At the end of the day it’s never the hurtful words of my enemies that get to me. At the end of the day it’s the silence of my friends that hurts the most.
At the end of the day it’s never the hurtful words of my enemies that get to me. At the end of the day it’s the silence of my friends that hurts the most.
Well- Not really but I suppose to some who had been living with head buried under rock, it may have been a bit shocking. To me, it was long overdue and just the tip of the iceberg. I still felt a little hoarse in my voice from years of proclaiming this very thing to anyone I could.
This truly was a wake-up call for me in another way, however. I watched the Pennsylvania official list hundreds of priests busted and thousands of victims identified in just one area of the state. I remember watching it and not even shaking my head in surprise or flinching as he read of the most hideous, perverted, disgusting tools the worlds largest organized pedophile racket used to keep their system working.
Some of the examples were several pedo-priests ordering kids to stand naked in the shape of the cross, because Jesus did. They snapped pics and God only knows did what with them. Another example of the intimidation used was after children were sexually abused they were ordered to go to confession! This way they could bear the guilt and shame of the deviants. Continue reading “I Was So – “Not Surprised” By This That I Forgot To Post It When It Aired!”
But- within just two years things changed. Or did they? Personally I have always said that it was never ” a few bad apples” and called the Catholic Church the worlds largest organized pedophile racket- Fully supported from above.
( For the record I did speak to the makers of Spotlight but at the time they seemed a bit star struck did not think there could be more to the story. So – I will tell it.)
Yes, fully supported from above.
But shortly after this commitment- A sudden u-turn occurs as New York Bishop Cunningham not only makes no apologies for pedophile priests- but actually proposes that pedophile priests be allowed to have consensual sex with any child – as long as they were at least 7.
Surprised to see the Bishop with free public media reign to make such an obvious plea to tolerate active pedophilia in the church, most of course expected to hear the Pope destroy the Bishops comments- instead we got this from the pope- about the victims just a month later…but another surprise…click next blue link…
( Note : Even uses Jesus as an example )
Houston – we have a problem…click link below
But..Promoting an accused pedophile? Click below…
Well, for this outline I think we have seen enough of what a major turn around the pope has made since his ” Zero Tolerance ” days. So let’s get more specific about how this points to the fact that there never were a few ” bad apples” and how the movie Spotlight was in many ways a victory for the Catholic Church.
There are no well-organized operations that just came to be overnight. As the news has been broadcasting about the Pennsylvania catastrophe for example, a well organized plan with many components was in place.
Take a peek at the grand jury findings there…click below
The above information should be ample to convince folks that the pedophile racket in the Catholic Church is nothing new not the scope or the size of it. However I actually have personally been very involved in a major cover up recently which I spent years collecting data and identifying exactly what and how they manage to pull this off. Ironically the same priest in this scandal, actually molested my own brother 20 years ago, and my brother ended up taking his own life.
Somehow, maybe divine providence, I got a call 18 years later from a lady in another state who had followed my blog and asked me if a certain priest was the one who molested my brother. Yes, it was. He now was just accused of molesting 7 boys over two years. It was my good fortune to have the cooperation of a few parish members who witnessed the boy coming to a parishioner and stating he could not take it any more and proceeded to tell a two-year nightmare of abuse.
We communicated for a year and a half and I was able to get the ” other side ” of the story about how rampant this is and how an entire Diocese was involved in cover ups. I even talk to the victim. That entire story and all the ugly details is what we are planning to use in a movie that ( unlike Spotlight) will reveal the truth about this incredible and worldwide pedophile ring and how higher-ups are trained to cover up, get rid of, or pay victims to avoid issues.
To my knowledge it will be one of or the first ever proof of the fact that most if not the majority of members of clergy and others are involved in the actual molestation, or cover ups . Also we will reveal the types of intimidation priests are trained to use to keep the victims quiet. We are not talking theory here -facts.
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Light is dim in my eyes. Each day for most of my life I struggle to find some purpose to keep trying when so many of my efforts have failed.
My heart is good and motives pure, but the cloud still follows my every step. “Snap to it” they say…pull your bootstraps up and be a man. If they only knew. If they could only know what a struggle it is to get dressed each day. Why? What have I accomplished in my time to push me onwards? Addiction? Depression? Divorce?
That cloud- I’ve pushed and shoved and shot bullets from my gun at. I’ve reached as high as I could to grab it and burn it. I just want to feel the sunlight touch my brain. I wonder what it’s like.
I watch people intently. Seeking some nugget to their state of bliss and happiness, while I am still feeling it’s no use. Die, I think to myself. That life just isn’t for you. ..
Even my own family looks at me with dismay and maybe disgust. They wonder why I ” chose ” this path “. “Smile!” They say. Whats wrong with you? Others take time to capitalize on my misery, my failures. Dragging my history up, to make their own seem so much better.Don’t they know I didn’t ask for this? I don’t know a single soul who ever desired to be depressed, addicted, ashamed or embarrassed.
It’s lonely in the dark shadow of the cloud. Many times have I been excited to try a new medicine, a new way , a new will power high – only to drop even lower then I was to begin with. Surely God is punishing me. I better take to heart these whispers, murmurs, accusations, and mocking . Maybe they are right. So I add their handmade burdens to my already overweight load.
Where are my ” cover up an offense” friends? Why does it feel like I have been written off as a failure by them? Maybe I am, and maybe those thoughts of giving up deserve a second chance. I look up and notice the cloud again. I cannot lose it or shake it off my case.Its my mental nemesis.
So I go into God’s house. Perhaps peace can be found here. Indeed it can. However that cloud came into church with me. That is not fair! How can darkness and light dwell together? Let my mind rest just an hour I think . Self medicate, take control I think. Whatever it takes just get a moment or two of sanity .
But that dark cloud is only fueled more by the things I do to escape. Would God not forgive me if I took my life? I wonder… Stupid , stupid and more stupid I remind myself. That can’t be the answer.
I listen to the advice, take in the exhortation, swallow the spit coming at me from those around me. Those who have never endured this level of pain. They so easily spew vitriol and even laugh at my struggling. I cannot find rest from the torment of this cloud. My eyes burn from looking at the fan on the ceiling all night long as others sleep. I feel the cool sensation of drops of water running down my face, and I insist they are from the fan burning my eyes. But those tears come from above – from that cloud via my eyes. Sleep is elusive, rest not known. My head aches from thinking. I realize I am miserable. It’s lunchtime. No appetite again. Heck I haven’t even showered in 4 days.
Who can I call to comfort me? Nobody. Not one. All have turned away when things went bad for me. I need a friend who will run to me in my darkness, not away from me!
I pray that God would ” fix” it. But He doesn’t listen to my order so I become bitter . Perhaps ” gaawwd” doesn’t exist.
I want to get so high right now. Burn it down tonite and act like tomorrow’ won’t show up. Maybe a few pills, a bottle, a woman? Something must work.
But they don’t satisfy and I still see my shadow as I pace from the cloud above me . I feel so alone and isolated my soul is much older than I. My life has attempted to steal any sunshine that may come my way. I hate myself . I don’t deserve to live. ..
What a stupid thing to think. ..
Im here for a reason. I was made for a purpose and designed in a way that not one other in billions are. That may explain my past when I was helpful to others. I was happy for a brief time but even my superior called me a “wounded healer”. It’s that obvious? See, I am messed up. I wonder if it stands out? I wish people would just leave me alone. No, wait, come and love me. I need love.
I liken myself and any hope of victory to the same hope water has as it comes to a halt at huge rocks, interrupting the flow. Somehow the water always gets through that rock. But it is not due to the strength of the water. It’s due to it’s persistence that a way is made to go right through giant canyons.
Perhaps I have persisted as well but given up before the breakthrough. The cloud is not going anywhere if I stand still.
So I keep putting my head down, scars, dents and bruises . I keep persisting. I don’t have to give that cloud so much attention either. My strength, be it little must go into the breakthrough.
I don’t know what tomorrow may bring . But for today anyway, I’ve got a plan.
Im done thinking my way through lunchtime.
I won’t quit and I won’t give in to darkness when light is available. I wonder if my attention to the cloud has weakened the power of the light I need so desperately.
Then that thought ” who are you to talk God? You are fooling yourself calling yourself a believer. Look at your problems!
Nope. Im not buying that lie of the cloud.
Again today God forgive me for doubting . Each day these thoughts pass through my mind and each day You draw me back to truth no matter what my cloud says.
Let’s talk again soon. My day is only half over I don’t want to overthink anything not of you. I’ll be back soon to remind myself of you and the promises you gave me ..I know in just a few short hours I will need it again.
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Its been five years for me with this blogging thing. I have read my share of articles and opinions on why certain blogs have more followers than others, or one has more comments than the other etc… I have been on the same side, looking at my stats and wondering how come mine are so different from other blogs. I have felt the same feeling of questioning myself and wondering what I should be doing that I was not. The truth is, I have learned and still am learning about things that can benefit my site or draw a certain crowd. So this is a legitimate concern.
However, after five years of this, I recently discovered something that has absolutely changed the way I view my site and truthfully every site! I have made a discovery that, at least for me, is brand new and not talked about much, if it is even well understood. I am not convinced that what I am about to suggest, which potentially affects all of your blogs as well, is even common knowledge in the blogging world. I stumbled on it while pressing in over and over, looking for things I may be missing out on to promote my site.
What I am about to say has the potential to be quite controversial. but I firmly believe nobody will be able to disprove my theory. If everyone who reads this takes what I am saying and weighs it with their own circumstances, I am convinced the end results will be very much in line with each other. Now I want to be honest about the fact that some of my findings were birthed out of my total frustration with my lack of growth during certain seasons and seeming inability to move as fast as some other bloggers.
I really went over and over many times the same old information until one day it just clicked in my head that I had part of the answer to why some blogs are so very much more successful growth wise than others. Not that they are any better or worse, but just a reason that finally made sense to me. The news I am presenting here can make each one of us stop and reconsider what our passion is! What we write about. Why we write about what we do. I even remember one day I wrote a post that I had spent much time researching, and expected it to be well received in my community of bloggers. However, to my dismay, it was just an “average” post in my book. You know, 10-20 likes and maybe a comment or two. Whoopee, right?
