Bad News Everyone.   We Have All Been Taken.  …Ptsd, Bipolar, Anxiety and all the others – Dont even exist. ..Now What?

Now as we are getting closer to actually offering REAL services and REAL truth about mental illness, addiction, DSM V , psychology, psychiatry, PTSD , ADHD, and every other issue affecting us all, I need to recap a few issues. 

The beliefs  of Don’t Label My Kid! are not my opinion. Not someone’s philosophy. They are facts. Facts by way of 2 routes. 

1- I personally have lived it. 

2- I have witnessed /worked with at least 500 people in any given duagnoses who have been treated -and documented results. .

The next issue can easily be misinterpreted, so please be careful in reading what I am saying .

The DSM V is the Bible of psychiatry. As you know each of us who has been tagged with a label has been tagged by criteria from this book. 

The acronym actually is for Diagnostic and Statistical manual of Mental health disorders. 

Diagnostic and Statistical Manual of Mental Disorders (Book by American Psychiatric Association).

https://goo.gl/search/Diagnostic+and+Statistical+Manual+of+Mental+Disorders

Here is something quite surprising to many. The book is 100℅ theory with not a shred of any statistics in it. No scientific evidence of anything other than the fact it is a money machine. 

As a matter of fact it is developed and updated every few years by psychiatrists themselves who literally meet in a group of 200 or so anonymously and make up new disorders to diagnose. They pitch an idea , take it to vote, and if  all in favor is greater, it . Dont take my word.. Watch.

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Meanwhile just by sheer coincidence, lol …The big drug companies just happened to have come out with a drug to treat the new disorder. They are even allowed to pay the doctor to write patients for their new drugs. 

 What are we to do with this information?  Does this mean none of us have addiction problems or mental health issues? Of course not. It just needs to be known so people can weigh that out in their decisions to take meds, see a psychiatrist or psychologist or neither. 

Very few parents I’ve worked with knew the difference between  the two professions. 

Another issue is psychotropic medication. I’ve been on 15-20 or so. When I went to investigate who makes them and what proof they could provide that they were effective, I was amazed at what i found..

1st- clinical studies- which are supposed to be mandatory for new drugs are both deceiving and sometimes non-existent. The  FDA is supposed to gate-keep,  but they have very loose rules. 

2- Big pharma is a Billion dollar industry. Not only do they put out drugs that have never shown any real success, but they even seem to mock the victims of their failed drugs. 

 For example about 2 years ago, one of the mega drug companies issued a public statement regarding  some of the antidepressants they had on the market for teens with major depression/suicidal thoughts. 

They announced that they were sorry to announce that 12/13 of the  drugs they marketed to those teens not only did  NOT work, but CAUSED suicidal thoughts. Oops.. .

You would think they would do something right? Nope. They stll sell the same drugs today. 

When I read all of your  comments there is a common theme. Whether it be PTSD or depession/suicidal thoughts , most of you are dissatisfied with any treatment you have attempted. This does not have be the case. 

 What we are doing as a group is using our numbers and experiences on this platform to get effectve treatmenr from successful providers who will not just provide services for us, but effective and individual services with results. 

Here is the point we all need to get . 

Regardless of how we all feel about the DSM or psychiatry in general. 

STOP GIVING YOUR LABEL SO MUCH POWER! 

It is man made. You are not. You do not have to stay where you are.

Some of you have absolutely decided to live out the prophecy given to you by some doctor. Get over that .

 Dont let the tail wag the dog. Yes the symptoms are real. Yes they affect you. Stop there and start joining us who are trying to move forward. The worst thing people can do is get involved in groups where people sit around and talk about how miserable their lives are because of their disorder. 

Thats why AA and NA have 20% success rates. When I had to go to AA for 30 days in my 30’s – I had to down a 12 pack in the parking lot just to get through it.

We need real help with real results. Thats what we are about. Not learning to drag labels around through our lives. OK? 

