to do with medication.

There are many many alternatives and I’m not saying that all medications are bad,  so hear me. I’m saying that in many cases they’re not only bad but harmful  and they could cause suicidal thoughts. There is full admittance by the manufacturers,  there’s no denying or even attempt to deny it.

I bet every single person that reads this post know somebody if not yourself that’s been on or is taking an antidepressant right now because antidepressants are going to be the second leading drug soon in the whole world prescribe so if that applies to you or a friend or family member share this with them or reblogged this so people can see what is going on.

It’s time that we start paying attention to what’s going around in the world around us. See what this doctor suggests you do if it applies to you or a loved one..

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You Or Your Children Need Help. Something Has To Change. Psychiatrist? Psychologist? Therapist? Police ? ( if in danger) What To Do Before Blindly Talking To Anyone For Intervention.

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When it comes time to intervention in your life or your children’s life, it is not something to take lightly. It’s not like going to a grocery store and decided afterwords you want to go to several more stores before buying. All mental health workers from therapists to doctors are trained in their particular flavor of how to find something wrong with you. This is how they get paid. Go to a psychiatry office you will walk out with a script and a diagnoses. The odds are better than not that you will leave with  a new label of some source that like it or not will attach itself to you for life.

Go to a psychologist and you will likely get some reason that you need to come 1-2x per week to get to” what is underneath all this” and spend a ton of money to lay on a couch or sit in a chair for a long time to be reminded of how miserable your life was/is.

Go to a behaviorist like myself and you will likely get a plan of action using behavioral techniques and rewards to attempt at changing behavior. You always go to the least restrictive first. In this case the behaviorist. You NEVER want to have you or your child locked up or labeled for life because you didn’t do your homework. If you have not read my homepage, go back now and read it to get an understanding of how the system works. You may be quite surprised.  The main page article called “Mental Health Is Driving Me Crazy” is the post to read or this may not make as much sense. I promise you won’t regret it.

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I have spent more than 20 years of my life working with  troubled kids, teens and their parents in every possible demographic. I have not only been a part of the professional team but was fortunate to move up quickly in 9/10 companies. After spending many years on the front lines and just as many in management, I was blessed to be asked to start a school in Florida for expelled felons. These students had not only been expelled from public school, but then got themselves kicked out of the alternative school where kids must go if they get expelled from public school. 

I was asked if I could do anything to help them and I knew with my Boys Town training and my hands on experience I could do it. I did and I won awards and all . But the most important task I had to train our teachers was to catch the kids doing something right all day each day instead of a day full criticism at an already over medicated and tired group

I named this blog over four years ago Don’t Label My Kid! for a reason. It was not just a cute title to me. It was symbolic of what clearly is one of the top issues we need to addressed, labeling people in general.

Over the next 4 years I targeted a certain audience to reach. Those are families in need of assistance but many times have no clue what to do. Usually they see a television show with guests that have all got the same disorder Parents look to neighbors, friends and sometimes strangers for feedback on how to cope and deal with the problems they have with their teens.

Many parents could not explain the difference between a psychiatrist and a psychologist much less figure out on their own whuch to see. Parents and their kids just going whichever way the wind blows. Whatever place the  therapist or teacher told them to go not considering the permanent label and scar it could leave. Its  just blindly leading people to their own slaughter. Dont be a part of your own child’s social demize. Let us help develop a family plan of action. We offer hourly rates that are much less than you would pay in an office as we dont have the overhead of buidlings etc.. We will work with you from beginning to end. All you need to do to get on the road to recovery for your family is look at menu of our team and determine who will best suit your needs. Then contact us asap before the damage gets too bad.

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Having been  in and around the circles of addiction, depression and all behavioral and mental health issues in my career allowed me to understand the nuances and many differences between the way one doctor does things compared to another.

Time Frame

Now is the time to act when they are under 13 or 14 although it is still workable at 18 if they are willing. Children as young as 8 years old are being drugged today, dont let this be the case with your loved ones.

Here is the point of this little post. Don’t pretend there is no issue.  Address all the issues as directed by someone who actually has worked and lived it and has education as well.

Don’t try this at home people. Its above anyone’s head who has not been trained extensively on the topic. This is why we have a team with Dont Label My Kid! A team that has 100+ years combined experience in all areas from addiction to behavioral health to spiritual guidance, natural healing and all things mental health. Leave this part to the professionals in this field who have also raised our own kids., or you risk being a willing part in labeling your own child for life.

Discuss your options today for coaching, consulting and anything else you see on our front page menu.

Read Pastor Matt’s bio, as well as Jenny, Mike and Mine to see who would who of us could best help then lets started. You know what they say about the definition of crazy is right? Doing the same thing over and over and expecting different results.

