Never A Dull Moment In My World…Really!

I gave up decades ago even sharing with close friends the goings on in my life. Why? Simple; They didnt believe me, or  simply couldn’t process the idea that these occurrences would be continuous in one person’s life.

Some of the incidents in our family are common like divorce, diseases, abuse and even our tragic times like my brothers suicide and lots of death in general.

I quickly learned that most things are better left to the family. However , sometimes I just got to let it out! Thats where blogging has been therapeutic for me. Last week or so I mentioned I was exhausted from keeping on top of the pedo-priest deal but happy that somebody busted it wide open. The official in Pennsylvania just blew it out of the water with his huge announcement in August.

We needed a break like that.

Thank God most states are following suit and investigating seriously the huge racket of pedophilia in the church.

But, today I’m sharing a different side  of things that I suspect many of you can relate to in your own way.

Battling a group of freaks as powerful and wealthy and nasty as some of Catholic church can be dangerous. I have been in this field long enough to know when you ruffle feathers, you better prepare for war, both *spiritually and naturally.

( *shout out to my atheist friends btw..just ignore that  ” spiritual” reference..lol you all know I love ya..)

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Since the year I really started digging my heals in the whole thing I have been attacked from so many directions its hard to keep up. It becomes a way of life. You may lose friends, family and even spouses over it.

(I mean thats what I hear)

But as many of of you all know, when you just know in your knower that you cannot be silent about an issue…you cannot back down…its no longer a choice.

For me it was letting innocent kids become suicidal due to the sick pleasures of thousands of perverts in the church-  I have no choice.

Recently as I was preparing to gather some documents for reporters off my email and files would you believe just coincidentally ( yeah right) I found myself totally locked out of my email, files and somehow at the same time my cellphone carrier ” accidently”did a FACTORY RESET on my cell!!!

If you dont know what that is,  it basically means all the info and documents on your phone go bye – bye. For good.

Since I couldn’t get access to my cell phone now I was locked out of-  I wasn’t able to reset my password for my Gmail because Google requires you to have the current phone number and get a text on it which means I was completely locked out and still am of all the documents I had. Fortunately this blog has been a lifesaver in that area because I posted almost all the things I had … statements, emails from officials etc…

I posted most on this blog so they’re all public anyway.

Whatever was behind that – it didn’t work – but it sure was stressful and still is stressful.

By the way I am well aware I’m not the only person that goes through times like this and I know that people have things even worse much worse than I do,  I’m not here to claim I’ve got the toughest life I’m sure many of you can relate in your own way to what I’m saying.

So just as I was kind of catching my breath after that incident.. Yesterday brought to surface an entirely different issue from an angle I never expected ..

My mother didn’t feel good and she’s always feeling good but I knew something was wrong and insisted she go to the ER. as it turns out  I was overreacting it was just a heart attack.

She only had a heart attack. Of course to my mom it’s like it’s no big deal “I just had a little heart attack they put a stent in and I’ll be okay and home in a few days”

” By the way son did you remember to take the recycle bin out?”

Me-” Yes momma, I got all 4 plastic milk containers in the bin”

It’s driving me crazy…and that’s not a very long trip in my state of mind right now LOL.

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I  watched the movie called Flawless the other day with Demi Moore and Michael Caine,  during the movie they were having a conversation about how nothing worth doing is ever about the money and it struck a chord with me. It is very true.

The last decade or so life has seemed almost unbearable in so many different aspects and yet there’s no turning back.

I think many many people reading this can understand that-  whatever your journey and your battle has been,  so just keep your eye on the prize and never never never never give up- and  never count on anybody else to lift you up and push you and motivate you while your surpassing anything they’ve ever attempted.

Finish Strong.

Well they are calling me back to my unit now-  so gotta go.

Peace

Tj

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

Extreme Faith – Even When You Cannot Feel It Or See It…

 

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Man have I been tested in the last few years. I know I am not the only one and many of you have been through tough times as well. I guess this is a ” faith post ” and I make no apologies for it. I do however invite my agnostics, non-believers, atheists and Palm tree seekers to still read. We all have tough times so we have that in common.

