There is something I have noticed over the years that has recently troubled me. More so in the last decade or so and it may have something to do with the fact that I now have girls of my own after 10 years with just boys. At any rate it doesnt matter when it all started happening- it just did. It still is happening, if that is even possible.
Im talking about the fact that women as a whole have devalued themselves, by the way they dress, talk and most importantly how they think about themselves. They have permitted a change of mindset that should have never occurred.
There are so many ways to approach this topic so Im going to break it down only in the areas of expertise that I have. Theories of personality, human behavior and the transitions that occur at certain ages. Those are good starting points.
When I was in middle / high school hitting a girl for ANY reason just did not occurr. Period. There was good reason for it too. If any male was to lay a hand on a girl you better believe there would be a very intense talking to by 3-4 guys after school to refresh your memory on that whole deal works. And you got only 1 warning. The ” intense meeting” after school may have left a boy with a black eye or something, but that was just a warning shot. I dont think I saw more than 3-4 boys repeat the act in all my years and I promise you those boys still remember that day as it would be hard to forget. The second go around the mountain was disturbing to even think of. It was not tolerated.
Thats how we were brought up.
The girls of the world just starting allowing more and more violence against them. if I fast forward to today, it actually has totally reversed itself from how things were. What do I mean by that? Brace yourself ..
If you are involved in social media at all you will likely at some point run across a little post of a 16 year old girl with a black eye- BRAGGING that that her ” man” beat her down for stepping out of line or some garbage like that. Actually proud of the mark that they have-from a man who keeps her in line like an animal.. Is that twisted or what?
I could go on forever but let me bring this to a close and perhaps readdress it later. The bottom line here is called self esteem. The complete loss of one’s own identity because they have been beaten down emotionally and physically to the point that the only identity left to chase is the one their abusers have drilled in their head.
You may also see this in the form of a person trying to act as if they were a different color, race, culture even the way they talk or walk just in order to fit in with a certain identity or group that has nothing to do with who they really are.
That happens all day to girls from 12-50. No one is immume. There is only one way to heal that, and its a process of helping a wounded person to get their thinking straight and instilling in them that their securty, hope and confidemce does not come from any person, money, job, looks, but that their creator is their source. That source never leaves, never tires, always uplifts and sets them up for success not failure.
We have a sick twisted society where young woman are starting to lose their self esteem from so much abuse, and begin to act as if the way some boys treated them was somehow deserved . They began to settle for just not too many beatings, they started living out what the coward boys would tell them they are.
I could not nor would I put pictures of whats going each day, but below is just a random picture found on line. Its very , very tame compared to what Im talking about, but even when I was in school, any girl who walked the halls doing that would have thought of as a slut. Todays its just normal.
Then, just as disgusting and oh so pitiful is our new generation of ” Im outing myself as a she/man because Im really a woman locked inside.” They may look like this ..
This just in buddy. If you drop your drawers and your still not sure who are, you need an eye doctor or a psychiatrist, or both. Its really not that diffiicult to identify. There are beans and a frank or not. Thats your test on how God made you.
So if you are a parent with a child going through something that you have not been able to help, as always contact me and we can discuss a Dont Label My Kid! Family Plan.