We all have times in our lives when things just seem to be going in a downward spiral. Not the kind of down that keeps you wanting to stay in bed all day and cry, but the type that takes the spring out of your step- and makes it just a little bit harder to smile when you tuck your kids in bed at night. The sun still shines but not quite as bright.
Its also the time when your friends and favorite television motivation guru will prompt you to push yourself harder not to allow these ” little ‘ setbacks to bring you down. Stay strong and all that jazz. Right. Usually that advice backfires because although the intentions may have been good, you end up feeling like ..well..like ..see below..
Depression and all types of mental illness is something that I have helped people through at every level. The good news is that this type of depression is known in the mental health field as ” situational depression “- it always passes. Nobody is immune. Loved ones pass away, divorces happen, jobs are lost and sometimes it all seems to happen at once. Take heart – the best way to deal with this is to simply be prepared for it.
I live in a state where we get hurricanes each year. Those of us who have been all of our lives think nothing of it. We know what to do and honestly its when a ton of hurricane parties take place! Houses all boarded up and no electric but its a time for friends and neighbors to hang..
Now take a newbie to Florida- who has not been pre-taught about 100 mph winds -or palm trees and 7-11 dumpsters being launched down roads, well that is a whole different deal. You get the point. Preparation is half the battle.
Now lets bump it up a notch. The symptoms are more severe, and longer lasting. This is literally where whoever you work through it with can dictate how you live and approach the rest of your life. It takes a person who can assess your root issues and direct you and help you into the appropriate treatment plan. Here is where our system falls apart. You can see 10 different therapists, social workers, doctors and get 10 answers.
I have always used a tool called a psychosocial assessment to start the process of identifying the most serious issues and how to get the right help from the right person.
When you hear terms major depression, bi-polar, mood disorder, and the like you could easily be diagnosed with ANY of those if you present with the same symptoms to 5 different clinicians. No big deal you say? Oh yes – yes it is. The guy who labels you with mood disorder may not even recommend meds. However if you are unlucky and catch the wrong guy and he decides you have bi-polar 2- Whoa Nellie- now you are into Lithium, and other heavy meds as well as a heavy label..
Just like with the parenting tips, there is no 1 way fits all. You must meet someone who wants you on the LEAST amount of meds ( if any) and the LEAST heavy duty label. ( I know a guy who is excellent btw)
If you or someone you know is struggling and not bouncing back from a few weeks of mild blues, its time to take a closer look.
Dontlabelmykid2@gmail.com – I can help .