My Magical Daddy Days…

My Magical Daddy Days...

I spend a lot of time, as a social worker- comparing and lining my parenting up with what would be ” best ” for my kids. I never feel like I have all the answers, but must say after 5 children I feel I have a decent idea of what works and what does not. I just don’t have a long list of tips that will work for anyone, and I question anyone who does. I am speaking of making the quality of a child’s life as great as can be.
This will be my bragging paragraph..
MY oldest son has joined the Army after getting 2 years of college under his belt, at 19. My other son is riding in professional rodeos in the southeast and is winning against adults, he is 16. He wears a ” got Jesus ” black leather riding vest. That makes him even more tough than the average cowboy, to me anyway. As for the girls, its a day like this one, with my 7 year old that I now believe is the best investment I can make in a child; a day out with just us, just getting ice cream, talking about things that 7 year olds talk about, and saying no when I am asked if we can go to Sea World today.
Saying ” No ” may seem like a downer to some, but I have learned it is sometimes the very best way to give a child some security. A feeling that they can depend on their parents to be in charge, even when it means a ” no ” answer. Especially when it means a ” no ” answer in fact!

Anyway, she calls it our ” daddy day” , I call it the greatest lesson I have learned as a parent; the notion that what children want is some time. Time to kick some stones on a walk, or smear ice cream on each other on a hot summer day. Man, how I used to think Disney was the answer and all along they just want time- and an occasional “no” answer that is.

Children want security, love and boundaries and don’t let them tell you any different.

Don’t let them down by being the ” pleasing parent ” or set them up to fail by softening every fall they take. That’s not real life, and it is not what they want.
This picture of my daughter and I was taken at the end of a ” daddy day ” as we were nearing home. I think it is clear by the looks on our faces that we had a great day. We spent about 5 bucks and several hours of time shooting the breeze, nothing special but very meaningful.

DLMK

Author: www.dontlabelmykid.blog (Don't Label My Kid! Coaching & Counseling Team)

Social Worker- Mental Health, Addictions, and Behavioral health- Leadership Educator-, Juvenile Justice. A variety of coaching. I have a great desire to help others make it through times that I myself have had to navigate. I understand the process, the pain,and the support needed. I, and the rest of my team all have both the formal education to coach others but more importantly we also have the life experience which allows us to relate to all the phases and hurdles that come with recovering from issues like depression, addiction, domestic violence, spiritual confusion, and much more. I feel that the combination of formal training and life experience allows us to meet those we help every point of need- in a real way.

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