Something happened around that same time, though, that brought it all full circle for me. That something was my stumbling upon a blog post on the feed about training dogs to do house tricks and healthy eating habits for your mutt. But then, as I neared the end of the post, I saw this enormous number that appeared on the last line of the post where comments also go. Yeah, it was this number like 469 or something. I must have read that 3 times just to be sure but it sure was 469 people gave their props for the doggy master and doggy diet expert. Now, in all fairness, I was just coming off of a post that I spent several hours researching, an hour and a half writing ( I think I may have even edited that one!) and I was feeling a tad low with my 20 likes on a very important topic for all of us humans, but even lower when I caught the 469 for the doggy dynasty.
Here is what I realized then. People in general simply do not wish to deal with the hard stuff that life has dealt. People in general like to have their ears caressed when reading a blog post. They do not want to be confronted with all the harsh realities we are facing in real world, non-doggy life. Grown ups who are well-educated and should care about certain issues like human trafficking, or pedophile priests, or crooked politicians are more than willing and even likely to skip the post about a crisis we, as a society, has to deal with and instead steer their eyes towards soothing material. Its true!
This is not just what my team writes about or what we deal with in mental health, child abuse, and addiction, but it was my own blog that awakened me to the idea of what was happening. I supported my theory by checking with other bloggers and looking at all the different numbers and it proved to be a working theory.
Here is the main point of what I found. People like me, who tend to deal with sad, even troubling issues much of the times seem to have this common thread of a lower amount of followers and not as many takers in general who even want to face these issues much less spend time thinking through them in a blog post. That seems to be a fact across the board. However, the amazing thing I discovered was that my smaller group of people were participating in, liking, and commenting on about 35% of what we published. Now I don’t know if you ever check those stats but recently I read an article by a very successful blogger who I believe said he sometimes had a 1-5% participation rate when it came to his huge audience actually liking or commenting on his topics. So to see 35% consistently and look back over the years and see it never dropped below 20%, was amazing to me. It told me something that we all need to be aware of. The numbers may not line up on the same side with all bloggers in the same categories. But the numbers are there most times just distributed in different places. In my case, I realized I had a slightly more intense crowd who did not mind getting their hands dirty in some controversy. Therefore, what I was not seeing in overall total followers, I was making up 10 fold in active engagement with my posts.
So, for all of us who blog, we need to start making sure our perspective is accurate. It simply is not likely, on any given day, that a human being with all the problems we already have, would rather spend 20 minutes ingesting some bad news about abused kids, rather than totally avoiding it and thinking about the fact that Rover can roll over. The one is simply much more stressful than the other. So none of us should discount one bit of our efforts writing based on simple numbers alone, but on the whole picture.
Many, many times I have read posts written by bloggers who are very disappointed in how slow their blog has progressed, in comparison to some others. Now it is easy for me to see that most are likely missing out on some part of the value in their work because they follow the popular way of measurement which typically is “How many followers you got?” That usually leads to depression. What if, just for one day, the question went like this, “Hey, what percent of the viewers of your posts actually care enough about them to “like” them or comment?” A much different way of thinking is born. And I am willing to bet that the question could be asked in many more ways that I have not even thought of.
But we as bloggers are followers in that sense. We want what the writer over there has. Yet truly we have no idea, unless he makes us privy to his stats, just how important those 26,000 followers were this month, because he never bothers to look past that and dig into the statistics that WordPress provides. Such as, how many of those people even took time to click “like” out of 26,000? Remember, this is not an “either or” scenario. I am discussing meaning that one type of stat is more important than another. Heck, do you think if tomorrow I found out a way to add-on 5000 followers to my crew, that I would not be running to do it? Of course I would. I want that, too.
We need to stop trying to fit our blogs into ‘cookie cutter’ molds that all line up a certain way. I will close by sharing something that happened my second year of blogging. It was a lonely time. I think I was paying family members 5 bucks to comment on a post just to get some action…lol – it was awfully depressing for me. And then I got an email from a lady out of this country. She was suicidal and an addict who had decided to take her life and truly also believed God was waiting to escort her to hell for being an addict in the first place. Rough, rough situation. Even with 20 years under my belt in social work and counseling, i could not prepare for that. Fortunately I did not have to come up with any miraculous words from my therapy book. You see after she told me in the email, from another country, she had decided to take her life, there was a “but”..”
She said “But then I read your post on faith and addiction and how you were where I was and how God never left you and you made it out, so I decided to keep on trying.” I think it was her and maybe a friend I had asked to read that post on that day. I only had a few dozen followers or a 100 whatever. Not many reading much of anything. But I will tell you that after that night, I knew that if nobody ever read one word of my writing again in history, those two years of dark and slow blog growth were well worth all of it and then some.
Never, ever question how your work, your efforts, are paying dividends. Hey, the facts are, folks, that some people get paid in the form of thousands of new followers pouring into their site each month, or maybe constant re-blogs and praise on almost everything they put on paper. It could be something they are not even aware of like in my situation with the suicidal lady. Be assured that what you are doing is not in vain. The cards have a way of landing a different way all the time and we do not always get to see how. If we are fortunate, we get a glimpse at some point. Even if you do not, never ever stop putting on paper what your heart is screaming to your brain all the time. There is a reason.
Stay with your first love. Don’t worry about the next guy. I can tell you from experience that you may never know the value of your work on this earth. But from experience let me also be the one to tell you it matters, to someone. Sometimes it matters a whole lot!
” If anyone causes one of these little ones those who believe in me-to stumble, it would be better for them to have a large millstone hung around their neck and to be drowned in the depths of the sea”
Matthew 18:6- NIV
Not everyone is aware of the numbers on this, but almost every child / teen that is molested ends up depressed, addicted, hopeless or suicidal. If they do manage to survive the sick abuse that goes on in the Catholic church-they usually end up on the street running with gangs. It is rare that anyone survive this and live a decent life.
So perhaps Jesus is speaking of this when He said the words above. At any rate, I encourage you – if you have ANY part of getting your kids, or anyone’s to a catholic church-remember this statement from Jesus Christ.
There are currently around 30k priests in the USA under investigation for sexual crimes against minors. And listen to this- those are THEIR numbers so imagine what they may be in reality.
It just is not worth it. Get you kids away from these freaks who use God’s name to sodomize 5 year olds.
Just Say No.
It seems like we would be past this by now but we really are lagging. Although it’s been many years since science and the medical community confirmed that addiction, like diabetes is a disease, society has chosen to continue to address those stricken with substance related disorders as ” abusers” .
Why is it critical that we not allow this to continue? Because calling someone an abuser may actually stop one from getting help. It implies a category of failure, not wanting help. It gives the impression that the person did something wrong therefore became an abuser.
If you are in any way involved in the life a person with a substance disorder, this article is crititical in being a help not hurting.
Many times we don’t even understand how much we label people with a disability. Sometimes it’s by looking the other way when we walk past , then sometimes it’s by striking up another conversation so nobody brings it up , or sometimes even avoiding disabled people all together.
In treatment centers and facilities all across the world people that are able and willing and ready and excited to do things are laying in the bed somewhere hiding out from the rest of the world because of their disability, not by their choice but because they’ve been labeled and stamped. That’s how they’re going to have to live their lives unless somebody intervenes.
Here’s an example of what is possible. Not only is it possible it’s very likely that you could find a group of people like this that could run a restaurant or another type of store in any type of a workshop or facility where they help people with disabilities. But many times owners of businesses do not want them around because of the way that they act or the way that they walk even.
This story illustrates the term ” normalization” – which occurs when mainstream society focus on the strengths that the disabled have, and use them in place of their weaknesses. We all have strengths and weaknesses, the only difference between us and them is they wear theirs on their sleeve.
What’s true of every human being is we tend to rise up to the expectations or lower ourselves to the expectations of the environment around us.
For example if you’re screaming and yelling at your children on the way to the library usually by the time you get to that library door you make good and sure that nobody is screaming when you walk in the library , because they dont tolerate it.
It’s the same for people with disabilities. They rise to the highest level they can and when put in the right environment and whatever they cannot accomplish another can make up, but you’ll never know unless you raise that bar of expectations.
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I try to be very understanding, and if not I am always forgiving, because my Bible says if I desire forgiveness I must forgive. Not always easy, but when I think about the consequences of withholding it , I don’t even want to be a part of it. However, I am not perfect, and occasionally I have found myself on the wrong end of a laugh at someone else’s expense. After all, how badly can it offend someone if people get a chuckle out of a silly mistake. As it turns out I was about to find out.
So what to do when you are faced with a real life, honest to goodness incident that actually requires complete stupidity, and total absence of any thought at all? Is it ok to laugh?
If something has occurred that you have never even heard mentioned in your lifetime and yet now someone you are very connected with has personally been involved in and you know all the details. Do you tell?
Sometimes when we are feeling a little low on the intelligence pole, someone does something that absolutely makes you feel like Albert Einstein on his best day. An act that defies all logic and leaves you with several options. You can exploit it, cover up an offense ( the biblical way), or just go with the flow and laugh with the crowd.
Well I was privy to such an act just recently and even as I write this, I am laughing at the picture in my head of what this looked like. Although I promise you not much laughing was going on at the time of the incident. More like crying . However, we know that time heals all wounds, so after much prayer and contemplating, I feel it’s ok to share. Just so you all are aware, I have full permission to share this highlight of a most memorable event. So here goes. You decide whether or not you could let this go, or slide, even forgive?
Not so long ago there was this guy who woke up around 2:30 am, and hungry. Not such an odd event for him as he is known to sleep little and snack much during the night. This particular time was unusual only in that he was still a little groggy as he made his way to see what the fridge had waiting for him. Just a tad more unsteady than usual, and more hungry too. So he spots in the freezer some White Castle sliders, which are irresistible no matter what time of day when cooked right, who can argue that?