Thats what I do. I have worked with the best. I have started my own programs  with great success. If I wasn’t sure all of you could get better I would not have wasted 4 years writing 400 articles. 

Oh and just FYI, you know just by my homepage how hard  I am on drug makers and doctors who exploit people that don’t need meds or labels. I called them out right from the start. How many arguments do you think I have received from doctors or therapists or drug makers?

ZERO. NONE. BECAUSE ITS TRUE. 


Now onto solutions. 

As of yesterday I have an investor interested  awaiting some data and things from us.  If it looks good he is willing to help us provide services                  INTERNATIONALLY! 

He needs some data obviously before dropping serious cash . 

1-One issue is what types of disorders are affecting the most people.Please note in a comment or reply to a post the name or names of the disorder you or your loved one struggles with. You need not tell details just the name for data collection.

2- If anyone here is an expert in fundraising or knows a philanthropic person interested in treatment please contact me asap.If you have other ways to raise funds quickly let me know. Crowdfunding or whatever. Investors dont pay for the expenses of getting the plan together. 

It’s going to be about 10k to pay the experts to design the things we need Develop and present business plan. . Web design, languages,  marketing, and consulting. When that is secured and the others are done we can possibly be able to initiate services worldwide. Let’s just start by using the resources you have. Things work out for us when we pull together. 

OK ,keep doin what we do!  Don’t forget to add in the type of disorder you or your family member deals with..Also I recently started a Facebook Group called Break Through. Sign in as a member there as well.! 

Tj

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Followers please add. Treatment for all requires all to be involved! We are getting closer. Now we must expand our presence..

Once Again, Y’all Have Made It Rain..Unreal. 

It’s been a day since I asked you to spread the word about us providing services. I haven’t even got the chance to start sorting through hundreds of potential providers and counselors in hopes they will come on board. . You ready ?

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Much like the last time I asked you to get the word out on the priest thing and heard from CNN and a few others. Another miracle. { My atheist friends you know the routine , call it the universe or whatever}

An hour ago I received a Skype call from another country. The man said his daughter who also lived in Switzerland had recently heard about Don’t Label My Kid! .. 

Cool . Wow that’s great I thought. Then he said she wants to help us get this done using her connections internationally because they have the same problem in Europe and everywhere. 

Huh?  What ? I know people who pay huge money to reach huge audiences in hopes of getting the attention of one interested person.

It’s not about the numbers . We all have good motives and some supernatural assistance. That is unreal. I’m sure that’s just the start , but just so you each know how you are being used I had to share. Oh and stats on this site in the last hour are off the chart. I dont check but they sent me some feel good note . 

No surprise. Now let’s dig our heals in! I just created a new category for this blog – Followers Achievements

Tj
” You are the sum of the people you spend the most time with” – Tim Ferrel

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TJ- Don’t Label My Kid!- Message to my crew. These Little Ladies Are Mine. Boys are up and out. When I look at them I thank God I even get to hold them. It should not be.

This post is about giving many others a chance to watch their babies grow up. Not many would have made it through what I did, and I believe the purpose for this was to make some changes so others could not suffer through certain things that can kill. So please take this to heart and lets do this thing.  I don’t get to make the plans or set dates, but I am pretty sure this is an appointment we all need to be at.  Thanks for taking a few out to read and do what you can. .. You may make it possible for a guy like me to be smiling down at his little girls like I am here, when he would not have made it before…

You all who have been here for a while already know that as a group some very cool things happen through this blog . Nothing anybody could have planned but just incredible events. Well, fasten your seat belts because here we go again.  Last week I was looking around for just the right people to introduce to all of us as experts in their particular area of service. Lets face it, we are all here because some aspect of our lives are not where we would like them to be. You all have written and been very open about anything from suicidal thoughts to physical disabilities or like me a lifetime of hell with addictions issues.  You remember I started last week our kick off on addiction and invited everyone to invite their families and friends who just didn’t get it. Cool right? I  really want to offer every single person here the treatment they need whether it be PTSD or a fear of dinosaurs.  You know why? Because as many of you may know, treatment in general sucks. It is not at all very successful, and just is a dead-end.  I however, having a great resume on the rehab floor, and also as a social worker have had the answers to why. It’s not too complicated but much is about money. Greed. There are other things too and if I had the funding I would have offered REAL treatment from day one. But, I spent my last million a few years ago . Lol.

