I have spent enough time working with people over the years to watch how their words have affected the things that happen to them. I am not a “mind over matter” guy. I do not subscribe to any hypnotism (not that it has not worked for some), and I am not too much of a “visualize it and you will see it happen” guy either.
I do however firmly believe, based on my first hand experience that what we say can determine what happens in our lives. More importantly, what we say to our loved ones can cut like a sword and leave one wounded in the soul. We need to speak things that we want to happen, and not live to talk about all the bad things that might happen. On that same note, we need to change the way we think, to start focusing in on all the good in our lives. It is human nature to find fault, no matter what the situation. I have met some who could be given 100,000 dollars and then complain that the bills were too old. Some people cannot be pleased, as they have become bitter, as if this world owes them something. It has been said that out of the mouth comes the overflow of the heart. Hard hearts produce bitter words, soft hearts produce kind and encouraging words. Someone, some place, right now has a much more difficult situation than we face. Why not be thankful for what we have, and say positive things to others?
I will close this post with a story I heard. A man was being interviewed by a radio station because he was a local guy who had hit it big in some clearinghouse sweepstakes, and got a sum of 8 million dollars. The radio personalities were jovial and celebrating with him. Suddenly, asked about his family and how they would celebrate, the man became quiet, and very emotional. At this point the producer slipped the DJ a note, letting him know that the man had lost his 8 year old son to cancer about a year before. Trying to be gentle, and sympathetic the host told the man how sorry he was about his son dying, and that he just found out. The DJ , trying to be comforting, said the following ” I know you would give the 8 million dollars back in a second to have your son back”. Silence, and then a burst of emotion and tears from the father, who hardly able to speak replied with the following statement ” have him back? Have him back? I would give the 8 million just to say goodbye to him”
Sometimes we need to focus on what is right, not what is wrong. We need to speak things that are encouraging, not hurtful.