For me it is my faith in God that I rely on after years of going it alone. The thing is, is its hard. The world we live in is broken. People are twisted. Hurt is everywhere. Tragedy is all over. So how does one get through these trials and come out the other side still able to live – or even want to?

Some of you have lost children, spouses, or had terrible health issues that have left you crippled in your mind and sometimes physically. How do we cope? What does that even look like? To me it was very much a shock to grab hold of my faith, trusting it would carry me over the storms, only to find out that it simply carried me through the storms.

There is a huge difference in that. For me the main difference is a maturity issue. I once was bottle fed as a believer and it seemed like God just babied me through my trials. However after a decade or so in the faith I realized something I did not really care to know. I started to understand that just as we are expected to grow up chronologically in this world and stand on our own two feet, we also are expected to mature in the faith.

Mature in the faith? What is that supposed to mean? Well, for me it has meant being forced to cling to the promises of God in scripture, and to Him. It has – for me anyway meant being stripped of my comforts and things or people who gave me security and lay alone, cold and afraid with nobody to look to except the Lord. Not easy. As a matter of fact it has been the hardest thing I have ever experienced.

I love my family, my kids and friends and all. There came a time several years ago when none of those were available to me. They all had their own agendas and life goals to attend to. I had no choice but to try to learn to rely on God for my strength, my companionship, my security and all the rest. I thought it would be a fairly easy transition. I thought wrong. It is a very hard thing to trust in and rely on God for it all.

Until you have been stripped of everything you relied on for security, you have not been in a position to have to rely on God. Maybe you are there. Maybe you are all cozy with the things this world has given you. Whatever the case, be prepared to be ” uncozy “. The thing about faith is that it’s the unseen, the unfelt, the untouchable. You cannot reach out for a warm fuzzy when you are dark and lonely.

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Sounds like faith is not anything to be desired, right? Who wants to go through all that suffering? None of us. Yet the Bible talks about the ” abundant ” life. Huh? Abundant what? Well, it is an entirely different animal than what we assume. It means actually recognizing that ” the joy of the Lord is my strength. ” Not my car, job, money, kids, etc..

The truth is – people come and go, relationships come and go, kids come and go, money comes and goes, jobs too, health, and all of it. So at some point the roller coaster ride comes to a halt and when we look to our right and left, all of our security blankets may be gone. What now? This is where the rubber meets the road.

God is the same yesterday , today and forever.

There is a Country song out for years about the ” whiskey ain’t workin anymore “.  After some of us are confronted with the inevitable, the loss of our security blankets on this earth, some turn to temporary fixes like alcohol or drugs and they sometimes work for a while. It is after they stop working that we are backed up against the wall. Nothing left to turn to – except God and that is only if one is even willing to acknowledge Him.

This post is just to promote thinking –  as there is no way I could go into even the trials I have dealt with. The point here is this; It is possible to only need God. It is possible to have unexplainable Joy in the midst of trials. It is only possible for those willing to ask, seek and knock like never before. Call on the name of the Lord every day and study the promises in His Word. Renew our minds each day with the truth, not the lies of this world.

If you do not believe there is a spiritual battle going on for your soul on this earth than you will at some point understand that. Right now if you are struggling, I recommend God. I recommend faith. I recommend it before you need it if that is a possibility in your life. I know from years of messages from you all that some worship watermelons or mother earth. I know some of you have your trust in ” the universe”  – which is becoming very popular. The thing about prayer, is it only helps if it is sent to the living God, not a sea turtle nest.

Keep on with it. When things dry up – turn to the creator not the creation.

It will be the best wager you ever made. Peace.

Tj

 

Ask Me How To Enjoy 100,000 Followers In Your Site!

I hope this isn’t too misleading, but I certainly was not saying that I have 100k followers. Not many do. I dont care if I ever do.

But now that your here, take a peek at my brief point.

Here’s the great news, your engagement rate/ participation rate from the viewers you do have can be worth much more than a zillion followers and 2% participate. I, like many was on a treadmill to get followers five years ago when I started this blog. Over time I noticed that although I never paid anyone to push bogus abd meaningless followers, and took the high road by staying with followers who found me, it has paid off. If you are familiar with direct mail results they are usually 1-3% .

