Why Is It That Rappers Can Have A Laundry List Of Felony Charges But In The End It’s About The Upcoming Record Deal?

 

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I get the whole ” bad boy ” image that is necessary today to be a rapper- but where is the line? Sex with a 13 YEAR OLD nets this dude probation and a ” promise not to get arrested for two years?” Huh?

So after the duece is up all bets are off and feel free to break the law – maybe post some pics of 13 year olds again? If any of us non rappers did any of those things we would be cuffed and stuffed and be doing a whole lot more than writing an apology letter..just sayin…

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Parenting 101 ( + 1/2)… How You Gain And Retain Respect From Your Children.

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Hey you parents! Listen up I got something real good for ya!

Its been awhile since I have written on parenting. Some recent events have prompted me to write a post one of what I consider most of the biggest issues in parenting today-Respect.

For those who have been with me awhile you know that a major part of my life as a social worker has been teaching parenting. I did not learn what I know about this from one of my degrees or any formal education. My learning was experience in life first as a foster parent to over 40 teens, then as a parent to my 4 children.

I say this so if you do not know me, you can trust what I am saying to be true. So here we go with the issue of respect.

In every parenting class I have taught, parent I have worked with in counseling settings and in all of my 20 years in social work I have seen this issue of how to gain and maintain the respect of your child. You see, people generally err on the side of ” strictness” and yelling and screaming at their kids, or they err on the other side, which is that they roll over and become a living breathing doormat for their children.

The first type lean towards emotional abuse, and actually tear down confidence in the child, and occasionally out of sheer fear they obey…until they cannot take it anymore and they rebel completely. Those abusive parent yelling at kids all the time parties do not last long before one or both sides blow a gasket.

The second type, the doormats are the one who we see in public and listen to their teens call them names and curse and them as if they were buddies having an argument. Here is a memo to you parents this just in -YOU ARE NOT YOUR CHILD’S BUDDY! You are not there to be a punching bag or to be a negotiator with your kid. You are there to set boundaries, teach skills, and issue correction and reward depending on the circumstance.

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The biggest problem with parents in the first category os their pride. They feel like if they want to verbally abuse their kid, its their right. Even though they are getting ZERO respect from the child in his heart, they cannot overcome their temper tantrums and learn to speak with their kids in a normal voice tone no matter what the issue. Here is the trick- Let the consequence do the work. The advantage of having rules is that when one is broken you can already have consequences that are natural and logical in place.

For example, if my son gets an hour per school night, after his homework to play video games, and I see that its been 2 hours and he has taken advantage of me, I do not need to get “mad” at him. i need to teach him responsibility. I would say “Hey Johnny, sorry that you chose to use 2 hours up on your video games on a school night, so tomorrow you lost your video privileges . Try to remember next time, ok buddy. I love you, goodnite.”

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There is no need for some long drug out fight where you wear each other down until one gives in or up. If you have taught your child how to speak to you whether getting a reward or a consequence, giving a consequence should never be a problem.

The moral of this story is you MUST have boundaries that are very clear and understood by both sides, and you NEVER bend the rules because they cry loud, call you a rotten parent or whatever. If you have never been hated by your child at some point, you have never been a parent.

Now this next part is even more important than anything I have said, and I am going to end with it. If you never learn anything about parenting again, remember this one thing.

You MUST believe that your child wants boundaries. They WANT boundaries. We all want boundaries. If I got on the expressway tomorrow and a new sign read,

” NEW LAW-NO RULES TO THE ROAD”,

I would be scared out of my mind to drive with some of the crazy drivers out there. If I went to look at a 50th floor condo and took a walk out the sliding door to see the balcony view out and the long way down, there better be a little fence or railing there to protect me! I am not walking out any balcony 50 floors up with no fence.

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Why? Is the fence that’s made of weak aluminum and stands 4 feet tall really going to stop me from falling or leaning over it? Of course not. But it sure makes me feel better that it is there!

In the same way your child wants boundaries to feel secure. They will never come up to you and say “can you please issue a few more rules for me dad?” However you must understand that after working with thousands of kids and parents, that those “cool ” and “easy” parents that let their kid do all the stuff they aren’t supposed to and talk to them like a buddy- guess what mom and dad ? When they are done using you and they are with their buddies, you’re a sucker, not a cool parent. When it comes to their security, you have given them zero.

