Sometimes you read an article or post and the next second, you are pushing your jaw back up into your mouth…..http://news.yahoo.com/sd-moms-blog-bullying-draws-praise-ire-022742971.html
This happened to me today as I sadly read an brief post from a misinformed parent who decided to randomly cast her decision on bullying out there with no support at all as far as life experience or education that was mentioned at least. Mom has declared publicly, that kids today need to toughen up on the issue of bullying! Suck it up, you who are getting your lunch money stolen and being pushed around! Thats the life we live in she implies, so they will just have to endure hardships. I cannot speak for everyone, but as a parent of five and foster parent to 25, I , umm, well I disagree. I actually am reluctant to say ” disagree” as it implies an opinion, and my statements on bullying and the effects it has on children is not my opinion, it is fact.
With that said, I have to respond to this post (which btw) got 800k views on FB! My response and the response of the people who actually have kids old enough to be bullied, should be something like this; WHAT ARE YOU THINKING?
Comes now a mom with children ages 2 & 4 and has BULLYING figured out? (hahahahahhahahahahahahahahhahahahahahahaha)
At this point she should be glad she is done with diapers and picking out sippy cups, but there is no indication given that she has any authority to speak on the issue of bullying, or parenting actually. Why bother responding to this? Because 800,000 people now have a seed planted in their mind that maybe it is ok to accept bullying as a part of life. It scares me, and I hope many people share this and get a more accurate picture of how things really are. Send this to any major or local publication on parenting you can, so we have a voice in this as well. If you ARE a parent who feels like your kids do NOT come first, please do drop me a line, I would like to interview you!
Bullying is not “acceptable” anytime or anywhere. We do not adjust to bullies, they adjust to us. If mom was being sexually harassed at work or bullied by a another female worker, she may not be so quick to give them a free pass. What comes next, a lazy parent who says that just ” one punch” in the face should be allowed in school? Why even draw a line? Maybe teach our kids to expect and accept 1-2 full on beat downs during middle school? Ok, enough with my sarcasm, but it is a valid point.
I cannot be too hard on this mom for expressing her opinion, it is just sad that so many people read it. As I analyzed her post one final time, it occurred to me that the mystery thinking she laid out so boldly was actually answered within the same article by the same author. Her statement that her kids were
NOT the center of her world leads me to believe she is a very selfish person, or perhaps she did not give birth to those 2 little ones she has. I cannot imagine any parent saying that and telling their children to toughen up and expect bullying, rather than educate them on their rights and freedom from harassment.
That is all- I am out!