So if you have 100k followers but they didn’t really follow for your niche, you will have similar results with then actually using your service or engaging in your posts. Thats about 1-3k.

If you have 1000 followers who all came because they want and like your niche, your percentage of potential users of your service -well -I’ve seen as high as 45% participation rate. Thats near 500 potential customers. Would you even be able to handle that load? So let’s be realistic here. Unless your a mega business with tons of staff , you can’t handle even 300 new customers in a short period. ( Im speaking now tol service providers) but you who sell items can do your own conversion. So the great news is if you focus on what your readers want and stat with what you know, the relationships you develop are far more valuable abd trust is stronger then a million empty followers.

Take a peek at your total posts and then at your total likes, comments, or reblogs. If your numbers of participants is over 3% you are doing a better job of building trust than the mega site. Dont worry about how many followers, focus on meetung the needs that they are expressing. No matter what you do in your blog it will be strong.

If you have been discouraged about followers, switch gears and cater to your bread and butter.

Maybe someone needed to hear that today. I hope it helps;

Tj

Ever See A Drive – By Fruiting? Watch.

Watch the clip below. I am convinced it was a drive-by fruiting. The dude in the car hurled a grapefruit at the clerk.

https://www.linkedin.com/embed/feed/update/urn:li:activity:6390521569894035456“>The Guy In The Car Clearly Threw A Grapefruit At The Clerk! It Was A Drive -By Fruiting.

So I Did A Good Deed And Rescued A Cat…But…

First I found out my new cat Jordy hates the paparazzi. No love for the camera or the cameraman at all.

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Then I thought well that’s probably normal. I’ll just lay him down on the couch and teach him few commands from his master.

It all started good with a nice lifting up and picture taking time of my new pet. But soon after I found out that he was teaching me the rules. When we laid down he was fine when I talked about rewards and food. However as you can see each time I spoke of any rule , his paws seemed to get very close to my j

I Dont Even Like Pets, But I Feel Like Going To The Shelter Now And Getting One!

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Should Dennis Rodman Keep Playing Video Games With The Leader Of North Korea And Hangin At His Man Cave? Get A Peace Prize? Why Not?

Dennis Rodman is different. So he wears wedding dresses once in awhile and womens undergarments. You must admit he was an awesome basketball player. And guys , admit it haven’t we all felt an urge to cruise the mall in heals and a dress ? Just once even? Lol

So I watched a documentary about his relationship to the North Korean leader- Kill- One -Now or whatever his name is. I was very surprised at what I heard. Rodman , when continuously hounded by the media and others why he keeps coming over to visit when we aren’t on good terms with the nuclear situation and all had some good answers.

I’m doing more to forge a relationship with him then anyone in politics has, or something to that effect. Basically he was saying that he felt his friendship with Kill-One- Now could possibly be reasons that the nut job would hold off on hurting our country if he had the chance.

Rodman described ( and showed footage) of him holding his baby, having dinner at with the family, and basically having run of the palace.

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Dennis , in a way only Phil Jackson could interpret fully was trying to make what was quite a valid point. He actually got so emotional that he stopped the cameras at one point . He was upset because his motives have been to make good things happen by going there and yet he gets death threats from American people for going.

I’m not going to go into how Big D dresses or who he hangs with and all that because that’s who he is and a product of his own personal upbringing.

I will say that those two together both having their own eccentricities, could not make a better pair if you had to pick a pair that were just craziest enough to get along. Heres the difference in my opinion. Rodman is by no means crazy. He is very smart and most of the times with his weird stunts he is playing us for the attention but he is in total control.

The North Korean dude however I believe is straight up insane in the membrane and in need of a check up from the neck up. No question.

So maybe it’s just me but I do think that as a relationship like that strengthens, there could be less chance that the madman would hit the button toward the USA as quickly as before. Is this a good military strategy? Of course not. I am not saying that at all. I’m saying what is it hurting for the two to become besties?

So I’m giving Rodman a thumbs up for having what it takes to do what he is. Because from the footage I saw, Dennis changes for nobody’. Not even his knee high little buddy. And the little buddy loves him. Who knows maybe Rodman will win a peace prize.