I am trying to tell it exactly as it happened with details, so I will say that he got a tray that was ok for the microwave and placed it on the counter ready to hold the sliders as they were cooked. The tray and sliders were sitting on the kitchen counter between the stove top and the sink. Before cooking them the man realized he had not stopped to use the restroom as is customary when he woke up at this time and the urge was too strong to wait. Still holding his drink and his cell phone as both were in his room next to him when he got up, naturally he set the items down since he did not care to bring them into the bathroom. So, as would make sense, the drink and phone are gently set down on the tray by the sandwich, so they would be protected from the sink/ water next to them.
Always the perfectionist and some may even say a bit OCD, he still would not allow himself to go to the restroom until he had done the traditional laying of the paper towel over the sliders, lest he run into the problem of not cooking them just right. After leaving the items on the tray and using the restroom, he got snagged by a headline on the laptop across the room which had the national news on. So, he wanders over and checks it out, after all this guy is a writer like us and if a good post opportunity presents itself, he is on it. After a few minutes he heads over to his snack to prepare it with every intention of enjoying it while finishing the story,
Mesmerized by the story on the internet he quickly grabs his drink off the tray ( you cannot microwave coke cans) and carefully places that tray with the covered sliders in the microwave for exactly 77 seconds , which despite what the package says is exactly the right amount of time to cook them if you want them to taste like real sliders. In the blink of an eye he is twirling around back in the office chair by the computer to continue the very important story on the news, just awaiting the aroma of the burgers to come…seconds pass, more seconds pass and many more… he smells no aroma of cooking sliders…. just an eery silence approaching.
No aroma, the noises start, the flickering of the microwave begins, and he knows now what has happened. What an idiot, he thinks to himself! He must have left a fork on the tray before cooking the food. Oh, man. He rolls that chair to the oven faster than you can say Samsung– before the buzzer goes off, hoping to salvage the burgers, yet at that very moment one of those goosebumps all over, throat gets dry, hair stands on back of the head moments occurs and a blank slate is all that’s on his mind. He opens the door to the microwave, he has lost his appetite, forgotten what was on the news and is sweating profusely. Consciously he can’t grasp it but something is wrong,- oh so very wrong.
As he kneels before the microwave, in somewhat of a praying, yet almost fetal position on the floor, he comes to realize that there is no fork in the microwave. Oh, how he wishes for a fork. yet he is aware that the flames coming from the tray could not be burning from a fork. You know the whole metal doesn’t burn thing …
At this point he looks over his shoulder at his desk and spots the box to his recently purchased Samsung Galaxy 7 cellular phone. Holding back tears but also prepared to run around the house and scream like a 2-year-old, he composes himself, and puts the flames out. He glances at his phone and realizes he failed to do step three when preparing sliders; #2 is place paper towel on sliders, and #3 is remove cell phone from tray.
Always the optimist he thinks -WARRANTY!
But that thought passes. He moves quickly into the justification phase. ” Heck I have had that old thing for months now” then onto the flat-out denial phase of ” I have been wanting a new phone anyhow, no big deal.”
The people-the only people who got to see the roasted ghost of a phone were supposed to have mercy as he was a good customer . Instead he finds himself in the middle of a drive by mocking as he parades through the Metro PCS store to see if anything could be saved. Apparently the manager, (despite a request for privacy during this time while he mourned) decided to let the other employees in on his little laugh so they could all enjoy it. In front of the other customers the manager shouted not to dispose of it in any of his trash containers, because of any possible danger with the microwave/battery issues.
If you all, or any of you were thinking it would be okay to laugh or spread this around the office then you have absolutely no heart. I mean how could you let someone, an innocent man, a good and hard-working man
like me suffer for this? I mean let anyone suffer like this? It is painful enough I have to go through something like this. Pretty soon your 10-year-old daughter is telling her class about it. You never know.
This could happen to anyone. No matter who you are. So please do not relish in the fact that this actually was last Saturday morning and in my home- I was the guy in tears on the floor. I was dying to find a way to blow another 100 bucks I didn’t have anyhow, I swear.
Being the forgiving person I am however, I chose to forgive myself this time.
How embarrassing. But yes it is true. I am facing it head on. My therapist says denial will just delay the healing and therefore delay my children from wanting to be seen with me in public again.
One request I have for closure purposes, is that you all stop asking me to sign your cell phones. To me this is no joke.
Oh and don’t act all haughty taughty, as if you have never nuked a phone. Actually in my opinion any phone advertised as ” smart ” would have come with a built in microwave alert system anyhow.
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Just to clarify, we have been providing consulting and counseling services on any of the issues I have discussed above. However it is done mainly via email, Skype and the phone. So you can still get help for whatever your issues are just not through a virtual site yet.
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We all believe we were put here for a reason. We also believe that each of you is here for a reason. Our job is to help others with the training and life experiences we have had in the areas we operate in. Don’t deprive your own family or another of getting some healing and help. Remember you do not know how many times they may have called out to others or God for help. If you are the vessel chosen to share the hope and help of this service with them, do your duty and sleep well tonite.
If need be we work with you financially according to your ability to repay and I guarantee it is always much less than traditional rates of you go into an office and pay 125-200$/ Hr for sessions and 300$ for assessments. If you need help and you are not getting it then it is your own fault because we don’t charge those rates and we work with you if you are going through a difficult time. Never let your family health suffer over money. That is one of the reasons we are here!
Everyone has friends, neighbors or loved ones who are desperately seeking or at least needing help on one of the areas we help with. If they do not know about our services than SHAME on YOU!
Let your loved ones and friends know they can get help at a place where they will not be turned away or judged in a 100% confidential setting. For the record we do NOT report to anyone about our client’s mental or behavioral issues so unlike an office and a doctor, who is required to inform people of diagnoses under certain circumstances we do not reveal to anyone your personal history. Many times a doctor’s office will be required to report certain illnesses to your employer or others you really do not need in your business. We do not discuss your situation with anyone unless you ask us to, like if you have a court situation where you have to prove you got help with anger management or counseling for addiction and all, we count.
Now take some time to browse All4uraddicton the magazine. You will be amazed !
Have a blessed day and please remember right now to make the call to anyone you know who needs help and for whatever reason is not getting it. You never know what you may be preventing. Many people today are just one cut down away from hurting themselves.
The Holidays are a terrible time statically for suicide and depression. If you are aware of anyone who is suffering-don’t make them go through another year alone. Tell them about us. Many times the only thing stopping a person who needs help from getting help is the lack of support or encouragement to make the call, or in some cases, I have made the call for others who just needed a boost to get help.
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I was thinking recently about the world. The way people act, the things people say and the way people treat each other in general. Of course it is part of my career and background to identify how people see themselves. I am talking not just about areas I happen to be educated in or any special training. I am talking the basics. If you are a person who believes in God, you read the Bible then you may call it sowing and reaping. You may like to call it mind over matter, or aligning yourself with the universe, whatever the case it matters not for this topic.
I am talking about actually speaking and believing in what you have decided to pursue. For example, in my work and counsel to families over the years, I address behaviors and words, and the link between them. Whatever behavior is causing a problem had to start as a thought, right? So somewhere between the thought and the action was a decision that had to be made. In my case, I often teach parents that pointing out negative behavior all of the time to their children will never produce a change for the better. Then they usually look at me funny and ask what they should be doing. This little tiny nugget that I learned when I was a young college student has proved to change lives in a matter of days. In this scenario, the nugget is that positive reinforcement is the only way a parent will see improvement that is meaningful in their child.
What? Usually I hear something like this ” I never see them doing anything good!” So now we are at the key area that a parent will either accept, learn and change, or they will resist and continue down a failing path and become more stressed and see more problems some even resulting in health issues by now. So lets take the route to improvement right now, and say we are all parents and we all want to see a change in behavior in our kids. What would need to happen is this;
We would all need to adjust our thinking a bit to line up with what will produce good results. Staying with our scenario, we all would begin to ” catch our kids being good”- I know, it is totally against the flow, which psychology says is about 15 negative comments to every positive comment we give to our child. That is about average in an average home, and usually goes something like this ” Stop talking back!”- ” Clean your room!”- ” You better watch your mouth” and on it goes until we have racked up a dozen or so negative comments in a matter of hours. So we need to change our thinking to stop with the critical comments, and begin to train ourselves to listen and watch for what you DO want to see, and jump all over it with simple praise, such as ” Thanks for having your room clean, it looks great!” or ” Thanks for using a calm voice when we talked earlier, it really helped me understand what you were trying to say”. I think you get the idea, we want to take the 15:1 ratio and turn it around, by exchanging one type of comment for another to attain desired results. The reality is, the only way humans change behavioral patterns is by positive and consistent reinforcement of the desired behavior. That goes for us adults too by the way. Think of your workplace, or relationships; would it not be wonderful to get 10 or 15 positive comments to every 1, on an average? It really is not difficult, and it produces quick and lasting change for the better. However even parents I have shown this to, maybe 50% actually do it. The other half live in misery and complain, while the answer is in their reach.
So I use that example, although very abbreviated, and not a complete summary as a model for the topic of this post. We have got to understand that we ( to a certain extent) actually decide our own outcomes by how we decide to do 3 things.
1- How we think.
2- How we behave.
3-How we use words.
Think on things that are in line with your goals, speak in a way that lines up with your goals, and act as if you are already there. Sound too simple? It really is very easily explained. We have to address the root problem, which is how we think. If I am driving around town all day and I keep thinking about robbing a bank, I am going to end up at a dead-end road, as it is neither realistic, legal, or productive. I use this as a random example, but insert your worries, your heavy thoughts that want to repeat like a tape over and over…
Now we have to make the decision to think on something more in line with our goals. Whatever that looks like for you, think on it. Dwell on it. Purposely focus on the things that the ingredients you need to achieve your outcome. Wasted thinking, or “stinking thinking” accomplishes nothing good and is likely to cause you even more stress. Next, what we say is CRITICAL to accomplishing what we will see as outcomes. It matters not if you are alone or with friends, if you allow words to come out that contradict the thoughts you have trained yourself to think, you have to start all over. So say things like ” I am excited for what is happening!” or ” Good things are going on” instead of the traditional ” Life sucks and I am tired” or ” I think I will have a heart attack”. You may be surprise at how many people actually fulfill their own verbal commands.
