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Don’t You Dare. Unless You Been There. Just Dont…

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Don’t you dare tell somebody suffering from the disease of addiction that they need to “snap out of it” or think about their family- unless you been there. Do you understand that no addict has ever asked or wanted or desired to be in addict? Has it ever occurred to you that addicts at some point in their life  usually go through periods where they feel like they might as well take their life because they’re causing more pain then good?

Don’t you dare talk to the clinically -major depressed person and tell them that we all go through sad times and they need to fight through it and buck up- and just work their way through it. Have you ever been so physically- emotionally- mentally paralyzed you wanted to move and do things but you couldn’t even get your socks on and think straight and find any reason why you should even wake up the next morning? Have you ever had your children ask you how come you can’t work right now? How come you’re not working like everybody else and they think it’s because you’re lazy when they have no idea that you haven’t slept more than 30 minutes in a month?

Don’t you dare tell somebody they need to pray more and obey God and that’s why they’re having problems in their life when you don’t have any idea how much time they put into prayer and bible study or whatever to seek God in their life -probably more than you ever will even think about doing.

Dont you dare point your finger at someone who has lost everything because of a disease that put them in the hospital for years of surgeries and even had their own spouses walk out on them because they got sick due to no cause of their own. Have you ever felt so depleted that you feel like everything you try to do is 10x harder in life- then had the people who supposedly love you point their finger at you about the hardship you have caused- over and over? Then Dont.

Dont you dare coach someone on how to get re-established in the workforce and income when you have no idea that your 2 hours a day spent sending out resumes is a damn joke compared to the all night sessions for months with no sleep putting together resumes and sending out proposals – networking and doing 10x more than you to find work?

Just Dont.

Dont you dare take advantage of someone elses misfortune by exploiting them or pressing them for that 100$ they owe you- unless you have been through the same misfortune. If you are a parent dont you ever use your spouses situations to manipulate your kids into thinking that you just dont care. You are an evil person who will not go unpunished.

Had a few rough days? Maybe a funeral for a family member got you down? Dont you dare walk around claiming you have Bipolar Disorder because a few mood swings have come your way. Believe me – you dont want to know what that is really like. Unless you have sufferred to the extent and length of time of the other- keep it zipped.

Dont you dare question the PTSD symptoms of someone who has lived through more in a year than you have in your life. Why are the vets who come home totally disabled and suicidal condsidered heroes but you tell your loved one to ” buck up” and move forward?  Have you grown up in an alcoholic, abusive, violent environment and gone on to live through a family members suicide, full blown addiction, major depression that 20 different medications didnt touch, been struck down with a disease that put you in the hospital for 6-7 surgeries over 4 years that caused you to have to tell your kids they cant live in their house anymore? Then Dont.

I have lived through all of those things and let me tell you it sucks to have especially the ones you love and thought loved you bail out and mock your situation- compare you to others who have never been through any of it. Oh, and the above is only a shortlist- a partial listing of the things some of us have lived through. I dont ever talk about the REAL serious stuff- lest someone suggest I am looking for pity. I dont want anyones pity.

But I am not afraid to give an occasional reality check to those who need it.

Its really something to spend the first 20 years in your career working for peanuts but choosing a profession that is designed to help others. Making yourself available 24/7 for anyone who is suicidal or just needs help and then fast forward to a period in your own life when you walk through even darker and longer times than those you helped- yet those who even know this have the stones to criticize you.

If you are one of those people- here is a word of advice-

-STAY IN YOUR OWN LANE-

If you feel the need to address the issues in someone elses life that you are not familiar with-

Shut up and help.

Peace

tj

Parents – Do You Know For Sure That Your Child Is Not On Hard Core Porn Or Worse? Really Know?

So I was asked to answer a tough question on this topic on Quora. Here is the question and my answer. Very thought provoking question. Click link below..

A Question Of How To Stop Kids With The Internet

 

Today’s Pick Me ( & You ) Up Song Is One Of My Favorites…

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 Kryponite – 3 Doors Down…

 

Don’t ask me why – but one of my bucket list items was to do a ” Superman ” on my Honda CR250 Dirt Bike while this song blasted…. weird  I know – but it is what it was…lol- but the song is awesome for anyone to start their day! Note – When the video comes on you may have to press ” skip ad ” after 5 seconds….

Click the blue and crank it up!

