Why We Believe What We Do? You Sure About That? I Bet Not…

I have always been fascinated with finding out why people believe the things they do. Working as a behaviorist only made that desire to know stronger because I got to learn so much about why we do and say and believe the things we do. It amazes me even still 20 years later how a sa society we just ” assume ‘ that whatever we hear or see on television or in the paper is gospel truth. How far from the truth that really is. Actually we likely are being played most of the time we read or see something in the media, which is known as ” spin”.

However here now I am talking about things we personally have adopted as truth. For example if you have followed me for any time and read my home page about mental health and the DSM with all of its ” disorders”  you know  that even though that book all the doctors use to diagnose us with disorders and medicate us is called the Diagnostic and Statistical Manual Of Mental Health disorders, there is not 1 single statistic in it!


Every single ” disorder” in there was made up by a group of doctors who get together every 4-5 years and just make new ones up, then take a vote to see if it should be added or not the DSM. Its 100% theory. Not a scientific fact for any mental health disorder in there. Now that you know that, how might you feelings change when you take little Jimmy to the psychiatrist and the doctor says he has ” intermittent explosive disorder” and “anti-social personality disorder”- and writes him for an anti-psychotic drug? It happens by the thousands each day. How many parents do you think question the whole thing, or bring up the fact that they are all blind guesses anyhow? Not too many. They do not know. Unless someone like me ( who they like none too much) puts it out there for the public to see the average person just assumes that if a doctor said it is real, it must be.

Actually just the other day this older lady approached me and asked ” Do you think Bi-polar can go away? ” 

I looked at her shakng my head and said ” I dont know ma’am , Im not even sure when it got here”.

I am not focusing on mental health now though. Take almost anything we do , habits or whatever, they came from somewhere. I tell the story of a young bride who was cooking up Easter dinner with her mom one year. The mom took a big knife and cut the end of the ham bone clean off. So the daughter says, ” why did you do that”? Mom looks at her funny and says ” Oh I don’t know honey that is just how we have always cooked our ham and it’s always good” ! So a few minutes later the mom cannot shake that question so she picks up the phone and calls her mom. She asks her mom why they cut the ham bone off the ham before cooking it. The grandmother says ” Oh honey how do I know it must have been part of a recipe or something”. Now both the daughter and mother are even more curious, so they decided to call the great-grandmother and ask her. They get her on the line and ask her too, ” Granny why is it for 60 years we cut the ham bone off the ham each year at Easter before cooking it?”

The great granny pauses and says ” Honey I don’t know why y’all are cutting the bone. We cut the bone because our pan was too small to hold it.

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A few years ago I was approached by a pair of Jehovah’s Witnesses outside of a grocery store. As dedicated as ever, they politely asked if they could share their message with me. I said sure and let them go through what they had been trained to say over at the kingdom hall. When they got near the grand finale they reminded me that the bible actually says in Revelations that only 144,000 people will be going to heaven. Next they offered me a spot, if I became a Jehovah’s Witness. So I looked at them and said, ” can you tell me what year the Jehovah’s Witness religion was founded? They glanced at each other than took a quick peek at their notes. The first guy said ” yes sir, around 1850″. I said ” Ok, but let me ask you, did all the millions and millions of people who were long gone before 1850 go to hell? Not a one was a JW.”

They had not got the training on that one so they quickly mounted the shiny bikes and headed for an easier target. The point is these guys were sincerely trying to do good and make a difference but had no clue as to why they were saying what they were saying.

This happens in our lives each day and we all fall for it at some point in our lives. When is it time we do our own research and homework? Maybe our way of thinking is kind of like the ham bone story. Or maybe we are 100% set in our beliefs on something that we truly only believe because grandpa told us.

Sometimes the issues are harmless like the ham bone, and it’s really not a big deal if we are a little off . On the other hand , some of what we profess may have consequences here on earth, or worse yet eternally. I highly recommend knowing why you believe what you believe When it’s all said and done, there are some things we will not be able to blame on granny or grandpa when we should have done the research as adults.  Some things we should be very sure we know that we know that we know we have the truth. What are those things in your life?