Finally, make the necessary practical decisions that must occur for you to see your dream. In other words, stop doing things that are counter-productive to what you want, and purposefully do the things that you have identified as mandatory for success. Put yourself around people who already possess what you want. Stay away from those who are going the opposite direction. Believe in yourself, and do NOT believe everything you think. Only believe the thoughts that line up with your goal. Most other interference comes from the media, the radio, and our natural wanting to loathe in self-pity. Cut it out. Shut the television off. Refuse to give in to what others say about your situation. Most times, when people see that you are not out to impress or conform to their ways, they get fearful and try to pull you back down into misery with them, as we know misery LOVES company. Its lonely going the positive route, not many choose it. Get used to it. If you are worried about what others will think about you, then you have a self-confidence issue, and address it. Refuse to “need” anyone, but allow yourself to enjoy the company of those who are supportive of you and your goals. Refuse to think negative, as it only leads to talking negatively, which will bring you right to acting negatively. You are trying to leave there, remember? LOL!
Finally, I laid this foundation for everyone, so that I can take a real life example of someone who is living in success at a very young age, because he chose to go against the grain. Persevering, is falling down 19 times, and getting up again on the 20th. Ben Franklin once said ” the harder I work, the luckier I seem to get!”. Think on that statement for a minute, it is powerful.
Sometimes I like to incorporate humor into my posts to keep the site from just being about depression and addiction and PTSD etc… I just cannot be all too funny with this. This is a topic that is DEADLY. I remember, because my brothers suicide wont seem to get out of my mind some days. So I am going to ask everyone to stop and read this, and you know what it may not even apply to you. But it could prevent what happened with my family. I cannot undo the gunshot that ended my brothers life. But I can share my 20 years of experience in mental health and addictions, from a personal, and then a professional standpoint. I sure hope you will send this to anyone that seems like they may be one step away from tragedy. If it is you. I tell you what to do at the end. Anyhow, I hope you take this to heart. Anyone who follows me knows how much I love you all and just want to keep getting the word out that you cannot delay treatment for mental health without terrible consequences. But let me say this, there is some really good news on here about the success we are having worldwide in a new area to help….tj
Is Therapy Going To Drive Me To Suicide?
Most people in and around the mental health field as a client or provider are familiar with these two terms. The question is, what is the difference? Its a valid question that deserves an honest answer.
So your deciding how to address the situation your going through and the options. Whether it be a depression issue, a divorce issue or any other circumstance that has proved itself to be interfering in your routine to the point that you need at least some action. Lets face it, there are thousands of different providers who all claim to offer up the most successful, healing, lasting and least restrictive and intrusive on your life.
Where do you start? A friend’s recommendation? An ad that catches your eye or ear? The most well known methods? Its a tough call for anyone. It does not have to be. You see just as we have progressed in other industries like automobiles, and appliances and homes, the same applies when it is time for mental health choices. We don’t screw bolts into the sides of peoples heads anymore to see the effect. We don’t torture people hoping to alter behavior or feelings. Things have improved. Much progress has been made in these areas and you will do yourself a disservice by not following up on what is working and what is not.
Just because you are struggling with an issue in your life does not paralyze your ability to educate yourself. Of course you must be strong enough to make your own decisions and choices on treatment unless you are in need of inpatient care. This post is about outpatient care. If you follow along you just may see clearly some things that have been unclear until now. I have had extensive experience in both coaching and therapy, both as a client, and eventually as a professional for 20 years. To try and break down all the theories of personality and modalities of treatment would take an entire book. In my opinion it is not necessary.
Everyone has their opinion about what works best and many of the ideas have validity and can indeed help. However do you want to get 45% help when another method would bump that up to 85%? Of course not. Let me add that I have no dog in the hunt. Our team together has decades of experience in just about every major modality used in outpatient therapy. If you want to come lay on a couch each week while we remind each other how miserable your life has been, someone will take your money. But what about outcomes? After all the whole point of therapy is to get better and move on with your life, right?
What if medication is recommended? We all know that game right? Try this for 6 weeks, if it does not make you feel good we will change to the next, and the next and so on. You may be caught up in a weekly sit down regurgitating old dark memories for a year before any medications start working. That is , if they ever work, since even major drug makers have admitted that 5 or 6 of their latest anti-depressants actually cause suicidal thoughts.
OOPS! Yeah, it does happen and it is not uncommon.
But even so, therapy is just so much more ” professional ” sounding. It must be the best if its been around so long. I mean this coaching thing is fairly new. Why take chances on that when you can enjoy the benefits listed above of a therapeutic model?
Maybe because coaching works.
Lets take a closer look at this whole coaching model. The coaching models at least that I am familiar with takes the therapy model and turns it on its head. It rejects everything traditional long term therapy stands for.
Coaching focuses on what is right in your life. What you can do well. What strengths we have. A return to normalcy as soon as possible in the least restrictive environment is key. On the other hand have we all not at one time or another seen a post or article that begins with ” I have been seeing my therapist now for 5 years ” or ‘ My therapist says he thinks I need a higher dose of medication”. If you have not, you need not leave WordPress because they are everywhere.
Try finding one that says they have had their coach for more than a few months. It will be tough. The reason being is coaches create independence for you by emphasizing what you can do and have done well, whereas a typical therapy session will hover around how many failures or let downs occurred and how did you deal with them. If not monitored closely therapy can simply become something you must depend on and have or you will crack. It also can make for real strong job security for the provider. I am in no way saying that this is always the case, I am simply pointing out the facts.
Let me give you another example that may be easier to illustrate. AA & NA have been absolutely famous and known to be the savior for millions who swear they cant make it without it. There is good reason for that. Part of the mantra you must repeat and repeat and repeat until its drilled in your head is that you are powerless over your addiction. Sounds like pure healthy honesty right? We need to face the truth, right? The problem here folks is that most AA & NA programs have a tough time breaking into double digits as far as success in remaining sober for 12 months. Hmm. Sounds like AA & NA need the addicts more than the addicts need it.
Now I can already here people yelling at me reciting the serenity prayer and how the program has kept you clean for 5 years. If that is true, good for you and stick with it. The problem is we have this other 90% who fail and fail and fail. This group is just as important as the 10% who are doing well. right? The program or therapeutic modality cannot replace the addiction. Trading one addiction for another is , well not the goal.
Lets quickly review. Coaching is a process where someone trained in the area your needing comes along side of you and helps you identify your strengths, address any negative patterns that are interfering with your life and resets your thinking and goals to align with your abilities. This process in general is a much shorter and effective one that rarely disturbs your daily routine and acts more as a cheerleader to help you up and out of a rut then a tape recorder that plays your most hideous memories over and over until one week you think you have it beat- but then at your therapy session your forced to drag it back out of the dark corner of your head.
Coaching is not becoming dependent in any way on someone else. Therapy can lead to a total dependency on a person to survive, and even worse create a stigma that you are lesser of a person because you cannot live life normally or without the handicap of a label, diagnoses, or medication.
Am I saying that therapy is a waste and coaching is the only way to get help? Of course not. What I absolutely am saying is that one better be educated on their true need lest they become involved in a very dependent situation that may strip you of self esteem when that method is not needed. I have been a therapist. I have been a coach which is what I am more involved in then formal therapy. There will always be times when someone is in need of long term clinical therapy. What I have learned however is that everyone deserves the chance to be helped up and out of a rut through short term coaching before the much more restrictive clinical environment.
Besides the the stigma, the dependency, and the long term visits in the therapy model, you also need to understand that the difference financially between the two are radical and you are talking tens of thousands of dollars for any long term clinical therapy and that is besides medications. Why would you put yourself or anyone you love in that box before you give them a chance to be coached back to health? So far I have given you my personal and career experience, but in case your wondering, the established and very well run coaching programs that are in existence now are running circles around any treatment centers for addictions and over 20 other issues from domestic violence to PTSD. As a matter of fact many insurance companies wont even pay for therapy anymore. That is right, they pulled out and are happy to pour their efforts into legit coaching programs. Why would they, when the success rates on coaching is 75% and up and traditional treatment centers around 20%? Not to mention coaching is 1/3 the cost if not more to you and to insurers.
I want to close with a very important point. This article is designed to offer new options and hope to those who may not be familiar with coaching model. Any good therapist or doctor will tell you the truth about whether long term expensive therapy is needed or if coaching is what will work best for the client. I wont lie to you, just like any industry, not every provider is truthful and many will keep you or your child locked up and medicated as long as the payer will pay. Authorities are trying to crack down on those who use clients for personal gain but with tens of thousands of programs, it is very hard.
Take a few minutes and enjoy a laugh. The Old School Psychiatrists Were Just a little more upfront and honest with their patients then in today’s world- Would it not be nice if all Doctors were this up front! Today she would likely here ” Maam, you have OCD, your in denial, you are paranoid and I think these 3 prescriptions may help….We can all learn a thing or two from this Bob Newhart clip…
I have worked with and still do some of the finest clinical therapists around and they are excellent. Doctors as well and in no way am I saying nobody needs clinical therapy. What I am doing here is giving you all a little heads up about what is coming down the pipe. Coaching has proven itself, its cost effective, and is the latest and greatest alternative to what we had to live with. You will hear about it if you have not. All the Don’t Label My Kid! Team members are coaches and you can check out our areas of expertise on the home page menu. Read a quick bio of what we each do and reach out to us if you think you need help. We always work with people and have yet to turn anyone away.