TJ

I Was Not Going To Share This But It Is Still Bothering Me.. So See What You Think. FB Lady Calls Me A Pervert.

 

 

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A few days ago I was invited to a FB group that focuses on depression and anxiety and all. I offered up my site for articles and my contacts for personal help. Everyone was happy to see some help arrive since all they all do basically is get on each night and complain how miserable their lives are.

Everyone was happy except one lady who decided to make a comment about a picture I posted of me and my daughter. She said ” I wonder if he is a pervert ?”

I cannot tell you how many words I had in my mind to respond. But I held back on all that- and just called her a bitch. . Was I out of line?

I am very easy to get along with but mess with my family and its on.

Ok I vented so any input?

tj

Tough Life You Got Do Ya? This Blog Will Make Your Life Seem Like A Disney Ride…

New Blog On The Block – His Excellent Grace

 

Every once in awhile we all get to feeling like we have it just a little tougher than the rest. Then you get hit between the eyes with what longsuffering and a hard life is REALLY like…I promise as you follow the true trials one family has had with a daughter who has up to 30 violent seizures. Oh yeah- that is 30 per DAY.

Each step of the journey from infant to adulthood and current status is chronicled and will make most of us drop to our knees and ask for forgiveness for complaining how we have it…

In addition and even more important this story is absolutely essential reading for anyone who has relatives with Epilepsy or seizures and the like. You won’t hear complaining as mom tells about endless horrendous violent seizures and hundreds of attempts to find any medical help/

The amazing thing about this story to me is something you or I may find hard to believe. But this is how the family is…

Anissa, now near 50, and still in need of 100% total care all day every day which is still done by her 80 year old mother was born perfectly healthy. Yep. At six months a doctor gave her an overdose of a medication that turned a beautiful blond baby girl into a vegetable for life.

She forgave the doctor and never pursued legal recourse- And somehow maintained her strong Christian faith in the midst of such a traumatic event . 

This is something you have to see to believe…click the blue link above and see what life can really be like.

tj

 

 

Now Here Is An Idea- Extend The Same Grace To Those With The Disease Of Addiction That We Do Those With Diabetes…Hmm…

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The Downside Of Blogging About Serious Issues… The Value Of A ” Worthless” Blog.

Its been five years for me with this blogging thing. I have read my share of articles and opinions on why certain blogs have more followers than others, or one has more comments than the other etc… I have been on the same side, looking at my stats and wondering how come mine are so different from other blogs. I have felt the same feeling of questioning myself and wondering what I should be doing that I was not. The truth is, I have learned and still am learning about things that can benefit my site or draw a certain crowd. So this is a legitimate concern.

However, after five years of this, I recently discovered something that has absolutely changed the way I view my site and truthfully every site! I have made a discovery that, at least for me, is brand new and not talked about much, if it is even well understood. I am not convinced that what I am about to suggest, which potentially affects all of your blogs as well, is even common knowledge in the blogging world. I stumbled on it while pressing in over and over, looking for things I may be missing out on to promote my site.

What I am about to say has the potential to be quite controversial. but I firmly believe nobody will be able to disprove my theory. If everyone who reads this takes what I am saying and weighs it with their own circumstances, I am convinced the end results will be very much in line with each other. Now I want to be honest about the fact that some of my findings were birthed out of my total frustration with my lack of growth during certain seasons and seeming inability to move as fast as some other bloggers.

I really went over and over many times the same old information until one day it just clicked in my head that I had part of the answer to why some blogs are so very much more successful growth wise than others. Not that they are any better or worse, but just a reason that finally made sense to me. The news I am presenting here can make each one of us stop and reconsider what our passion is! What we write about. Why we write about what we do. I even remember one day I wrote a post that I had spent much time researching, and expected it to be well received in my community of bloggers. However, to my dismay, it was just an “average” post in my book. You know, 10-20 likes and maybe a comment or two. Whoopee, right?

Something happened around that same time, though, that brought it all full circle for me. That something was my stumbling upon a blog post on the feed about training dogs to do house tricks and healthy eating habits for your mutt. But then, as I neared the end of the post, I saw this enormous number that appeared on the last line of the post where comments also go. Yeah, it was this number like 469 or something. I must have read that 3 times just to be sure but it sure was 469 people gave their props for the doggy master and doggy diet expert. Now, in all fairness, I was just coming off of a post that I spent several hours researching, an hour and a half writing ( I think I may have even edited that one!) and I was feeling a tad low with my 20 likes on a very important topic for all of us humans, but even lower when I caught the 469 for the doggy dynasty.

