Click the link — this is a post I shared on Linkedin so it will look different….
Breakfast At The Biden Compound- They Call it SHUDDER ISLAND…
Click the link — this is a post I shared on Linkedin so it will look different….
Breakfast At The Biden Compound- They Call it SHUDDER ISLAND…
Only those who have lived there know…
I have to admit some of the stuff we discuss here is personal and I honor that by not sharing any comments outside of this blog. However when I write a post on say Mental Health, Addiction, or the like I always in the back of my mind wonder how the people on Facebook, LinkedIn and Twitter view my stories and trials. They aren’t going through it like most of us here have or are – right?
If you cannot read this it has been removed from Facebook.
I’ve been out awhile. I could not tell you how long. Don’t care either. I’m surprised I ever returned to Blogging. My life has been peppered with trauma. In my immediate family we’ve walked through addiction,. Depression, suicide, domestic violence, you name it. I don’t know if you ever ” get used ” to the trauma..However you do learn to cope,
The issues at hand this last week or two were especially troubling to me. Much like the sudden suicide of my brother, and death of both my only grandparents, there was and still is a certain finality about the whole thing.
If you’ve ever lost a loved one unexpectedly, you know that the feelings that troubled you were very different then the typical feeling ” blue” or down. There is a certain finality, a certain heaviness of heart that is present. Those heavy burdens do not rest at night so you can. You cannot shelve them so you can do your job well, or be there for your family. In that sense they are a paralyzing set of feelings.
The emptiness that comes with betrayal, unforgiveness or other human behavior can be as severe as the trauma of having your brother shoot himself in the head after being molested by his catholic priest. I know this for a fact because I have lived through both. This time was different though. I don’t recall ever feeling the way I did ( and still do honestly) before with any family problems, marriage issues or even divorce.
I knew right when this thing started to take its toll that it would need to be published . I didn’t want to publish it, not then, not now not ever. That is how feelings work. They try to get us to believe that we are in charge of what will happen in our future.
So, there were a couple of issues (still present) that appeared to start at the same time. I feel like the one that would most easily be related to by my fellow bloggers would be the issue in my life that has to do with unforgiveness.
I am learning the price of unforgiveness. The cost of refusing to allow God or anybody to help you be able to forgive someone who hurt another. I’m not refusing to forgive anyone.
The thing is the forgiveness was refused to me by a loved one. Things that happened over the years, situations I have had to work through with depression, addiction etc. have now resurfaced over a decade later and from my own family. Most of my family was supportive of me when I tried to get help in several rehabs, spent years trying different meds for major depression, even though I knew most meds for depression do more harm than good. I didn’t know what else to do. I didnt ask to be an addict anyways. But boy am I paying the price for it regardless.
If you are an addict or former addict you likely have run into it somewhere by somebody, Here is the thing to consider; there are only a handful of people who are close enough to you to have the goods on you in such a way that even if your life has totally changed, they can reach into their memory tool belt and start reminding you in great detail just how much damage you did by each individual season in your life.
If you are like me and have been through depression, addiction and 7 hip surgeries which sapped me of everything I had financially , emotionally, physically and spiritually then you have people out there somewhere that at any given moment could bring memories up and hurt you.
In many ways that is what is going on in my life but with a slight twist. The root reason any person would bring up the past would be unforgiveness, However beyond the unforgivness, some might even take offense when you are having even a tiny bit of success in your life. Why should you get to enjoy a moment in your life until you have suffered as long or longer as the people you hurt along the way.
Now we are in an entire different category than just unforgiveness. We are seeing much more than unforgiveness but the bitterness which comes from unforgiveness. That bitterness wants to hurt and tear down as much as possible. In my case it took me many years after I was doing better to even forgive myself and anyone who knows me will tell you that is how I have been all my life. Much harder on me than anyone could ever be. So when a person you love who has known you a very long time or even a sibling decides to reopen those wounds for you believe it takes a special person to enjoy distributing that kind of pain.
