When It Comes To Boundaries- Kids Are Begging You To Draw A Line-

I was driving down the highway the other day realizing that I was in the middle of a crazy mess. To my left I have the daredevil motorcycles cruising in and out of lanes at 90 mph or more. To my right a very young and proud owner of a new sports car just waiting for someone to rev their engines just a little to loud….so a race could be born. Then somewhere in front of me doing about 50 mph in a 70 mph zone was a little old lady who must have been peeking out at the road from behind her steering wheel, as I could not see much of her head but I know she was in there somewhere. I even  think she flipped me a hand signal telling me I was #1 awhile back as she passed me. Thank God that we had a speed limit and directional signs on our roads. I cant imagine what it would be like wit no rules!S

A few months back I was listening to a radio show when the announcer began to describe a trip he recently took to a super-duper-double-high rise that he was considering buying a condo in. He described the journey up the elevator and how as he peeked out the windows the cars in the parking lot below looked like ants. They were so high up. One comical note, was when he said he was viewing the inside of the penthouse and admiring the view for miles over the ocean. Suddenly the guide called him over to the sliding glass door by the balcony, and motioned him to come on over and have a peek at the view from the balcony. He was very excited and hurried toward the door, and carefully made his way to the outside, totally stunned by what he saw. The view, was breathtaking and the height was amazing. One thing he had not counted on was that the condo was not completely done, and they had not yet put up the little railings that go around the balcony. The man noticed this and quickly his smile turned to a fearful look, and he scooted back inside the door as quickly as he could, catching his breath as he barely made it inside. He sure was upset at the guide for not warning him that the rails had not been installed and let the man know it. The guide responded by saying, ” But sir those little rails are there for cosmetic purposes, not for safety, surely you know they would not protect you from falling.”

When I was on the highway I was sure glad they had all the signs, speed limits and all posted. Who knows what the drive would be like if there were no road rules! Every man for himself. Now that would be scary, I sure was glad those boundaries were there. In the incident about the announcer and the balcony, it was the little railings missing that caused the man a great deal of anxiety because although the railings could never prevent anyone from falling over the edge, they sure gave some comfort to people who were standing by the edge!

We are adults and we are desperate for boundaries, as in the situations above. Imagine how much more children want and need us to set boundaries for them. When making rules and working with you children, be sure to provide them with plenty of boundaries. Don’t believe what they tell you ! They will tell you they don’t want any rules or boundaries. That is their job as kids, but we know better because we are adults and look how much we need rules and regulations to make us feel safe. Just a reminder for all of us parents to give the children what they really need, in spite of what they tell us..we know better!




Author: www.dontlabelmykid.blog (Don't Label My Kid! Coaching & Counseling Team)

Social Worker- Mental Health, Addictions, and Behavioral health- Leadership Educator-, Juvenile Justice. A variety of coaching. I have a great desire to help others make it through times that I myself have had to navigate. I understand the process, the pain,and the support needed. I, and the rest of my team all have both the formal education to coach others but more importantly we also have the life experience which allows us to relate to all the phases and hurdles that come with recovering from issues like depression, addiction, domestic violence, spiritual confusion, and much more. I feel that the combination of formal training and life experience allows us to meet those we help every point of need- in a real way.

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