Contact me -tim@dontlabelmykid.com or in emergency 386-675-7549

tj

So Whats It Going To Be? Therapy Or Coaching? Do You Even Know The Difference? You Should.

Sometimes I like to incorporate humor into my posts to keep the site from just being about depression and addiction and PTSD etc… I just cannot be all too funny with this. This is a topic that is DEADLY. I remember, because my brothers suicide wont seem to get out of my mind some days. So I am going to ask everyone to stop and read this, and you know what it may not even apply to you. But it could prevent what happened with my family. I cannot undo the gunshot that ended my brothers life. But I can share my 20 years of experience in mental health and addictions, from a personal, and then a professional standpoint. I sure hope you will send this to anyone that seems like they may be one step away from tragedy. If it is you. I tell you what to do at the end. Anyhow, I hope you take this to heart. Anyone who follows me knows how much I love you all and just want to keep getting the word out that you cannot delay treatment for mental health without terrible consequences. But let me say this, there is some really good news on here about the success we are having worldwide in a new area to help….tj

 

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Is Therapy Going To Drive Me To Suicide?

Most people in and around the mental health field as a client or provider are familiar with these two terms. The question is, what is the difference? Its a valid question that deserves an honest answer.

So your deciding how to address the situation your going through and the options. Whether it be a depression issue, a divorce issue or any other circumstance that has proved itself to be interfering in your routine to the point that you need at least some action. Lets face it, there are thousands of different providers who all claim to offer up the most successful, healing, lasting and least restrictive and intrusive on your life.

Where do you start? A friend’s recommendation? An ad that catches your eye or ear? The most well known methods? Its a tough call for anyone. It does not have to be. You see just as we have progressed in other industries like automobiles, and appliances and homes, the same applies when it is time for mental health choices. We don’t screw bolts into the sides of peoples heads anymore to see the effect. We don’t torture people hoping to alter behavior or feelings. Things have improved. Much progress has been made in these areas and you will do yourself a disservice by not following up on what is working and what is not.

Just because you are struggling with an issue in your life does not paralyze your ability to educate yourself. Of course you must be strong enough to make your own decisions and choices on treatment unless you are in need of inpatient care. This post is about outpatient care. If you follow along you just may see clearly some things that have been unclear until now. I have had extensive experience in both coaching and therapy, both as a client, and eventually as a professional for 20 years. To try and break down all the theories of personality and modalities of treatment would take an entire book. In my opinion it is not necessary.

Everyone has their opinion about what works best and many of the ideas have validity and can indeed help. However do you want to get 45% help when another method would bump that up to 85%? Of course not. Let me add that I have no dog in the hunt. Our team together has decades of experience in just about every major modality used in outpatient therapy. If you want to come lay on a couch each week while we remind each other how miserable your life has been, someone will take your money. But what about outcomes? After all the whole point of therapy is to get better and move on with your life, right?

What if medication is recommended? We all know that game right? Try this for 6 weeks, if it does not make you feel good we will change to the next, and the next and so on. You may be caught up in a weekly sit down regurgitating old dark memories for a year before any medications start working. That is , if they ever work, since even major drug makers have admitted that 5 or 6 of their latest anti-depressants actually cause suicidal thoughts.

OOPS! Yeah, it does happen and it is not uncommon.

But even so, therapy is just so much more ” professional ” sounding. It must be the best if its been around so long. I mean this coaching thing is fairly new. Why take chances on that when you can enjoy the benefits listed above of a therapeutic model?

Maybe because coaching works.

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Lets take a closer look at this whole coaching model. The coaching models at least that I am familiar with takes the therapy model and turns it on its head. It rejects everything traditional long term therapy stands for.

Coaching focuses on what is right in your life. What you can do well. What strengths we have. A return to normalcy as soon as possible in the least restrictive environment is key. On the other hand have we all not at one time or another seen a post or article that begins with  ” I have been seeing my therapist now for 5 years  ” or  ‘ My therapist says he thinks I need a higher dose of medication”. If you have not, you need not leave WordPress because they are everywhere.

Try finding one that says they have had their coach for more than a few months. It will be tough. The reason being is coaches create independence for you by emphasizing what you can do and have done well, whereas a typical therapy session will hover around how many failures or let downs occurred and how did you deal with them. If not monitored closely therapy can simply become something you must depend on and have or you will crack. It also can make for real strong job security for the provider. I am in no way saying that this is always the case, I am simply pointing out the facts.

