Addiction Series- Please Keep It Zipped Unless You Have Walked A Mile-

I must unload today on the so called ” experts ” who are always waiting on the sidelines to give tips to addicts on how they should act. You know the ones, they are easy to spot. They have the greatest advice to give even though the greatest minds in science have not been able to nail down any solid solutions. They have no problem walking by suffering addicts who are praying and begging for freedom from addiction and spewing a few words about how the addicts need to get it together.

Better yet they will throw in a few statements about how the addict should get it together ” if for no other reason, for your children”. How pathetic it is to hear the ignorant cast judgement on the addicted when we all know that the secret they are hiding may be something far more shameful  then an addiction to substances. As a matter of fact most of the time, the judges are guilty of some hideous act that doesn’t stand out like addiction to substances,

Perhaps the judge who is checking out porn under his desk in court. The cop who is chatting up the 15 year old girl or the teacher with thousands of images of babies on their computer in a sickening way. Do you folks really want to start pointing fingers? I can tell you from personal experience that my kids would much rather have a dad who struggled with addiction to substances, for whatever reason whether it be depression, chemical imbalance or whatever, than have to deal with a parent who is a molester, an abuser, or someone who is willfully hurting others without regard for their feelings. The addict feels more remorse than any of the other people and with less reason to. Most of the time they have fought and fought to beat the addiction but needed help to do it in the end. At least they have the guts to bring it forward and deal with it, unlike the abusers who hide until caught. Lets keep it real and support the addicts who are trying to break free of the chains that many times have kept them depressed when they would much rather have it another way. I am tj and I am a recovering addict. Please save your vitriol for a deserving group and do what you can to support the struggling addicts to live clean lives and be the husbands and fathers that they so want to be. If you must finger point, check yourself first, as there is usually plenty to work on right there in the mirror. 

tj ( recovering addict)

Author: (Don't Label My Kid! Coaching & Counseling Team)

Social Worker- Mental Health, Addictions, and Behavioral health- Leadership Educator-, Juvenile Justice. A variety of coaching. I have a great desire to help others make it through times that I myself have had to navigate. I understand the process, the pain,and the support needed. I, and the rest of my team all have both the formal education to coach others but more importantly we also have the life experience which allows us to relate to all the phases and hurdles that come with recovering from issues like depression, addiction, domestic violence, spiritual confusion, and much more. I feel that the combination of formal training and life experience allows us to meet those we help every point of need- in a real way.

6 thoughts on “Addiction Series- Please Keep It Zipped Unless You Have Walked A Mile-”

  1. Yes it is very True Tj some do condemn in their judgement but not all, I would like to share with you about the Addictions that were part of my life and how I was rescued, sorry there will be lot of detail, I do intend to Post about them soon and I will than be able to just leave a link.

    I was Bulimic when I was a Teenager until I was 30 and also had Kleptomania and during that time I became addicted to Gambling too. Both the Bulimia and the Kleptomania disappeared when I started going to Church, I was very busy doing Church work and Ron was not interested in Clubs, so gambling was also not a problem, I even thought it had gone too.

    How did the Gambling start again, by pleasing someone who was worldly, if it keeps her happy what harm could a few dollars in the Poker machines but it lead me back to the Gambling Addiction. A few Christian friends warned me in Love that I was in danger, it was not appreciated at the time but later when I was delivered, I thanked them and have great respect for their willingness to rebuke even risking our friendship because they Loved me enough to do so.

    I went to G.A but it did not help, I realize now saying repeatedly that I was a gambler only reinforced it, as we think so we do. I did stop gambling for three years but it was a battle as my Carnal flesh had not been put to death. They say gambling when someone is fully addicted either ends in suicide or insanity, with me it was believing the only way out was death, I just couldn’t escape it’s grip, I hated what I was doing but could not stop!

    I had tried everything and I felt no one cared anymore or Loved me including God and I deserved it. I was going to jump in front of a Truck but worried that someone else may be hurt if the Driver swerved to miss me. I went back to my Hospital room instead and found a Gideon’s Bible and when I opened it I read about the prayer of a righteous man being very powerful.

    I called an Elder whom I remembered as being a very caring man, he was shocked at my confession but not condemning, he prayed and anointed me after I came to full heart repentance, I asked forgiveness of those I had hurt. Not long after I was Miraculously healed of my very serious Heart condition and also Chronic Asthma, a sign the Prayer had been answered. Although I was tempted to gamble again 4 years later instead I asked Jesus to help me and walked away, this was the same with steeling which at one time I was also tempted to do again, it has now been many years since I gambled and I have no desire to at all.

    To be sure I felt I was worthless in my addiction but when God rescued me at the point of death I realized how great was His Love and mercy and He has showed me many times since that I’m a person of worth whom He greatly Loves and always did … do I deserve this, no not at all but He continues to greatly bless me which leaves me in awe … I hurt Him so much and others and yes myself too, addiction leads to sin and sin destroys all the goodness in us unless we repent. I now have assurance in my heart that I’m forgiven and I’m precious to God, He is Love and can do no evil, does He condone it, No! does He forgive, Yes!

    I’m aiming now as Paul did to be perfected in Love and putting my Carnal flesh to death, not waiting till I die but now as I live on earth, just like Paul and other Christians have done .

    Thank you for letting me share Tj – Christian Love – Anne

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