This is a post I would not have written even two years ago. However the coaching success, and opportunities for those who have been coached to actually become working coaches after they find success makes this a win win for anyone and everyone. Don’t put it off anymore. No matter what the age, race, background, or need- believe me we have been there and done it. Just look at our bios and you will understand. If you are doing great, and your kids are doing great. but you have this friend from church, neighbor, or relative that is hurting- be the one to help them get help. You never know what people may be just one more step away from and the tragedy of ignoring it can do.
When my brother shot himself after we just watched some television together, I sure wish I would have asked him why he was so quiet for 2 hours. But, I did not. Instead he walked out the door and shot himself in the head. Don’t let that happen to anyone you know. Contact us immediately for prompt response.
Write these contacts down. Print this out. Share with a friend. Share with your followers. We cannot help unless you get in touch. At the bottom is a personal cell number that is available to call 24/7- 365. If you are in trouble now, or know who is , you may call it anytime.
“There is a time or everything, and a season for every activity under the heavens”
Well, here we are. We have discussed practically every issue in life on this blog in the last four years or so. We have laughed, debated, discussed, prayed and I think I even had a legitimate stalker . The very first mission of this and I hope any blog is to teach. To educate your readers on what it is your here for and especially the question ” what can you do for me”. Today I am going to do a part of my job that is not uncommon in my 20 years as a Social Worker. I am going to press you a little bit. Force you to quit sidestepping and avoiding your needs and issues.
Now don’t think of this as anything negative. Its just the natural progression of things. In my career I would have people make appointments come to the office for some need in the areas of mental health, behavioral health or addictions primarily. There are always exceptions but those were the most popular reasons they would make an appointment to see me.
Almost always on the very first visit I would introduce myself and ask them to tell me about why they were here. I cannot tell you how many stare-offs I had, lol. I would say ” you called me so tell me what I can help you with. ” I never figured out if it was people getting intimidated when they are in a setting they are not used to or what , but so many people forget or froze up. I would usually give them some examples of why people came to see me and gradually somewhere in the list I would here a ” yeah that” or something to help me know where to start probing or asking questions. We always got moving at some point. Some in just a few minutes and some it took a little longer.
On this blog Don’t Label My Kid! I decided to start the educating on my homepage with mental health. I allude to the other areas I am an expert in but that is where I decided to begin, because all our other problems somehow are related to mental health. I then proceeded over the next 3-4 years to make sure I wrote at least 100 articles related to each area I serve. I am not talking about specialty areas like parenting that I also assist and do workshops in, but the main primary areas; Mental, behavior and addictions.
Over 500 total articles on these areas. This is to find out where my reader’s needs are and to get feedback from you as well on any area . As you all well know I always mix in some humor, politics or other issues at random just to keep things from getting to dark and gloomy on here. (Some who pop in at the wrong time think this site is just a random topic site as my last 4 quick posts might have been about humor. lol) Even though I post about a wide variety of topics , they are topics related to life. We are all in that game together.
Now, in this time I have enjoyed a good amount of feedback, comments and gotten a ton from you all about your situations now, past of something you wonder about. I have read and still go over thousands of comments from you all. I have not read anything I have not helped someone with many times over ( except maybe the stalker) .
I have heard from the suicidal, the addicts, the parents who are ready to strangle their kids, the people of faith who ask me how I can still believe in God, then the burned out Christians. I have also gotten messages from people suffering with PTSD, abused wives, and people who have had experiences with sexual abuse. This has been especially popular since I have been writing about Father Gondek . People are much more likely to share if they are not alone. My point is, you are here for a reason. I can assure you God did not lead you here to get more depressed or addicted. He did not bring me here to write about your struggles so you can leave the house every day with fresh depression. We are here for a change. It’s what I call a divine appointment.
The stage we are at now, is called Execution.
Execution is where action takes place. It is where you quit playing around with your problem. You quit lust ” liking ” every post about your topic, you take the next step in your journey. It is the favorite part of work life, as I get to use my gifts and help people in general solve problems. How though? What do you do – even if you wanted to take the next step to help? Well, there are three possible answers.
You are getting your first assignment in moving forward with your issues. You should write this date down on your calendar as the day you ” executed “-
Before you can execute you have to select one of the following scenarios that best fits you
1- I have never reached out for help
2-I have reached out but no progress ( gave up )
3-You are currently trying things but have not got anywhere or don’t know if your counsel is right, or the money you would spend is worth it.
Now, I want you to select the one that describes you best. Usually one of those is it. If not no problem we can identify it. So make your selection. Great.
Now – as a consultant I take on three roles, depending on which of the above fits you.
If you are #-
#1-I am your ADVISOR– I will start by accessing your need, identify the best care plan and follow you through the process as needed.
#2-I am your INTERVENTIONIST-I help you resume your attempts by picking up the pieces of whatever you did gain or learn, and reconnecting , but with the appropriate services.
#3- I am your COACH- I act as support to what you think you may want to try, and am someone to stand along side of you as you navigate the process and coach you as is necessary to keep you on he right track.
Your 2nd assignment today is to figure out whether I am your Advisor,your interventionist, or your coach. So, which one?
Here is the moment of truth. You pick up the phone or email me to identify what you are in need of. I have broken it down so you can easily identify your needs from me.
(Although I am very good, I have yet learned to read minds of my followers.)
Touch base to get a Plan Of Care started now!
Cell- Txt- Call- 386-675-7549
*Now a few important things have when you contact me
1- if it involves a child, any and all IEP or special class information from school. Also any mental health official diagnoses or medications they are on or have ever been on. I don’t need copies but I need you to accurately tell me the report. If you are needing help for yourself I just need your past and current mental health diagnises
2- If you are an addict or have a loved one is and you need help – DO NOT GET ANY HELP UNTIL YOU TALK TO ME . PERIOD. Many organizations today get paid to fill beds- not make it a good fit for the client. Also if you walk into a rehab with no knowledge of the process and what you really need, you or your friend’s success rate is about 24%
Again- Any addicts reading or if you are trying to help one get help. CALL ME first. It is critical that you have an understanding of what rehab REALLY means. It’s not what you think.
Tj Petri BSW
Advisor, Interventionist, Coach
Don’t Label My Kid!
So far I have mostly discussed all the different types of problems and medical mental health struggles and family issues that exist. And there’s plenty to discuss no doubt. . Up until now, I have not really delved into how we deal with these issues as we go through these dark trials. Its imperative that we have some way of staying grounded during these times we walk through the valley.
It’s very important that we have some sort of an anchor to keep us from drifting too far away from reality when we feel so lost in such darkness, and with so few friends. As most of you have understood, if I shared my life experiences, some of these times are gone through very much alone and there are not many people around that can relate. Unless you really search. And most of the time we don’t feel like searching for anything when we’re barely able to wake up every day and get dressed. Having been through very traumatic times that caused depression, and nightmares and loneliness and sometimes the inability to function normally. I can understand the darkness that prevails if we allow it to.
There’s a few things in my life that I can honestly say, are the only reasons that I am here today, both physically and mentally spiritually and emotionally. I know that if it took those things to keep me saying then all of you also had to have some way that you’ve coped something that held you together. and some? To that you’ve used to make it to the point, we are able to even write about it today on a blog. The truth is professionally I’ve seen that it isn’t a very high percentage of us that are able to make it even this far- in fact we are a very blessed group of people to have come through what we have and able to share it with other people. Speaking of sharing it with other people that is a critical piece in healing. It isnt always about us -the spotlight can’t always be on us even in our dark times and the truth is some of the ways out of these dark times the very quickest are by reaching out to others and pulling them up with the knowledge we have.
Sometimes when you need a friend the most you got to go and be a friend to someone. . Sometimes when you need encouragement the most you need to go and encourage someone. And even sometimes when you need financial help, you need to reach out to someone who you know could use what little bit you have and help them.. The point is as tempting as it is when we are in these dark times, the worst thing we can do is send out invitations for a pity party. I have always found some good advice from a guy that sings a song full of truth abut these times. I would like to share this song with you and I’ve shared the one with lyrics so you can read along… Please take 3:38 minutes out and watch it…at the end of this post. It may just resonate with you somehow…( you may have to click on it to play it)
So as I kick off the on going series on how we have made it to the point we are, I would ask that you all share any advice that you have. I shared all the problems lol- now I need help with looking at many solutions. I am leaving this wide open, and welcome any guest posts on the topic. Like I said – the more you share the more therapeutic it is.
So lets see where this goes y’all
People are always talking about how addicts don’t seem to ” want ” get better or that they don’t try hard enough . We now recognize addiction as a disease and that’s progress.
However- the blame for the miserable 25% -40% (at best) success that some claim they have, goes right back to the providers. In this country is least when we go to an auto repair shop we expect them to know how to repair the auto, or we don’t keep taking it there. If we go to a lawn mower shop we want them to know how to repair our brand of lawn mower and wouldn’t accept anything less. Things in the area of human care and condition are quite different . There is no accountability for starters.
As you see in this LinkedIn document posted here, my featured image, one addictions “specialist” asks a question of other ” specialists” ..on how to handle a client.. that in itself is not typical or shouldn’t be but what really should be astonishing to all is the response..
How comfortable would you feel if that patient was you or one of your loved ones that you we’re going to get effective care? That is unbelievable. How could we ever treat anybody effectively if we can’t even agree on how to treat addictions in general?
This is one of the reasons that Don’t Label My Kid! is advocating and implementing our own treatment models and services so that we can make sure treatment is actually successful and appropriate..
Another mind-blowing statistic is the failure rate of AA and NA organization, how it came to be and what a prosperous organization it is financially. In this link you can read of all about it.
What hope does the addict really have- knowing what we do?
We are striving to be that hope!
Take a few minutes and listen to what is happening at DLMK!
You may have to load this first then open back up to play..
The Natural Cancer Killer Guide HSI
(This is not a guarantee for immediate healing and it is not similar to a personalised treatment. Then and take what applies to you and your situation but if you’re looking for a personalized can clarify you need to call Mike Carey for that..but this is still white sand a light years away from where we’re at right now so check into it.b
Before I knew Mike Carey I got this as part of a club for social work I was in. I usually toss this type of thing,- not because none of it works, but because I did not know which ones did and which ones did not. I think I saved this one for 2 reasons- the first reason was that it is like 40 pages long. If it was valuable that wold hve been alot of was of wasted information that you cannot buy.