 

Let me give you another example that may be easier to illustrate. AA & NA have been absolutely famous and known to be the savior for millions who swear they cant make it without it. There is good reason for that. Part of the mantra you must repeat and repeat and repeat until its drilled in your head is that you are powerless over your addiction.  Sounds like pure healthy honesty right? We need to face the truth, right? The problem here folks is that most AA & NA programs have a tough time breaking into double digits as far as success in remaining sober for 12 months. Hmm. Sounds like AA & NA need the addicts more than the addicts need it.

Now I can already here people yelling at me reciting the serenity prayer and how the program has kept you clean for 5 years. If that is true, good for you and stick with it. The problem is we have this other 90% who fail and fail and fail. This group is just as important as the 10% who are doing well. right? The program or therapeutic modality cannot replace the addiction. Trading one addiction for another is , well not the goal.

Lets quickly review. Coaching is a process where someone trained in the area your needing comes along side of you and helps you identify your strengths, address any negative patterns that are interfering with your life and resets your thinking and goals to align with your abilities. This process in general is a much shorter and effective one that rarely disturbs your daily routine and acts more as a cheerleader to help you up and out of a rut then a tape recorder that plays your most hideous memories over and over until one week you think you have it beat- but then at your therapy session your forced to drag it back out of the dark corner of your head.

Coaching is not becoming dependent in any way on someone else. Therapy can lead to a total dependency on a person to survive, and even worse create a stigma that you are lesser of a person because you cannot live life normally or without the handicap of a label, diagnoses, or medication.

Am I saying that therapy is a waste and coaching is the only way to get help? Of course not. What I absolutely am saying is that one better be educated on their true need lest they become involved in a very dependent situation that may strip you of self esteem when that method is not needed. I have been a therapist. I have been a coach which is what I am more involved in then formal therapy. There will always be times when someone is in need of long term clinical therapy. What I have learned however is that everyone deserves the chance to be helped up and out of a rut through short term coaching before the much more restrictive clinical environment.

Besides the the stigma, the dependency, and the long term visits in the therapy model, you also need to understand that the difference financially between the two are radical and you are talking tens of thousands of dollars for any long term clinical therapy and that is besides medications. Why would you put yourself or anyone you love in that box before you give them a chance to be coached back to health? So far I have given you my personal and career experience, but in case your wondering, the established and very well run coaching programs that are in existence now are running circles around any treatment centers for addictions and over 20 other issues from domestic violence to PTSD. As a matter of fact many insurance companies wont even pay for therapy anymore. That is right, they pulled out and are happy to pour their efforts into legit coaching programs. Why would they, when the success rates on coaching is 75% and up and traditional treatment centers around 20%? Not to mention coaching is 1/3 the cost if not more to you and to insurers.

I want to close with a very important point. This article is designed to offer new options and hope to those who may not be familiar with coaching model. Any good therapist or doctor will tell you the truth about whether long term expensive therapy is needed or if coaching is what will work best for the client. I wont lie to you, just like any industry, not every provider is truthful and many will keep you or your child locked up and medicated as long as the payer will pay. Authorities are trying to crack down on those who use clients for personal gain but with tens of thousands of programs, it is very hard.

Take a few minutes and enjoy a laugh. The Old School Psychiatrists Were Just a little more upfront and honest with their patients then in today’s world- Would it not be nice if all Doctors were this up front! Today she would likely here ” Maam, you have OCD, your in denial, you are paranoid and I think these 3 prescriptions may help….We can all learn a thing or two from this Bob Newhart clip…

I have worked with and still do some of the finest clinical therapists around and they are excellent. Doctors as well and in no way am I saying nobody needs clinical therapy. What I am doing here is giving you all a little heads up about what is coming down the pipe. Coaching has proven itself, its cost effective, and is the latest and greatest alternative to what we had to live with. You will hear about it if you have not. All the Don’t Label My Kid! Team members are coaches and you can check out our areas of expertise on the home page menu. Read a quick bio of what we each do and reach out to us if you think you need help. We always work with people and have yet to turn anyone away.

This is a post I would not have written even two years ago. However the coaching success, and opportunities for those who have been coached to actually become working coaches after they find success makes this a win win for anyone and everyone. Don’t put it off anymore. No matter what the age, race, background, or need- believe me we have been there and done it. Just look at our bios and you will understand. If you are doing great, and your kids are doing great. but you have this friend from church, neighbor, or relative that is hurting- be the one to help them get help. You never know what people may be just one more step away from and the tragedy of ignoring it can do.

When my brother shot himself after we just watched some television together, I sure wish I would have asked him why he was so quiet for 2 hours. But, I did not. Instead he walked out the door and shot himself in the head. Don’t let that happen to anyone you know. Contact us immediately for prompt response.

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TJ