Author: www.dontlabelmykid.blog (Don't Label My Kid! Coaching & Counseling Team)

Social Worker- Mental Health, Addictions, and Behavioral health- Leadership Educator-, Juvenile Justice. A variety of coaching. I have a great desire to help others make it through times that I myself have had to navigate. I understand the process, the pain,and the support needed. I, and the rest of my team all have both the formal education to coach others but more importantly we also have the life experience which allows us to relate to all the phases and hurdles that come with recovering from issues like depression, addiction, domestic violence, spiritual confusion, and much more. I feel that the combination of formal training and life experience allows us to meet those we help every point of need- in a real way.

10 thoughts on “Why We Believe What We Do? You Sure About That? I Bet Not…”

  1. No trust me, im not a candidate with the delusiom that .my works have earned me anything but hell. Im lihe Paul and identifymore with ” im the chief of all sinners”
    ..btw im always careful to make sure works are never a part of salvation. When you asked me what must I do to be saved I didn’t say get baptized in there anywhere that was I was telling you my personal history of my church upbringing and all that when you said what must I do to be saved I said anybody who confesses with their mouth and believe in your heart that Jesus is Lord will be saved

  2. I know without a doubt that I have God’s Truth Tj because He told me I do and anyone can have it without doubting if they do as He tells us as confirmed in the Scripture below. If we have asked in Faith we have received His Wisdom by The Empowering of The Holy Spirit which none of us were Born with and so having received we never have to doubt that what we believe and share is His Truth but He tells us if we do doubt and think that we haven’t received what He promised than we are unstable and yes to doubt what God tells us shows we are very unstable, it also means we are calling Him a liar, which is Slander.

    Proverbs 4:7 Wisdom is the Principal Thing therefore get Wisdom and with all thy getting get Understanding.

    James 1:5-6 If any of you lack Wisdom let him ask of God that giveth to all Men liberally and upbraideth not and it shall be given him. But let him ask in Faith nothing wavering. For he that wavereth is like a wave of the sea driven with the wind and tossed. For let not that Man think that he shall receive any thing of The Lord. A double minded Man is unstable in all his ways.

    Luke 11:13 …..how much more shall your Heavenly Father give the Holy Spirit to them that ask Him?

    1 Corinthians 2:9-16 But as it is written Eye hath not seen nor ear heard neither have entered into the heart of Man the things which God hath prepared for them that Love Him. But God hath revealed them unto us by His Spirit for the Spirit searcheth all things yea the deep things of God. For what Man knoweth the things of a Man save the spirit of Man which is in him? even so the things of God knoweth no Man but the Spirit of God. Now we have received not the spirit of the World but the Spirit which is of God that we might know the things that are freely given to us of God. Which things also we speak not in the words which Man’s wisdom teacheth but which The Holy Ghost Teacheth comparing spiritual things with Spiritual. But the natural Man receiveth not the things of the Spirit of God for they are foolishness unto him neither can he know them because they are Spiritually discerned. But he that is Spiritual judgeth all things yet he himself is judged of no Man. For who hath known the Mind of The Lord that he may instruct Him? but we have The Mind of Christ.

    1John 2:26-28 These things have I written unto you concerning them that seduce you. But the anointing which ye have received of Him abideth in you and ye need not that any Man teach you but as the same anointing Teacheth you of all things and is Truth and is no lie and even as it hath Taught you, ye shall abide in Him.

    Matthew 10:26-28 Fear them not therefore: for there is nothing covered that shall not be revealed and hid that shall not be known. What I tell you in darkness that speak ye in light and what ye hear in the ear that preach ye upon the housetops (KJV)

    I will leave a link below for you Tj that has more detail…..

    Wisdom- http://freedomborn.wordpress.com/2012/05/07/the-gaining-of-wisdom/

    Christian Love Tj and God’s Blessings
    Anne (Grannie Annie

    1. Thank you. I studied the diffeent cults/ religion for a yeqr or so about 20 years ago just to and identify any common denominators in them or anything I could learn ftom the 1500 different revognized groups. With the help of the great atheist turned Christian., Josh McDowell, I did learn 2 or 3 very clear differences between Christian beliefs and all 1500 others. First and most critical, was that although I was surprised at how many cults recognize Christ as a ” good man” or even a ” prophet” – none of the groups recognized, or believed in the deity of Christ, which like in the case of the JW’s, is a complete deal breaker when it comes to being a Christian or being born again. Another interesting point was the fact that not one other ” religion” had there been a sacrifice made for the atonement of sin.. Everything is works based or based on new age jive about the universe gave us this or that.Without the diety of Christ and the sacrifice made by Christ for our sins to be paid for there is no heaven or God for anyone. I love McDowells little books for non- believers like More Than A Carpenter” and ” Evidence That Demands A Verdict” – since he is a scientist who set out to disprove the existence of God to start out with.