The 38 page book should be in the link above and downlodable ..if not let me know I will send you or your group a copy..email@example.com
The other reason was that I got it on email and the first 10 minutehs are about the drug companies and Hillary’s involvement. I am glad I did as Mike said that HSI is a reputable research organization. You would pay alot of money to buy anything like this they dont even sell it. So it is just cancer, but liver disease and many others. Like Mike has done for 20+ years, they focus on killing the actual cause – not easing the symptoms.
I would recommend if you have a family member or friend who is ill that you share it. This is the kind of stuff that Mike does, find out what the natural cure is is for your or my disease. By the way I just twisted his arm into committing to writing a weekly post here on a different set of symptoms or a disease and discuss the cure. Tomorrow will kick it off, and each Friday after.
Please understand this, the guide that you have in front of you is one thing -that is not a personalized guide ..
that generally speaks two different diseases cancer on Wood Products could work for you and have worked but not nearly as personal as a consultation with Mike care of you actually goes by your specific body and what your issues are. So it’s not as if this guide is a 100% success to everything problem you have but it’s a way for a forehead measure than the current system has so take that with a grain of salt of you read each article or a suggestion but when you call Mike there is no in between there is no and personal it’s all about you specifically so there’s a benefit to both but one is definitely better than the other
If you have a topic or a chronic problem that you want him to address, email him at firstname.lastname@example.org- He will do his best to address as many as he can in this short weekly post. You can call him personally to discuss your needs and the healing process. If he needs to stay involved until its totally gone, then he obviously will have to get reimbursed for his time.
However I spoke with him about the possibility of offering any Don’t Label My Kid! followers a special offer to keep the ability to talk to him anytime. It will be combined with the New Founders Club subscription t raise funs for virtual services. I have to incorporate in it.
Here is my recommendation- if you or anyone you know is ill for along time or something that the doctors have not helped then go ahead and email Mike . Tell him you want to know if he could help you or them be done with it. If he says yes he will likely tell you a few natural things to get ( like he did for me) and how much to take them. If that’s the end of the story just a brief phone consult, he likely would be free.
If your doctors and all the hundred or thousands of – I would be ready to do 10 jumping jacks if I were you. Now pay attention here I will give you 2 real life examples from last 2 weeks on audio clip. You see everyone in my circle who has gone time after to the doctor only to go broke has been ECSTATIC when I told them he was available to them now because you are with me.
**This information is intended for the recipient and nobody else. Please lets keep this in house.. Greetings , You all are in for some very exciting news! If you have received this invitation you are a part of a special group of people. You are special to us in that you are followers of Mike […]
Above and below are 2 different ways to hear Tj give his personal greeting and update. In order to hear it you may have to load the open. If neither will work for you just skip it I will be doing these regularly.
Mike Carey alternative Solutions 4 Health & Tj from Dont Label My KId!
You all are in for some very exciting news! If you have received this invitation you are a part of a special group of people. You are special to us in that you are followers of Mike Carey – Alternative Solutions 4 Health, or TJ -(Dont Label My KId) and Mike have teamed up! That’s right we are joining forces to reach some goals and accomplish some things that have never been done before. We want you all along with us. Much is happening in the way of change and we have some exciting things in the works.
We want the people who have been supportive of us to get some too.
(Notes- It has come to our attention that a fairly large group of bloggers were included in this private invitation who may or may not be followers of Don’t Label My Kid! Or Mike Carey .)
(After checking into it we found that you all actually are considered by WordPress to be followers of Don’t Label My Kid! via what I call the ‘ “undercover follower” method lol which I actually learned is an option that I was unaware of. The other possibility is you register so much on the site you are considered followers.
Either way you are blood.
Just come on home – make it official-go click follow on this site. You do have to do that to take part so if you could make sure you all are ” legal” by like tomorrow we can stop the confusion…..And now we return to our regular programming. .)
With Mike’s incredible knowledge and gifts in areas of health and the mission of DLMK to serve a huge group of people worldwide who are desperate for help in the areas of mental, behavioral health and addictions it seemed a match made in heaven to team up and meet the needs of the total person in ways that have never been done. AS4H and DLMK have one thing in common.
Success rates that are at least double or more of many of the options available. That is not to say there are not very talented people working in our areas because there is. We have a unique chance to make sure that all components that a person may need in treatment, we can help with and using the same team, same model and same philosophy. Not all have that advantage.
Beliefs in how and who in treatment are absolutely identical. Both are believers in getting to the root issue; both believe in as natural of a healing as is possible; both are committed to a return to normalcy asap. Sadly the country we live in supports financially those who keep people sick. It pays very well.
The goals of physical treatment centers and other care is already in the works. As matter of fact we will be talking with a major insurer in Florida about helping fund treatment centers! At this moment right now we have a goal to get services out to the world through virtual means. Mike can do what he does and the whole team can each help in reaching out to the world. However one thing holds us back.
It is very expensive technical work to build a portal as we will using the Don’t Label My Kid! site as a platform. The site today has followers from 60 countries. The cost to make this happen is huge but not as a team. You are part of our team. It’s not a one-sided team and that’s why nobody else but our followers got invitations. As we succeed, you succeed. Why pay an outside investor a ton of money to help us when we can work together and meet all of our needs?
With that said – in order to reach who we need to reach we will need help. So we are asking that you take a hard look at what is in front of you right now and consider getting involved to the extent that are able. We think no matter what level you are supporting us he return will far outweigh any monthly investment. When we need to add some service providers to our database who do you think we will utilize?
That’s right – you.
In closing I will give a quick example or two. The placement of your blogs name on a separate page on the website goes to anyone at any level. Think about this. How much would it cost for a newspaper as or magazine/radio ads -100? More ? Even then you must hope and pray that people hear or see your ad at the very time they need your service.
Our followers are made up of people like you same demographic. That’s gold. The potential reach for your name in a day could be 500k- you see DLMK has followers that have 100k each! So it’s a great deal. Please jump in, Today is the kick-off let’s do it up!
**For those come on board now, we will do something to show you our appreciation. We provide care for the total person here . We make sure that whether it’s a general doctor, a psychologist, an addictions specialist or any other type of care, that we have the best of the best.
So, to those who become any level as a founding member -we have you covered for any crisis needs in your immediate family. Free.
(We do have a few limited partnerships available. These are NOT for the average blogger or small business owner . The investment and commitment are much greater and suited for large set ups. People looking make some high level career advances with other projects we are working on and things like that. They are listed after the 3 below.)
***THIS JUST IN- PLEASE READ*****Mike Carey and I just spoke Today is 4/29/2107 at 10:40pm Eastern Time.
Mike has told me to take away the hours of consulting that go with the package if you are a Founders Club Member…Instead, when you become an active member now AT ANY LEVEL– He said PUT NO LIMIT ON IT!!! This means by subscribing you are on Mike’s List Of Clients and you NEVER have to pay for his service..
He also said as a small token of his appreciation to those who are serving, or have served in the military Everything ( all of his services) are on the house and the same goes for those in Christian Pastoral ministry or retired from it.
Finally, if you want to become a member but cannot afford 25.00$ / Month we will offer scholarships if you can provide proof
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NOTE! Want to become a Platinum member without the extra 50 bucks? No problem, bring us 5 Gold members!
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5- 2 hours per month of personal consultation from an actual team member to help you identify the appropriate service for you or a loved one’s personal situation.via email or phone and if the situation calls for it.
100% confidential and no longer available to non followers.
We are also offering an entirely different type membership. They are Limited Partnerships – meaning only 10 of each are being considered at this time. The positions are for those who are aggressively pursuing some specific goals in a business, career or any pursuit that would require high-profile connections or simply need to do more than run a small business, and need the help of a larger group to help them to the next level.
We designed these slots with a few things in mind. One is to help some of our own followers achieve their goals, so in the future they can pay it forward and continue the mission that we have started. Another is to help us achieve our financial goals so we can begin doing what we do best, help others. The financial investment for the Executive is 500/monthly and the Boardroom is 1000/month. It is the highest level of commitment on both sides that exists.
In some ways these are open to what the two sides can do for each other. We have the advantage of being able to be flexible and creative.
The primary differences between the two is one has access to the board of directors on certain issues and has a voice and even a vote on issues related to the services fund-raising project. The Boardroom Access partner is that person.
There is a process to discuss either of these. If you are interested contact Tj to set up a phone conference -email@example.com.
occasionally we will have a need for a staff member and offer it out as a regular position. Right now we are looking to fill a few part-time executive assistant positions in exchange for platinum memberships .
We hope you find just the right opportunities so we can see you grow while we grow!
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Well, I thought after 4 years maybe I should introduce myself… to my ” inner circle”.
What you are about to read is all true folks- except for some rumor about the home in the background of the picture of my wife and I -being my ” Guest House” – Right… On a Social Workers salary? Not!…
Its actually just our own humble abode. We cannot afford ” guest houses”.
Ok, alright – just got a” friendly” nudge from my wife (ouch) to tell the ” whole ” truth. So It’s actually the Biltmore Hotel, and ” technically speaking” we used our life savings to spend 2 nights there 12 years ago… Whats the big diff?
Some people are just dream-killers.
Anyhow this really is my story in a snapshot… ..
Not unlike the pedo-priest rings we are breaking up- this whack-job use his position in the church to take advantage of kids. For this one case, 50+ counts-so far. String him up. Story below.
Click Either- link
or my new Newspaper-
“La Folla Femmine.”.
Catholic Pedophile Priests
“The Feminine Mob”
After all the years of seeing what I have, one way I try to cope and take any comfort at all is to remind myself that it isn’t over. The church can bully and hurt people to protect their child predators here on earth but the future outlook is not so bright.