Well here is where the weird stuff we get as a group once in a while came in. In the last 3 days there has been an influx all over the media and in the treatment and mental health industry to pour out tons of money to start researching peoples experiences and issues with their failed treatment and actually consider making some changes. Wow! What a coincidence! That’s what we all have been talking about for 4 years. Hmm. Is anyone with me yet? We have the hard data compliments of WordPress. 

So bottom line we are one  of a very tiny group who has the opportunity that we do. That is to ask successful providers to give all of us the services we need and our family and friends too. My job is to find the very best 10  or 15 experts in every area we need to sign on to being here for us. I am talking virtual counseling all the way to 6 month stays out-of-state or country if needed. But that’s not the end. Personally I have been in 3 rehabs since age 23 or so. The first one sucked . The second one was a little better because I got some good drugs from other ” patients” – and the last was fair because  staff let us sneak a pill now and then.

So do we all get why our country is falling apart? The treatment centers and treatment is sub-par and I am being  generous. I went into this field hoping that a day like this would happen. Where we would have the upper hand. It’s here. But 2 things must happen.

1- I have to find and recruit the best of the best in each area we all need.

2 -You all need to share the news   DONT LABEL MY KID!    is a place that ANYONE who needs treatment can come. I will make sure nobody is turned away. That is handled by financial people who can split insurances and get grants or whatever.   If you read what Charles on LinkedIn posted and I reposted here 50 THOUSAND PEOPLE on FACEBOOK alone are looking for  treatment. Not 500. 50k.  Why shouldn’t we be the ones to get the best providers on our team and have them get help through us?  We could start hiring from within for admissions and case management jobs. Everyone of us can play a role in a trailblazing effort.

More importantly we can blaze a new trail of treatment  for outpatient treatment centers so that people with the disease of addiction are treated like people with the disease of addiction. Not losers who don’t care. Do you know how many lives that could save?  This little mystery blog we all met on years ago has already done  more to change major issues than any reporters could. That’s just one case about that priest who molested my brother. That isn’t over yet either.

So if I know you all we can do this and make a name that nobody will forget. For the people needing treatment and by the people needing treatment. It is not about me. It would not be a grand accomplishment if I said look what I did. But if I could share the efforts and input and conditions of all of us and the world saw how it all happened, I have to believe we would see long-term change.

Do you know that even if you can get your loved one into a rehab, the chances of recovery are slim. Embarrassing even. You would think those places would do their jobs right? And most of them do try to rise above the average 35-40% success rate . As a matter of fact the top 10 highest rated programs in the country do in fact boast a considerably higher success rate then the other 90%.

The only difference in their programs ( besides up to 75,000$ higher price tag)  is that some have an extra component to supplement the traditional 12 step method that AA and NA use.  Perhaps even a doctor who himself is a recovered addict. The luxury centers in Florida , California often incorporate yoga, hiking and special fruit diets. Fruits and yoga instructors don’t come cheap. All that said we do have some very effective treatment centers in the USA. I suppose there are also a few Ford Pintos still running too. The point here is not that nobody cares or is trying, but it is to address the reality of the logistics, treatment methods, staffing available and many other factors that together present an epidemic right now as we are currently in a never before seen high rate of overdose deaths from opiates and heroin. Gone are the days of the Andy Griffith sticking Otis in the jail cell until he sobers up. It is dead serious and all over.

This may be the most important post I have ever written as the timing of all this gives us as a group an opportunity to make a dent or even spearhead a new way of thinking when it  comes to treatment.

