Been Judged Much? You Must Be Real Good at Something!

Been Judged Much? You Must Be Real Good at Something!

Do you ever wonder why people take and make the time to point out something you are doing wrong? To stop what they are doing and come up with the energy to put you down? You must see it all the time, in public, people constantly trying to others feel like less than they are. In the mental health and social work circles I guess we have always attributed it to the idea that if we can effectively pull another down, we are also elevating ourselves in some weird way. Maybe that is true but I think there is more to it and if you are the recipient of judgement frequently you will appreciate this.
People who judge are much like bullies, in that they are insecure, and scared. They are scared of what you may reveal to the rest of the world if we all find out what is RIGHT with you. I have had several supervisors over the years like this, and along with very deep insecurity, they shared this need to expose what is wrong in a person.

Usually if you are being wrongly judged or made to look less than someone else there is a reason. A motive and purpose behind the judging. People who see talent or gifts in you that in their minds exceeds their talent somehow can be hurtful.
Their only hope to feeling good about themselves is to make you appear as less than they do. Especially if you are in some competition professionally or in another way with them.

We all should understand having people judge us is actually a compliment. It’s not the type of compliment a secure person would deliver, but it is just that, a compliment! So the next time somebody judges you say a quiet thank you as you grit your teeth and count to!
If you are not getting judged in something you are doing – Quit slacking!

Author: (Don't Label My Kid! Coaching & Counseling Team)

Social Worker- Mental Health, Addictions, and Behavioral health- Leadership Educator-, Juvenile Justice. A variety of coaching. I have a great desire to help others make it through times that I myself have had to navigate. I understand the process, the pain,and the support needed. I, and the rest of my team all have both the formal education to coach others but more importantly we also have the life experience which allows us to relate to all the phases and hurdles that come with recovering from issues like depression, addiction, domestic violence, spiritual confusion, and much more. I feel that the combination of formal training and life experience allows us to meet those we help every point of need- in a real way.

6 thoughts on “Been Judged Much? You Must Be Real Good at Something!”

  1. I was never happy with myself until I learned to be truly happy for others. Sometimes when I see those I love turning from God, embracing sin by condoning the sinful acts of others so they don’t “hurt their feelings” I will bring it to their intention. Not because I’m judging them I do it because I love them.

  2. People are inclined to pontificate, ‘One has no right to judge anyone.’ Piffle. It is done naturally and constantly. The WAY in which it is done is important. It should be reasoned and informed, and without negative bias.

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