    2. As for your born again question the answer is yes. I was raised in the Lutheran church so went through confirmation and lots of scripture memorization as well, but it was not until I was in my early 20’s that I decided to become baptized and committed my life to Christ.
      As for why it is not the first thing to hit people between the eyes with on this site – there is good reason for that.
      When I first felt called to share my rather unusual and very difficult life through this blog I felt strongly that God wanted people to experience the grace and mercy that I had all through my life and how He brought me and continues to bring me through very difficult circumstances. However I felt very led to tell my story, of my life and my career and how God had been a part of it all from day one as It came up in my writings . I felt I was to never beat anyone over the head the bible from the get go, but to share my true experiences as I went along and how God was involved, If he was . The result has been the ability for me to say this is NOT a Christian blog. However as you have time to scan the over 1000 posts on here you will find that through my own telling of my life the gospel has been shared in hundreds of my posts. So it appears I was to have a blog that even the biggest atheist could feel comfortable being at as no judgement is present. At the same time however, if Christ was involved in what I am writing about , He is always given the glory. The fruit of that has been incredible and I have received many messages reinforcing that God’s plan for this blog was to make everyone feel welcome and not judged, but still leave with the unadulterated truth of Christ. I hope that make sense! As you are able to read some of the archived posts and as you continue to read my upcoming posts I am confident you will understand what I mean about the purpose of this site.
      Thanks again for following, feel free to share any of the posts I write or have written with anyone.

      1. Hi T. J. thank you for your kind response.
        If someone were to come to you and ask, “what must I do to be saved?”
        What would you say for them to do?

      2. I would say what the Lord said in the Word. Jesus made it clear in John 14:6 that there is one way, Him, so that is out of the way. Now what about Him is the question? Well I believe in the simplest form the Word says ” anyone who confesses with their mouth and believes in their heart that Jesus is Lord, will be saved. So now we know we need a ” Lord” but why? I refer the fact we all have the disease of sin and the bible says “no one is righteous – no not one “- If we must be righteous to be saved and none of us are righteous, then when Jesus said in John 14:6 He is only way, He must be the righteous one. How we become saved is to acknowledge that we are in need of a savior from condemnation for our sin issue, Next we must recognize that the finished work of Christ at the cross is the only payment acceptable tothe Father for sin, bloodshed,. They sacrificed lambs in the OT for the forgiveness of sin and that was until the Lamb of God was sent, who’s blood once and for all paid for the sin of those who believe on Him for the forgiveness., Being born again as in John 3;3 to me is simply receiving the Holy Spirit as everyone who receives Christ does whether they realize it or not. So maybe my longer version is for someone who has never heard the Gospel,. I am sure other scripture sums it up more quickly but those are the verses I use to explain the process to a newcomer. Why do you ask just out of curiosity?

      3. Hi T. J.,
        I asked, because in your testimony of your salvation, you cited what you had done to get saved, (baptism, & committed your life to Jesus). That’s what prompted my question.
        Had you stated that I’m trusting in the death, burial, and resurrection of the Lord Jesus Christ as my salvation, I wouldn’t have asked that question. Because that would indicate you were trusting in what Jesus had done as your justification.

        (I’m not saying you’re not) some people just express themselves differently than others. And that’s okay, I say stuff wrong all the time. ☺
        It’s just that I encounter people who fit Matthew 7.21-23 , who claim to have salvation based on what they did…rather than what Jesus did.

        I got baptized a couple of times, and have dedicated my life to Jesus on multiple occasions, (which I always fail at miserably). And I don’t count any of that as my salvation.
        It clicked in me one night about Jesus’ atonement…and I believed! Man I flipped out in relief and joy! Oh happy day!
        And I’ve ever since been walking with Jesus. ☺☺☺

        Praise God, and all glory to the risen Lord Jesus Christ.

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