You all know I don’t keep track of numbers or stats and pay for publicity. The reason 4 years ago I didn’t even consider it was two-fold. First, I have lived the hell of addiction since age 12 due to exceptional parenting by my father.  (NOT).  The point is I know what it is like to want to give up. I know what it feels like to give it everything you got, and have people accuse you of being a slacker who didn’t care about anyone else.  I know what its like to drive home from work excited that I had made up my mind not to drink that night and as my truck passed the ABC liquor store it automatically turned in all by itself.

If you want to talk opiates , or anything else have no fear I have been there too. Mine is addiction depression. Yours may be grief. It may be disease in your body. It does not matter. All can be treated. 

So assuming you have the funding, the open bed, and the right circle of clinicians who are the decision makers  in that tiny percentage of the programs,  you may actually have as high as a 3/4 chance of remaining clean. At least for a year. Now as for the other 90% of programs that do  not have that fruitful, ocean side venue  with the possibility of a real live recovered addict as a role model to help treat them, the sad reality is that maybe 3-4 clients will stay clean for even a year. I personally think it is a horrible hope to stick any struggling addict in a system with results like that. I mean now you may be talking random philosophies of treatment for these citizens who just don’t take their lives seriously, and don’t care about the pain they are causing their families. Snap out of it. Grow up.

At least that’s how I felt when I myself found myself on a cold floor in withdrawals with a tiny mattress to lay on as I vomited and contemplated whether life was worth living. My first program I got lucky because the ” tough love shifter” who marched in like military generals demanding roll call and even exercise while you prayed your heart would not fail seemed to be there as a I began to come out of my life threatening symptoms of opiate and alcohol withdrawal. I remember one nice older lady who used to sneak us an apple or two even just to insure a healthy outcome. She may have known more than we all thought, since the crew I did time with all lasted weeks longer in our sobriety then some others.  That at least gave our families an extra week or two to see us sober. It must have been pure bliss for mom and dad.

Not so much. The next program AA though had a little secret that they were so proud of because it has been around for a century. You see they made it mandatory that we all spent an hour or two each day with al the other failures repeating publicly that we had no control over our situation. Thankfully they had a lifelong open door welcome policy to return after our  ” treatment ” just to remind ourselves of our future -the same as it was that day. If it wasn’t for the hope of making it 30 days or even 60 without using and getting to be presented publicly with a  poker chip  for our good behavior, I may have never had the success I did of well over 3 months sober. Pure heaven.  The only problem was I still felt like I was sick. Like I had well, almost like a real human who was productive  in society  would get, a disease.

Crazy me, here I go back to denial. I sucked it up like you do when you hold your breath.  Until again I had to breath. Now that I look back I am being a little hard on the program, because after my first 30 days of peeing clean, I did get to go into a real public place like the working folk and play pool for an hour with the fellas. Heck the guard that brought us even went out for a smoke break once. It was like we were on parole!

So sure, after a few detox weekends , verbal tongue lashings and contract signings in front of the staff who had never been so disobedient to life as I , I eventually was set FREE! I will never forget walking out of the compound to see my own truck there and more importantly my two young sons. They must have been seen me as a role model. I honestly to this day do not think they ever saw the 20-30 slices up and down my arm to my wrist from trying to figure out how to bleed out while in my hellish withdrawals. I couldn’t even get that right. Nevertheless, I had learned to hold my breath longer now. I was as a clean as a whistle. Never stepped foot into another rehab. It was the darn jail cells that got to me though when I earned my first DUI. I didn’t care for it.

Thank goodness on my 2nd DUI the judge allowed me to check in to a 90 day inpatient program. Heck with good behavior, my superiors at my job an as a clinical social worker would never even know!  This program was much different. I felt like a real human the while time. There was no television or computers. You spent all day working physical labor, the were fed well, but this place didn’t have the walk of shame hour each night. Instead mandatory church.  Oh well, I guess it couldn’t hurt. I knew right away I was never going to score oxy and Vicodin’s like at the Miami place, but hey, I will try.