Don’t ever kid yourself and think you can make up for lost ground or “get in good ” with your kid by bending the rules. All you’re doing is writing the word sucker on your back. No respect at all. You know who gets the respect? The parent who despite the pleading, whining or whatever refuses to change the rules. That my friends is what makes a kid feel safe.

It is a child’s job to test boundaries. My son Jesse ( he doesn’t read my stuff) is 20. When he was 4-6 years old he was the master of testing limits. I mean you draw a line at the beach and say “y’all can play as much as you want just stay in these boundaries”, he was the first one, always to almost run to that line and just barely slip his toe over it to see if I meant what I said. Boy oh boy, if you are a parent you know how much easier sometimes when you are tired to just give in and let it go.

But you cannot. You know why? You are making more work for yourselves when they get older and the issues are about using your truck, or prom night. You want them to know boundaries before the big show.

If you want respect from your child, you must play the parent. Doing the above, how I explained if you are not already will improve your life dramatically and your relationship with your children.

I hope this is helpful!

TJ

This Is An Example Of Why Don’t Label My Kid! Was Formed.

So we’ve got a 7 year old 4 ft 60 lb child rolling on the floor with the teacher and now the child will be labeled with some psychiatric tag for life and medicated. That’s what Florida’s Baker Act does.

7 years old, cuffed and stuffed!

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Don’t Label My Kid! – In The News!

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When Dr John DeGarmo contacted me about possibly contributing a piece for his upcoming December Blog Posting, I was without words. It’s not often you get an invitation from the guru of your trade to actually share your expertise. With more accolades and accomplishments in the Foster Care field than anyone I have known, I was caught off guard to say the least. I can honestly say that Dr. John and his wife are the only couple I know of who have had more foster kids live with them than I.

I have had 45! To be asked to give my opinion on an issue that is constantly under scrutiny by state and federal regulators was very satisfying and meant a lot to me.

I am glad to share both a proud moment of his – him and his wife being recognized by none other than Good Morning America and a very proud moment for myself, being honored as the guest poster on his incredible blog. First watch the clip below of GMA rightfully recognizing Dr. John’s work, and then please take a moment to read my first published post on his website. I am looking forward to working with Dr. Degarmo on future endeavors to keep the voice of children in need of parents alive..

TJ

Good Morning America Recognizes The DeGarmos!

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Visit Dr DeGarmos Site-  http://www.drjohndegarmofostercare.com/

Shop his store for a variety of his books, training materials, and look into his many webinars. He is also available for Foster Parent Coaching, and a myriad of consultative needs as well as conference leader/ keynote speaker at your next conference or gathering, The DeGarmos are trailblazers and their message needs to be heard!

 

What Role Do Grandparents Play In The Raising Of A Child? Guest Post!

Guest Post by Jane Sandwood-

 

The Essential Role of Grandparents and Child’s Upbringing

Anthropologist Margaret Mead once stated that the connection between family generations is essential for strong mental health and stability of a nation. In today’s culture of multi-carer and single-parent homes, having involved grandparents will go a long way to help fill in the void for children. According to research from the Generations United Organization, studies claim that children living with their grandparents have greater benefits in mental health, socialization, financial stability, and overall health than the general population.  If you ask any adult to recall a fond memory from their childhood, chances are most of them will include their grandparents. For children, this special bond with their grandparent gives them comfort and strength that sticks with them far into adulthood.

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Grandparents are the backbone and support of the entire family. In fact, about 7.8 million children in the United States alone live in households supported by grandparents. When both parents work full-time jobs, the grandparents are usually the ones who devote their time and energy towards the care of their grandchildren.

Benefits the Entire Family

According to research from Boston College, studies found that emotionally close ties between grandparents and adult grandchildren reduce symptoms of depression in both groups. Children who have a strong bond with their grandparents reveal to have a sense of emotional closeness and social support. A strong relationship will effectively model a healthy relationship and reduce the negative effects of their surroundings.

Source of Wisdom

As the elders, grandparents are the most experienced in raising children. However, most parents are unwilling to ask for help when they need it the most. Parents must look to grandparents in helping decide on major decisions and investments for their children and the entire family.

Child’s Playmates

Grandparents tend to have more patience and time on their hands, which allows them to become the child’s playmates. In many families, grandparents often watch their grandchildren when parents work or visit during the weekends. This allows parents to have someone they can rely on to talk about parenting and trust to watch their children when necessary.

