Who would have thunk it? The last thing most people shopping for Imodium are thinking is about getting high..right? They are likely feeling crappy already …
If you caught my brief bio posted the other day you may have seen that I was responsible write each IEP ( Individual Education Plan ) for all of the students in the schools I started. As a matter of fact, this blog title (in part) was named after the unbelievable flaws I saw while doing this. The school boards typically don’t offer parents the help that your child is entitled to if they have a documented disability.
I like to think of a child with a ” disability ” as a child with a ” different ability”
At an IEP meeting, a ” Staffing Specialist ” from the board is there to represent the board and throw in the hat what they are willing to offer as far as support. Exactly like the psychiatrist who tells you your son or daughter has some ” disorder ” usually you are at the mercy of their opinion or decision. That should never be the case. However how are you to know what is right and what isn’t?
I am amazed when I walk through Wal-Mart and see a mother dragging a crying 4-5 year old by the arm yelling
“ SHUT UP! DO YOU HEAR ME, YOU ARE GOING TO GET YOUR LITTLE ASS WHIPPED WHEN WE GET HOME”
Wrong on so many levels. But to keep this short , I will point out just a few reasons why this approach never works.
1- You cannot command a child to do something that you are currently reminding them you yourself are incapable of- like being quiet.
2-Its highly unlikely that ANY child (that can hear) is going to think ” hmm, I think I will pull it together now that I know I have an ass whippin coming when we leave, I’m pumped!”
3-If you want your child to incorporate any skill into their daily routine, YOU must first model it, consistently. The ” do as I say not as I do” rule is obsolete.
There are at least 100 valuable social skills that must be taught to any of us in life. About 25 are needed to function successfully as an adult. For a child ages 5-18 it varies by age, but 3-4 for the young child and 15 for the teen are necessary to get through school and relationships without much turmoil.
There is no “ skill genie ” or ” skill angel ” that comes in the night and teaches your child the skills. So they must learn them from someone else….yep thats right. but, if you choose not to teach them – don’t sweat it, they can always pick up little Johnny’s skill set at school, you know the one who always gets suspended and calls his 3rd grade teacher a slut.
If you want your home to run smoothly, there must be consistency and clear explanation of what is expected. I will take the top two most important social skills ( in my opinion ) that I have taught for 20 years, and break them down here so you can see how you should explain them to your child.
a- Look at the person
b- Say ok
c Check back when finished
a- Look at the person
b- Say ok
As I mentioned, these are the top two out of the 100 I train on. You should have at least 15 skills you use to interact with your teen and 4-7 for young who cannot retain much more.
Remember, the trick is developing a motivation system in your home that is not some temporary fly by night bribe system just so you can get a quiet night and take a long bath. Every reward and consequence your child gets should be a decision your child has made because you have taken the time and effort to creat a system that needs no arguing or debating about. Its built into your family dynamic.
Lastly for this little sample, if you think your children don’t want boundaries set for them ( specific guidelines) you are wrong. Kids are desperate for boundries. As a matter of fact we adults are desperate for boundries. What would you feel like if you jumped on the freeway tomorrow to go to work, and there was a giant neon sign that said
How safe would you feel knowing that anyone could pull a NASCAR on you and draft you at 125 MPH- or trade some paint with you sending you and your vehicle rolling down the hill on the side of the road.
So of we grown ups need some guidlines, ow much more do our children need them.
( I am an award winning behavior specialist who has built hundreds of behavior programs to implement in homes of small familes who just want one system to implement so they can quit constant arguing all the time. I also have been hired to put behavorial sysytems in place in large companies to make their own staff get along better)
I was even hired to train all the doctors and staff of a hospital psyhiatric unit how to get along , proving that no matter who you are or how old you are there has to be consistency.
As a foster parent, I created and implented daily systems for very abused and defiant teens and was successful in all. About 50 teens.
Its Friday- Time For- ‘Mike’s Corner’
Did you know that lower back pain (which is a worldwide complaint) most times is pain referred from another part of the body and has nothing to do with the back? Usually it is a result of the Occipital bone being out. Since the Occipital bone is a part of the brain, chiropractor cannot usually adjust it. However there are 2 herbs that each have a frequency which will cause it to go back in very quickly.
Contact Mike for your personalized evaluation-
**This information is intended for the recipient and nobody else. Please lets keep this in house.. Greetings , You all are in for some very exciting news! If you have received this invitation you are a part of a special group of people. You are special to us in that you are followers of Mike […]
Above and below are 2 different ways to hear Tj give his personal greeting and update. In order to hear it you may have to load the open. If neither will work for you just skip it I will be doing these regularly.