People that was when I was only 30. It took almost 10 more years to even stay functional. That’s unacceptable. I tried everything. I took the shame and guilt and accusations . You all know. So do you want to let it all go or seize a chance to show the kind of pain uneducated people cause others  cause?

That’s it I am done. I got work to do.

Are you going to do your part?

tj

Note*  To reiterate, I never said that all treatment facilities are useless. What I am saying is due to sheer need, different treatment types, and financial issues, people are dying not living.

I spoke to the Executive Director Of the # 1 best treatment center in the USA last night about this.  Asked his opinion.  He understands the problem.  Lets do this.

 Facebook Users Need Addiction and Behavioral Health Treatment too..Big Time..Let’s Bring Them Home..

Dont Label My Kid! Will Be Offering Services For Everyone Soon. 

Facebook Alone Has 50k people seeking treatment. You all can be a resource to them by reaching out to the groups , people you know on FB. As it has been here for the four years we’ve been in existence,  we as a group are going to establish and  initiate a major change and offer resources for people like us who need help but couldn’t find it  As mentioned earlier I’ve already talked to providers that have experienced success the way that we know it needs to be and are interviewing and in the process of inserting them into our group. Then we can reach out to them and anybody else. Folks you and I know there’s reasons for the failure rate in treatment one of the major reasons is that there’s not any input from the actual client you and I need to be having input that’s what makes success the other component is individualized care and treatment per person no cookie-cutter method that’s what we’re going to bring..Please reach out to your Facebook friends and let tht of us already know the success rates of rehabs are  about 30% which is pathetic but most of the rest of the world doesn’t. We need to let them know to come to us so we can give them hope that they will get a higher percent of success rate.  That’s what this is about . Connect them to follow us or give them my email.  tim@dontlabelmykid.com

⚫ Facebook Needs Addiction and Behavioral Health Professionals..We can do it. I  have never been more serious and any post of ever written out of 400 on this Blog then I am right now if you’ve ever been to rehabs that have failed and been through withdrawals and suffering and misery and depression save some of these people from that and bring him to us so we can get him some real help. Will you get a chance to make a major difference in the direction of a treatment in an entire system United States and even the world we have that opportunity right now and just like always I want all of us to be included it’s not about me it’s about all of us helping us and everybody else too.

 if you don’t know anybody in Facebook below is a list of I believe over 40,000 people in nine different groups you could contact the leaders of the groups and let him know that we are here.

https://www.linkedin.com/pulse/facebook-needs-addiction-behavioral-health-charles-davis

Addiction Series 2017- Toxic Judgement…

I  had a post prepared for the initial introduction to the series but I don’t have the talent  to possibly script what I just read in a newspaper today  I’m going to kick it off with it here and let you see the ignorance that happens in this industry.

Great . Now my link disappeared. Heres the bottom line. Some Barney Fife cop decided he was going the ” tough love ” route with drug addicts he busted in withdrawals..No Norco and nothing to prevent sudden death.  Now we got Barney Fife wanting to play Doogie Howser. 

How about this jackass . Walk your beat and catch the kids stealing candy. You don’t make the rules just because you get to carry a gun. If I was your sup. I’d load you up with H for  3 days and eat popcorn .

Junkie Reunion! Party Is Started! BYOC (bring your own critics)….

ADDICTION SERIES 2017 IS NOW IN SESSION.

In case anybody missed the last post I’m going to repeat one more time who should and who should not be here. This is about the real deal of addiction this isn’t a cookie-cutter 12-step program that you go in and stay sober for a month and then relapse. It’s not about some special Supernatural therapy that you get better overnight and it’s not about any hypnotism. It’s for people that have been through things like I’ve been through withdrawals rehabs rehabs again failures success failures and finally find a road in the right direction .It’s a damn shame that a disease forces us to be guinea pigs. We can send somebody to the moon we can make more progress in this.

Just as important as that – you invite your family friends and anybody who you know that is not an addict and make them aware and involved in this series because they are a huge part of your success and recovery. There are  two things I’m going to make sure you understand if you’re an addict reading this. Number one you have a disease .