Here is what I realized then. People in general simply do not wish to deal with the hard stuff that life has dealt. People in general like to have their ears caressed when reading a blog post. They do not want to be confronted with all the harsh realities we are facing in real world, non-doggy life. Grown ups who are well-educated and should care about certain issues like human trafficking, or pedophile priests, or crooked politicians are more than willing and even likely to skip the post about a crisis we, as a society, has to deal with and instead steer their eyes towards soothing material. Its true!

This is not just what my team writes about or what we deal with in mental health, child abuse, and addiction, but it was my own blog that awakened me to the idea of what was happening. I supported my theory by checking with other bloggers and looking at all the different numbers and it proved to be a working theory.

Here is the main point of what I found. People like me, who tend to deal with sad, even troubling issues much of the times seem to have this common thread of a lower amount of followers and not as many takers in general who even want to face these issues much less spend time thinking through them in a blog post. That seems to be a fact across the board. However, the amazing thing I discovered was that my smaller group of people were participating in, liking, and commenting on about 35% of what we published. Now I don’t know if you ever check those stats but recently I read an article by a very successful blogger who I believe said he sometimes had a 1-5% participation rate when it came to his huge audience actually liking or commenting on his topics. So to see 35% consistently and look back over the years and see it never dropped below 20%, was amazing to me. It told me something that we all need to be aware of. The numbers may not line up on the same side with all bloggers in the same categories. But the numbers are there most times just distributed in different places. In my case, I realized I had a slightly more intense crowd who did not mind getting their hands dirty in some controversy. Therefore, what I was not seeing in overall total followers, I was making up 10 fold in active engagement with my posts.

So, for all of us who blog, we need to start making sure our perspective is accurate. It simply is not likely, on any given day, that a human being with all the problems we already have, would rather spend 20 minutes ingesting some bad news about abused kids, rather than totally avoiding it and thinking about the fact that Rover can roll over. The one is simply much more stressful than the other. So none of us should discount one bit of our efforts writing based on simple numbers alone, but on the whole picture.

Many, many times I have read posts written by bloggers who are very disappointed in how slow their blog has progressed, in comparison to some others. Now it is easy for me to see that most are likely missing out on some part of the value in their work because they follow the popular way of measurement which typically is “How many followers you got?” That usually leads to depression. What if, just for one day, the question went like this, “Hey, what percent of the viewers of your posts actually care enough about them to “like” them or comment?” A much different way of thinking is born. And I am willing to bet that the question could be asked in many more ways that I have not even thought of.

But we as bloggers are followers in that sense. We want what the writer over there has. Yet truly we have no idea, unless he makes us privy to his stats, just how important those 26,000 followers were this month, because he never bothers to look past that and dig into the statistics that WordPress provides. Such as, how many of those people even took time to click “like” out of 26,000? Remember, this is not an “either or” scenario. I am discussing meaning that one type of stat is more important than another. Heck, do you think if tomorrow I found out a way to add-on 5000 followers to my crew, that I would not be running to do it? Of course I would. I want that, too.

We need to stop trying to fit our blogs into ‘cookie cutter’ molds that all line up a certain way. I will close by sharing something that happened my second year of blogging. It was a lonely time. I think I was paying family members 5 bucks to comment on a post just to get some action…lol – it was awfully depressing for me. And then I got an email from a lady out of this country. She was suicidal and an addict who had decided to take her life and truly also believed God was waiting to escort her to hell for being an addict in the first place. Rough, rough situation. Even with 20 years under my belt in social work and counseling, i could not prepare for that. Fortunately I did not have to come up with any miraculous words from my therapy book. You see after she told me in the email, from another country, she had decided to take her life, there was a “but”..”

She said “But then I read your post on faith and addiction and how you were where I was and how God never left you and you made it out, so I decided to keep on trying.” I think it was her and maybe a friend I had asked to read that post on that day. I only had a few dozen followers or a 100 whatever. Not many reading much of anything. But I will tell you that after that night, I knew that if nobody ever read one word of my writing again in history, those two years of dark and slow blog growth were well worth all of it and then some.