The incident this time was especially final. For lack of a better term I just mean it was much different from a quick reference to the past to make a point . The shock for me was that I could tell by the way the play by-play came so naturally with exact times and dates of every error I ever made . In
Perhaps all these years I was fooling myself about having been forgiven. Whatever the case I was totally caught off guard and more significant than that I felt wounded to the point of becoming physically sick. I have not slept or felt normal in two weeks. So in the past weeks I have thought it all through and a question kept popping in my head. ” How come I have never allowed anyone in my life to have that much power over me with their words, but that day I melted like candle wax.”
The answer came in a few minutes and was simple. Not many people in our lives have that kind of power, meaning not just details of wrong, but the ability to make it personal to them and accuse you of robbing them of quality of life. There are always a few people ( usually family members, spouses etc) who have a much greater stash of weapons in their tool belt of memories.
Many people may ” know” about your problem maybe it was even on the news. Who cares, look at Bill Clinton. He has absorbed truthful and embarrassing accusations with proof that he was guilty yet he never even thought of stopping public spotlight. None of the people who ” knew” had the right authority or tools. However, can you imagine if he had not had Hillary trained as well he did? She had and still has the power to drop him in a New York second if he steps out of line again. Fortunately for him, she is as greedy as he is, and has ridden his coat tails all the way to where she got.
My point is that we are always vulnerable to someone. On the other side of the coin if I had to name one lesson I learned during this, is I found out that as a Christian, my security is not 100% in Christ as it should be. My concern should be for His reaction to my life, not any human. It’s just very hard when you have a small circle of family that has the ability to make things hurt more with their words than the average person.
We have all made mistakes. Do not let someone control your emotions by reminding you of your past.
I wonder if I can come out of a headache as a millionaire?
Just when we thought our role as parents was getting unbearable, we are given a strong dose of reality.. I’d like to see someone take the initiative and create a WordPress support for this family. It doesn’t need to cost money, but if anyone would like to coordinate a mass letter drive to send our prayers and support contact me firstname.lastname@example.org.
(Please read post before clicking on above link)
alternativesolutions4health.com – in some cases it’s life or death-literally. Dont delay.
This, ladies and gentleman is a very short summary in the form of a commercial of why we are where we are in American healthcare. Why you ask? Because we are the only country in THE ENTIRE WORLD dumb enough to allow drug makers to advertise on television. It takes advantage of and gives false hopes to an already downtrodden crowd grasping for a little hope by putting bringing false hope and manipulating desperate minds. I say prison, not cash is what these companies deserve.
This is the real deal folks. It just does not get any more plain to see than this. This is a major part of why Don’t Label My Kid! was created-to start telling the truth and giving actual successful alternatives for healing when possible.
After the Now, please watch for yourself and see how you feel after the quick voices spew out the REAL truth at the end….shameful.
The actual list of possible terrible side effects ( if I timed it close) takes longer to list and are much more severe than the benefits. Note
One example near the end is that a possible side effect includes DEATH! Sign me up!
All4uraddiction.com is the online magazine that our newest Don’t Label My Kid! team member Jenny Clark founded. Please click below and check out all the great addiction resources and make sure to join over 10k others and subscribe now!
While Pastor Matt brings extensive pastoral, counseling and blog writing experience to the team, and Mike Carey his own incredible natural recipes for ridding the body of diseases like liver cancer and Hep. C. , Jenny Clark also has her own brand of service and we are super excited to add her to the list of professionals who make this team of resources up. Read about her experience with addictions and other professional milestones by clicking the blue link at the bottom and make sure once in the magazine to subscribe for your emailed version quarterly.
As we all know many of us and our following are specifically here for the addictions piece and posts we have on a regular basis. We want to continue to build our resource base for those of you who are addicts, have loved ones or friends who are, or are in groups at church like recovery groups etc. Jenny’s magazine adds a wealth of resources and options for those struggling including programs and service cater to addicts.