Nobody goes to the cancer wards and commands everybody to get out of their bed and get cured and just snap out of it,  so nobody should come to you in command you to snap out of it. 

The second thing is is that your support system is everything to your recovery negative reinforcement from family friends non-addicts people have no clue what you going through does nothing but dig a deeper hole for you. The way to remedy that is to educate them on the truth of what comes out of their mouth and I’m here to do that if you’re willing to invite them to be involved in the series that’s your call.

With that said if you are willing to do all it takes to get better you should be here if you’re not interested in getting your disease managed then you shouldn’t be here. Much of the failure rate of addiction treatment has to do with  groups like AA and NA type support systems.Imagine if you had a full-time job and everyday when you got into work you had to recite I am powerless over this job and I have no ability in my own power to do it and then you sit down and discuss how you would overcome it. That’s why groups like that have an embarrassing rate of long-term success. I’m not saying there’s no place for these groups. I’m saying that’s not for treatment and many times it ends up as a giant pity party that never ends. 

 This whole series is designed to walk through the different stages  of addiction  frustration failure  low self-esteem  and ultimately recovery. Every one of us has walked through different stages at different times with different support groups and different circumstances so it’s imperative that we interact with each other. It’s not a time to sit back and just rehash it over and over. This is a real deal where there’s real results- there’s going to be people involved in here that are experts that actually have results.

 Anybody that’s involved in this series are  people that have lived it, and in some cases are service providers as well  People that offer their input or services are only people that have been handpicked by me because of their success rate and because of the philosophy that we all understand that there is no cookie-cutter method to fix it all.There are a few successful treatment centers around and we’re going to be focusing a lot on similar philosophies but we’re also going to do a little bit of educating to support family and friends who are unaware of the impact  that  commanding people to snap out of it,  grow up you have kids get a job when they have no idea what the hell you’re going through. It maybe a little  down and dirty at times and that’s just fine. After all we all need a little checkup from the neck up on occasion. 

 we’re not dogs so I won’t be heading out any chips and you won’t have to stand up and make any statements all I ask is that you include any experiences that are pertinent to our conversation so that everybody can benefit.

I actually had an entire other post to prevent next but as I was looking at today’s news I couldn’t help but post this next one first. It is a perfect example of complete ignorance and setting up for failure and even death for a struggling addict. 

By the way these post will be in between all the other posts we talk about on other subjects, but they will be ongoing so stay tuned If you have any input on any subjects that you wanted to discuss feel free to leave comments or email .I’m open 

 and for those who follow me and her not in this particular category but have other issues or problems you stay with us because there’s going to be topics discussed on any area we need to talk about and anybody that is an expert that I’ve invited in to talk or help is somebody I have talked to and know that they have success. this isn’t just about addiction we’re just starting out with addiction and it doesn’t have to be to drugs or alcohol. so right now I’m going to ask you to please think of anybody in your family friends and Muse people that are armchairs sponsors or judge you invite him to participate or at least read and I would welcome any questions everybody in the support system needs to be on the same team because the centers that are out there right now are not going to do it for you.

Love Me Or Leave Me.

Just a quick note. I have great respect for these short read posts that fix things in a jiff. My life hasnt worked like that so if you follow me through some deep issues, they will be more then 2 minute cure alls. I just dont want to disappoint anyone, thats all. Go with what is best for you. 

Tj

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2017 Addiction Series- *

                                            Toxic Judgement     *** Update*** I apologize for the late start on Addiction 2017- I have been nursing a hangover and dealing with withdrawals. However tomorrow I will lead us on to victory! tj       After you have read that post, do you know anyone who fits into any of […]

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*** Update***

I apologize for the late start on Addiction 2017- I have been nursing a hangover and dealing with withdrawals. However tomorrow I will lead us on to victory!

tj

 

 

 

After you have read that post, do you know anyone who fits into any of those categories?

 

tj

Paradise For The Brotherhood..

You have arrived- Goat is your reward..