Mike Carey alternative Solutions 4 Health & Tj from Dont Label My KId!
You all are in for some very exciting news! If you have received this invitation you are a part of a special group of people. You are special to us in that you are followers of Mike Carey – Alternative Solutions 4 Health, or TJ -(Dont Label My KId) and Mike have teamed up! That’s right we are joining forces to reach some goals and accomplish some things that have never been done before. We want you all along with us. Much is happening in the way of change and we have some exciting things in the works.
We want the people who have been supportive of us to get some too.
(Notes- It has come to our attention that a fairly large group of bloggers were included in this private invitation who may or may not be followers of Don’t Label My Kid! Or Mike Carey .)
(After checking into it we found that you all actually are considered by WordPress to be followers of Don’t Label My Kid! via what I call the ‘ “undercover follower” method lol which I actually learned is an option that I was unaware of. The other possibility is you register so much on the site you are considered followers.
Either way you are blood.
Just come on home – make it official-go click follow on this site. You do have to do that to take part so if you could make sure you all are ” legal” by like tomorrow we can stop the confusion…..And now we return to our regular programming. .)
With Mike’s incredible knowledge and gifts in areas of health and the mission of DLMK to serve a huge group of people worldwide who are desperate for help in the areas of mental, behavioral health and addictions it seemed a match made in heaven to team up and meet the needs of the total person in ways that have never been done. AS4H and DLMK have one thing in common.
Success rates that are at least double or more of many of the options available. That is not to say there are not very talented people working in our areas because there is. We have a unique chance to make sure that all components that a person may need in treatment, we can help with and using the same team, same model and same philosophy. Not all have that advantage.
Beliefs in how and who in treatment are absolutely identical. Both are believers in getting to the root issue; both believe in as natural of a healing as is possible; both are committed to a return to normalcy asap. Sadly the country we live in supports financially those who keep people sick. It pays very well.
The goals of physical treatment centers and other care is already in the works. As matter of fact we will be talking with a major insurer in Florida about helping fund treatment centers! At this moment right now we have a goal to get services out to the world through virtual means. Mike can do what he does and the whole team can each help in reaching out to the world. However one thing holds us back.
It is very expensive technical work to build a portal as we will using the Don’t Label My Kid! site as a platform. The site today has followers from 60 countries. The cost to make this happen is huge but not as a team. You are part of our team. It’s not a one-sided team and that’s why nobody else but our followers got invitations. As we succeed, you succeed. Why pay an outside investor a ton of money to help us when we can work together and meet all of our needs?
With that said – in order to reach who we need to reach we will need help. So we are asking that you take a hard look at what is in front of you right now and consider getting involved to the extent that are able. We think no matter what level you are supporting us he return will far outweigh any monthly investment. When we need to add some service providers to our database who do you think we will utilize?
That’s right – you.
In closing I will give a quick example or two. The placement of your blogs name on a separate page on the website goes to anyone at any level. Think about this. How much would it cost for a newspaper as or magazine/radio ads -100? More ? Even then you must hope and pray that people hear or see your ad at the very time they need your service.
Our followers are made up of people like you same demographic. That’s gold. The potential reach for your name in a day could be 500k- you see DLMK has followers that have 100k each! So it’s a great deal. Please jump in, Today is the kick-off let’s do it up!
**For those come on board now, we will do something to show you our appreciation. We provide care for the total person here . We make sure that whether it’s a general doctor, a psychologist, an addictions specialist or any other type of care, that we have the best of the best.
So, to those who become any level as a founding member -we have you covered for any crisis needs in your immediate family. Free.
(We do have a few limited partnerships available. These are NOT for the average blogger or small business owner . The investment and commitment are much greater and suited for large set ups. People looking make some high level career advances with other projects we are working on and things like that. They are listed after the 3 below.)
***THIS JUST IN- PLEASE READ*****Mike Carey and I just spoke Today is 4/29/2107 at 10:40pm Eastern Time.
Mike has told me to take away the hours of consulting that go with the package if you are a Founders Club Member…Instead, when you become an active member now AT ANY LEVEL– He said PUT NO LIMIT ON IT!!! This means by subscribing you are on Mike’s List Of Clients and you NEVER have to pay for his service..
He also said as a small token of his appreciation to those who are serving, or have served in the military Everything ( all of his services) are on the house and the same goes for those in Christian Pastoral ministry or retired from it.