The movie Spotlight was a good door opener to get to the bottom of the real truth about the pedo-priest ring that I believe could be a majority in certain areas of the Catholic church. Although they mostly uncovered records of older cases where people have covered things up and it wasn’t in real-time with real molesters and real victims – it did serve as a tool to make the Catholic church at least cough up a tiny bit of information and sort of admit that maybe there were a few more pedo-priests than they thought. They came up with some sort of public announcement to pacify everyone.
ARE WE GOING TO LET THIS PREDATOR WALK JUST LIKE HE ALWAYS HAS?
Again the case is about Father Albert Gondek-Lexington, North Carolina- Our Lady Of The Rosary Catholic Church. Google that info you will confirm he was accused (again) in 2015- This case involved 7 boys and one who spoke up. We have all the neccessary statements, eye witnesses, living breathing people to testify of the hideous sex, drugs and intimidation scheme that Father Albert ran on young boys….disgusting.
He was recently rewarded for being a confessed predator with an early PAID retirement and no report to the law.. LETS MAKE THE LAW SEE IT AND THE MEDIA SEE IT.
Thanks in advance-
This post is about giving many others a chance to watch their babies grow up. Not many would have made it through what I did, and I believe the purpose for this was to make some changes so others could not suffer through certain things that can kill. So please take this to heart and lets do this thing. I don’t get to make the plans or set dates, but I am pretty sure this is an appointment we all need to be at. Thanks for taking a few out to read and do what you can. .. You may make it possible for a guy like me to be smiling down at his little girls like I am here, when he would not have made it before…
These people are going to put many people in the media out of work, They are eliminating any need for commentary…
Here’s Your Sign…lol
I am at a loss for words. That is rare too..I just don’t get the logic. I am sharing a post I wrote on Linkedin…please click the blue link to read…comments welcome!
Libs-Kill the babies as they come out if you like.
Libs-Save the caterpillars!
Libs-Global Warming and radiation kills Americans-not Mexicans.
Libs-Jeffrey Epstein the human trafficker an child rapist should not be punished- Bill & Hillary C.
(* Warning: this post contains the words God, Jesus & may imply in general the existence of God…)
I really am not too sure how to put what I have to say, what I need to say in words, but it needs to be said. It could be an entire book, maybe volumes. I have lived my entire life wishing that I could find a way to ease the pain in my brain, the hurt in my heart. I have thought and prayed, fasted and studied, been prayed over, chastened, chastised and exhorted until the Agape love of the Bible has become to me the ” Sloppy Agape” because as much as people have given me their 2 cents, shouted their advice from the Christian peanut gallery or been willing to pray for me, I never have truly felt many actually knew me or my heart.
People tend to judge others. People often think what they see on the outside is always a direct reflection of what the person ” chooses” or desires for their life. The truth is, sometimes people are dealt hands in life that are just very heavy and eventually after enough sorrow, sadness, illness and overall struggle- they can easily begin a long cycle of crash and burn. Even Christians (Yes! Even Christians-lol) maybe especially Christians. Our outside actions can deceive others who are only looking on the surface. It is easy to judge others by their outward struggles, and often those who have struggles that are inside, which nobody can see, start believing that they are ” less sinful” then others simply because nobody knows much about their sin.
I once told a woman that I care about deeply how it is to be a the ” outward ” struggler, who has their dirty laundry aired often and reviewed publicly . She is a good and Godly women with a good heart. I asked her to consider her life if…
” Consider your life, if for some unknown reason, you were only permitted to dress each day ( no matter where you were going) like a hooker.”
I asked her to imagine life no matter if her motives were the best and she the most Godly woman she could be, but was forced to be looked upon everyone, everyday like she was just a hooker who chose that way of life. In reality it was the polar opposite of who she really was. How would she handle the ridicule, the finger pointing and the shame others imposed on her as they simply judged her by the outside and what she appeared to be.
Now before you send me a ” Sloppy Agape” email lol …I am not saying that our outward actions are not important or should not be as good as possible. I am saying that unless God is the one doing the work on our hearts, our outside actions are simply an act. There is a big difference between fruit of the Spirit, and acting good. I believe many, many people will be surprised at what Jesus meant when He proclaimed that the first shall be last and the last shall be first. Maybe the mass murderer who gave his heart to God in prison will have a bigger mansion and more rewards in heaven then the one who volunteers in church 3x per week, teaches Sunday school, and says ” Praise the Lord” the most…could this actually be the case? Shocking thought, is it not? Well, that is what the Word says, so take it up with the author if it does not fit into your mold for God, but that is what it teaches.
I am not for sure if she ever really thought about it, but I sure have. I wonder how many of you reading this have been judged so wrongly and so blindly that you understand what I am saying? Either way, whether you have been the judger or the victim of judgement, this should be easy to relate to. There is only one who truly knows our hearts, our motives and what we are truly seeking and desperately trying to be. Only the one who created us knows us in that way. Thus, the Bible says we should not judge others, and that God judges the heart, not the words or works.
Lots of things do not make sense in our finite minds, but God is infinite. When I first read the story of King David and his life in the Bible, I remember being very confused. I recalled his act of murder & adultery, yet the Word says the God called him ” A man after my own heart “.
How can this be? Surely God was mistaken!
Is God saying if we wish to be Godly, commit murder or adultery to win points? Of course not. However only God knew the real heart of David, and could know of his intentions and overall motives.
Even children will turn against their parents, says scripture, because of the name of the Lord. Sometimes pursuing God may bring you to a very lonely place, even a desperate one. The world we live in right now is not supportive of the ways of God and Scripture – as a matter of fact it is contrary to the Word and ways of God. This is not home for the believer. It does not feel right to the believer. It is not supposed to. I encourage anyone who has not partaken to indulge in the writings of C.S. Lewis. He penned ” The Screwtape Letters ” , ” The Lion, The Witch & The Wardrobe series” and others. He was a gifted author who was an atheist most of his life. When he did come to understand the God he was running from, he used his gifts to describe what goes on in the spiritual realm with us on this earth. It is eye opening at least and a true revelation at best.
I believe in self- reflection and introspect. I believe it is mandatory for us to examine ourselves and the condition of our hearts. However there is a big difference between self-reflection and self-condemnation. There is no point in trying to please all the people. You can please some of the people all the time, and all of the people some of the time, but never all the people, all the time. If you are constantly being judged, and you are not aware that God knows your true heart- it is inevitable that you will reach a point of hopelessness. You will find that dark space that seeks to whisper in your ear how you are ” too far gone” or ” better off dead” etc…
If you are the judging type, be careful that you are not the one who makes a statement in judgement a person who is only one whisper away from suicide. It happens every day, people finger point and judge addicts, or homeless people and many more. They have no idea what that Viet Nam vet endured while fighting for your freedom. They are clueless as to the disease of addiction and that mocking an addict is like mocking someone with Cancer, or Diabetes. Just another disease, and to date I have yet to meet a person who set out to be, or wanted to be an addict. Likewise with Cancer patients or the Diabetic .
Make it a point not to redirect or criticize a person who has walked in shoes you do not own, and trekked through paths you have never even been to. I have had people I care about and even family members flippantly say things like ” drug addicts? It is their choice!” or ” They made their bed-let them sleep in it” . That is just ignorance, and most times they have no idea what they are saying. Here is a sad truth however; many of us love to cut others down in areas we have no affliction in, no struggle with. It makes us feel better about our lives.
Whatever the area may be, be careful when entering into the life of others that you are part of the solution not the problem. If you are a person struggling with things that you are fighting and praying for answers to – take heart because your judge is not walking the earth right now. You are not to fall into the trap of taking others opinions and nasty comments to heart. As a matter of fact, the more you pursue righteousness, the more attacks you will feel from all directions. Not everyone likes to watch others reach success, or victory. Let God deal with them.
A little birdy once told me ….
If we insist and persist on tearing down others, we may very well find ourselves in the exact same (or worse) position that they are. It is dangerous territory.
Will you be part of someone’s solution today?
Visualize whirled peas-
It was over 15 years ago when the name of this blog came to me after witnessing too many kids I worked with get loaded down with meds and diagnosed with one of the latest insane mental health diagnosis to come out. It is supposed to be about the patient and their actual need of treatment, but with the billions of dollars that flow in the drug industry , it sadly in many cases is about pills for cash…meaning the profits of those 500$ per month drugs would whip up soon after the doctors whipped up new names for regular problems kids have.
Years ago when the anonymous group of psychiatrists climbed up the mountain retreat for their secret voting on what new ” disorders” they could come up with- they must have got some bad weed at the secret convention because the new ” disorders” where mostly common struggles or phases kids go through while growing up. The one new ” disorder” that stuck with me and I thought they should all be drug tested after I heard it-is called ” Teenage Rebellion Syndrome” or similar.
Teenage rebellion? Wow that is quite a shocking accusation to make, that teens who rebelled or skipped school had a mental health issue…right? Actually it caught on pretty good and you may be thinking – ” Hey – maybe the doctors really felt it was an unusual enough problem to label a kid for life with a mental health issue”.
Im probably being too paranoid an skeptical I used to think. It was not until I learned of the financial rewards -if you will that doctors who were ” smart enough” to prescribe the new miracle drugs were partakers of. What I saw for decades at schools for expelled youth and foster programs was not always what it appeared. These ” out of control” kids were over medicated in many cases and often needlessly medicated at all. It all led back to the one issue that seems to be the nemesis of humanity. The love of money.
Watch this interview about the current status of the current situation.
I feel that this year and maybe for a few after it are going to be very revealing and shocking to many people. I believe that God is ” taking out some trash” if you will . The issues that I write about and fight for without letting up have one thing in common. Children are being exploited for profit at terrible personal costs to them, by those who are put in charge of protecting them.
If you or I choose to hurt ourselves or our health without regard it is one thing. However, when a professional in the doctors office, the church or anywhere else become so desensitized that for money they will allow thousands to either be forever mentally ill, or in many cases take their own lives, is just beyond me.
