Did you know that most parents have programmed in their brains to catch their child being “bad” or doing something they should not be doing?
Well, here are 3 facts that can change the way you think and the way your child behaves..
1- People in general do not respond to negative reinforcement (criticism) by changing their behavior patterns to please you.
2-The secret to getting a child, or teen, or even an adult to change behavior, is not to catch them being “bad”. The way positive patterns of behavior are established in us is through the use of positive reinforcement of the behavior you would prefer to see, not by constantly pointing out the wrong way.
3- How many positive comments in an average day do you think you make per day to your child, or children? How many negative?
The truth is, most of us have a ratio of somewhere between 10-15 negative comments for every 1 positive comment. The appropriate ratio to actually identify and change negative behavior should be around 10-15 positive comments for every 1 critical or re-directive comment.
Those are some things to really think about when raising children, or even running a business!
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