After all – remember Obama awarded himself a medal of Honor ( I just threw up in my mouth a little) so since he did nothing but hurt us, I could live with Rodman getting the Peace prize. And I’m sure he would celebrate with his peace pipe…lol

Tj

Welcome New Members Of The Don’t Label My Kid! Family! Housekeeping..

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I want to welcome all the new followers to the  Don’t Label My Kid! Family! I have been been wanting to give a shout to new members of this family. I think you will find something unique here. We discuss many issues here, many of them are sensitive in nature. I want all of you to know that you can trust people in here with your personal stories, questions and comments. We are not always serious in here either! We understand that talking about depression, addiction, and abuse issues can become heavy, so we mix in some humor too.

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The Don’t Label My Kid! site covers many topics, about life in general and the things we live through.We have published over 1300 posts in 35 -40 different categories and have followers in 150 countries. Our goal in the last 4 years has been to to provide mental health, addiction, abuse, parenting and many other coaching and counseling services to anyone who has not had effective care in the past or not had any help at all.

We have assembled over time a team of people who have the best hearts and minds, along with educations we could to be at your disposal . If you go to the homepage you will see drop down menu in the top left corner with each of our names along with a bio for each of us to let you know a little about our background. Together we bring over 100 years of direct experience to the table and 4 websites that we each maintain as resources for you. Here is a group pic.

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I am very excited that in just a few days I will introduce our 5th team member who brings a successful blog, a huge podcast following , a radio show and much more to team to offer a specialize service for all women. Stay tuned ladies you will want to join her awesome programs!

Every once in awhile I take a few hours and read through hundreds, actually thousands of comments we have received over the years. One of the things that always stands out to me is the level of trust you all put in is as evidenced by the personal nature of many of your questions or comments. This type of relationship is the kind that brings real change between coach/therapist and the person seeking help. 

So with that, I welcome you all to this family and encourage you to reach out to the great people who follow this site!

 

tj

 

Redditch parents mourn third child’s heart death – BBC News – Parenting 2018

Just when we thought our role as parents was getting unbearable, we are given a strong dose of reality.. I’d like to see someone take the initiative and create a WordPress support for this family. It doesn’t need to cost money, but if anyone would like to coordinate a mass letter drive to send our prayers and support contact me tim@dontlabelmykid.com.

http://www.bbc.com/news/uk-england-hereford-worcester-42675124

Tj

Will Computers Actually And Literally ‘ Take Over ‘ The World ? Read These Recent Projections About A Few Industries….Amazing. Don’t Study Law Folks!

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My Night Gig…Bet You Can’t Do It! 

Just press and watch and be amazed!

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Don’t Label My Kid! – In The News!

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When Dr John DeGarmo contacted me about possibly contributing a piece for his upcoming December Blog Posting, I was without words. It’s not often you get an invitation from the guru of your trade to actually share your expertise. With more accolades and accomplishments in the Foster Care field than anyone I have known, I was caught off guard to say the least. I can honestly say that Dr. John and his wife are the only couple I know of who have had more foster kids live with them than I.

I have had 45! To be asked to give my opinion on an issue that is constantly under scrutiny by state and federal regulators was very satisfying and meant a lot to me.

I am glad to share both a proud moment of his – him and his wife being recognized by none other than Good Morning America and a very proud moment for myself, being honored as the guest poster on his incredible blog. First watch the clip below of GMA rightfully recognizing Dr. John’s work, and then please take a moment to read my first published post on his website. I am looking forward to working with Dr. Degarmo on future endeavors to keep the voice of children in need of parents alive..

TJ

Good Morning America Recognizes The DeGarmos!

http://www.drjohndegarmofostercare.com/blog/guest-blog-normalization-for-kids-in-care-by-tj-petri

Visit Dr DeGarmos Site-  http://www.drjohndegarmofostercare.com/

Shop his store for a variety of his books, training materials, and look into his many webinars. He is also available for Foster Parent Coaching, and a myriad of consultative needs as well as conference leader/ keynote speaker at your next conference or gathering, The DeGarmos are trailblazers and their message needs to be heard!