Finally, if you want to become a member but cannot afford 25.00$ / Month we will offer scholarships if you can provide proof
. We also exchange services for memberships-if you have a skill we can use, or a product we can use..
Thanks in advance for trusting us and becoming Founding Club Members !
1-Your Blog Featured on separate page with founders only
2-Access to private database of services
*** Note – If you are wanting to bump up to GOLD but cannot afford it? Bring us 5 new members at any level and you got it .
(They must become followers of either Mike, Tj or both to be eligible.)
50.00- GOLD Member
1-Your Blog Featured on Separate page with Founders Members only
2-Access to private database of services
3- Founders Group Member Tag for your Homepage
4- A free hour per month of consultation with any of team! phone Email
NOTE! Want to become a Platinum member without the extra 50 bucks? No problem, bring us 5 Gold members!
1-Your Blog Featured on Separate page with Founders Members only
2-Access to private database of services
3-Founders Group PLATINUM Member Tag for your homepage
4-1 Guest post on the DLMK site per quarter to share your blog’s mission or post a blog of your choice (these will be highlighted and recognized as a Guest Post From Founding Member-available only to Platinum members)
5- 2 hours per month of personal consultation from an actual team member to help you identify the appropriate service for you or a loved one’s personal situation.via email or phone and if the situation calls for it.
100% confidential and no longer available to non followers.
We are also offering an entirely different type membership. They are Limited Partnerships – meaning only 10 of each are being considered at this time. The positions are for those who are aggressively pursuing some specific goals in a business, career or any pursuit that would require high-profile connections or simply need to do more than run a small business, and need the help of a larger group to help them to the next level.
We designed these slots with a few things in mind. One is to help some of our own followers achieve their goals, so in the future they can pay it forward and continue the mission that we have started. Another is to help us achieve our financial goals so we can begin doing what we do best, help others. The financial investment for the Executive is 500/monthly and the Boardroom is 1000/month. It is the highest level of commitment on both sides that exists.
In some ways these are open to what the two sides can do for each other. We have the advantage of being able to be flexible and creative.
The primary differences between the two is one has access to the board of directors on certain issues and has a voice and even a vote on issues related to the services fund-raising project. The Boardroom Access partner is that person.
There is a process to discuss either of these. If you are interested contact Tj to set up a phone conference -firstname.lastname@example.org.
occasionally we will have a need for a staff member and offer it out as a regular position. Right now we are looking to fill a few part-time executive assistant positions in exchange for platinum memberships .
We hope you find just the right opportunities so we can see you grow while we grow!
thanks Mike Carey and Tj Petri
Mike Carey is the owner of alternativesolutions4health- and our new partner .
Since meeting him I have never ceased to be amazed at the new things I learn . I had to share this quick fact sheet of things he shares on his site …
Well, I thought after 4 years maybe I should introduce myself… to my ” inner circle”.
What you are about to read is all true folks- except for some rumor about the home in the background of the picture of my wife and I -being my ” Guest House” – Right… On a Social Workers salary? Not!…
Its actually just our own humble abode. We cannot afford ” guest houses”.
Ok, alright – just got a” friendly” nudge from my wife (ouch) to tell the ” whole ” truth. So It’s actually the Biltmore Hotel, and ” technically speaking” we used our life savings to spend 2 nights there 12 years ago… Whats the big diff?
Some people are just dream-killers.
Anyhow this really is my story in a snapshot… ..
Over and over in the media we hear and see it. The constant reminder of the current drug epidemic in our world. Its true, we have a huge problem – especially in the area of opiates and heroin. Here is the question that rolls through my mind whenever I read one of the ” young man dies from apparent overdose” headlines; Who caused the accident? Are so many people who use drugs today so low functioning that they ” accidentally ” shoot up 3x too much – or take 10 more pills then they know is lethal? I doubt it.
So what could it be? I ll tell you in a minute. First let me give you an example of another scenario. I know of a guy who came home from the hospital after some major surgery. The first night home he reached for his prescribed medicines. There was a narcotic pain killer, an anti-inflammatory, a sleep aide ( ambien, I believe) , blood thinners, and 1-2 other insignificant ones. He took his medicine as prescribed.
Within 4 hours he was outside ( 2:30am) -yard hopping, hiding behind big areas of grass ( he called them bunkers), lying on his stomach and ” defending his country – so he thought. Hours later when the ” war” was over he went to the local 7-11 where he was sure the secret service planned to pick him up ( undercover) to take him to see President Bush, who was going to present him an award for outstanding bravery. It gets even crazier but I think you all get the point. Plus, I don’t want anyone to figure out that the man in the story is me..