So I thank you all who from the beginning over 5 years ago- read and took to heart what I wrote about all these issues when no real proof was there. You may recall me asking you to repost the clergy issue in North Carolina to help raise awareness about it – and if you recall it was the team effort that brought the pieces together to put the whole thing together. Today of you Google Father Albert Gondek and anything about clergy abuse you will see more then you care too of his face. Many of you spread it out through your networks and because of that, I began to get occasional calls from North Carolina media inquiring. They did not jump on it that very day but it planted a seed and today you can google many examples of the media there has already interviewed on the air victims of Gondek that I never even knew about !
Victims either saw this blog and wrote me that he had hurt them too, ot they saw your reposts of my posts. At any rate it is coming any day now that the doors of that church in NC where those kids were abused will be knocked on and that diocese is going to have more problems than a group of cub scouts stuck at the Neverland Ranch for a weekend would. I know -bad illustration, but true.
Pleasee continue to support these types of major chnage we are trying to make happen. I hope now that you all see the power of the team and what it can bring about – you will be even more motivated to get involved when I need it. After all, I am not the only parent here, we all are potential victims of these monsters, so keep up the good work! Thanks!
Well you all recall the many posts Ive written about the catholic pedophile racket…specifically Father Albert Gondek of North Carolina…
I Do believe Father Gondeks name will be on the list…so stay tuned. Click the link above and see what kind of BS the leader of the Charlotte Diocese gives for not telling names..
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Moms are not replaceable…they rarely get the love the give out so freely.
If you must take someone for granted in this life make sure it is not your mother. Mom, the one who believed in you when most had given up. The only person who walks toward you when you find yourself in a dirty mess while the rest fade into the darkness.
The picture here is of my mom and I this Christmas at a dinner. Pretty common right? Not in this case. One week before this picture was taken, my mom suffered a heart attack and had emergency heart surgery. I did not know if I would even see her on this earth again, never mind having a Christmas meal out with her after that
Today, not tomorrow, tell your mom how much you love her and appreciate all the times she stood by you in the dark times and still managed to tell you convincingly that you would make it and that you will succeed.
After all, you may not have that opportunity tomorrow…
I gave up decades ago even sharing with close friends the goings on in my life. Why? Simple; They didnt believe me, or simply couldn’t process the idea that these occurrences would be continuous in one person’s life.
Some of the incidents in our family are common like divorce, diseases, abuse and even our tragic times like my brothers suicide and lots of death in general.
I quickly learned that most things are better left to the family. However , sometimes I just got to let it out! Thats where blogging has been therapeutic for me. Last week or so I mentioned I was exhausted from keeping on top of the pedo-priest deal but happy that somebody busted it wide open. The official in Pennsylvania just blew it out of the water with his huge announcement in August.
We needed a break like that.
Thank God most states are following suit and investigating seriously the huge racket of pedophilia in the church.
But, today I’m sharing a different side of things that I suspect many of you can relate to in your own way.
Battling a group of freaks as powerful and wealthy and nasty as some of Catholic church can be dangerous. I have been in this field long enough to know when you ruffle feathers, you better prepare for war, both *spiritually and naturally.
( *shout out to my atheist friends btw..just ignore that ” spiritual” reference..lol you all know I love ya..)
Since the year I really started digging my heals in the whole thing I have been attacked from so many directions its hard to keep up. It becomes a way of life. You may lose friends, family and even spouses over it.
(I mean thats what I hear)
But as many of of you all know, when you just know in your knower that you cannot be silent about an issue…you cannot back down…its no longer a choice.
For me it was letting innocent kids become suicidal due to the sick pleasures of thousands of perverts in the church- I have no choice.
Recently as I was preparing to gather some documents for reporters off my email and files would you believe just coincidentally ( yeah right) I found myself totally locked out of my email, files and somehow at the same time my cellphone carrier ” accidently”did a FACTORY RESET on my cell!!!
If you dont know what that is, it basically means all the info and documents on your phone go bye – bye. For good.
Since I couldn’t get access to my cell phone now I was locked out of- I wasn’t able to reset my password for my Gmail because Google requires you to have the current phone number and get a text on it which means I was completely locked out and still am of all the documents I had. Fortunately this blog has been a lifesaver in that area because I posted almost all the things I had … statements, emails from officials etc…
I posted most on this blog so they’re all public anyway.
Whatever was behind that – it didn’t work – but it sure was stressful and still is stressful.
By the way I am well aware I’m not the only person that goes through times like this and I know that people have things even worse much worse than I do, I’m not here to claim I’ve got the toughest life I’m sure many of you can relate in your own way to what I’m saying.
So just as I was kind of catching my breath after that incident.. Yesterday brought to surface an entirely different issue from an angle I never expected ..
My mother didn’t feel good and she’s always feeling good but I knew something was wrong and insisted she go to the ER. as it turns out I was overreacting it was just a heart attack.
She only had a heart attack. Of course to my mom it’s like it’s no big deal “I just had a little heart attack they put a stent in and I’ll be okay and home in a few days”
” By the way son did you remember to take the recycle bin out?”
Me-” Yes momma, I got all 4 plastic milk containers in the bin”
It’s driving me crazy…and that’s not a very long trip in my state of mind right now LOL.
I watched the movie called Flawless the other day with Demi Moore and Michael Caine, during the movie they were having a conversation about how nothing worth doing is ever about the money and it struck a chord with me. It is very true.
The last decade or so life has seemed almost unbearable in so many different aspects and yet there’s no turning back.
I think many many people reading this can understand that- whatever your journey and your battle has been, so just keep your eye on the prize and never never never never give up- and never count on anybody else to lift you up and push you and motivate you while your surpassing anything they’ve ever attempted.
Well they are calling me back to my unit now- so gotta go.
** Well I think I just realized I did I fail to attach the link to the interview I was discussing this post but you can just Google “Charlotte diocese may disclose names” and you’ll see the interviews with the priest and the bishop that I’m referring to in this post ..
I thought I attached it but I don’t think I did now so that’s what I am referring to in this post.
You do need to remember if you do watch any of the interviews whether it be with David Haines the speaker of the pedophiles at the Charlotte diocese or Harold,.David a pretend ” Advocate” or the bishop himself who probably chases more altar boys Around the church and anyone they’re all guilty do just players in different capacities and they are equally good actors and they could care less about these victims and it’s a shame to hear them pretend like their heart broken we know darn well the minute the cameras are out those freaks will be fighting over their pantyhose to see who gets the next altar boy that comes to the door so don’t be fooled by the acting skills – and it will all come out**
Any of you all have been following my post for the last couple years and father gondek and the Charlotte diocese in general is already well aware of what’s going on but it’s amazing to me that the whole world has been dumbed down so much that they’re so shocked that this is not just a few bad apples but it’s the world’s largest organized pedophile racket the Catholic church and it hasn’t been for many many generations. David Haynes of the Charlotte Diocese of David Harold who I’ve spoken to many times and emailed should win Oscar awards for their performances because they are just excellent at what they’re doing pretending that they don’t know there’s been anything going on since 2004 even though for the last three years I’ve been in communication with both of them about seven or eight different kids that were molested by father gondek and I think I’ve even posted emails on the site from him proving that. But there’s no shame in the pedophiles game and it’s amazing to me that even though Grand Puba Peter jurgis can pretend he’s so heartfelt and sad for all these victims when my guess is hes on playground Duty right after that interview..
Well the party can only last so long whatever happens in the dark comes out in the light took a few about a year longer than I thought it would but I think I’ve published close to a hundred post on pedophile priests in the last two and a half years or so and I didn’t know how it was going to come down but the Pennsylvania thing sure didn’t hurt because now everybody has to do look up and have their hand in the cookie jar and there’s no way out of it.
When I recover from the last couple years I will be posting details follow-ups but right now I’m out of a little bit of a break because I’m focusing on ensuring that this actually happens the way it should happen and that there’s criminal and civil charges against Gondek and all of his other pedophile priests and all those executive pedophiles at the Charlotte diocese as well because they’re all just as guilty.
So stay tuned and fasten your seatbelt I think it’s going to get pretty ugly pretty quick but not that any of those guys really care because they have no shame at all as you can see where the interviews and they just completely lie and fabricate and cover up every possible angle as if it was really not happening.
I have to remind myself that not everybody has had the benefit of watching a few of these guys especially gondek for 20 years molesting molesting and molesting including my own brother who killed himself over it and after a while it’s not even a question of if he’s guilty it’s just how many hundreds of victims are there so when I hear somebody in the Catholic church say well most of the priests are good God-fearing man and they still are just totally brainwashed it reminds me of the victims themselves who feel that way for a few years after their abuse. But that’s the power in the control of that money and the church has.
I heard the bishop mention he’s going to withhold donations from the Pennsylvania group because it’s so many abuse cases…
And he’s so “absolutely disgusted and broken hearted” over that that he’s going to withhold any more donations..
“And the academy award goes to ….”
Well gosh I don’t know they could all get one.? they’re so darn good.
Let me translate for you. that was code for ” damn it now I have to pay 10 million in pedophile fees for my Charlotte crew so I can’t donate to Pennsylvania anymore ”
Well at least it’s proof that Justice does occur at some point regardless of the fact that thousands and thousands maybe more of little kids have been raped and molested and forever ruined emotionally.
it’s very sad but I’m glad to see that that this happened the way it happened because it it was going to take something big in order to uncover something like this and it was very kind of David Haynes to say he ” might publish” the names of the priests – since we’ve all been posting them for 2 years anyway that’s very kind of him it doesn’t take Columbo .Haynes – you freak.
You know as well as I do soon as those interviews are over they are all fighting over their nail polish for who gets playground duty after that..
Well that’s all for today so thanks for all of you who have been supporting and praying that the truth would come out and reposting my articles because right now if you just Google that guy’s name it’ll be all over the Internet and a lot of that goes to people like you guys who have supported justice and it took a little village to do that just to get him out there – and you know there’s a bunch more..
Click the link below to find out..
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