Pedophiles seem to get away with much more damage and much more heinous crimes than others, and it is not getting any better. Nobody really likes to discuss the subject, as if it will fade into oblivion if we omit these unspeakable acts from our daily conversations. Ironic to me, as a parent and as a social worker since the most hurtful and dangerous violations of human beings are committed over and over and nobody seems to be jumping out of their skin out of concern.
I could be missing something, and I know there are groups out there working hard to catch these predators – it just never seems enough to me. I mean as a parent alone I cannot express with words how angry I get at the idea of someone violating innocence so casually and selfishly. I cannot ever justify or rationalize this particular issue. It haunts me and I am concerned that people are so easily passing their children around like hot cakes from one person to another and trusting anyone who ” seems nice” to watch their children.
I see teachers, police officers, counselors, youth pastors, and many others quietly arrested for these incredibly horrible crimes all day long all over the country, and yet I feel like I am the only one worried about it.
I still remember the day that they found little Jessica L. in Florida, buried in a trash bag, filled with holes from her trying to scratch her way out while dying underground after being raped over and over. She was maybe 7 or 8 years old.
It breaks my heart when I hear about these things, and especially when I am daily seeing more and more predators moving near schools and parks, for a clear view of plenty of kids. Out of the very tiny amount we do catch, we are letting them off with light sentences? Really? Are you kidding me?
It is time we get serious about these child killers and actually give them the attention they deserve. I know I do. I will. I am always on the lookout. I do not leave my children with just anybody, and be sure that I would much rather find that I had left my child with about anybody other than a pedophile. I would much rather stick needles in my eyeballs than leave them with anyone I was unsure of, but child predators are totally on my radar. It does not get any uglier or hideous than this lowest of all deeds in my book. It isn’t just old uncle Joe who is secretly molesting little Johnny or Suzy once a year . It is their teacher, their youth worker, their person of trust in their life and worse than I can imagine , sometimes it is even their own parent.
Pedophile are not all one eyed and wearing pony tails like the creature in the photo here. They look like you. Professional. Outgoing and popular but with a secret, a secret that could change your family forever if you allow it to.
We cannot screen every person that ever interacts with our children, but we sure can take the time to be where they are when we can. It is difficult logistically sometimes, we get tired and have other things to get done.
However, gone are the days of letting your child roam the park while you read a book on the other side. You have to follow their lead, be the eyes they need and the ear they need to protect them. How many more children need to get raped and tortured before we take this seriously.
Please, if you err, let it be on the side of caution. I would rather have someone tell me I am over cautious than find one of my children missing.