There is no doubt that grandparents play a strong role in the mental health and upbringing of their grandchildren. The wealth of knowledge grandparents possess and the experiences they share cannot be found anywhere else. It is through them that children instill traditions, gain additional support and create values within the family.

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Foster Care Normalization. Is This An Oxymoron? Its Your Call . . . (Parenting 2017)

Normalization is a term that can be tossed around in certain circles when foster parenting is the topic. Some define it as the right of foster kids to have very similar opportunities as kids in traditional family homes. Not just material things, which most 14 year olds think they should have, such an X-Box and 2  hoodies. It means being able to attend groups, activities or school functions. just as their peers can and do. It means not lagging behind in anything in which they want to participate, due to their being in Foster Care.

The idea itself is wonderful, but how realistic is it to accomplish using State and Federal guidelines? We live in an ever-changing world with cultures that are very different from each other.  It is more important that a solid foundation is laid so the child has an adequate confidence level before worrying about whether they are getting into the same activities as everyone else. If I had to pick only one phrase in this whole entire post that one would retain for sure, it would be the following . . .

Normalization is achieved as a by-product of self-esteem and confidence. One cannot force normalization on old, beaten down souls in young bodies, without these strengths!

My work in live-in foster care was about six years and during that time I had over 40 teenagers, about six at a time in our home. Following those years, I spent most of my career working with the same population but in other venues.

In order to prepare for my career in foster care at Father Flanagan’s Boystown (beside my formal training in college as a social worker), I was trained 30 straight days before even being allowed to talk or speak with a child. Their program was probably the best I have ever seen as far as results go.  I believe this is due to the fact it was a family model as referred to in the industry. This model leans toward helping that group of people who are now together, function as much as possible like a family unit.  Our job depended on making sure that occurred. It was important that we would never be misconstrued to be an institutional-type setting, where a kid just felt like another number.

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So whether you’re a foster parent to 1 or 2 or 8, at whatever age, the first priority, in my opinion, should be building foundations.  Help them acquire the tools needed (confidence and self-esteem) to become normalized.  A natural outcome will include a sense of ownership, (in your home/family), so they can call your home, their home.

I live in Florida so we get hurricanes almost every year. This year we had Irma, which crushed our state, covering the entire state with its 100mph+ winds and severe flooding. After it was safe to return home, I was again reminded of the difference between the stick/ wooden homes that were mansions and once huge and stunning but which now looked like they were kicked over like a wooden match book.

However, as we came back to our smaller, non-mansion home,  we had power, and just some flooding, no damage to our brick foundation . Build your foster family on the brick foundation that holds its own during the storm. Once you have the solid foundation, the other things will fall in to place.

In closing, here are 5  key tips I used on all of my foster kids, and my 4 natural kids. Whether you are a foster parent now, may become one soon or currently have only your natural children, these work across the board.  They pertain to normalization because no insecure kid will be itching to participate in any activities without the tools needed on the inside.

Building the inside up first gives way for that needed experience and confidence necessary to transition into normalized activities.   I hope you enjoy these tips.  I assure you, after 20 years in direct care and with my own four kids, they work!

God bless you all.

 

TJ-Dont Label My Kid!

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Here Is Step One Of A Family Plan For Normalization. Implement These Keys! We coach and consult for on going plans and interventions needed in all things kids and families. Just contact us at Dontlabelmykid2@gmail.com or call directly  at 386-675-7549- Tj

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How To Parent Like A Boss- But Not Act Like One…

I spent about a third of my career living with and working with some of the most severely troubled kids as far as behaviors go. My task was to turn the behavior around so these kids could actually function in public settings. Not to just ” get by ” but to excel.

I was able to do so at a very high rate of success no matter what the family situation, or the life circumstances, as long as the kid could understand what  we were trying to accomplish. As long as they could function independently. For those with borderline IQ and developmental issues, I accomplished the same results but with a different system.

For now anyway I will share about how I worked with just your average kid. I’m going to lay out some tips for you to take control of your home and in such a way that everybody feels like they won..