In my case the doctor called it a ” rare drug interaction ” and switched my medications.
Here is my point; if I had been found dead, or God forbid committed a crime during that ” experience” there is no question that the headline would have read something like this ” man on drugs goes on war rampage” or ” man checked into psychiatric unit after apparent drug overdose”. You get the point.
Its way too easy for doctors or law enforcement to lead the public to false conclusions to protect what may incriminate them…
I wanted to take a minute and introduce you all to a man who I have come to know in the last year named Dileep. He is from India and he is a full-time analyst for a day job. What he does with the rest of his time is incredible and worthy of a ” 7 ” minute read lol..
Dileep is a Christian who has a small congregation in a very poor part of Guntar, India. Very bad things happen to little children there to earn money and he struggles to help his own flock with their basic needs of food and clothing. However as you can see on the website in pictures, they are not concerned so much with their own needs as they are the country that they love so much and the people who cannot even get a meal of some beans and rice. They want people to be able to eat without committing horrendous crimes or just starving.
He leads his congregation in wrapping and delivering any small amounts of food they can get and delivering it to these starving people. Take a minute to look a the website, inside their church and the people. Look at the pride in their eyes also as they prepare meager amounts of food to deliver for the Christmas Holiday. To me, it is amazing.
We all complain at some time or another about not having this or that..when the truth is we Americans live in the top 4-5% of the world when it comes to luxuries. We just take them for granted.
The letter below is an actual recent one Dileep messaged me so I thought I would share it with you all. You can hear the humility in his words, and I can tell you its genuine. Last time I checked this blog has visitors or followers from more than 65 countries, including India. I am not going to ask you to do anything specific financially for the ministry, as we don’t do that here. But I sure would not mind if a bunch of us helped in whatever way we can. Small monthly gifts or a one time gift can feed more people there then you would believe. We spend more at a dinner out with our family then they do to feed beans to dozens of families.
So I am asking that you take a minute to glance at his site and read his short letter.
What happens from there is between you and him. What happens in India, stays in India, right? lol….Or do I have that confused with another place….Anyhow thanks for checking it out – He is a good, good man. I hope we can assist in some way.
I guess I wasn’t very clear on my post about Mike Carey -some are asking about mental health issues.
If you are currently seeking treatment for any Mental Health –Behavioral Health or Addictions Issue – YES!
DO NOT go and spend hundred’s or thousands of dollars on anything before you contact Mike ..
He has also helped many people with these issues as well. Whether you’re just seeking treatment – or you have been getting treatment with little success-
Contact him while you can.
Read the testimonials on his site here. Then make the call. His contact info is on this site below.
OUR FIRST PARTNER IN THE PROVISION OF SERVICES!
For a year or more I have been posting about the fact that we will at some point be providing services for mental and behavioral health, as well as a myriad of coaching and counseling services for addictions and many other needed services, right here, from the Don’t Label My Kid! site, and for our followers. As you know, I started this blog with the intention of educating the general public on issues related to our obsession in America with ” labeling ” almost all of us with some sort of ” disorder ” and medicating just about anyone old enough to swallow pills.
If you have read my home page, which I know many if not all have, you know how strongly I feel about the business side of mental health that only takes place in America – and for good reason. Big pharmaceutical companies are BILLION dollar industries, and the ” circle of love ” as I call it on the home page, expands throughout much of the psychiatric industry. I don’t to belabor the point as I went into it extensively at the start of this blog and most of you here today are here at least in part because you, or someone you know has or is suffering from a mental, behavioral, or addictive issue that although treated in the past, has not improved.
I cannot say for certain that all of you fall into that category but I can say just from your feedback, comments and emails to me that several thousand if not more do have an issue related to it or another medical issues that has kept you following this blog, and reading the 500 posts on here. In a nutshell, we all have some family or personal issue that we feel we may get support from here together as a group. I know I have benefited greatly from what you all have shared, and I like to think that my 20 years in the field and my research and writing here has helped many in some way or another.
In the last year or so, I have been closer then ever to identifying who I would like to have here providing services to you all and anyone you know, via virtual counseling and coaching and yes I even have a model and plan I have been sharing with major providers who agree with all of us that this over medicated and over labeled society needs change. There are good providers who don’t hand out med’s like candy and order years of useless therapy that only serves to keep people depressed and doctors paid-in some cases. I will tell you that it is coming soon! Not just effective treatment with the least amount of drugs and therapy – but the most cost effective as well. I have been talking to only the BEST in the industry and expressing the concern we all have over the excessive costs of services..
