Can One Have ” tolerance ” today and still possess a backbone?

20150518_202720I “ve got another confession to make… ( thanks to the Foo Fighters song for that line)

I really do. I of all people have found myself trying to please people rather then just be me. This is troublesome on several levels. First,  I think it’s safe to say that ” right and wrong – is being jammed up our rear-  ends in exchange for the new buzzword – TOLERANCE.

Tolerance has become what you have if want to please the majority. It’s what people express in the big circles, lefties, and many others. No more right and wrong,  it’s all about tolerance it seems. Tolerance is how we explain immorality and perverse behavior. Tolerance , people is quickly soothing the souls of those who used to know right and wrong , or dare I say sin…even.

What a crock. It’s an excuse to sin and feel good about it. I heard that the pope recently was in discussions with the Rome Ruler $$$. Supposedly this huge problem of pedophile priests is going to handled  ” internally ” without law force involvement.They at the Vatican also are requesting less harsh terms for their victims. Rape? It sounds so brutal..Let’s call it “inappropriate relationship building” .

I would be willing to bet 2 altar boys’ a weekend off that those kids would describe their experience more like torture, rape and more.Yet here we go again with ‘ tolerance’.


Think about what means for the 100k current cases waiting, and future boys. They could take the option  that my brother did, after being molested over a year by his priest -chasing him around the altar. My brother walked out the door while we were watching a television show one night and shot himself in the head.

I soon found the nasty old priest’s love letters to my brother, just a kid. He is currently in charge of the boys spiritual growth at a North Carolina Catholic church.

Don’t be shocked by the way. The Catholic Church has Billions set aside to settle cases. After all, why put the pedophile in jail when you can pay the family off?

I’m sure that’s much more pleasing to the Lord to keep the sex abuse quiet rather than remove the freaks they ave the p working with them. I feel safer letting my daughter go with a carnival traveler to get on a ride then I do anyone in the priesthood. I do need to note that not all priests are pedophiles. Some pedophiles become priests later in life , just to be fair.

Seriously , they are not all evil people. Much blame comes from the  ” tolerance ” that the Vatican has allowed. You know the saying.  ” the fish always stinks from the head down”. In this priest thing , Rome is reeking of organized child abuse. And you don’t have to be Columbo to Crack this case.

Regardless what the issue, we have got to grow a set ( of backbones) and quit trying to please everyone. Your kids or family is seeing this. The other night Nancy Grace had a few over weight children on. The parents were lobbying for anti- fat bullying .

Normally. I find something on her show I see her side on. Not this time. All 3 parents were 400 or more pounds. Neither the parents had any medical issues.

These were cases of a 10 year old downing a box of cereal for breakfast , 3 sandwiches at lunch and a 2 liter with some Nachos by 6pm. Then it’s dinner time , maybe a half pound of bacon or a whole pizza…seriously.

This is not a bullying issue,  it’s a parenting issue.  Instead of being a parent , they want the whole world. To stop staring at their 130 lb 7 year old. Her dad slid sideways into studio at a lean 669 lbs. People, my daughters saw it with me and the 1st thing I reminded them is that it is never ok to bully. They knew that, but couldn’t understand why the parents were putting their child’s health at risk. Backbone needed.

Whatever the issue,  we have got to draw the line , be the one parent to ask the tough questions. Take homosexual behavioral for example. Despite the fact it is forbidden in the Bible , which is true

Let’s say you don’t care what the Bible says. Would you be surprised to learn that the most domestic violence , substance abuse , suicides and diseases occur in this group? The average 45 year old male homosexual has had more then 500 partners

80% of people that engage in homosexual behavior were molested as a child , although not 80% go on to molest. The stats go on and on. There are a myriad of topics that daily apply to us needing to put a stop to this no limit , no boundaries , pit of control living.

Maybe right now it doesn’t bother or have any impact on you to start  standing up for things that are right. One day. If if you don’t educate your own, it could be your son or daughter working the streets as a gay prostitute to support a heroin habit and treatment for AIDS.

That’s not what I want to see for any of you, but we all need to do our part because that world out there is only getting darker and darker. Peace


Author: (Don't Label My Kid! Coaching & Counseling Team)

Social Worker- Mental Health, Addictions, and Behavioral health- Leadership Educator-, Juvenile Justice. A variety of coaching. I have a great desire to help others make it through times that I myself have had to navigate. I understand the process, the pain,and the support needed. I, and the rest of my team all have both the formal education to coach others but more importantly we also have the life experience which allows us to relate to all the phases and hurdles that come with recovering from issues like depression, addiction, domestic violence, spiritual confusion, and much more. I feel that the combination of formal training and life experience allows us to meet those we help every point of need- in a real way.

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