I must unload today on the so called ” experts ” who are always waiting on the sidelines to give tips to addicts on how they should act. You know the ones, they are easy to spot. They have the greatest advice to give even though the greatest minds in science have not been able to nail down any solid solutions. They have no problem walking by suffering addicts who are praying and begging for freedom from addiction and spewing a few words about how the addicts need to get it together.
Better yet they will throw in a few statements about how the addict should get it together ” if for no other reason, for your children”. How pathetic it is to hear the ignorant cast judgement on the addicted when we all know that the secret they are hiding may be something far more shameful then an addiction to substances. As a matter of fact most of the time, the judges are guilty of some hideous act that doesn’t stand out like addiction to substances,
Perhaps the judge who is checking out porn under his desk in court. The cop who is chatting up the 15 year old girl or the teacher with thousands of images of babies on their computer in a sickening way. Do you folks really want to start pointing fingers? I can tell you from personal experience that my kids would much rather have a dad who struggled with addiction to substances, for whatever reason whether it be depression, chemical imbalance or whatever, than have to deal with a parent who is a molester, an abuser, or someone who is willfully hurting others without regard for their feelings. The addict feels more remorse than any of the other people and with less reason to. Most of the time they have fought and fought to beat the addiction but needed help to do it in the end. At least they have the guts to bring it forward and deal with it, unlike the abusers who hide until caught. Lets keep it real and support the addicts who are trying to break free of the chains that many times have kept them depressed when they would much rather have it another way. I am tj and I am a recovering addict. Please save your vitriol for a deserving group and do what you can to support the struggling addicts to live clean lives and be the husbands and fathers that they so want to be. If you must finger point, check yourself first, as there is usually plenty to work on right there in the mirror.
tj ( recovering addict)