Please post her link on you site if you write about addiction so others can take advantage of this awesome resource. We welcome Jenny and have plans to expand our services for addicts even more as we are able. Podcasts, seminars and lots of other options are being looked at so we can really be a very effective resource for those suffering from the disease of addiction.
By the way If anyone ever approaches you about this site and says ” Is Don’t Label My Kid! A site for kids? Addicts? Parenting? Spiritual guidance? Teen behaviors? Or mental health, here is your answer below….
You know about my background in social work, mental health and addictions.
Mike Carey at alternativesolutions4health.com is our resident nutritional expert who has quite the track record of 38 years of assisting people who are very sick with disease, rid their bodies of the actual disease, not just treat symptoms. Many times in a week or two. His success rate is 98%. Together we have 100+ years experience . Our long-term goal is to take this thing a step further and make our team members available for virtual counseling and coaching on any of the issues we address–worldwide. You may not realize this but we have followers from 148 countries and guess what? They have the same problems we do. So building out this site to support us doing this is a big deal. We believe it will happen and now that our team has rounded out so nicely we can focus more on doing that.
Just to clarify, we have been providing consulting and counseling services on any of the issues I have discussed above. However it is done mainly via email, Skype and the phone. So you can still get help for whatever your issues are just not through a virtual site yet.
Email or call me to set up services of any kind.
We all believe we were put here for a reason. We also believe that each of you is here for a reason. Our job is to help others with the training and life experiences we have had in the areas we operate in. Don’t deprive your own family or another of getting some healing and help. Remember you do not know how many times they may have called out to others or God for help. If you are the vessel chosen to share the hope and help of this service with them, do your duty and sleep well tonite.
If need be we work with you financially according to your ability to repay and I guarantee it is always much less than traditional rates of you go into an office and pay 125-200$/ Hr for sessions and 300$ for assessments. If you need help and you are not getting it then it is your own fault because we don’t charge those rates and we work with you if you are going through a difficult time. Never let your family health suffer over money. That is one of the reasons we are here!
Everyone has friends, neighbors or loved ones who are desperately seeking or at least needing help on one of the areas we help with. If they do not know about our services than SHAME on YOU!
Let your loved ones and friends know they can get help at a place where they will not be turned away or judged in a 100% confidential setting. For the record we do NOT report to anyone about our client’s mental or behavioral issues so unlike an office and a doctor, who is required to inform people of diagnoses under certain circumstances we do not reveal to anyone your personal history. Many times a doctor’s office will be required to report certain illnesses to your employer or others you really do not need in your business. We do not discuss your situation with anyone unless you ask us to, like if you have a court situation where you have to prove you got help with anger management or counseling for addiction and all, we count.
Now take some time to browse All4uraddicton the magazine. You will be amazed !
Have a blessed day and please remember right now to make the call to anyone you know who needs help and for whatever reason is not getting it. You never know what you may be preventing. Many people today are just one cut down away from hurting themselves.
The Holidays are a terrible time statically for suicide and depression. If you are aware of anyone who is suffering-don’t make them go through another year alone. Tell them about us. Many times the only thing stopping a person who needs help from getting help is the lack of support or encouragement to make the call, or in some cases, I have made the call for others who just needed a boost to get help.
Here is the magazine for you to browse and become familiar with-again subscibe so you will get each edition.
Sometimes in life we miss the most obvious things, even when they right in our face. The old saying ” you are so close to the foresst you cannot see the trees” is true in many aspects of life and many of them have a direct effect on you and I.
Take the Catholic church and their well organized pedophilia racket. It’s so out in the open that the Catholic church even has a website to share with the public how big of an issue it is. Last time I checked in on their Bishops Accountability site they unashamedly posted just under 30k priests currently involved in a molestation accusation. Let me say that number again. 30 thousand priests ( and those are the ones the church is willing to talk about) So imagine what the true numbers might look like. From the Vatican down they are openly and proudly trying to make it illegal for police to know about any molestation allegations against priests!