I’ve written quite a bit on tips for parenting and different ideas. However I’ve not gone into a lot of detail on specific plans simply because I’m not sure that I will have an interactive audience and that people will appreciate what I’m going to lay out. So I’m going to try this today and see what the response is like – if you feel that it’s helping you and you’d like to hear the rest of the story ( which is not going to happen in one post) please let me know through your comments that you would like to hear the rest. This is something that took me over a decade to learn by experience and it’s not something I can lay out in one post but I can give you a great idea of how to change what you’re currently doing enough that it will make a difference in your life, in a short series.

I’m going to go ahead and call this an in-depth series on parenting and if it goes well we will  make it an ongoing series with the intent for you to ask questions and I answer questions according to your specific need and situation.  If I feel that it’s not drawing enough interest I will change it from in-depth-series to a drowned one. That is totally up to you.

The information I’m going to share with you will include information that I was paid by the state to train parents on, to train entire school districts of teachers on,  to work in home with families on,  as well as my five years as a living foster parent to around 35 teenagers.  I also have 4 kids of my own ages 6-22.

I’m going to start by naming a few basic fundamentals that must be in place before anything will be successful.

1- As a parent yelling and screaming at your child is about the worst thing you can do no matter what the circumstance.

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2-Your interactions with your child on a daily basis should include at least 10 positive comments to every 1 negative or criticizing statement. ( Yes it’s possible) The reason for this is simple; negative reinforcement ( yelling or putting one down NEVER changes behavior patterns for more than a minute, and hour, a day if your lucky. If you want real change, you need to identify what it is specifically you want to see happen from your child, tell them, and then wait. Keep waiting. Wait until you  ” catch them ” doing what you wanted. Now its high praise time. You don’t need to buy them an xbox or anything, just some verbal praise reminding them of what they did so well. Keep training your brain to catch them doing what they are supposed to , and keep reminding them that you noticed and giving them an age appropriate token of appreciation. For example a 7-year-old might like a hug. A 15-year-old might like a comment like,  ” you are really impressing me, keep this up and maybe we can talk about that ( enter whatever thing they have been bugging you about getting) soon!

3- Without specific skills and expectations for your child it’s impossible to succeed because there is no mutual understanding. Don’t assume your child can read your mind. Always incorporate the skills I will teach you into your daily dialogue with you child. I am going to provide you with a bunch of social skills to incorporate into your home. These should become common to hear in your daily conversations. There are dozens we can add but start slow with the major ones.

4- Do away with terms like ” be good ”  or ” don’t be bad” . Your idea of good maybe totally different then your child thinks of good as. Train yourself to start Identifying​ specifically what you expect . For example instead of  ” Jimmy , you be good while we are gone ” , say ” Jimmy please don’t forget to finish math, make your bed, and follow instructions of the sitter.”

5- Never, ever say  ” because I said so, that‘s why “- because – well just dont.

On of the major problems parents have is not keeping things realistic. Especially in issuing consequences. I can’t tell you how many times I have heard a parent say to their 10-year-old something like this – ” you keep on screwing up like this boy and you can forget about summer baseball league.

WHAT? This just in…10 year old kids have an attention span of a few minutes. You think they can connect on that kind of consequence when they are still thinking if they will get ice cream for dinner? Keep it real, and age appropriate. By the way, if the kid does comprehend that baseball might be out, whats the point of trying at anything now? Now you lost him for good.

The trick to all these pieces is to weave them into a motivation system that you design for your child that is permanent – a system that you both know backwards a forward and leaves 100% of the outcome up to the child. It’s all their choice. In a well-developed system, there is no power struggle, no yelling, at all. Simple, because the options are laid out beforehand clearly for the child. If she wants to earn x, she does this. If she does not care to follow any instructions she issues herself a consequence. No shocking angry threats, just a simple choice for the child, and they no what the outcome will be whether they do the right thing or not.

I have already gone further then I intended to without even knowing if people want and need what I have to say. Maybe you have parenting all figured out. You may not need me. However if you don’t fall into that group and like the rest of us you have struggled before, then I need you to make it known. Tell me through your comments what your area of need is and if you will benefit from this type teaching. Let me know that you will be involved in this series or not. I will not continue if nobody is willing to share that they need help.

Skills for today to start incorporating into your home.

1-Following instructions

A- look at the person

B-say ok.

C- complete the task 

4-check back when finished
2-Accepting No

A-look at the person 

B-say ok

( No eye rolling, body language or mumbling)

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Solving

Teach your child to use the SODAS method when they cannot  make up their minds on an issue. Role  play with them on this method so when  nobody is around to discuss a problem with your child has a way to make the right choices.

