One of the most difficult things that the addict has to deal with is the pain and suffering that go along with others judging you. It’s enough struggle to try and get yourself recovered and free of a bondage. When you have your family and friends around you who are apathetic or even judgmental of you while you’re giving a hundred percent inside it’s torture. The truth is that a non addict has no clue what an addict goes through when trying to be free. It’s a living hell that most non-addicts would probably fail at immediately. But an addict whose continually tried to make progress and move forward with all of his or her heart will not likely give up even with the pain.
There is a point however where everything seems so dark and so hopeless that even most solid person who is trying to be free from an addiction cannot see any light or any hope. This is when it’s so critical that the support system is not only not judgemental but becomes the support system for them to move forward.
It’s one thing if an addict has no desire or makes no effort to become free. It’s a whole different ballgame when you’re by yourself trying to accomplish something that is almost impossible and you’re only support system is pointing fingers or speaking negative things about you.If you are a family member or friend of an addict currently trying to get free the last thing you should be doing is judging them or telling them to snap out of it. The best thing you can do is surround them with support and hope and help them with a hand up into the next step of the recovery process. Since you likely have no clue what it feels like it’s absolutely unfair for you to say anything about how they feel.
Thats all for today. Thats a major issue. So let it sink in and evaluate yourself as a support.