One New York Bishop recently proposed to the New York Times that the age of consensual sex for priests and their little play toys and alter boys should be…..brace yourself…age 7.
He is asking that as long as the kid they molested is seven or older, its consensual sex. Im not making this up. No shame in their game at all. Not even hiding it. Yet how many devout Catholics will still be attending mass this Saturday or Sunday with their children. Im a parent folks, and if that is you let me just ask this ..
” What Are You Thinking?”
But this post is not about pedoohiles, it is about something that is also being used as a tool to hurt people for personal gain. Im talking about the big drug companies who make anti-depressants. Folks let me ask that if you have not yet read my home page called ” Mental Health Is Driving Me Crazy” please stop here take 5 to read it as it is the entire foundation for this topic.
Now the article I’m sharing with you is just one of thousands from doctors all over the world. They are trying to clue the public in that they are likely being duped, when it comes to anti-depressants and what their true effectiveness ( or lack of) is.
Just like the pedopriest problem, this information is public and available to everyone, yet nobody seems to be paying attention. The doctors are not giving their ” opinions ” on drugs. They are stating statistical facts that the drug makers themselves are not even hiding. Its identical to the situation in the Catholuc church . Nobody is hiding the sin or wrong doing. We the public follow along each other like sheep being led to the slaughter. Never looking up to see what is going around us.
If you did not know this, sheep are some of the dumbest animals in the world. If sheep are following in a line and the first one marches off the edge of a 200 foot cliff, guess what the others do? They follow it right off the cliff to their death!
We are no better folks. Its really time for us to start paying attention to things like these. Just like the sheep, gullible people walk off cliffs to their death, but it may be meds not the steep cliff that kills us.
Before you read this article I just want to point out again like I usually do that mental health is real, depression is real and there’s no question about that. Many doctors like the one in this article will give you different avenues to deal with depression that don’t have to do with medication.
There are many many alternatives and I’m not saying that all medications are bad, so hear me. I’m saying that in many cases they’re not only bad but harmful and they could cause suicidal thoughts. There is full admittance by the manufacturers, there’s no denying or even attempt to deny it.
I bet every single person that reads this post know somebody if not yourself that’s been on or is taking an antidepressant right now because antidepressants are going to be the second leading drug soon in the whole world prescribe so if that applies to you or a friend or family member share this with them or reblogged this so people can see what is going on.
It’s time that we start paying attention to what’s going around in the world around us. See what this doctor suggests you do if it applies to you or a loved one..
Im sitting at the doctors office right now about an hour early. I didnt time things very well. Nevertheless, I had already come up with a topic I wanted to write about since I was so early..
I hate typing posts from my phone. It feels like Im trying to play the piano with tennis balls on my finger tips. Awkward. But, I digress.
I did something in the waiting room just a few minutes ago that I have not done in over two years. I watched television. I havent owned a television or had cable for about 5 years, totally on purpose.
Today I held a remote. I sat through 30 minutes of Dr. Phil and I was only able to stomach that because it was David Cassidy’s last interview. Otherwise I have a hard time keeping from getting sick when I watch TV, in the daytime especially. Then when the news pops in every 30 minutes or so with more and more depressing inserts into what’s going wrong in our world. It just makes me more depressed and more depressed until I just don’t want to look at it anymore.
One thing I did notice was perspective. The things that used to be big are tiny and the things that used to be tiny are huge. I noticed this and I took a picture of it as it physically can be seen in this picture .
Media and television in general has pushed the Christmas thing right of the way . It may just be an office Im at now, but this little tree and big screen television are symbolic of our society today. We have squeezed the relevance and meaning out of everything and replaced it with mostly junk.
I will try to make a tiny difference by having a big Christmas tree with no television.
Plus I will say Merry Christmas to each person I see.