Never, ever question how your work, your efforts, are paying dividends. Hey, the facts are, folks, that some people get paid in the form of thousands of new followers pouring into their site each month, or maybe constant re-blogs and praise on almost everything they put on paper. It could be something they are not even aware of like in my situation with the suicidal lady. Be assured that what you are doing is not in vain. The cards have a way of landing a different way all the time and we do not always get to see how. If we are fortunate, we get a glimpse at some point. Even if you do not, never ever stop putting on paper what your heart is screaming to your brain all the time. There is a reason.

Stay with your first love. Don’t worry about the next guy. I can tell you from experience that you may never know the value of your work on this earth. But from experience let me also be the one to tell you it matters, to someone. Sometimes it matters a whole lot!

TJ

My Favorite Cowboy Took 1st In Texas This Weekend! Watch Him Go 8 Seconds!

I have to share this because the last time I shared anything about my son Jesse, the bull rider, it was that he was on the hospital with a broken leg and a new rod in his leg. Well, he proved last night in Texas he is back. Took First place! I know its my own kid, but it ain’t bragging if its true…lol

Job Or Calling ? Which Are You Doing?

A few years ago when I was entering my ” pre-mid life crisis, I took some time to review my entire time in the workforce. Every job I’ve ever done and how long I was at each. I also looked back at which I loved and which I hated.

To my surprise, what I thought would be a long and tedious task, turned out to be like an instant revelation from heaven. It was as if I got to peek down into my life forward to backward and backward to forward. I got a view from above about something that to this day I have shared with many people feeling burned out, bored, and just plain over their current situation.

The answer to why some people love what they do and some hate it is this:

When you are using your gifts you will always enjoy what you are doing. However if we step outside of your gifts, work is just a mundane, boring and hideous task where we spend more time looking at the time clock to go home than we do work .

Gifts are much different than skill sets in this sense. Any of us can sign up for college and and get a certificate or degree in something that we now possess the skill to do well. We may even be considered experts and get awards for work.

Yet we still may go home a few months later and experience the same burnout we did at our last career.

The reason is simple. Although we have been taught a new skill, this has no connection with our satisfaction.

Satisfaction and peace come only from using your God given gifts. There is no shame in learning extra skills fur our toolbox. But never mistake skills fur gifts

Think about it this way. Have you ever been to an event , get together, church service or something like these where the announcer says it’s time to hear a song from so and so- let’s put our hands together for the one and only ” so and so ” who will now sing ” Let Love Reign” ..

You listen to the person start belting out their tune and within a minute you are embarrassed for them. It’s soo very bad that all you can picture is two cows caught in barbed wire moaning for help. ” What is she thinking” we say to our wife or husband.

There are people that want to be something they were not gifted to do. It’s obvious they have no talent in that area. Yet they press on when everyone knows she has been told to slow her roll in the singing, but ignores it. Eventually they crash and burn.

Our gifts are evident by the fruit it produces. Gifts do not brag, or build themselves up. Gifts are those things that you do regularly and realize that all your life you have gotten high praise for it but it didn’t matter because they were not in it for the accolades, but because it is a PASSION!

We all have gifts . I know mine and believe me, I know from the school of hard knocks where my gifts do NOT exist. When you start to operate outside if your gifts in a job or at church or wherever, there is an uncomfortable feeling of frustration, and your career turns into nothing more than a 9-5 punch the clock, can’t wait to get out of here deal.

Now don’t get me wrong, at some point in our lives we have all had to take jobs that were just not within our gifts to get through college or to make ends meet or maybe we were in a situation that we called for that because we couldn’t get the job using our gifts at this time. But that’s not a permanent situation.

Skills can be learned- gifts cannot. Your focus should be to identify what your gifts are. Your spiritual gifts, your God given gifts and pursue that.

Look back and think about all the times that people have complimented you on something that you do well or something that stands out in the crowd that you may have never even thought about. If you’re not sure there are many online Christian spiritual gifts tests that you can take to help you identify where your gifts are. If you’re a violin maker make the best violins around if you change tires do it the best and the fastest way you can do it. If you happen to be the greatest plumber around , be proud! Not many could do that!

If you are a corporate executive be the best CEO you can. Whatever you do stay within your gifting and only use skills for money if it’s absolutely necessary because you can’t make ends meet with your gifts. There’s nothing wrong with that but make sure your priority is to use your gifts so that your motivation stays in place.

