Do you ever wonder why people take and make the time to point out something you are doing wrong? To stop what they are doing and come up with the energy to put you down? You must see it all the time, in public, people constantly trying to others feel like less than they are. In the mental health and social work circles I guess we have always attributed it to the idea that if we can effectively pull another down, we are also elevating ourselves in some weird way. Maybe that is true but I think there is more to it and if you are the recipient of judgement frequently you will appreciate this.
People who judge are much like bullies, in that they are insecure, and scared. They are scared of what you may reveal to the rest of the world if we all find out what is RIGHT with you. I have had several supervisors over the years like this, and along with very deep insecurity, they shared this need to expose what is wrong in a person.
Usually if you are being wrongly judged or made to look less than someone else there is a reason. A motive and purpose behind the judging. People who see talent or gifts in you that in their minds exceeds their talent somehow can be hurtful.
Their only hope to feeling good about themselves is to make you appear as less than they do. Especially if you are in some competition professionally or in another way with them.
We all should understand having people judge us is actually a compliment. It’s not the type of compliment a secure person would deliver, but it is just that, a compliment! So the next time somebody judges you say a quiet thank you as you grit your teeth and count to 10..lol!
If you are not getting judged in something you are doing – Quit slacking!