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If you need more specific and personalized information then what you see in the series, that is when you contact me for a personalized plan of care. 

 I have never turned anyone away for not being able to pay some sky-high fee. I will gladly help you put a system in place that is perfect for your family.

Contact me at tim@dontlabelmykid.com to set up a virtual appointment and discuss a personalized plan of care for your situation.

For now – lets see if you all need what I have to offer. Please make yourself known.

tj

 

 

Identity Crisis- For Reals..Pops.

Sometimes there are no words..only visuals can truly explain an issue of concern…

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wp-1495473459075. He’s down wit’ da truth, for reals.

I am seeing more of this everywhere I go. It matters not what the race and color, its interchangeable.

 

Meanwhile, Topping All Recent BS From Islam, Detroit  Man Sues Pizza Chain – Wants 100$ Million For Putting Pepperoni On Pie….

A Detroit Muslim has filed suit against Hungry Howie’s pizza for …putting pepperoni on his pie even though he ordered it 2x. Yes this is real ..

Seems like they have double standards…because down the road a piece , maybe a goat ride away they are not as sanitary as they could be.

Another Body … Just Another Bum.. A Drunk Most Likely… Should Have Made A Life For Himself. Right? No. That Could Be Us…. { Turning The Corner- Don’t Label My Kid! Lets Do It!} 2017- Taking It Up A Level..We Need Each Other..

Mental Health. Looks like this pretty much , right?  I took this picture 2 days ago. You know why? I assumed when I contacted the law to pick the body up they may want some documentation of when and where I found the guy.  Not that its any big deal, I see these bums all day long here in Daytona. Heck You and me could have ended up like that if we didn’t make the right choices, right? Whatever. Who are we kidding. But for the grace of God, there goes me.

In this case I got to walk away feeling better then I initially thought. You see, when I realized he was stiff, and smelled bad I just instinctively went to see if he had any ID to give the law. I was quite shocked when he about jumped when my hand touched his jacket pocket. He was alive! Sort of. Mike, as I later learned was his name was so scared I came to hurt him that he was shaking, I sat down with him and told him it was all good and I help people like him. I am a social worker. I help all people. No matter the age, race, issues, addictions, etc.

I know you cant see all that well in this picture as far as his age and all, but after we had talked awhile he shared a little about his life. Take a guess as to his age? Just do it, ball park.

Mike is 51.

I was able to offer him some options that he never knew were there. I know because that is my gift. We all have gifts, and in my case I have the ability to identify what people need to make their situation the very best it can be. I have done it for my entire career as a clinical social worker. I have worked with teens, parents, mental health patients, addicted folks, poverty stricken, violent people, even the most seriously developmentally disabled people in the world, literally. I have been called on to improve the quality of life for those who are deaf, dumb, blind, and aggressive. Can you imagine? The people in that arena that I ran programs for were abused so badly as babies that even though many were born ” normal” they had some of the most evil parents and caregivers you could imagine. Tossed in dumpsters as babies left to die, left on the hot Florida beaches as infants simply because the mom or dad was too lazy to bring them to a fire station or another outlet who would gladly have taken them in.

I started a school for 60 felons, ages 11-18. Gang members, 12 year old kids running crack at 3am on school days for their own parents. I lived for 5 years with 45 teens who were sexually abused very severely. Every group of people I worked with I was so thankful to have a God given gift to see through the outside and meet the true need on the inside. Now, before anyone thinks I am bragging – it could not be further from the truth. I am so  ” ungifted ” in some areas that men should be – lol- I remember a time when I had my young boys with me in my truck and I noticed my wipers were bad. I could not see through them. I stopped at the Auto Zone , ordered up 2 wipers in a manly voice…and spent the next 30 minutes in the parking lot trying to figure out how to put the blades on until my 7 year old son took pity on me. He installed them in 5.

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If you have followed me long you will note that although I share my personal struggles, and trials, I have never laid out an ” I love me post” about my accomplishments in my gifts. One reason is because I realize it is a gift. I can help anyone, in any situation, no matter what the circumstances. I just don’t feel comfortable bragging about something that I was given. Oh, believe me – I can hang with the best of the braggers. I have the degrees, the awards and all that jazz. I could not even tell you where any of them are right now. I don’t care. I care about educating people and helping them save time, money and stress.