That’s my 2 cents for today..

Peace

Visualize Whirled Peas

Tj

What Exactly Is ” Displaced Anger?” And Are You Guilty Of It?

We have all heard the term ” displaced anger” before at some point. The question is, what is it, really? Some people might answer that it’s like stubbing your toe on the way into your house after work, and when your kid runs up and tries to hug you, you raise your voice and tell them get away for a minute because you are in too much pain to be rational. I suppose on the surface that could pass for an example.

What I am talking about is a deep-rooted bitter angry feeling that is brought on by certain triggers, and the people around you must suffer the consequences. When I was about 10-14 years old, I was a very angry kid. I was not the type to take other kid’s lunch money or start fights everyday. I did however feel that under the right circumstances, I was capable of really doing some damage to others. I already was with my words and cut downs and all that. At the time I had no idea that my sense of anger had to do with my life, my family, my absentee father and all the terrible abuse and violence I witnessed along with suicide and other things all before 12.

Years ago in college we were studying the topic and it all started to make sense to me. I had hurt so many people in my younger years because I myself was very wounded. Even in my late teens or early twenties I can remember going bowling or golfing with family or friends. If I hit just one or two bad shots in a row, that would prevent me from breaking my own record, I would throw a tantrum the size of a 19-year-old. I would not speak to anyone for hours while they enjoyed the game, i would just mope. It really bothered me but I had no clue how to get rid of it. Truly it was not any college degrees that got me out of it. What finally made me realize just how idiotic I looked was when I became a foster parent to 6 teenagers for 5 years.

You want to talk about displaced anger?? Wow these kids rocked my world the first year as I was totally unprepared for what their awful lives had turned them into. It was when I had to point out all the time to them that their behavior to another was uncalled for and unfair, and ruthless sometimes even bringing others to tears for something they had no involvement in. Ouch. It really started hitting home that I was them and they were me. However this time I could track the reasons. I could read their files and see who beat them or raped them in their life. It answered many questions for me about me.

I can honestly say that today it is very rare for me to take my anger out on anyone that had nothing to do with my problem in the first place. It took a mirror image of myself over and over each day to catch on to what I had been doing.

I was truly hurt and angry now, be sure of that. However when I sat down over time with a trusted friend of mine several times and went over my life and issues, I was able to take the feedback I needed. I needed to both subconsciously and consciously wipe away the anger directed to people who had nothing to do with it. Next I needed to choose how to deal with the person who really did hurt me or in my case people who had hurt me at a young age.

Should I get in their face and let them have it? Blame them for my issues and leave mad?

After discussing the options with my buddy ( also a therapist ) we decided that in the case of my dad it would do me more harm than good to talk with him, It had been decades since we spoke. However I was not off the hook. We decided a straight forward letter to him would be in order mentioning the hurtful things that caused me so much pain and shame.

However to my dismay, my buddy said that in order for me to be released from the bondage of bitterness ( unforgiveness breeds bitterness) I would have to tell him in the letter that I was hereby forgiving him for any time he accused me, abused me, beat me, or hurt me.

What??? Forgive him? Surely you jest I thought.

Nope. It was real.

I did the letter and then over time went on and thought about anyone who had ever hurt me and decided to forgive them as well. I did not have to go in person I could make it a prayer even, but my heart must be genuine as we cannot trick God. He knows whether we really are forgiving or not. By the way I never said we must forget. Just forgive.

These days I walk around without this 300lb bag of bitterness wrapped around my heart with a wick on it ready to explode at any time. I was set free of the hurt as I set others free in my own heart and to God.

I could write pages on this, but I really think the main message has already been addressed. Its action time. Or its time to stay bitter and enjoy that more.

Maybe this is for just one person who is struggling today with an issue like this. If that is the case it well worth posting. I can tell you that God’s ability to heal memories is much greater than man’s ability to inflict pain.

Why not set yourself free today? I bet you never go back.

Visualize Whirled Peas.

TJ

Let Me Introduce Our Newest Team Member- Cherie Zack! Women’s Coach & Marriage Expert!