I ma going to end that segment now because I can barely contain myself on what I am about to share..
Every once in a blue moon you meet or have a business connection with someone who just operates on an entirely different level then most of us. The amazing results and the unbelievable savings in care just stand out from everyone else. The man I am proud to introduce to you right now, starting this day as our very first partner in the pursuit of creating a new standard of care for healthcare in general- is a man who not only has results- in his years of service that are amazing- and testimonies that never seem to end- but also about diseases and ailments that nobody has had much if any success with.
He is an expert is not only the nutritional ingredients in the healing of the human body, but he has a gift – and that is what it is- a GIFT that I have never seen in my life to assist people not to treat symptoms of major diseases, but actually watch them disappear in weeks or months of working with him. I must stop now before I get too excited and write three more pages about his career…lol
However with just a quick click of a link here you can read and see for yourself the kind of incredible healing that takes place under his guidance. Not only that but he works like we need him to, virtually and by phone, from anywhere in the world. I never had hopes of landing such a man for our site, and I was extremely surprised that he was even willing to work with anyone referred from this site at very very reasonable rates. I jokingly asked if he could throw in the first call / consultation from any of my followers for free! ( hey why not go for it) and he said YES.
Now I will let you read his credentials and experience, and wait for the catch, like I did…but there is no catch and here is why. Mike Carey is a man who recognizes he was given a gift to help others. Its a rare gift and he could easily use it to exploit people who are hurting and sick and need his help. Instead he does the opposite. He bends over backwards for his clients and as you will see he even keeps contact with the families of the person who was sick, and allows them to call him if one of their family members falls ill!
Ok -I need to stop and let you all have his contact info and website and all – I am totally overwhelmed that he is partnering with us like this and I know you all will be very thankful when you realize what he is willing to do for us, in part because he knows we all have struggles and are trying to help others through our blogging.
Without further rambling- Mike Carey can be reached at 208-968-5797 and his email is email@example.com
and testimonials I believe at
***OBVIOUSLY PLEASE TAKE TIME TO READ THROUGH ALL OF HIS INFORMATION ***
Before calling him so we don’t waste any of his time and so you know what specific questioins to ask..
I will obviously be dedicating some space on the blog to put all of his contact info and more of his endless list of happy customers! For now, use the above info to contact Mike.
After reading this how do you feel about your diagnosis or your family member’s diagnosis?
Are they valid?
I see you are in support of this Trump philosophy. Maybe you should take a closer look at the man. Billionaire? Right. You fail to mention he has 3 corporate bankruptcies under his belt. Who cant pull that off?
He is taking advantage of his position and using this country for his own gain. Doesn’t the man have any morals ? Is he aware that each time he gets in front of a camera or writes anything he represents this nation, our children included?
How do we explain the exploitation of this sort to our children who are trying to make a daily impact on for the good?
He seems to be able to sleep very well even while abusing his authority and basically making his own rules up. Writing his own paychecks basically. And he seems to be in it in part just for the publicity.. Where are his morals?
Psychiatrists of America
Rev Albert Sharpton
Miley ( anywhere with anyone) Cyrus
Mr. Barry Obama ( medal of honor recipient )
Thank you all for checking in. I realize that Trump is not the only one to accomplish billionaire status. There are almost 1200 others in the WORLD who have ridden that train Thats almost , like .00001% of the general population. My bad.
As far as publicity , I think it goes with the job. And YES Reverend Al, I kept my promise to post your name first after any companies, and YES, I did send your secretary a copy.
I resemble a recent post on your log implying I have demettia. I resemble that post .Too.The only reason I didn’t come out in public much in my 6 years at the white house is .well I’ll get back on that. Anyways,
And shuffleboard is so much fun.
Please dont use my ” they wanna put y’all BACK in chains ” comment to the black audience as a platform to make fun of me.
I love those people. As far as I see it they should have every right us whites have.
So again, please cease from gossiping about me.
VP Joe Biden
Sunny Days Retirement
My apologies Mr Biden. It was a shotgun reaction on our end. And sir, shake a leg on the shuffleboard.
I ran across this picture in one of your old posts . So you think its humorous that 3 men offer up their own firearms to Cher? Suicide is funny?
Jack Kevorkian Jr.
Dear Mr Kevorkian,
I am in total disagreement with those three men. Personally I would never offer up my firearm and an expensive hollow point.