What I love most about what I do is I know every single job duty all those people and more have. But I don’t have to become each one. I sure can steer you to who will actually help you and who wants your money. I can tell you that in many cases I have not been able to get to the parent or family in time before they got taken for a ride to the tune of tens of thousands of dollars and more. That’s the reason I am so determined to hold providers of mental health, addictions, behavioral health, and juvenile delinquents accountable for what they do. I know what they should be doing – but you don’t. I am not a psychiatrist, but if you have ever read my home page ” mental heath- its a crazy business” you know I do not mince words. Why? I know the truth.. Do want to know how many doctors or psychologists, psychiatrists have written me nasty letters over the 4 years I have been slamming them? ZERO.

I am sharing this for a reason. I am hanging my shingle again. For 4 years I have poured my heart out on here about my entire life. Its time to help you all get to where you need and want to be. And I am asking you to trust your family or personal needs into my care. I make the same promise I have kept my entire career. I will NEVER leave you broken. An I will certainly never leave you broke.  I don’t discharge my families when they go through a rough patch financially. I love using my gift. You may have noticed I have never taken a dime for any thing here, I do not sell ads like some. This audience that you all are was hand picked. I have never connected to the internet, other then this WordPress sight.

Last check this blog has had visitors from 65 countries ( that I know of ) and followers from at least 25 that I know of. That’s not my doing. It is no accident. You all are here for a reason. I am here to help.

When Mike Carey came along and was willing to join with this mission, I was and still am ecstatic. Why? Because Mike and I share a similar passion. We both love to use our gifts to help others. We both will never leave anyone hanging until they are well.  I am gong to show you a real life example of how God has already used Mike in my own family. Most of you know I have 2 grown boys, and 2 baby girls. Well, babies to me, they are 5 & 10.

This is my baby Shelbi..

My baby had 72 sticks with a needle that her doctor insisted on to test for allergies. For nothing. Next up he said – blood work! No. No way.. But what can I do? Better late then never – I called our resident gifted man in the healing of diseases. He said ” you took her where” ? ( made me feel even lower lol) –  No more he said , get her on the phone with me tonight for a minute or two. I was thinking to myself-  Hello!! What was I thinking? Tonight Shelbi said hello to Mr. Mike for about 2 minutes, and 10 minutes later he says ” oh she has some poisoning in her system and a viral infection. Go to your local health food store and get 2 items ( like 5 bucks each) and in 7 days it will be gone.

HUH?? What? Why did I forget the other people I have sent to him who had major diseases go away? Anyways no blood work and that’s  Mikes gift.

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If you need physical healing – take advantage of  this gift right in front f you . If its healing in any other area, call on me. I work on a case by case basis, until the job is done. I want you all to take this email address down.

Dontlabelmykid2@gmail.com – to help with Tj-

that is your direct line to me. I will be adding a toll free number as well but for now get me there. I will develop with you what I call a  “Plan of Care ”

There is NO issue you can throw at me that I havent done a hundred times. Confidentially we will put it all in place and work it out financially It sure would make me feel good if you all would entrust your needs to Mike and I. I thank you in advance . .

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With all we are trying to accomplish through this platform of Don’t Label My Kid!  It would really make a big difference if you all would commit to utilizing the gifts that Mike and  I have- for your own family. so that we can keep on helping others and continue trying to do what we do ..put pedophiles away -heal families -help addicts-  bring families together and just grow spiritually , emotionally and physically.

God Bless you all . Please Step up for this..

Tj

 A Little About Me. The Guy Behind Don’t Label My Kid!- Tj -Up Close And Personal..**sorry for issues with link will have fixed in a few hours. ..

 

Well, I thought after 4 years maybe I should introduce myself… to my ” inner circle”.

 What you are about to read is all true folks- except for some rumor about the home in the background of the picture of my wife and I -being my ” Guest House” – Right… On a Social Workers salary? Not!…

Its actually just our own humble abode. We cannot afford ” guest houses”.

Ok, alright – just got a” friendly” nudge from my wife (ouch) to tell the ” whole ” truth. So It’s actually the Biltmore Hotel, and ” technically speaking” we used our life savings to spend 2 nights there 12 years ago…   Whats the big diff?

Some people are just dream-killers.

Anyhow this really is my story in a snapshot…    ..