Everyone please take time to read Cherie’s bio below. We are so very happy to have a specialist in her area of service on board with great experience and education on coaching women and marriage situations. She is involved in a plethora of outreaches including a podcast, radio show and of course her counseling/ coaching. We will be making much more available to you on how to access her shows or podcasts and services in general. Her contact info is at the bottom of this page. Please welcome her and feel free to call on her with any questions about your situation!

tj


If I had the chance, I would sit down with you, make you a cup of tea and spill my mistakes in marriage. In essence, I would share my story with you. I wouldn’t stop there though. I know that it’s only because of God’s mercy that I have a thriving marriage and family today.

Bill and I have been married for twenty-four years and we honestly look forward to loving each other for as long as God gives us. It wasn’t always this way though. Four years into our marriage Bill told me in a phone call that he wanted a divorce. I had received salvation just a few months before this and he felt I was changing too much for his liking. He didn’t enjoy me any more and was no longer happy in our relationship. I hung up the phone and went straight to God with it. In that pivotal moment of my life, God asked me a powerful question,

“Will you run or will you stay and fight?”

Run is what I always did when things got to hard emotionally for me. I ran to music and hid in it for hours. Or I would run away literally ending the relationship that was being impacted. But this time was different. This time God was asking me if I would stay. I wanted to stay. I wanted to fight, but I didn’t know how. I had failed so many times before. My past includes a divorce and 3 children that were hurt by my failures. God promised me that He would teach me how to fight but it would have to be His way and not my own. I said yes and He started me on the journey that I have called Boot Camp for so long.

That day started a fight I had never walked through before. During my own personal boot camp my heart was shattered. My faith was tested. My identity was ripped to pieces. It seemed that nothing was safe. Even then, I still chose to stay in the fight because God had given me a vision of what my marriage could look like at the end of my journey. Bill fought against me with everything he had within him. He yelled at me more than he talked to me. He made me feel like I was worth nothing and my life had no value with him. He attacked every area of me including how I was raising our children and the type of wife I was becoming. One day in a fit of anger he threw his wedding ring out the door and told me, “My life ended the day I married you!”

These were days I just wanted to stop fighting and run away. My heart could not take any more. Giving him what he wanted had to be easier than what I was enduring. It was on one of these days that God said the following words to me,

“Be still and know that I am God.”

Those words turned into thousands instantly as the Holy Spirit began to teach me what they meant. This happened many times over the course of my fight for my marriage. What I learned is so valuable that my marriage was saved!!

Can you relate to me on some level? Have you been through something like this in your own marriage? Have you thought about giving up and giving in? I want to encourage you to stay in just a little longer. The ending of your marriage doesn’t have to happen. If you are willing to give God a season of your life, I am willing to counsel you on how to stand strong and fight the way God has designed us to. Today, Bill and I are strong and our life is full as God has used my season of Boot Camp to teach me many more lessons since then.

My background ~

I knows what it’s like to be an imperfect wife and I’m well aware that my past would have been my future if it had not been for God’s intervention in my life and my obedience to follow His voice. I wasn’t always obedient. I resisted God in the beginning because He was asking me to change first. I felt enough change was happening in me and Bill was the one God needed to concentrate on. What I didn’t know then is God wasn’t just teaching me how to fight for my marriage He was getting me ready to fight for marriages all over the world. My mission is to challenge you to take a stand for your marriage and then teach you how God has designed us to love our husbands during the challenges we all face in marriage. My marriage is a living testimony of God’s “Grace Grace” (Zechariah 4). Your marriage can be turned around and restored as well. But you have to be willing to listen to voice of the Holy Spirit and change as He directs you to. He will ask you to do some hard things (I have a long list myself). Change is good, especially when God uses it to draw us closer to Him.

No matter where your marriage stands, I want to encourage you that God is big enough to not just help you stay married but to also teach you how to enjoy a blessed marriage for a lifetime. I know that I have to be very candid in sharing everything I have learned through trial, error, and prayer to turn my strained and struggling marriage around. I can help you through it. You just have to willing to try. I have been counseling wives for more than 10 years now and have witness God redeem and restore many marriages. Their fight wasn’t easy but they stood firm in their faith and God and

Work With Me

So, what is your story? Would you like to learn how to fight for your marriage? Or grow deeper in your walk with the Lord? Maybe break free from your past and strongholds? I would be honored to work with you. I am certified biblical counselor and certified Biblical Life Coach. I’ve been counseling and training women for more than 10 years and have witnessed God redeem and restore many marriages. I would be honored to work with you. Click HERE to check out my session rates and more.

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