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Urgent! Trump Finds 22 Islamic ‘Training Camps’ In America – Obama Ignored Them (Video)

Love him or hate him for it,  President Trump is just determined to break that darn tradition of the Islamic cult.  Terrorism.  Click the link below for the story.

                               

    OOPS! Hey- What’s A Few Terrorist Cells Amongst Friends?

 

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Mailbag! Answering The Hard Questions..

Dear DLMK,

I see you are in support of this Trump philosophy. Maybe you should take a closer look at the man.  Billionaire? Right. You fail to mention he has 3 corporate bankruptcies under his belt. Who cant pull that off? 

He is taking advantage of his position and using this country for his own gain.  Doesn’t the man have any morals ? Is he aware that each time he gets in front of a camera or writes anything he represents this nation, our children included?

How do we explain the exploitation of this sort to our children who are trying to make a daily impact on for the good?

He seems to be able to sleep very well even while abusing his authority and basically making his own rules up. Writing his own paychecks basically. And he seems to be in it in part just for the publicity.. Where are his morals?
Sincerely, 

Psychiatrists of America

Rev Albert Sharpton

Arnold Schwarzenegger

Stephen King

Stephan Hawking 

Miley ( anywhere with anyone) Cyrus
CNN

Charlie Sheen

Robert Deniro

Meryl Streep

Mr. Barry Obama ( medal of honor recipient )
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Thank you all for checking in. I realize that Trump is not the only one to accomplish billionaire status. There are almost 1200 others in the WORLD who have ridden that train Thats almost , like .00001% of the general population. My bad.

As far as publicity , I think it goes with the job. And YES Reverend Al, I kept my promise to post your name first after any companies, and YES, I did send your secretary a copy. 

DLMK

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Dear DLMK,

I resemble a recent post on your log implying I have demettia. I resemble that post .Too.The only reason I didn’t come out in public much in my 6 years at the white house is  .well I’ll get back on that. Anyways,

And shuffleboard is so much fun. 

Please dont use my  ” they wanna put y’all BACK in chains ” comment to the black audience as a platform to make fun of me. 

I love those people. As far as I see it they should have every right us whites have. 

So again, please cease from gossiping about  me. 

VP Joe Biden

Sunny Days Retirement

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My apologies Mr Biden. It was a shotgun reaction on our end. And sir, shake a leg on the shuffleboard.

DlMK

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Dear DLMK,

I ran across this picture in one of your old posts . So you think its humorous that 3 men offer up their own firearms to Cher? Suicide is funny?

Jack Kevorkian Jr.

Dear Mr Kevorkian,

I am in total disagreement with those three men. Personally I would never offer up my firearm and an expensive hollow point. 


What Is A Successful Blog? Everyone’s Asking. Here Is My Answer.

3.24 minute read. A successful blog is one that you share your true feelings, dont worry about what readers think because the ones that should be following you will. 

A successful blog doesnt need to tell people how to have a successful blog, because they aren’t selling anything . If they are its something people actually need.

A successful blog doesnt pay someone to pump numbers up. If their content is legit the people will come. 

Who among us cannot pay someone to get a million followers? Do it old skool. Act like what you have to say has meaning and dont be afraid of rejection. Thats a successful blog, to me.

Tj

Bad News Everyone.   We Have All Been Taken.  …Ptsd, Bipolar, Anxiety and all the others – Dont even exist. ..Now What?

Now as we are getting closer to actually offering REAL services and REAL truth about mental illness, addiction, DSM V , psychology, psychiatry, PTSD , ADHD, and every other issue affecting us all, I need to recap a few issues. 

The beliefs  of Don’t Label My Kid! are not my opinion. Not someone’s philosophy. They are facts. Facts by way of 2 routes. 

1- I personally have lived it. 

2- I have witnessed /worked with at least 500 people in any given duagnoses who have been treated -and documented results. .

The next issue can easily be misinterpreted, so please be careful in reading what I am saying .

The DSM V is the Bible of psychiatry. As you know each of us who has been tagged with a label has been tagged by criteria from this book. 

The acronym actually is for Diagnostic and Statistical manual of Mental health disorders. 

Diagnostic and Statistical Manual of Mental Disorders (Book by American Psychiatric Association).

https://goo.gl/search/Diagnostic+and+Statistical+Manual+of+Mental+Disorders

Here is something quite surprising to many. The book is 100℅ theory with not a shred of any statistics in it. No scientific evidence of anything other than the fact it is a money machine. 

As a matter of fact it is developed and updated every few years by psychiatrists themselves who literally meet in a group of 200 or so anonymously and make up new disorders to diagnose. They pitch an idea , take it to vote, and if  all in favor is greater, it . Dont take my word.. Watch.

http://wp.me/p4LbqX-c

Meanwhile just by sheer coincidence, lol …The big drug companies just happened to have come out with a drug to treat the new disorder. They are even allowed to pay the doctor to write patients for their new drugs. 

 What are we to do with this information?  Does this mean none of us have addiction problems or mental health issues? Of course not. It just needs to be known so people can weigh that out in their decisions to take meds, see a psychiatrist or psychologist or neither. 

Very few parents I’ve worked with knew the difference between  the two professions. 

Another issue is psychotropic medication. I’ve been on 15-20 or so. When I went to investigate who makes them and what proof they could provide that they were effective, I was amazed at what i found..

1st- clinical studies- which are supposed to be mandatory for new drugs are both deceiving and sometimes non-existent. The  FDA is supposed to gate-keep,  but they have very loose rules. 

2- Big pharma is a Billion dollar industry. Not only do they put out drugs that have never shown any real success, but they even seem to mock the victims of their failed drugs. 

 For example about 2 years ago, one of the mega drug companies issued a public statement regarding  some of the antidepressants they had on the market for teens with major depression/suicidal thoughts. 

They announced that they were sorry to announce that 12/13 of the  drugs they marketed to those teens not only did  NOT work, but CAUSED suicidal thoughts. Oops.. .

You would think they would do something right? Nope. They stll sell the same drugs today. 

When I read all of your  comments there is a common theme. Whether it be PTSD or depession/suicidal thoughts , most of you are dissatisfied with any treatment you have attempted. This does not have be the case. 

 What we are doing as a group is using our numbers and experiences on this platform to get effectve treatmenr from successful providers who will not just provide services for us, but effective and individual services with results. 

Here is the point we all need to get . 

Regardless of how we all feel about the DSM or psychiatry in general. 

STOP GIVING YOUR LABEL SO MUCH POWER! 

It is man made. You are not. You do not have to stay where you are.

Some of you have absolutely decided to live out the prophecy given to you by some doctor. Get over that .

 Dont let the tail wag the dog. Yes the symptoms are real. Yes they affect you. Stop there and start joining us who are trying to move forward. The worst thing people can do is get involved in groups where people sit around and talk about how miserable their lives are because of their disorder. 

Thats why AA and NA have 20% success rates. When I had to go to AA for 30 days in my 30’s – I had to down a 12 pack in the parking lot just to get through it.

We need real help with real results. Thats what we are about. Not learning to drag labels around through our lives. OK? 

Thats what I do. I have worked with the best. I have started my own programs  with great success. If I wasn’t sure all of you could get better I would not have wasted 4 years writing 400 articles. 

Oh and just FYI, you know just by my homepage how hard  I am on drug makers and doctors who exploit people that don’t need meds or labels. I called them out right from the start. How many arguments do you think I have received from doctors or therapists or drug makers?

ZERO. NONE. BECAUSE ITS TRUE. 


Now onto solutions. 

As of yesterday I have an investor interested  awaiting some data and things from us.  If it looks good he is willing to help us provide services                  INTERNATIONALLY! 

He needs some data obviously before dropping serious cash . 

1-One issue is what types of disorders are affecting the most people.Please note in a comment or reply to a post the name or names of the disorder you or your loved one struggles with. You need not tell details just the name for data collection.

2- If anyone here is an expert in fundraising or knows a philanthropic person interested in treatment please contact me asap.If you have other ways to raise funds quickly let me know. Crowdfunding or whatever. Investors dont pay for the expenses of getting the plan together. 

It’s going to be about 10k to pay the experts to design the things we need Develop and present business plan. . Web design, languages,  marketing, and consulting. When that is secured and the others are done we can possibly be able to initiate services worldwide. Let’s just start by using the resources you have. Things work out for us when we pull together. 

OK ,keep doin what we do!  Don’t forget to add in the type of disorder you or your family member deals with..Also I recently started a Facebook Group called Break Through. Sign in as a member there as well.! 

Tj